My UO is that I love cleaning. Especially bathrooms. Let me rephrase...I love the product of cleaning...a clean house. The act of cleaning is ok. I may have posted this before. I haven't been able to clean as much since DD was born and my world doesn't feel right. DH isn't a clean or tidy person (and he hates HP, how did I marry this guy haha) so the mess hasn't bothered him at all. I get so anxious and every minute DH has DD I'm cleaning instead of relaxing or doing something unproductive.
This is how I am too. Every time DD2 is sleeping not on me (the swing is hit or miss, crib is a big fat miss) I run around like a crazy person trying to quietly clean as much as I can before she wakes up.
The swing has lately become a big fat miss here and the crib is just a no go. Currently wearing her...sigh
My UO is that I love cleaning. Especially bathrooms. Let me rephrase...I love the product of cleaning...a clean house. The act of cleaning is ok. I may have posted this before. I haven't been able to clean as much since DD was born and my world doesn't feel right. DH isn't a clean or tidy person (and he hates HP, how did I marry this guy haha) so the mess hasn't bothered him at all. I get so anxious and every minute DH has DD I'm cleaning instead of relaxing or doing something unproductive.
This is how I am too. Every time DD2 is sleeping not on me (the swing is hit or miss, crib is a big fat miss) I run around like a crazy person trying to quietly clean as much as I can before she wakes up.
I don't understand how people don't let their child cry a little bit. There was a post on Facebook about different parenting styles and there was a photo with one mom holding a sign that said "I let my child (reasonably) cry it out" and the woman beside her held a sign that said "I never let my child cry". All of these people commented about how the one mom was abusing her child and was neglectful.
The second I lay Elaine down she cries for up to 5 minutes and then falls asleep. It isn't her screaming crying, it's her pay attention to me/I don't want nap cry. Even during her nap she will yell a couple of times and then immediately fall asleep.
If I went to get her every time she cried or if I never let her cry in the first place, she would literally never nap. And then would cry because she is exhausted. Can someone enlighten me? If we aren't supposed to ever allow our child to cry, how do we get our children to do what is in their best interest but they don't want to do...
I'm fine with some crying too. My idea is that if I'm driving, I can't always pull over when she starts to cry. She needs to learn to self soothe a little bit and I, in turn, am learning how to handle the crying. Desensitizing, kind of. I can also tell the difference in her cries so that helps too
this. Or if i need to wash hands/ go pee/ finish thst last bite of pizza. Kids gonna cry; I feel horrible when he really gets hoing in the car ( that is the one place where he gets very little response other voice) and then he stops crying & has blank look on his face i feel like he gave up on me, so i failed him.
In keeping with the holiday theme, I'm not sure we'll be doing Santa in our household. My parents didn't with my siblings and I, and I don't feel like I missed out on anything.
we won't be either. I want my kid to believe in magic but I don't want to use it to control her behavior. Like Santa is watching you, you better be good. You know who's bringing your present? Mom and dad. So behave because that's how we're raising you, not because you want stuff. I grew up not celebrating any holidays or birthdays and never missed them. We will be doing birthdays with her, just not making it into a big deal or anything.
In keeping with the holiday theme, I'm not sure we'll be doing Santa in our household. My parents didn't with my siblings and I, and I don't feel like I missed out on anything.
we won't be either. I want my kid to believe in magic but I don't want to use it to control her behavior. Like Santa is watching you, you better be good. You know who's bringing your present? Mom and dad. So behave because that's how we're raising you, not because you want stuff. I grew up not celebrating any holidays or birthdays and never missed them. We will be doing birthdays with her, just not making it into a big deal or anything.
We'll be doing Santa based off this book I have "the santa Claus book"where Santa is someone who loves making toys for children to make them happy. It also guess into the different kinds of elves and there's a magic pomegranate. I loved it when I was a kid and was never raised with "be good or else" it was just family and magic and presents. We'll probably have one special present from Santa and the rest from us.
I'm fine with some crying too. My idea is that if I'm driving, I can't always pull over when she starts to cry. She needs to learn to self soothe a little bit and I, in turn, am learning how to handle the crying. Desensitizing, kind of. I can also tell the difference in her cries so that helps too
this. Or if i need to wash hands/ go pee/ finish thst last bite of pizza. Kids gonna cry; I feel horrible when he really gets hoing in the car ( that is the one place where he gets very little response other voice) and then he stops crying & has blank look on his face i feel like he gave up on me, so i failed him.
Delilah screams a lot while I'm doing bedtime with DD1. I hate it, but there's no other way to get the toddler's routine done. It was a choice I had to make. I can't juggle both during bath time, jammies, and story time.
We'll absolutely be doing Santa. We still get Santa gifts. However, Santa brings one gift and does stockings. That's it. Not a whole mountain of gifts.
this. Or if i need to wash hands/ go pee/ finish thst last bite of pizza. Kids gonna cry; I feel horrible when he really gets hoing in the car ( that is the one place where he gets very little response other voice) and then he stops crying & has blank look on his face i feel like he gave up on me, so i failed him.
Delilah screams a lot while I'm doing bedtime with DD1. I hate it, but there's no other way to get the toddler's routine done. It was a choice I had to make. I can't juggle both during bath time, jammies, and story time.
I'm fine with some crying too. My idea is that if I'm driving, I can't always pull over when she starts to cry. She needs to learn to self soothe a little bit and I, in turn, am learning how to handle the crying. Desensitizing, kind of. I can also tell the difference in her cries so that helps too
this. Or if i need to wash hands/ go pee/ finish thst last bite of pizza. Kids gonna cry; I feel horrible when he really gets hoing in the car ( that is the one place where he gets very little response other voice) and then he stops crying & has blank look on his face i feel like he gave up on me, so i failed him.
This is exactly what just happened. We're in the car trying to make it home, E is screaming her head off and we're trying to make it to the next exit so I can soothe her. She stopped right as we got off the exit, and I get to her and her face was so blank with tiny tears in her eyes and I felt even worse then. Like she gave up on me is the exact way she looked. I felt so bad.
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