Who have you told?

[sandandsea]

We have only told our parents and siblings and DS. I figure I'd want them to know anyway. They are all beyond excited. I'm trying to make it to Christmas to tell the rest of my family in person. DS touched my stomach last night and smiled at me really big. He learned at preschool that mammals are in their mommy's tummy before they are born.

[Andrea]

Our immediate family & closest friends know. I also told my boss; she is awesome and has been in the loop because of all of the appointments I've had with the IF treatments.

[mymilkshake]

So far, I've told one good girlfriend and H told his best guy friend. Oh, and I also told the dentist on Friday! No X-rays for me I will be telling my parents before October 20 because they know I was scheduled to have a polypectomy that day (had I not gotten KU!!)

[shoogars]

I've told a neighbor and my SIL (bc I needed her to watch DD for my Drs appointment). I'm not sure when we'll tell the rest. Normally I would have told my mom by now, but I've had so many losses I just want to keep it pretty quiet. MIL is emotionally unstable and immature so my preference is to tell her once LO is potty trained; DH, however will think otherwise.

[cattuccino]

My parents and H's parents, some close friends and my brother.....and you know just a bunch of Internet strangers

[Andrea]

I have also told a bunch of random people. Like a waiter at dinner on Friday & a cashier at the grocery store. It's like if I can't tell people I know I'm going to talk to randos about it!

[shan]

My parents and sister know. We told them early bc of my recent loss... We would want their support again.
We have also told MIL, but not FIL (divorced) or his siblings.
And my closest girlfriend knows.

We are still feeling very gunshy. Nobody else will know until after thanksgiving... Including DD.

[titania]

We have told my sister and my parents. My Dad's birthday was Friday, so we surprised him and my mom with the news. We are going to wait to tell my in-laws and BIL until after my first appointment cause MH doesn't want to deal with them at the moment (they can be a bit intense).

[athn64]

Internet friends are they only people I've told. DH told his best friend. We're holding off on telling family for a bit. Mil can't keep her mouth shut

[ArgyleEnigma]

We've told the 2 people who knew we were trying and having a rough time of it, emotionally. I didn't want them to be worrying about me needlessly. My mother and a family friend.

Everyone else will be told at thanksgiving.

[soultrane]

We've told our immediate families (parents, siblings, and my grandmother) because we would want their support should I have another loss. I also told my boss so she knows why I keep asking for random time off.

[graciest719]

We told my mom, and DH told one of his friends. We are holding off telling others as long as possible. I would like to wait until after New Years if possible, but we will have to see what the bump has to say about that. I was thinking I may have to tell my boss, but since I should only have 2, maybe 3, appointments before the end of the year I will probably avoid that as well.

ETA I did tell my other BMB!

[broadwaymama]

Just 3 very close friends, and I told my J12bmb (we have a Facebook group and are very close). We are not telling family probably until thanksgiving

[kittenzilla]

I told my sister (because I needed a second opinion on whether I was actually looking at a positive test, lol) and my two best friends. We're trying to decide whether to tell everyone else at Thanksgiving or to wait until Christmas.

[pbj14]

We told our immediate families & a few close friends.. I'll prob do social media around 12 weeks.

[greysonsmom]

Just DH and my best friend. Holding out until my first appointment to tell my sisters and inlaws. Not ready for the phone calls everyday from My MIL asking how I'm feeling so I want to hold out as long as possible with her.

[Flair Underwood]

Nobody yet. This is kiddo number two for us so we're keeping this secret as long as possible. Also, i work with a HORRIBLE one-upper who is TTC and i dont even want to be in the same universe as her if we are KU at the same time so the less she knows the better.

[lakecountrygal]

I've told a couple coworkers in case something happens at work. Other than that only DH and I know. We aren't spilling the beans until Christmas at the earliest.

[amiet79]

My parents and siblings know. DH's parents know and my best friend, her boyfriend and her sister know. We aren't telling DH's siblings for a while because there is so much drama and competition with them.

We will probably announce to other people after my appointment at 12 weeks as long as we hear a heartbeat.

[westisleflower]

We haven't told anybody yet. It is very easy to do so since both our families live about 12 hours from us. His parents and my mom and brother are coming for Thanksgiving, and I should be about 12 weeks then so we will tell them then.

[frecklesnbrains]

I've been trying to figure this out. I'm cautious and very private. So far we've told no one. My mother is coming to visit me at the end of the month (when I'll be 8 weeks), so I may tell her then. I may tell my sister and my best friend around the same time. The rest of my family will certainly notice when I'm not drinking wine at Thanksgiving so I think we'll have to tell them then, though I'll only just barely be 12 weeks. I had really hoped to have the results back from cell-free fetal DNA testing before telling my family, but I don't think that will happen before Thanksgiving. The rest of the world (Facebook) won't hear anything until 20 weeks or so, after the anatomy scan.

[birdhut]

We just found out today but we wanted to tell our parents so that's it so far. We will probably tell siblings soon and wait until the 8 week appointment to tell others.

[mladerri]

We told our families tonight and everyone was so excited. I am a pro - tell everyone because I feel pregnancies should be celebrated. And then I have more people to go to when I'm needing a little pick me up.

[kittenslove]

My husband. You ladies. I wonder how long I can go without anyone knowing? I would love to get to 20 weeks. Or further. Last time I didn't early show until about 20 weeks, but I was heavier then, and it was my first.

[chriskoo]

Just our parents, and DH's sister and her hubby. We're gun-shy because my last pregnancy we told too many friends and after our mc at 10 weeks we had to untell, which was brutal.
That said, we're trying to stay positive and even if something happens we'll need our families around, so I'm happy we told our parents.

[nitecheese]

We've told my ILs, since they live all of five minutes away. It is also helpful that they know, if anything goes wrong, why I'm shoving my toddler at them.

[peanutbutterandkitty]

I told my 2 BFFs who are also preggers. I told my mom. I ended up telling a pregnant coworker because my BFP was so light, I thought I was hallucinating and needed a second opinion. (yes, I tested at work).

I haven't told H because tomorrow is my birthday and I'm gonna surprise him with my birthday cake being pink and blue inside. Hardest secret ever.

[pistachiomuffin]

I told my sister this morning when I went for my first beta because she is the head nurse at our fertility clinic.

We will tell the rest of my family next time we are all together at the start of November. Most of my husbands family is not local so we will probably give them a call some time soon.

[titania]

Oct 14, 2015 11:05:55 GMT -5 peanutbutterandkitty said:

I told my 2 BFFs who are also preggers. I told my mom. I ended up telling a pregnant coworker because my BFP was so light, I thought I was hallucinating and needed a second opinion. (yes, I tested at work).

I haven't told H because tomorrow is my birthday and I'm gonna surprise him with my birthday cake being pink and blue inside. Hardest secret ever.

Wow!  I am so impressed you have been able to keep that a secret!  

[Andrea]

Oct 14, 2015 12:06:10 GMT -5 titania said:

Oct 14, 2015 11:05:55 GMT -5 peanutbutterandkitty said:

I told my 2 BFFs who are also preggers. I told my mom. I ended up telling a pregnant coworker because my BFP was so light, I thought I was hallucinating and needed a second opinion. (yes, I tested at work).

I haven't told H because tomorrow is my birthday and I'm gonna surprise him with my birthday cake being pink and blue inside. Hardest secret ever.

Wow!  I am so impressed you have been able to keep that a secret!  

For real, I went in screaming like a banshee when I got my BFP. Calm, cool, collected went out the window.