I loved being pregnant. Just about every second. Hated the newborn phase the first time, didn't mind the second time. This fucking sleep regression, however, is hell on earth and I can only hope I will forget it.
I hated a lot of being pregnant. I had morning sickness for all but a few weeks second trimester, including a lot of vomiting. I had a bad taste in my mouth pretty much constantly and from about halfway until the end, I was so extremely sore in my hips and back that it hurt constantly no matter if I was sitting, standing, or laying down. I remember just rolling over in bed was a painful process.
Labor wasn't too fun either, especially after my epidural dislodged and stopped working. But luckily it was really fast after active labor began.
DD wasn't a cuddly newborn, more like a screamer as PP have mentioned. Colic and reflux was so bad and she was just generally unhappy. She's finally turning into a sweetie pie.
In spite of all this, I have baby fever. I don't know why. It's weird. I don't want to be pregnant again, except I miss the baby kicks. So where is the baby fever coming from?
I was lucky that I had no morning sickness but my pre-existing heart condition started acting up around 22 weeks so having to see my midwife and high risk maternal fetal specialist every 2 weeks was not fun. It made work pretty difficult and I had to cut down to 6 hour shifts around 34 weeks.
I've tried to forget the first 2 hours in the hospital while they tried to get my epidural in. After that piece of cake I could do delivery again even though the epidural failed just as I started pushing. Thankfully I only pushed for 20 minutes and dd was out.
The first 6 weeks were rough!! Dd did not sleep and only would sleep on me in the recliner. I was so happy when I started sleeping in my bed again.
I wanted at least 3 kids but the first 6 weeks is going to be hard to forget. DD pretty much secured her only child status.
I'm done having kids, sterilized and all but I think since this was my last one it's making me remember things fondly. Yeah the last few weeks sucked and recovery was the hardest thing I've had to endure to date but I do remember baby kicks and rolls, the cravings, the excitement leading up to the birth and occasionally I still get the urge to rub my stomach and get a little sad that there isn't a belly full of baby anymore.
Post by nikkilynn27 on Jan 29, 2015 9:01:24 GMT -5
giggle...wiener....giggle
I would love to have one more but DH and I decided two was our limit. And with all the shit going down in my house lately, it wouldn't have happened for a loooooooooong time anyway. But I would suffer through another bad pregnancy without a second thought. My first pregnancy was amazing, this one, not so much...
I haven't forgotten. 3rd Tri was a bitch and the first few weeks were really hard on me emotionally. I definitely don't want any more for a while.
BUT.
I do find myself thinking back to how wonderful it was when I found out I was pregnant. The kicks etc... how lovely it would be to have a little girl next time. What is this insanity?
Post by dorothyzbornak97 on Jan 29, 2015 9:15:45 GMT -5
I haven't forgotten what most of it felt like, but we're not having any more kids.
I'm another weirdo who actually enjoyed pregnancy, aside from the hell that is the final month. But, I had a pretty easy pregnancy, so there's that.
Also, while I remember that they hurt like hell, I don't remember exactly what contractions felt like. I guess that is nature's way of making you want to do it again. BUT, I do remember what my c-section recovery felt like.
I have NOT forgotten. I found myself missing that magic 2 months there where you have a cute little baby gut and life is good. Everyone lets you get out of doing EVERYTHING!
I didn't really like kicks (just the first ones), I didn't like being pregnant it was really really hard on my body. Then the eating dinner, then a 2nd dinner, then dessert, and crying to DH because I was still hungry and I felt like a fat cow. Lol I hated pregnancy. Plus her birth was so fucking terrifying with DH's job I'm really scared about the next time. I didn't have the excitement of anticipation. It just hit my like a brick house.
Post by windwithfingers on Jan 29, 2015 9:21:54 GMT -5
I chose SS for a few reasons. First, I honestly don't remember weeks 25-33ish. I barely remember what baby kicks felt like and I have pretty much blocked out labor. Second, I want to have another baby but I probably won't, unless I meet someone really magical and unicorn-like in the next 5 years or so. And third, I hated the newborn stage, but I don't think it was because of lack of sleep, I think it was because I felt really alone and I felt like I had to do everything by myself and didn't ask for help. But my baby is so big and I wish I had savored the tiny newborn snuggles a little more.
Post by raesofsunshine1 on Jan 29, 2015 9:25:41 GMT -5
SS because no I didnt forget. I hate being pregnant for the most part. I dont mind birth, though. And the newborn stage is tough. Every stage is tough in its own way but I LOVE being a mommy. I definitely want at least one more, maybe two. Depends on finances, tho.
I really disliked being pregnant but I think I am forgetting how much I disliked it. Already thinking about #2. The end result 4 months later is great!
I am a magical unicorn with a magical unicorn vagina. I felt fantastic immediately after giving birth. I wasn't sore or anything. I do remember the contractions, and I do remember telling DH that I couldn't do it. But it wasn't bad at all, once I got the epidural. My pregnancy wasn't even all that bad, but I did check out of work towards the end.
I am torn between wanting the next now and spacing it out. Our next will be our last planned pregnancy, so I don't really want it end so soon, but I also have already picked out baby names and browse the newborn section of the baby dept.
One thing I always remember most after giving birth, is the sensation in my stomach that I was falling. It was very weird, whenever I stood up it was like all my organs were literally dropping.
I'm actually the weirdo who loves going through labor. It hurts but it's amazing once it's done and you get a baby at the end. I didn't love this last pregnancy but got a much easier baby this time around so we're doing it again.
Post by dreadgamerwife on Jan 29, 2015 10:23:18 GMT -5
I also had a unicorn pregnancy (despite the GD) so I could easily do another pregnancy again. Newborn phase is a totally different story. Those first six weeks were really rough and I need at least another year to forget about it.
Post by renegade1009 on Jan 29, 2015 10:30:24 GMT -5
Besides puking my brains out the first 18 weeks and having a numb face and rash I had it pretty easy. I felt great through the bitter end even though I was 2 weeks over due.
I'd do labor a million times over, my least favorite part was recovery and don't think mine was bad compared to a lot of women. I thought it was annoying more than anything.
I'm pumped for next baby. I can only hope it goes just as great.
One thing I always remember most after giving birth, is the sensation in my stomach that I was falling. It was very weird, whenever I stood up it was like all my organs were literally dropping.
I chose SS for a few reasons. First, I honestly don't remember weeks 25-33ish. I barely remember what baby kicks felt like and I have pretty much blocked out labor. Second, I want to have another baby but I probably won't, unless I meet someone really magical and unicorn-like in the next 5 years or so. And third, I hated the newborn stage, but I don't think it was because of lack of sleep, I think it was because I felt really alone and I felt like I had to do everything by myself and didn't ask for help. But my baby is so big and I wish I had savored the tiny newborn snuggles a little more.
Big hugs. I honestly don't know how you've done this considering everything you've been through. I am always in awe at how strong you are.
Post by renegade1009 on Jan 29, 2015 10:45:52 GMT -5
Everyone knows contractions aren't easy per say but not unbearable in my opinion...I'll definitely forget that pain. However I will NEVER forget the pain from my doctor physically shoving both hands to push apart my pelvis because LO had been stuck for an hour of pushing. I can't believe I didn't die right on the spot. I never ever want to feel that again. Holy Jesus. I scarred DH for life with my blood curdling scream.
I don't think I will ever forget how crappy pregnancy was and how much it and my c-section jacked up my body. I'm way too relieved to feel like myself again to ever want to go through that again.
Honestly, other than stress from my previous experience and having to diet later, pregnancy was great for me. I was wearing heels the last day that I worked, my manager was very flexible with my schedule and didn't make me feel guilty for having to head into the city for 2 ultrasounds/week, and I had an amazingly supportive husband. Labor was rather fast, and other than having to wait for an epidural because of an emergency ebola meeting, not terrible.. We had about 5 people in the L&D suite at the busiest time, and it was easy to forget that I was even having a baby.
The recovery from delivery is the part that I remember that still makes me shudder. I'm not ready for that again.
Also, I may not remember the pain, but I also don't remember what baby kicks felt like, so I lost some of the good feelings also.
All of the above. Especially recovery (because of the section). However, I will say I'm totally ready to do it again.
I think for me, it's that I'm a perfectionist. Now that I KNOW what to expect, I want do the next one better. I want to know how I'll handle things when I KNOW what recovery is, when I KNOW things about breastfeeding, etc.
I'm ready, but I'm taking every birth control pill until October, just FYI.
I chose SS for a few reasons. First, I honestly don't remember weeks 25-33ish. I barely remember what baby kicks felt like and I have pretty much blocked out labor. Second, I want to have another baby but I probably won't, unless I meet someone really magical and unicorn-like in the next 5 years or so. And third, I hated the newborn stage, but I don't think it was because of lack of sleep, I think it was because I felt really alone and I felt like I had to do everything by myself and didn't ask for help. But my baby is so big and I wish I had savored the tiny newborn snuggles a little more.
Big hugs. I honestly don't know how you've done this considering everything you've been through. I am always in awe at how strong you are.
Thanks. You just do what you have to do, you know?
I honestly don't remember much about the first two weeks of the newborn stage. The initial growth spurts at three and five weeks were probably enough to keep me from trying again.
I also hated being pregnant. I was sick from week five to about week 20. I also had a shit ton of doctor appointments and special needs. I couldn't eat anything without worry. And then, surgery. The recovery wasn't terrible, but I think if I want to try this again, VBAC is out of the question due to my health.
I'm not in a huge hurry to be pregnant again. Or to deal with a newborn again.
I forget the newborn stage...I will never forget throwing up for 36 weeks or the hell of labor and back contractions. But...Id do it again one more time.
Post by maggie6424 on Jan 29, 2015 15:51:36 GMT -5
DS2's pregnancy and birth were worlds better than ds1. I want another one, H isn't sure yet.. however.. we still haven't DTD. Stupid mirena bleeding is lasting for.ev.er and we're both just so exhausted.
Meagan
31 dx with PCOS 2010
DS1 12-29-11 Matthew
BFP 10/19/13 missed mc at 5 weeks discovered at 8 weeks. D&C 11/18/13
BFP 2/16/14 EDD 10/31/14
DS2 11-4-14 Alex
Everyone knows contractions aren't easy per say but not unbearable in my opinion...I'll definitely forget that pain. However I will NEVER forget the pain from my doctor physically shoving both hands to push apart my pelvis because LO had been stuck for an hour of pushing. I can't believe I didn't die right on the spot. I never ever want to feel that again. Holy Jesus. I scarred DH for life with my blood curdling scream.
I think this is what the last hour of my labor felt like. I remember thinking my pelvis was splitting in half. I don't recommend giving birth to a face-up baby without an epidural. It wasn't the contractions that bothered me.
Post by lightbright515 on Jan 29, 2015 18:59:25 GMT -5
I loved being pregnant, and the pain is forgettable. However, I just can't afford another child. I need to get through grad school and get DD to Kindergarten first.
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