Ugh, 9 month sleep regression? We just hit 8 months and we are definitely regressing. It has been over a week since I've had a night of good sleep - baby girl has decided that MOTN wake ups should be at least 2 hours long. I have managed to spare DH having to get up with her MOTN until this week. I can feel that her bottom teeth are coming in, but I did not expect that it would take so long for them to cut through.
I haven't been on much lately because things have been so busy. Since 40% of the company was laid off I am now super busy at work and I've also been interviewing. I have final round on site interviews with two companies coming up. So stressful trying to deal with all this change and figure things out!
dmorgendorffer that's a whole lot going on. Glad to hear from you! Hope those teeth break soon! DS had 1.5-2 weeks of terrible sleep, culminating in 3 nights of basically no sleep, then cut two teeth within 3 days. Then he caught up on sleep (nights still aren't perfect but sooooo much better). taberbtb and you're probably extra exhausted anyway.
Yesterday I saw that someone I was friends with in high school announced on Facebook that her and her husband are separating. That's sad. But is Facebook really the place for this? I don't know.
When I went to her wall I saw she had posted an article the other week about how you shouldn't confuse happiness with being comfortable. This article had a lot of bs in it about how you should have butterflies every time you look at your SO. Seriously?! Maybe I'm nuts but that's just not realistic in a long term relationship. There are lots of good reasons for people to go their separate ways but I feel like if people actually think this is the ruler to measure their marriage/relationship by then of course they are always going to be looking for something better. Thoughts?
mishka29 I don't know. I don't think butterflies is necessary, but I do think that there should be some indicator of love underneath. So that even when you are fighting, you still maintain respect and love for each other.
I think sometimes we expect our partner to be "perfect" and fullfill all our expectations and demands. I see this a lot along my single friends - they think their new BF/GF is going to be the saviour and then they fall hard when they realize that their partner is a human being too.
Well, that was long, and not very much to the point... sorry!
ETA I'm sorry your friend is splitting up though. Are there kids involved as well?
Yesterday I saw that someone I was friends with in high school announced on Facebook that her and her husband are separating. That's sad. But is Facebook really the place for this? I don't know.
When I went to her wall I saw she had posted an article the other week about how you shouldn't confuse happiness with being comfortable. This article had a lot of bs in it about how you should have butterflies every time you look at your SO. Seriously?! Maybe I'm nuts but that's just not realistic in a long term relationship. There are lots of good reasons for people to go their separate ways but I feel like if people actually think this is the ruler to measure their marriage/relationship by then of course they are always going to be looking for something better. Thoughts?
Agreed. Facebook is definitely NOT the place to air your dirty laundry. I had a cousin (one of my trashier ones) post on Facebook about how her husband cheated on her. So awkward. Then they worked it out and stayed together (good for them) but now everyone knows what a no-good cheater this guy is.
Also agreed. I do not get the butterfly feeling every time I look at my husband. Heck, there are days where he is just grating my nerves and I don't really like him all that much. But I always love him, even when he's annoying Marriage is tough. Why make it harder by setting unrealistic expectations? So long as the love and mutual respect is there, and we're willing to keep giving it our all, I have something worth fighting for.
I just have to get through today and tomorrow and I'm ready for our trip! I really need to make a dent on packing tonight. I have a huge suitcase and I'm trying to fit all our stuff into one. Should be easy since it's a short trip, right?
Yesterday I saw that someone I was friends with in high school announced on Facebook that her and her husband are separating. That's sad. But is Facebook really the place for this? I don't know.
When I went to her wall I saw she had posted an article the other week about how you shouldn't confuse happiness with being comfortable. This article had a lot of bs in it about how you should have butterflies every time you look at your SO. Seriously?! Maybe I'm nuts but that's just not realistic in a long term relationship. There are lots of good reasons for people to go their separate ways but I feel like if people actually think this is the ruler to measure their marriage/relationship by then of course they are always going to be looking for something better. Thoughts?
Agreed. Facebook is definitely NOT the place to air your dirty laundry. I had a cousin (one of my trashier ones) post on Facebook about how her husband cheated on her. So awkward. Then they worked it out and stayed together (good for them) but now everyone knows what a no-good cheater this guy is.
Also agreed. I do not get the butterfly feeling every time I look at my husband. Heck, there are days where he is just grating my nerves and I don't really like him all that much. But I always love him, even when he's annoying Marriage is tough. Why make it harder by setting unrealistic expectations? So long as the love and mutual respect is there, and we're willing to keep giving it our all, I have something worth fighting for.
Yeah, I hate those sorts of articles. I'm not gaga in love with him every day. But he is my best friend, and the love of my life. I think that sort of thing does put totally unrealistic ideas into peoples heads. I look at my parents. They were never super affectionate or gaga over each others. But I know they love each other more than anything and have been married 40 years. You have to have friendship along with everything else. Otherwise -- you aren't going to want to grow old with each other. If it is just butterflies -- that fades.
Nothing much going on here. DD is still sick and I didn't get much sleep, so we are just taking it easy at home. MIL is coming over to babysit tonight - I hope DD doesn't cry too much
I thought I had posted earlier, but I don't see it... weird.
We have some new students at school this week. Their creative parents named them Kae-lei and Jaidyn. WHY???
My bambino is eight months old today! How did that happen? I got a "leap alarm" on my phone yesterday, so that's something to look forward to. Plus his surgery is a week from today; I anticipate a demon baby next week!
DH finally got his driver's license here! That took way too long.
Last night was rough. Congested baby and congested mama make for an awful night. But we've got our last swim lesson for the year this afternoon, so that will be fun.
Post by lilyelayne on Oct 21, 2015 11:17:07 GMT -5
mishka29 butterflies every single time you look at someone you spend decades with? How is that realistic? Also what's the corollary? You get butterflies when you look at someone else & that means you're married to the wrong person? Hope things work out the best for your friend, whatever that ends up looking like.
mishka29 I don't know. I don't think butterflies is necessary, but I do think that there should be some indicator of love underneath. So that even when you are fighting, you still maintain respect and love for each other.
I think sometimes we expect our partner to be "perfect" and fullfill all our expectations and demands. I see this a lot along my single friends - they think their new BF/GF is going to be the saviour and then they fall hard when they realize that their partner is a human being too.
Well, that was long, and not very much to the point... sorry!
ETA I'm sorry your friend is splitting up though. Are there kids involved as well?
No they don't have any kids. We haven't been friends since high school but it's just sad to see people you know separating after 13 years.
mishka29 I don't know. I don't think butterflies is necessary, but I do think that there should be some indicator of love underneath. So that even when you are fighting, you still maintain respect and love for each other.
I think sometimes we expect our partner to be "perfect" and fullfill all our expectations and demands. I see this a lot along my single friends - they think their new BF/GF is going to be the saviour and then they fall hard when they realize that their partner is a human being too.
Well, that was long, and not very much to the point... sorry!
ETA I'm sorry your friend is splitting up though. Are there kids involved as well?
No they don't have any kids. We haven't been friends since high school but it's just sad to see people you know separating after 13 years.
Oh, y'all, I'm spiraling on Christmas photos. I want to do a snowman photo where he wears the cute hat and scarf and we paint buttons on his bare belly and orange on his nose. It went on from there; diaper covers, babies with strands of lights, you name it. I wish I either had the time to be a true photographer or the money to pay someone to take all the photos that pop up in my head.
I just have to get through today and tomorrow and I'm ready for our trip! I really need to make a dent on packing tonight. I have a huge suitcase and I'm trying to fit all our stuff into one. Should be easy since it's a short trip, right?
Yesterday I saw that someone I was friends with in high school announced on Facebook that her and her husband are separating. That's sad. But is Facebook really the place for this? I don't know.
When I went to her wall I saw she had posted an article the other week about how you shouldn't confuse happiness with being comfortable. This article had a lot of bs in it about how you should have butterflies every time you look at your SO. Seriously?! Maybe I'm nuts but that's just not realistic in a long term relationship. There are lots of good reasons for people to go their separate ways but I feel like if people actually think this is the ruler to measure their marriage/relationship by then of course they are always going to be looking for something better. Thoughts?
butterflies a necessity eh? Well thank god I have my divorse attorney on speed dial. Seriously, if I had to rely on butterflies, I would be doomed to be single the rest of my life. I have only ever gotten butterflies for men that were seriously bad for me. I got butterflies with DH the first few weeks. Until I realised he was perfect for me and I had no reason to be nervous anymore... I may just say I got 'comfortable' OH DEAR WE'RE DOOMED. perleeeze.
I just have to get through today and tomorrow and I'm ready for our trip! I really need to make a dent on packing tonight. I have a huge suitcase and I'm trying to fit all our stuff into one. Should be easy since it's a short trip, right?
Post by seamonster on Oct 21, 2015 14:57:29 GMT -5
Need to get some long sleeve onsies. Suddenly our apartment is getting to cold for short sleeves. Maybe he can wear a sleeper for night sleeping rather than just day wear.
dmorgendorffer the 9m sleep regression supposedly can strike anywhere between 8-10m. Here's hoping you're just hitting it early and that will be the end of it.
mishka29 FWIW I never had butterflies with DH. At first I thought it was some kind of "sign" that we weren't meant to be. Now I just think of it as a sign that we were because I was never nervous around him. He always made me feel comfortable when we were together. Now days when we are together I feel love towards him but mostly I feel the same way I would when I am with my best friend. I couldn't imagine life without him.
Oh, y'all, I'm spiraling on Christmas photos. I want to do a snowman photo where he wears the cute hat and scarf and we paint buttons on his bare belly and orange on his nose. It went on from there; diaper covers, babies with strands of lights, you name it. I wish I either had the time to be a true photographer or the money to pay someone to take all the photos that pop up in my head.
Yes to all of this. I've already ordered S a white diaper cover.
I just told H that he better not go downstairs and open the door because it will be too loud and we've had zero sleep with O's cold the past 2 nights. He went downstairs anyway. When he comes up the steps I will NOT be feeling butterflies
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