stinybean Have you tried an actual behavior chart with him specifically? Get other staff in on it too to let him know everyone works together. I'm having a hard time with one 1st grader (I'm a music teacher) but figured out today that if he's given a job that he wants to do that he'll shape right up. There has to be something that clicks for him. Ask around to see if anyone else has a strategy for him. The class reward system might work but you can't single him out with that kind of system. Also, remember that approximately 7% of the population doesn't respond to positive behavior systems.
Anybody else sick of apple season? B/c I'm a SAHM atm, the entire family/neighbourhood seems to think I naturally spend my days thinking of a million different ways to cook apples and bringing me cartloads of them. It's very kind and all but then there's the expectation to make them something. "Oh just send us a pie/cake/crumble when you use them". Dude, I didn't manage to get dressed (acceptably) yesterday and I don't have a working oven, making baked goods wasnt on the agenda.
Stahp with the apples.
I wish someone would randomly bring me some apples though!!!
Post by periwinkledaydreams on Oct 14, 2015 19:00:16 GMT -5
Today I realized I have entirely lost my memory and my brain is complete and total mush. I had a babysitter lined up for a doctors appointment at 1:45. Got up, dressed, both of us all ready, went to work on some job applications in the mean time and when I sent an email saw the date and realized the appointment is TOMORROW. Okay call sitter, explain, he can't do it tomorrow so line up new sitter for tomorrow. Realize what time it is and that Ive forgotten to take my meds for the morning. Go to the place where they always are, they are not there. Proceed to spend an hour and a half turning the house upside down looking for them. Nowhere. Finally.. theyre in the bathroom medicine cabinet??? Am I sleepwalking???
Leave out to meet up with my sister but stop to pick up Dunkin Donuts for us and her son on the way. Order, pay, return card to wallet and while waiting for my order realize I have no fucking keys in my hands. Or in my stroller. Or in my wallet. Because my keys are locked in my car. Serioousssllllyyyyy.
So I drank coffee and took an afternoon autumn stroll.
Oh and since I'm being a post whore, I'm handling bedtime on my own tonight as h had a talk at a college an hour and 45 minutes away. I only saw him to shoo him away this morning and I miss him. :\
Last night I made enchiladas for dinner. They were fairly delicious. Then I had them for lunch today. And again for dinner tonight. Cue intestinal distress while nursing a very cranky baby before bedtime. And running to pass a screaming baby to DH before bolting to the bathroom. I barely made it.
I just remembered in my dream last night a kangaroo bit DD on the head and all my and H's immediate family were being super annoying and I was yelling at everyone because they all had a part in delaying me getting her to the ER. It was so frustrating.
I've never been to Australia, I don't have family issues, and I wasn't drunk. I don't know wtf is wrong with my brain.
Post by periwinkledaydreams on Oct 14, 2015 21:06:48 GMT -5
Joolschweets that was my LO the past 3 weeks. She finally got over it this week. Now she's just been trying to rip my nipples off every time she eats. Which has caused me 6 clogged ducts in one week. Which has caused me to finally decide that today is the day I switch to formula!
The constant waking is sanity sucking. Closet wine sounds ideal!
mirage86 I don't think there is such thing as a "good enough" random. I'm sure everyone is up for anything posted in randoms. At least I am.
littlemissgrump Best line ever: "No sir, that can not be half of my food for the day, I'm feeding your child with my body. " Good luck with YH!
My random: I really am struggling with behavior/defiancy in my K classroom. I've tried everything. I am trying my best to remain patient, but that is wearing very thin. Any ideas anyone? I'm thinking of doing a class reward jar and hoping that will get this 1 child to shape up. Right now I use class dojo, which is an online individual behavior monitor that is linked directly to the parents. It works with every child, except this one. I've tried ignoring his inappropriate behavior and praising the good, but when you write on furniture and touch my things I just can't. I'm in contact with mom on the daily. Please teachers I need something to work!
2nd random: I was running up the stairs to catch the train and wiped out. I have a knot on my knee from falling on the cement and a headache from banging my head on the wall. Ow!
Can you give more specific information about the behaviors that are happening, the times that they are occurring (only during math, when you've assigned independent work, when you give direction), etc? What kind of reaction does the class give when he exhibits these behaviors, and are you currently using any sort of punishments or rewards with him?
I am using an indivualized desk behavior chart. It started out as different parts of the day and now it's based on one behavior goal (don't touch others' things). The child exhibits inappropriate behavior all day long. According to mom he had trouble in daycare and has trouble at home too. He just started on meds bc of Dr recommendation- diagnosis of adhd. I don't know how long it takes to come into effect, but only started last week.
He climbs on furniture, writes all over furniture/floor, crawls on the floor, talks back/argues with authority (not just me, but AP/guidance counselor), and has begun to grab at me when he doesn't get his way (<-- I don't know how to handle this last one. I know I'm reacting in a way that makes him do it more, but when he's grabbing onto me I just don't know how not to react.), etc.
The thing that bothers me the most about his behavior is he knows he is doing the wrong thing. He knows what behavior he should display. He is a "with it" kid that just doesn't want to do what you tell him.
The rest of the class tells him that he isn't doing the right thing. I'm trying to get their influence to effect him, it is working a little thus far. I'm actually really impressed with how the rest of the class behaves in spite of him. And I feel awful that so much of instruction/ learning time is wasted because of his distractions.
Advanced eta: I know I'm going to have to edit to tag people. @silv3rling erbearjessila
Jessila- I've given him jobs to do and that works a little. What do you do for the 7% ?
Hm, stinybean. I'd continue to use the class' good behavior, but stop pointing out this boy's misbehavior, ie, he's out of line crawling on the floor, don't point that out but praise every other student for doing the right thing and being in line. He may just be seeking attention for his behavior and acting out negatively; when you stop rewarding the negative actions with attention, he may stop. And really lay on the positive reinforcement with the other kids.
You can also make specific Dojo categories for his behaviors that he could earn?
Thanks erbear I'm going to try. I really hope something changes soon, I cringe everytime I walk in my classroom just thinking about what's going to happen.
Thanks erbear I'm going to try. I really hope something changes soon, I cringe everytime I walk in my classroom just thinking about what's going to happen.
I know what you mean; I had some violent kids last year and I dreaded going to work at times. It was a terrible year.
Post by carolyngrace on Oct 15, 2015 7:19:40 GMT -5
@stineybean If he has a true adhd diagnosis and gets the right medicine, the results should be almost immediate (usually). So make sure you communicate with mom if you don't see a change in the next week or so. Because then either he's misdiagnosed or not on the right meds.
I'm as school therapist and all my kids sound like yours! Half of my job is listening to teachers while they vent!
stinybean, For the 7% you just have to figure out what works for them. Honestly, sometimes it's negative attention that works for students. Ugh. And it makes you feel like an a-hole to have to do it. I had a student who had a lot of issues (defiance, throwing things including punches) my first year of teaching and nothing I did worked. Until I screamed in his face. I still feel guilty about that 5 years later. I had a conversation with him probably 10 minutes after it happened and apologized explaining that that is not how we should treat each other. After it happened, I never had an issue with him again. But I still feel bad about it. Other students I've had that didn't respond to the positive stuff I've pulled aside into the hallway to have quiet/scary-teacher-faced conversations. Sometimes it works. Sometimes it doesn't. I'm sorry you're going through this because we (the teachers) know how much it really sucks.
Like carolyngrace, was saying-make sure to keep very open communication with home especially if medication is starting. Keep a log of any changes in behavior whether positive or negative. DH has ADHD but I've never seen him medicated. He hated the way meds made him feel and learned how to cope without them when he was older.
Another way I have found to give students a break when they're restless is to have them run an errand for me to another classroom. Find a teacher (or two or three) that you can send him to with notes. Write something, anything on the note. Have the teacher write a response back. Just getting out of the classroom might help him so he can be more focused when he returns.
Advanced eta:I know that I had more thoughts so I'll come back to finish them later.
Thanks carolyngrace and jessila. I was laying the positives on reallllllllllllly thick last week and ignoring the negative actions. He is making some improvements, but he still has his moments that he makes really bad choices. (I keep telling him to make "smart choices" because this is a class rule. )
The fact that I am posting anything other than a picture is my random. The last couple of weeks have been insane and today was 18 straight hours of non stop something. I aspire to do more than drive by and yell HAAAAAAIIIII in the very near future.
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