lawndog1216 +1 for man flu being the worst. I'm sick now, and the worst part about it is knowing that H might get sick. Nooooo!
Sibling rivalry. My older two play together sometimes, but they also fight. A lot. Some fights better characterized as brawls. Like, clawing at eachother's faces. Usually in the car or when I'm nursing, when I can't quickly stop it. But, when they play together, it's cute. The other day, they were playing animal doctor. DS1 was making the animal beds out if blocks and DD would go around checking the stuffed animals' eyes with a flashlight and giving shots. Melt my heart.
Today is a research day for me. No conference calls. No big emails. No writing or editing. Just research. My god, I love research days. And then I pick up the kids from school at 3 and it's chaos until MH gets home at 8. A quiet morning in front of the computer is heaven right now.
LO is also eating every 2 hrs too. And he now won't take a bottle. Ugh.
We had to leave a wedding this weekend because H wouldn't take a bottle from my sister in law. I'm freaking out because I go back to work in two weeks and with commute time I am gone for 14 hour days.
Ugh I'm freaking out too because I have a job interview next week out of town. M was supposed to stay home with DH but now we may have to all go.
We had a fun and busy weekend! T-Ball, a festival, a night out with no babies (thanks for the grandparents) on Saturday and then the pumpkin patch and a 90 min massage for me on Sunday!
I am determined to actually start with the exercise/eating right routine this week. I do it for a couple days then fall off. My reward is Thanksgiving. I do good for the next few weeks and I will eat what I want and how much I want for Thanksgiving.
Post by skinandbones on Oct 26, 2015 9:23:38 GMT -5
lawndog1216, negative comments about baby wearing? Like what? My FIL made a snide comment when we were over for dinner (it coincided with DS2 nap time) but I pointed out he wasn't fussing so....
DH and I talked about not letting people pressure DS1 for hugs. I was armed with the article (thanks, motownthrowdown) but the conversation was really short. Me: I don't think we should pressure DS1 for hugs and kisses. DH: that makes sense. Ok.
I did point out that I was really upset with his mom's guilt trip about it. DH agreed. So the plan is next time is to step in and point out DS said no and to knock it off.
We have plans to vist the pumpkin patch with the boys today. I'm pretty excited. I wasn't sure if we were going to get to go this year with DH's work schedule.
gingerygirl, I think somebody makes the equivalent of overnight diapers. Might look into those?
lemon200, I was just quickly flipping though the pics last night and I thought they were from that throwback thing on Facebook. I glanced at you and I was like, there's no way these are recent because she just had a baby like two months ago. Lol.
On my first pumping break at work. We have a decent little setup, not as pretty as hijamie, but a comfy chair, storage lockers, and a full size fridge.
I know (hope) my H will be on board with this but I haven't told him that I plan on going this route with N.
I noticed on Saturday that my family pushes even when the kid says no.
N has an outie belly button (it may change ?) and I told my cousin about it and she said her son (5years) does too. I showed him Ns belly button because he asked to see. Then I asked to see his and he said no. I said "that's okay". His mom replied "she showed you N's. You have to show her yours. That's how it works."
I cringed! All I could think about is a fucking pedofile saying the same thing.
I pushed that it was okay that he didn't want to and I quickly changed the subject. I guess I'll have to bring up the article next time to explain why it isn't good to force kids.
gingerygirl, I think somebody makes the equivalent of overnight diapers. Might look into those?
lemon200, I was just quickly flipping though the pics last night and I thought they were from that throwback thing on Facebook. I glanced at you and I was like, there's no way these are recent because she just had a baby like two months ago. Lol.
shellyr I hope your mom can come. So sorry for your loss.
+1 for thinking lemon200 just posted old pics bc girl you do not look bad at all. Exact opposite of bad. Like, good. ...sorry my brain isn't comprehending words at the moment but you don't look like you just had a baby.
Post by shannonabigail on Oct 26, 2015 9:49:31 GMT -5
If you're my FB friend I just posted some info about a children's book exchange. I need 6 people who are willing to participate. You mail out 1 book and you'll end up with 36 books for your child. If you want in, message me on FB or on here and I can get you the info!
shellyr, sorry for your loss. I hope your Mom can come stay. packmomma, it does. I promise.
DH and I tried to DTD quickly while LO was napping. Tears, pain, and we ended up stopping. And I had a C-Section. How in the world did I become a virgin again?
Post by motownthrowdown on Oct 26, 2015 10:11:12 GMT -5
Advice wanted:
Work colleague's daughter had a baby with gastroschisis (intestine outside body). She's been in the nicu since she was born in June and she's starting to eat breastmilk!! Bad news is that mom's supply isn't enough and they are supplementing with donor milk mixed with formula.
I feel like I should offer some of mine after baby gets out. I can't give enough to exclusively feed two babies, but donor milk is expensive and most insurances won't cover it outside of the nicu. BM is especially important for intestinal issues because of NEC (necrotizing enterocolitis, basically parts of your intestine die and there's a 25% mortality rate).
I dont even know if the daughter would be interested, since I've never met her and my milk wouldn't be tested or anything. I just feel morally obligated to try to help. But I'm afraid of not having enough for A if I give some away right now.
Edit: cost of buying donor milk is between $3-$5 an ounce.
lawndog1216, negative comments about baby wearing? Like what? My FIL made a snide comment when we were over for dinner (it coincided with DS2 nap time) but I pointed out he wasn't fussing so....
Yeah - MH thinks it's a waste of money and the reason she won't go to anyone else. Um, she does go to other people and if you wanna carry her around---oh wait, you can't, because without fail after three f'ing minutes you complain that your shoulder and elbow hurt and you can't hold her anymore. Maybe you should try babywearing. My mother just thinks it's dangerous. I'm not known for my grace and agility, but she also doesn't get how the wraps stay on. "OH MY GOD THERE ARE FABRIC PIECES HANGING OUT BACK HERE!" So I took off my coat and she saw the wrapping across my back and tied in knots... She was better. The tails apparently scared her.
It's EXHAUSTING being the adult in all of my relationships.
motownthrowdown, I would offer and just let her know you can't probably give everything she needs but you can give what you can. It's a nice offer and she doesn't have to take you up on it.
shellyr, I'm so sorry for your loss. That sounds rough all around. FX everything works out.
lemon200, I think you look awesome in your FB pics, too
Busy weekend. Went to friend's b-day party Friday night, soccer games Saturday, then had friends and their kids over for dinner. Scrubbed the house top to bottom after church on Sunday, then shopping, then carved pumpkins and toasted the seeds.
Having issues with family drama. First, my SIL (brother's wife), is due in December. She's having two showers, one where they live (my hometown), and one in her hometown. I'm invited to both, but can only go to one (in my hometown). The one in her hometown is actually closer to where I live, but we have the kids and I can't take Teagan (it's at SIL's parents' house, and they both smoke... in the house). Don't want to leave DH home alone with 4 kids. Anywho, don't know if I need to send a gift for the shower I'm not going to. Don't know how that works.
Then I find out Saturday that I have to plan the shower in my hometown. I live 300 miles away. Seriously? My cousin, mom, and aunt were handling it (they all live there). My cousin sends me a message telling me I need to take over her part because it's becoming too much. She and my mom are having issues because of some drama with my grandmother. I guess my mom doesn't want to do it, and my aunt can't do much because she has health issues. Neither my mom or cousin work or have kids to take care of. I'm livid that they can't get along long enough to plan this damn shower. My brother and SIL have been through a lot to get to this point and this baby deserves to be celebrated. I have a ton on my plate right now, and I'm not even there to get everything together. I'll do the best I can, but damn people, drop your petty differences for a minute. Ugh.
motownthrowdown that's really sweet and generous of you to think of your colleague's daughter. Of course, A has to come first for you. So if you're at all hesitant about having enough for A, err on the side of more for A. But, I think you know that! It would be kind of you to offer.
There are also lots of mom-to-mom breastmilk coalitions out there, that she might want to check out. "Eats on Feets" and "Human Milk for Human Babies" come to mind. See if there's one in your state. They all have FB pages. Basically, it connects moms who have breastmilk with moms who need it. The moms who need the breastmilk decide if they want doctors notes, etc. All direct donations/free. Appeals like this are often shared and get a lot of donors!
abvintage was it the first time y'all had tried? I was shocked at how bad it was too. I was like "I had a c-section! It shouldn't hurt this bad!" I wasn't prepared for what breastfeeding does to you at all. I had no idea.
It does get better. Lots of lube and foreplay. Maybe some wine too.
shellyr so sorry for your loss. I hope it works out for your mom to come.
A had a really good day yesterday. After weeks of almost nonstop fussing, she was actually happy for much of the day! She had also been on a "cry whenever my dad holds me" kick, but yesterday they were best friends. He's taking off a month to watch her when I go back to work and I know has been dreading it since it's tough for him to calm her. I think yesterday gave him hope!
Is anyone else still experiencing pelvic/hip pain? I had really bad pain in my 3rd trimester and while it's better, it is still pretty painful, mostly when laying down. My OB wants me to go to physical therapy, but I don't have anyone to watch A and am afraid she will act up the whole time if I try to bring her. Trying to find stretches/exercises online I can do to help without having to go somewhere.
abvintage was it the first time y'all had tried? I was shocked at how bad it was too. I was like "I had a c-section! It shouldn't hurt this bad!" I wasn't prepared for what breastfeeding does to you at all. I had no idea.
It does get better. Lots of lube and foreplay. Maybe some wine too.
Yeah, I'm pretty sure I'm the late bloomer of the group as far as how long we waited to try. Poor H has been a good sport though. We need more time for messing around but time is the main reason we waited as long as we did. It was awful. So embarrassed.
abvintage I've got you beat, still haven't tried. I'm finally open to the idea, but trying to find time. I think I'm going to have to let H know he's going to have to come to bed earlier if he ever wants to get laid again.
abvintage was it the first time y'all had tried? I was shocked at how bad it was too. I was like "I had a c-section! It shouldn't hurt this bad!" I wasn't prepared for what breastfeeding does to you at all. I had no idea.
It does get better. Lots of lube and foreplay. Maybe some wine too.
Yeah, I'm pretty sure I'm the late bloomer of the group as far as how long we waited to try. Poor H has been a good sport though. We need more time for messing around but time is the main reason we waited as long as we did. It was awful. So embarrassed.
I had a csection with my first and was also surprised by how much it hurt after. I would also say it gets better quickly. The first time was horrible, the second was bad, the third was bearable and after that just kept getting better. So, if you can grin and bear it through the first couple you should be well on your way. Also, no amount of lube is too much.
I go back to work a week from today. J has yet to take a bottle. We've tried 5 kinds, and I have ordered 2 more. Poor guy is going to have a rough time. I could probably nurse him at lunch (25 minutes each way), but I couldn't make that a regular thing. Ugh!
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