How much say can I have?

[jags8]

I'm not quite 15 weeks, but my mom asked me a few days ago when I want my shower. So first of all, when is the best time to have a baby shower in relation to EDD? And can I pick the date?

Also, how much input can I have? I mean, I'm not trying to plan it, but I do have a few requests. For example, I think those "guess the chocolate bar smushed in a diaper" and "taste the baby food" games are DISGUSTING and trashy. I feel they are so commonplace around here. Can I request that those types of games not be played?

I don't want to be rude, but I also don't want the guests side-eyeing the shower. So just tell me what you would do/what I can do. Thanks!

[ECB]

It's your mom - I feel like you can probably be honest with her about games.

And as she asked you "when", then yes, you can give her actual dates. Of nothing else, YOUR schedule plays a big role in this.

But past that-- Fine fo voice a few opinions but try to sit back and let her do the planning.

[ldubhawksfan]

I think since your mom asked, you are well within reason to give her a timeframe of when might be good for a shower and what sort of games you wouldn't like. I specifically told my mom I didn't want the TY address on envelopes game. I just had my showers at 32 & 33 weeks and I think it was good timing, though I agree that I was pretty exhausted by the end of both. I wasn't too uncomfortable, I wasn't on flight restrictions yet (for the first one back home), and it is still enough time for me to now feel like I can start getting the nursery set up without worrying about it being too close to my EDD.

[billyhorrible]

I like showers in the early 30s - in general, most women are feeling "cute and pregnant" at that stage as opposed to feeling frumpy or whale-like. Energy level isn't at it's lowest, discomfort isn't at its highest.

In general, I agree with leaving the planning up to the planner, but I do think an exception for things that would make you uncomfortable (like the games) is acceptable to request.

[setsuna17]

I think it is personally within reason to say no to disgusting games. I had my shower at 32 weeks ish and that was perfect.

[DanaScullyX]

Oct 13, 2015 10:58:05 GMT -5 setsuna17 said:

I think it is personally within reason to say no to disgusting games. I had my shower at 32 weeks ish and that was perfect.

It was a lovely shower.