cateyes – thanks for starting the check in! youdontsay – FX hard for you! mrsjene – Hope the PGS comes back good! mugster – good luck starting stims this week goldenlove3 – FX for this cycle! joy – Sorry this cycle has been all sorts of nuts (and O-ing early) requiressnacks – hope you get everything straightened out soon so you can enjoy vacation longhornwino0907 – good luck going through the decisions. Tons of hugs your way. @diordra – FX for this cycle! piccyami – good luck tomorrow! kaliRN - *hugs* take care of yourself – You’ll have to keep us updated if you go to CR. Cythe – yuck to paying all the money, but yay on moving forward! ceejay – welcome and *hugs*. @evelyn3 – sorry for the BFN. @wallflwr926 – Sorry about living with the inlaws. kawaiikitsune – Yay on figuring out the car! getzystark – Sorry about the waiting. @daikoku – FX for O this week! emilie – sorry for the BFN. snakefisherbub – sorry for hitting the 3 year mark. RaeLynn28 – Congrats for the BFP! dke2010 – Sorry for having to move on to #19 twinkie0612 – Yay for the mock cycle going well! meerkatmillie – FX for IUI #1 housecarder – hope you get everything straightened out and can continue with IVF. juliayadda – sorry for CD1
AFM I'm pretty sure CD1 is going to happen some time this week. *triggers..?* If one more person tells me we should have kids this week they're getting the Throat Punch.
cateyes – thanks for starting the check in! youdontsay – FX hard for you! mrsjene – Hope the PGS comes back good! mugster – good luck starting stims this week goldenlove3 – FX for this cycle! joy – Sorry this cycle has been all sorts of nuts (and O-ing early) requiressnacks – hope you get everything straightened out soon so you can enjoy vacation longhornwino0907 – good luck going through the decisions. Tons of hugs your way. @diordra – FX for this cycle! piccyami – good luck tomorrow! kaliRN - *hugs* take care of yourself – You’ll have to keep us updated if you go to CR. Cythe – yuck to paying all the money, but yay on moving forward! ceejay – welcome and *hugs*. @evelyn3 – sorry for the BFN. @wallflwr926 – Sorry about living with the inlaws. kawaiikitsune – Yay on figuring out the car! getzystark – Sorry about the waiting. @daikoku – FX for O this week! emilie – sorry for the BFN. snakefisherbub – sorry for hitting the 3 year mark. RaeLynn28 – Congrats for the BFP! dke2010 – Sorry for having to move on to #19 twinkie0612 – Yay for the mock cycle going well! meerkatmillie – FX for IUI #1 housecarder – hope you get everything straightened out and can continue with IVF. juliayadda – sorry for CD1
AFM I'm pretty sure CD1 is going to happen some time this week. *triggers..?* If one more person tells me we should have kids this week they're getting the Throat Punch.
I feel ya in TP people! I know they mean well but it's just annoying, I've started answering the infamous "when y'all having kids" question with this: " we're trying but it's just not that easy for everyone."
We still haven't told anyone so its a lot of "we're just so busy" or "are you going to pay for it?"...this weekend DH won a basketball shooting game at the bike ride and the guy was like "all you need are some kids to play" so I pulled the "but those cut into our riding time"...
Post by kawaiikitsune on Oct 5, 2015 22:49:43 GMT -5
meerkatmillie - FX for you this cycle! housecarder - I'm sorry and hope ya'll can get that mess sorted out. juliayadda - Sorry for CD1. FX your insurance doesn't give you too much of a hard time. rooskie - Sorry about impending CD1. I feel ya so hard on the TP'ing.
Post by mustloveerica on Oct 6, 2015 6:56:22 GMT -5
rooskie DH and I only just started coming out about our troubles.
It feels sooooooo much better. My friends are very sensitive to it and ask how we are doing all the time. It feels good when they are interested in what's going on and to know that they are thinking of us and pulling for us. So far no one has said anything stupid like "just relax" or "it will happen when the time is right". So that's just our personal experience but I'm very happy that we have come out to several people now.
rooskie DH and I only just started coming out about our troubles.
It feels sooooooo much better. My friends are very sensitive to it and ask how we are doing all the time. It feels good when they are interested in what's going on and to know that they are thinking of us and pulling for us. So far no one has said anything stupid like "just relax" or "it will happen when the time is right". So that's just our personal experience but I'm very happy that we have come out to several people now.
Yeah. If it were up to me I would be ok coming out and I think my mom knows something is up. But since we have MFI and DH doesn't want to let people know everything I'm respecting his privacy IRL.
rooskie DH and I only just started coming out about our troubles.
It feels sooooooo much better. My friends are very sensitive to it and ask how we are doing all the time. It feels good when they are interested in what's going on and to know that they are thinking of us and pulling for us. So far no one has said anything stupid like "just relax" or "it will happen when the time is right". So that's just our personal experience but I'm very happy that we have come out to several people now.
Yeah. If it were up to me I would be ok coming out and I think my mom knows something is up. But since we have MFI and DH doesn't want to let people know everything I'm respecting his privacy IRL.
We're somewhere between you and mustloveerica. We told our immediate families what was up because that's where most of the questions have come from. My sister and her husband were the ones who wound up unexpectedly pregnant and have no idea how birth control and conception work. We don't talk to them anymore because they still tell us to "relax and it'll happen" even after we explained the diagnosis. Everyone else has been awesome and has respected our distance and let us tell them what we want to tell them when we're ready.
Yeah. If it were up to me I would be ok coming out and I think my mom knows something is up. But since we have MFI and DH doesn't want to let people know everything I'm respecting his privacy IRL.
We're somewhere between you and mustloveerica. We told our immediate families what was up because that's where most of the questions have come from. My sister and her husband were the ones who wound up unexpectedly pregnant and have no idea how birth control and conception work. We don't talk to them anymore because they still tell us to "relax and it'll happen" even after we explained the diagnosis. Everyone else has been awesome and has respected our distance and let us tell them what we want to tell them when we're ready.
In my family if one person knows something you might as well put it on a billboard. So many times I've told my mom not to say anything to anyone and got questions about it from family members.
We're somewhere between you and mustloveerica. We told our immediate families what was up because that's where most of the questions have come from. My sister and her husband were the ones who wound up unexpectedly pregnant and have no idea how birth control and conception work. We don't talk to them anymore because they still tell us to "relax and it'll happen" even after we explained the diagnosis. Everyone else has been awesome and has respected our distance and let us tell them what we want to tell them when we're ready.
In my family if one person knows something you might as well put it on a billboard. So many times I've told my mom not to say anything to anyone and got questions about it from family members.
Ugh. I'm sorry. That's exactly why none of the extended family knows. Everybody else is pretty good at keeping a secret, but if we were to tell anyone else, everyone would know.
Post by housecarder on Oct 6, 2015 12:43:21 GMT -5
So after the bank telling me they never had a lien on the car and they don't have the title the BMV sent to them and the BMV telling me they have no record of me requesting the title and they couldn't get me another for another 10 days which led to me ugly crying on the phone because of hormones I drove to the bank to pick up the lien release letter. They handed me an envelope and when I opened it it had the title that no one seems to have. I about cried again. So we have the green light to finish IVF!
So after the bank telling me they never had a lien on the car and they don't have the title the BMV sent to them and the BMV telling me they have no record of me requesting the title and they couldn't get me another for another 10 days which led to me ugly crying on the phone because of hormones I drove to the bank to pick up the lien release letter. They handed me an envelope and when I opened it it had the title that no one seems to have. I about cried again. So we have the green light to finish IVF!
Sorry about the hassle and crying, but YAY for finishing IVF!
rooskie DH and I only just started coming out about our troubles.
It feels sooooooo much better. My friends are very sensitive to it and ask how we are doing all the time. It feels good when they are interested in what's going on and to know that they are thinking of us and pulling for us. So far no one has said anything stupid like "just relax" or "it will happen when the time is right". So that's just our personal experience but I'm very happy that we have come out to several people now.
This has been very similar to our experience. For a long time we kept everything a total secret. I finally got sick of feeling so isolated and telling white lies, so we came out. My husband's best friend has, shockingly, been the most supportive of anyone. He regularly checks up on me, asks me "How are you really doing with things?" and is so supportive. It sometimes makes me cry when he gives me pep talks and gives a big ol' hug. The guy is amazing.
The only person who has been hurtful is my own brother, who, when I told him we were pursuing IVF, said "Oh. Wow. Hope that works out for you.". And then he changed the subject, and has never said another word about it.
This is really interesting and encouraging to hear! So far DH and I haven't really told anyone, with the exception of a couple of my girlfriends. DH seems really embarrassed by it all, which makes me a little sad.
Post by housecarder on Oct 6, 2015 19:44:46 GMT -5
I actually created a Facebook page to post updates for our IVF journey. I invited the close family members that I had been open with and several other friends joined, giving a lot of support and sharing their troubles. It's been great.
Right now, it's just between the two of us. We do not believe anyone would not be supportive, but just not a conversation we really feel like having, and not ready for questions or opinions, I do not need added emotions in all of this if someone does happen to say something that frustrates us more.
The only people who aren't aware are MH's dad and step-mom; we rarely see them and they would have unwanted opinions. My own parents, they live in la-la land and have not figured out that we are actually TTC, even though they know about the testing and surgery. I even told my step-mom that my OB/GYN wanted to refer me to an RE and she replied well, when you actually start trying maybe it will turn out they were wrong. I didn't bother to correct her. It was easier not to try. I've had similar conversations with my dad. They are just totally oblivious to the words coming out of my mouth.
Other than the occasional dumb piece of advice, everyone has been pretty supportive. I even had a fun conversation about temping with my MIL. She found it fascinating.
mugster-Good luck at your appointment today, I am crossing everything you can start stimming
goldenlove3-So excited for you! Hoping the 2WW flies by and you graduate from here!!!!
joy-I am so sorry this cycle was one stress after another. I am rooting for you that life can get smoother and not be so stressful. And it is always ok to hulksmash in the IF world. IF is a villain and needs to be knocked down!
requiressnacks-Bodies suck and they can never be depended on. I hope that yours will allow you to do the IUI as planned and not be a jerk!
longhornwino0907-I am so glad you got another opinion and it sounds like you have a great plan. FX your AMH miraculously shoots up!
@diordra-Good luck tomorrow!!!! So glad everything is going well!
Piccyami-When do you get the results from your H’s tests? What is the plan for next month? FX no more meds for him!
kaliRN-I am so sorry for the poor results. I know you will make the best decision for you guys and I also know this is not the news you were hoping for. Hugs to you.
Cythe-I can’t believe how close you are to stimming!!! You know I am crossing all things for you!!!!
ceejay-Welcome! Good luck at your appointment on Monday!!!
@evelyn3-hugs. I am sorry for the BFN.
Daikoku-I am glad to have you back in the check-ins-I have missed you!
@wallflwr926-Hugs. I am sorry the cycle didn’t work out and hugs to you. Here is to hoping that with the longer LP, it means things are moving in the right direction.
kawaiikitsune-Adulting does suck. I am hoping you guys are able to see the RE and there are no more problems!!!
getzystark-I am still so mad the trial date is moved back. Hugs hun, you are handling this all like a champ!!
emilie-So Sorry for the BFN. All the hugs and wine.
snakefisherbub-Hugs. This is a long tough road and I am rooting hard for you.
housecarder-I am so sorry that the car is causing such anxiety. I hope they can get it figured out and it does not cause anymore stress for you!! I am so happy everything car wise seems to be figured out!
juliayadda-Hugs. I fully support making the doctors do what you want!
rooskie-Hugs to you. Even if people aren’t trying to be insensitive, it still causes pain and sadness. I am sorry you are dealing with that. That is one of the reasons we started our blog. I know going public isn’t for everyone, but it has helped us a ton and stopped 98% of questions and stupid comments. Maybe instead of saying “why” you are not pregnant, you could just let people in on the journey as it goes along.
I have been on a mental health break and mostly lurking from the shadows. I figure, time to jump back in and get going again. We have decided to take a cycle or two (depending on if I O on my own) and just not think of anything TTC/timing related. We do want to have a second opinion consult at some point but that is about it. So for now we are just kind of hanging out and I am back to old school methods of BBT and OPKs to see if I O.
QOTW: I am a morning shower person unless there is a reason I need to shower at night. My hair does not turn out well when it does not get to dry before bed.
joy-I am so sorry this cycle was one stress after another. I am rooting for you that life can get smoother and not be so stressful. And it is always ok to hulksmash in the IF world. IF is a villain and needs to be knocked down!
Thanks, Cat. It was a hard week just from the standpoint of trying so hard to get it work and then failing by one measly day.
I hope your break does you good!! I hope you ovulate :-)
cateyes, I have to admit right now I'm jealous of your break. I feel like I'm on a runaway train. But, my ultrasound looked good this morning, so it looks like I'll be starting stims tomorrow, unless there is something weird in the blood work.
cateyes, I hope your break helps! We're still waiting to hear back about H's tests. I left a message yesterday, so I'm hoping they'll get back to me today. Our plan was either IUI or IVF depending on the outcome of the results, so I just want to know.
@wallflwr926-Hugs. I am sorry the cycle didn’t work out and hugs to you. Here is to hoping that with the longer LP, it means things are moving in the right direction.
Let's see if I broke the quote. Probably.
I'm keeping my fingers and toes crossed for you. My eyes won't stay crossed though and I tried really hard. I'm still in shock that I had a 27 day cycle with a 14 day LP. I wonder if my uterus just likes NJ better.
Sending hugs your way joy. It sucks so much when you plan your life around something, try and knock down all the hurdles and cut through the red tape only to find out your efforts are worthless. It seems like one more cruel IF joke.
mugster-At first the idea of a break made me sad and angry but as the month has progressed, I have realized I am in a much better spot so I think it was good. Did you start stimming today???
piccyami-FX you get your plan soon. The unknown is the worst part of this journey in my opinion!
******-I agree, it has been nice, once I accepted it, to just “relax” a bit and reconnect with H
Sending hugs your way joy. It sucks so much when you plan your life around something, try and knock down all the hurdles and cut through the red tape only to find out your efforts are worthless. It seems like one more cruel IF joke.
mugster-At first the idea of a break made me sad and angry but as the month has progressed, I have realized I am in a much better spot so I think it was good. Did you start stimming today???
piccyami-FX you get your plan soon. The unknown is the worst part of this journey in my opinion!
******-I agree, it has been nice, once I accepted it, to just “relax” a bit and reconnect with H
I do start stimming today! All my shots are evening shots, so we are planning to do the first one around 8.
Also cateyes, I totally understand the mix of emotions. Breaks are so hard, because they don't seem to be moving you closer to your goal, but so necessary, because you need to protect you and your relationship, or it won't matter if you reach your goal
Sending hugs your way joy. It sucks so much when you plan your life around something, try and knock down all the hurdles and cut through the red tape only to find out your efforts are worthless. It seems like one more cruel IF joke.
mugster-At first the idea of a break made me sad and angry but as the month has progressed, I have realized I am in a much better spot so I think it was good. Did you start stimming today???
piccyami-FX you get your plan soon. The unknown is the worst part of this journey in my opinion!
******-I agree, it has been nice, once I accepted it, to just “relax” a bit and reconnect with H
Well, we know we'll be moving straight to IVF. I just don't know when. Or anything, really.
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