Post by holliberry28 on Oct 2, 2015 14:45:14 GMT -5
I'm just laying it out there that I know I'm a shitty human being for feeling this way. Just sayin'.
My mom was never super motherly. Loves working, traveling (without kids), and leaving us with grandparents (all weekends and all summer when she had the chance).
My mom got sick and was diagnosed with Colon cancer a few days after M was born. She had surgery and they removed the growth and she was declared cancer free. More testing showed cells were found in 1/26 lymph nodes, so she started chemo a month ago. Will be getting it every 2 weeks for 6 months + Celebrex (an anti-inflammatory).
She postponed the chemo for a month to take my sisters kids (aged 15 and 18) to wildwood for a week at the end of August. She never once offered to take a day off work to stay with me and Matthew and when I ask, it's always "the end of the month for billing" or "payroll" etc.
I realize she is sick and getting treatment, but it just upsets me that she has made no effort to help out unless it was a few hours on the weekend, with my dad around. I mentioned taking medical leave and she doesn't want to, because she wants to work. And the need the money ( they are set for retirement).
So now that I went back to work, and my MIL is set to babysit only starting next Wednesday as she is retiring to be with the baby, my mom sent me dad to watch the baby.
Since he's retired he seems to be displays characteristics of dementia due to severe hearing loss. He tried hearing aids for a few weeks then gave them back. He can't hear shit! Today I left specific instructions that the baby needs his reflux medicine between 3-330 and he gave it to him at 12:45. Less than 6 hours from the first disease. When I tell my mom to please take a day and stay with him, she says he's fine. She's still going out to restaurants, to casinos, etc, and is fine most of the time. But I just cannot get over the resentment that not one day was taken to spend with us.
How do I get over this anger? I always thought my family would be around much more, because they did so much for my sisters kids. Yup. She's sick and I'm mad at her. Shitty person. Told ya so.
My mom was never super motherly. Loves working, traveling (without kids), and leaving us with grandparents (all weekends and all summer when she had the chance).
My mom got sick and was diagnosed with Colon cancer a few days after M was born. She had surgery and they removed the growth and she was declared cancer free. More testing showed cells were found in 1/26 lymph nodes, so she started chemo a month ago. Will be getting it every 2 weeks for 6 months + Celebrex (an anti-inflammatory).
She postponed the chemo for a month to take my sisters kids (aged 15 and 18) to wildwood for a week at the end of August. She never once offered to take a day off work to stay with me and Matthew and when I ask, it's always "the end of the month for billing" or "payroll" etc.
I realize she is sick and getting treatment, but it just upsets me that she has made no effort to help out unless it was a few hours on the weekend, with my dad around. I mentioned taking medical leave and she doesn't want to, because she wants to work. And the need the money ( they are set for retirement).
So now that I went back to work, and my MIL is set to babysit only starting next Wednesday as she is retiring to be with the baby, my mom sent me dad to watch the baby.
Since he's retired he seems to be displays characteristics of dementia due to severe hearing loss. He tried hearing aids for a few weeks then gave them back. He can't hear shit! Today I left specific instructions that the baby needs his reflux medicine between 3-330 and he gave it to him at 12:45. Less than 6 hours from the first disease. When I tell my mom to please take a day and stay with him, she says he's fine. She's still going out to restaurants, to casinos, etc, and is fine most of the time. But I just cannot get over the resentment that not one day was taken to spend with us.
How do I get over this anger? I always thought my family would be around much more, because they did so much for my sisters kids. Yup. She's sick and I'm mad at her. Shitty person. Told ya so.