Just read the sleep thread and saw that a lot of babies go to sleep at 7:30p. A doesn't go to sleep until 11p-12a. Whoops. I'm trying to back it up slowly but I need to find a happy medium. If she went to bed at 7:30 DH would hsrdly get any time with her and he'd be sad. Hmmm...
We start bedtime around 8:00 for the same reason. H doesn't get home till 7:30.
It's been another night of 1.5-2 hour stretches but with frequent eating this time. I'm a zombie and need to be up in 30 minutes to get ready for DDs dance class. I will need allllll the coffee today. There's totally an 11 wk growth spurt to explain this...
Just read the sleep thread and saw that a lot of babies go to sleep at 7:30p. A doesn't go to sleep until 11p-12a. Whoops. I'm trying to back it up slowly but I need to find a happy medium. If she went to bed at 7:30 DH would hsrdly get any time with her and he'd be sad. Hmmm...
We go down around 1030-- my toddler goes to sleep about the same time.
It's been another night of 1.5-2 hour stretches but with frequent eating this time. I'm a zombie and need to be up in 30 minutes to get ready for DDs dance class. I will need allllll the coffee today. There's totally an 11 wk growth spurt to explain this...
I'm sorry. My first was up every 2 hours. You could set a clock to him.
Just read the sleep thread and saw that a lot of babies go to sleep at 7:30p. A doesn't go to sleep until 11p-12a. Whoops. I'm trying to back it up slowly but I need to find a happy medium. If she went to bed at 7:30 DH would hsrdly get any time with her and he'd be sad. Hmmm...
Same issue here. We usually put Teagan down around 10 or 11. A lot of times DH doesn't get home until 9 or later. And when the kids are here, they're not all in bed until 10. It's easier to put her down when the house is quiet. Plus, since she'll sleep 6-8 hours now, putting her to bed later means I can just get up for the day when she wakes up. No more MOTN feedings.
Jake started daycare today. He only napped for a total of 45 minutes. One 15 minute nap and one 30 minute nap. He took a 2 hour nap when wife picked him up from 4 to 6. Now he refuses to sleep. He must need sleep. I don't understand. He keeps dozing and then thrashing until he wakes himself up and then pops his eyes open and stairs at me. It's like he's making sure it's still me or somehting. Alarm clock goes off at 530 am. Momma needs to sleeeeep. 2 failed put downs and 2 hours of trying to get him to sleep. I'm about to cry.
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Warning that this is so very long & I don't blame anyone who doesn't read it. I don't have anyone else to vent to IRL who would be willing to listen to all of it.
I am so tired that I can barely find the energy to even type about everything going on. Between work (which drains me since it's so very social and I'm not), school (probably barely passing), and a newborn... I don't really have energy for anything else. My apartment is a disaster and I haven't showered in 3 days. Everything going on, on top of my depression which already drains all my energy, is driving me crazy. I should see my therapist but when would I have time? I need to go to the dentist for the crown I broke right before I had E, but have no time for that either. Plus we're back to one car, which makes everything seriously impossible. The car my grandmother gave us was returned 2 days later for countless issues. We got it back Saturday and the problems are not fixed seeing as we ended up on the side of the road for 2 hours tonight after it overheated. So I'm off tomorrow but it will be spent writing a 10 page essay while simultaneously entertaining E (who will only take 2-3 15 min naps all day at most). Then school Wednesday morning and back to work at 3p. Somehow I need to drop E off by 2 and get to work by 3 (which is 50 miles away). But my SO needs to be at work at 5 that morning to get off at 3 and pick her up. We only have 1 car. So we can both get to work if I drive him with E at 4a, but he will not have a way to leave work at 3p to get her if I have the car.
I'm sorry this is so long. I just have so much to do, so little time, and so many problems with no time/energy to solve them. School, work, and baby with no car is far too much to handle but there's nothing I can do about any of it. I hate my job with a passion. I dread every day that I know I have to work bc it drains me and I have a headache within an hour of starting. Obviously, I needed to stay home while I finished school on top of caring for a newborn... but it's not financially possible for us. I desperately need a break but won't get one until December 19. Honestly don't know if/how I will make it.
Post by girlonabike on Oct 27, 2015 0:37:19 GMT -5
Waiting for J to get home from work. Dreading going into work myself tomorrow. At least Liam is sound asleep.
My brother is with my parents. Due to insurance issues, their cancer treatment is being delayed another week. My brother told me (because my mom doesn't want to talk about it) that my mom's breast cancer is stage 4. Without treatment, she has weeks. With treatment, maybe months.
I'm so sorry girlonabike. It's ridiculous that things like insurance have such an impact on life in this country. Cancer sucks. Hugs for you. I will be thinking of you, your mother, and your family.
amberlie I'm really sorry things are so shitty right now. You're strong and you will get through this! Is a different job possible? I know that's easier said than done.. Especially with interviews and time constrains.. Hugs to you
@girlinabike. I'm so sorry about your mom.. Cancer and insurance fucking suck... Hugs to you
Post by shannonabigail on Oct 27, 2015 3:53:41 GMT -5
Heading to the pediatrician in the morning as soon as the doors are open. I can't take one more night of thinking my kid is going to stop breathing because his nose is too stopped up. He had a 99.3 temp a daycare today and they gave him Tylenol. Going to check it again after his feed. I really hope he doesn't have to go to the hospital.
amberlie I'm sorry you have so much on your plate right now. Everything you have going on would stress me out too.
When I'm in that situation I take 30 mins to 1 hr and plan a detailed schedule of my day/upcoming weeks. I put on first my obligations that cannot give. For you that seems like work. Include realistic travel time. Then do what you can with what's left. If you only have 30 mins left each day for school, then you make it work and submit whatever you we able to complete in that time. As a teacher (and recently a student), I know content is key and how you present it gets the grade higher. Maybe start with a detailed outline to get your content down and then polish up your writing style, grammar etc afterward - if time permits. With finals coming up, it might help to get a jump start on papers or things you can get out of the way early in the next few weeks.
Then, do the appointments fit? Could they wait until after Dec 19th? Could you do school work in the waiting room? Can you bf find a ride home from work - transit, can, bike, co-worker? If you're unable to pick him up -there isn't much you can do about it. it will work out and be ok.
Once I make the schedule, I take it one event at a time, one hr at a time to help curb my stress. Doing this helps me at least be aware and have control over what parts of my life suffer when I have a lot going on. Regardless how you plan, you will make it through this. One thing/day at a time.
@45th parallel thank you. The scheduling everything that way will probably be really helpful. Getting through one thing at a time is always easier than thinking about everything needing to be done. As far as schoolwork, I'm fairly good at writing. Probably better at writing essays than anything else school related. The length requirement is the issue here bc the syllabus states that it will receive an automatic 0 should it not fit the guidelines for length. After this assignment though, I only have 2 others left for the semester. Both of those will take less than an hour or two to complete so things will get easier as far as homework then. The biggest issue is the car. There is no public transportation available to get my SO home. Leaving him at work would suck all on its own as he'd have to take a cab.. it would be his only option. But he has to be able to pick up E after work, so taxi isn't an option either.
I'm not sure if my appointments can wait. The dentist might be able to, but the temporary fix for my crown was only meant to work for a month. It's been 2 already so it could break at any time. Therapist can technically wait, but I am feeling worse by the day. My anxiety is through the roof even in the best of times so all of these issues on top of the hectic schedule are making it worse.
I need to keep trying to think of solutions for everything, especially the transportation problem. It's taking more energy than I have but I don't really have a choice at this point.
amberlie Maybe add the therapist as an obligation. I'm new to therapy myself but I'd imagine making that a priority would do the mind good.
Further troubleshooting: Is there one of those car share programs around you? I have no idea what they cost so I don't know if it's an option. Is a temporary car rental an option? Comparing the price of a taxi vs. rental and what's safest for E. Could you drop off the car at his work when you're done so he has it to pick up E and you cab instead? These may not even be options but I thought I mention them.
RandomName therapy should be a priority for me. If things get to be too much, I could get stressed to the point where I can't do anything I need to.
I'm not sure about car sharing. I don't know much about it but can look into it. We don't have money for car rental in our budget. It would be about $150-200/week and if we had that much money, we'd probably just buy a second car. Taxi is unfortunately not an option with my job as I usually work far away and I have to change locations every 30 mins to an hour.
I appreciate all of the suggestions! I know there has to be a solution (right?), I just have to find it.
I wish I'd been able to figure everything out before going back to work. I went back more than a month before I planned bc I was told the job wouldn't be there if I waited so I ended up with no time for preparation, mental and otherwise.
I finally caved and turned our heat on. M decided he needed to stay up for the Royals game tonight. DD is getting sick again. I just love daycare during cold and flu season. The new flanges I ordered came in. I hope that my pumping discomfort will be resolved. I can't imagine trying to continue pumping while I'm at work for 12 hours if it's not any better. Ouch.
W just went almost 6 hours between feeds again!! We slept for over 4 hours! !! I have but slept me than four hours in a row since W was born. Hopefully I'll start to feel like a person again.
Well, when DD decided to pass out after only 2 ounces (instead of her usual 5) at 10:00, I told H that she'd be up at 2. I was wrong - she made it until 2:30.
I got a cold from DD1 and DD2. Sucks, but I could deal, IF my cough wasn't uncontrollable. Doing a MOTN feed and every time I try to set her down I'm coughing wake her up.
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