W slept almost 8 hours last night with only an hour break. I don't even know what to do with myself. Right now I'm listening to H sing to W while he changes him. So cute.
Must. Shower. Must. N has been so crabby I have had literally no time to myself. I just can't stand to hear him scream while I'm in the shower :/ Also, N is three months old today how has it been 3 months already?
It has just been one of those weeks for me. I'm irrationally annoyed that it's only Wednesday because I really need this week to be over. Saying my first week back to work has been less than successful would be an understatement. Long story short: I've lost everything I've worked on for the past decade (emails, projects, documents, research, anything on my computer) because our IT system has a dumbass policy of deleting accounts that are inactive for 60 days, but they didn't bother to tell anyone about said policy. Because no one goes on extended sick leave ever, you know. My office is throwing a giant shit fit over this because I'm in litigation and this means I've lost all sorts of documents that may need to be produced during trial, and the policy violates all sorts of records retention policies. We're hounding IT to find a way to restore my stuff, but I'm not very optimistic. So. Frustrated.
On a completely different note, thinking of you and A today motownthrowdown. Hope the MRI goes well so that you get all the info you need to make decisions about how to proceed.
A woke up every three hours last night...yawn. Hoping today I can really make progress on her costume (I'm knitting her a mermaid tail). Something about yesterday felt really off...like her nursing schedule was really off or we were out of sync or something. Then paired with the bad sleeping...just weird. Hoping today we are back to normal.
I have barely been on here the past several weeks since I've been back to work. Things have been so crazy at the ranch, and there have been a lot of changes since I went on maternity leave (not changes for the better). On top of the crazy policy changes, we're in yearly training all day every day this week on top of regular duty, (including the days we were supposed to be off duty), we got an extra day added to our regular work week schedule indefinitely without a pay increase (salary), and DH and I are the only ones on property during the week certified to administer medications to children under 12 years old, so we are running all over the place all day to get that done at our cottage plus the other two. I'm very blessed to have an easy baby because with all the work craziness I would be going totally insane if she wasn't.
In other news, I'm currently experiencing my first period since giving birth, and the worst cramps I have had in about 14 years. Can this week be over now?
Post by motownthrowdown on Oct 28, 2015 7:57:53 GMT -5
As of right now, A is still acting like herself. Last time, she was hysterical for most of the day (probably because she had a headache from the pressure). If they do surgery tomorrow like they plan to, it will be exactly 2 months since her last one.
MRI this afternoon. Our options are to put in 2 shunts, one in each ventricle, or poke holes in the membrane that divides them. The meningitis caused scarring that prevents the fluid from going freely between ventricles. Quick neurology lesson: ventricles are like water balloons full of brain Gatorade. They fill themselves and drain out (ideally). Hers don't drain like they should, so the balloons get bigger and bigger, pushing on her brain. The shunt pokes into the balloon and drains it. Normally, draining one will drain the other, but with her scarring, that doesn't happen.
I can't believe how quickly this has become "normal" for us. I mean, we're very worried about long term effects on her brain and we'd prefer that she didn't need brain surgery for the third time, but we're functioning pretty well. I think the fact that she's so happy and obviously not uncomfortable is helping immensely.
E's room is freezing at night. I put her in footies, swaddleme and then swaddle her in a A&A but I worry about her little head being cold! !
Canadian problems! I have DS in fleece pjs and swaddleme. If it's extra chilly I'll put socks inside the fleece footies. I too wonder if DSs head is cold. Hats for bed don't work anymore bc he moves his head too much they fall off immediately.
Post by tmclawchick on Oct 28, 2015 8:04:04 GMT -5
Morning! Yesterday was a little crazy between the movers getting everything in and DS's first day at his new school. Around 11AM I got a call from the principal (eep!) letting me know that some "wires got crossed" and DS was actually supposed to be in the other kindergarten classroom. Gah. Annoying. She was really apologetic about it and very clear to confirm that this sort of confusion is not typical, blah blah blah... soooo today I took him for what we've been calling "First day: PART II" His new teacher seems friendlier, so I'm hoping this goes well!
Today it's rainy and gross so I suppose I should start unpacking. DD is in her swing watching this huge weeping willow outside sway in the breeze and babbling with wide eyes. Adorable.
$25 or $45 for a Sam's Club membership. There is free chicken involved. And pastries. You're welcome.
Alright let me crawl out from under my rock for a minute and ask about stores like Sam's Club & Costco... why do I need to pay to shop there? Are the deals worth it? Does everything come in economy size? Teach me the ways.
joi922 that's a really, really shitty policy for an IT department that services litigators. I'm sorry they never told you about it. I can't imagine. Nobody's ever left for more than 60 days before? That's just baffling to me. And don't you work for the state? So baffling. I'm sorry.
$25 or $45 for a Sam's Club membership. There is free chicken involved. And pastries. You're welcome.
Alright let me crawl out from under my rock for a minute and ask about stores like Sam's Club & Costco... why do I need to pay to shop there? Are the deals worth it? Does everything come in economy size? Teach me the ways.
I honestly haven't used it that much because we don't really need 20 pounds of cheese or anything, but if you want to buy in bulk it is the way to go. Southernsavers.com has some good articles about what to buy from membership clubs and what to buy at the regular store so you can evaluate if it is worth it for you. They have clothes, books, toys, and other stuff that is "normal" and not in bulk. Every Saturday there are free samples that are enough food to count as a meal which was always my favorite part of going as a kid. The last time we went in there H was the most excited about giftcard packs that they had available which allowed you to get roughly $50 in giftcards to certain restaurants for $25-$30. They also usually have good deals on electronics.
Post by runningmommy519 on Oct 28, 2015 8:32:04 GMT -5
Today is dress up day at school which I forgot about. But violent costumes or scary costumes aren't allowed. Ds1 is going to be batman on Halloween which I'm guessing is violent. Last year he was sully from monsters inc which i'm guessing is scary. So I'm not really sure what to do. We don't have a treat either. we can only bring no food items anyway. And as a parent, I'd rather my kid not come home with a bunch of junk. I don't know why this slipped my mind. I guess I assumed they weren't celebrating it because most schools don't and his preschool is through the district. I guess I'll send him in his sullie costume and pray it fits.
I also wonder what they think about him running around pretending to get all the bad guys. I know i would prefer he didn't pretend he was shooting them (he learned this at daycare he went to for a short time) but I also think that he's a boy and anything he does that's using his imagination is good thing. He's 3. Let him play
Lactation consultant is coming this afternoon. Hoping to do a weighted feed.
joi922 that's a really, really shitty policy for an IT department that services litigators. I'm sorry they never told you about it. I can't imagine. Nobody's ever left for more than 60 days before? That's just baffling to me. And don't you work for the state? So baffling. I'm sorry.
I'm a federal employee - so in many ways it's even worse because all the agencies are really aware of the e-discovery rules we have to abide by. It's clear to us they never cleared the (presumably new) policy with anyone in OGC, because that's obviously a fucking stupid idea. There are plenty of people out for maternity leave or sick leave, or even a leave of absence ALL THE TIME, often for more than 60 days, and not all of them are authorized to access their accounts remotely (mine was a snafu with timing and system upgrades, but while I intended to check my email while on leave I couldn't - still, I shouldn't have had to! I was on leave!). We can't just be deleting accounts willy nilly after such a short period of time. A year, maybe, but 60 freaking days??? And why the hell didn't IT check with our department before deleting the account?
Sorry, you can tell I've been really upset about this.
Post by motownthrowdown on Oct 28, 2015 8:48:39 GMT -5
@piedpiper07, my in laws went to that horse thing and bought the DVD of the performance. I don't really care about parade/show horses, but it was pretty cool.
E's room is freezing at night. I put her in footies, swaddleme and then swaddle her in a A&A but I worry about her little head being cold!
Today DH has the day off because of a big storm coming through and he has decided we're going to "get stuff done". He's fucking up my routine and day.
I don't go to his place of work and start touching buttons. Don't do it to me!
We live in an old house and the bedrooms get so cold in fall/winter. Before LO we bought the Dyson fan/heater. It's expensive, but it works SO well. Heats the room quickly, you can choose the temperature, program times, it oscillates, and you can't burn yourself by touching it.
runningmommy519, I wouldn't consider either of those scary or violent.. Maybe that's bad mom instincts. To me violent is like a soldier or something with blood or the grim reaper. To me, scary would be one of those scary masks or a mutilated zombie.
I'm sure there will be tons of super heroes and I'm sure all of the kids will recognize Sully from Monsters inc as not scary.
joi922 this whole email thing baffles me. Has no one ever been gone for 60 days before?
ChrissDee do you bring lo with you around the ranch?
oopsiedaisies I expect pictures of your Tula! What's coming?
We are on duty for 5 days a week, 24 hours a day, so we live at the ranch. So yes, Ellie is always here with us. Some of the changes I am concerned about involve more dangerous or unpredictable children being admitted to our facility. My first priority is the safety of my own child and if it becomes a situation where I feel she is being put at risk, DH and I will have to find another job. But, like I said, we live here so that would also mean finding a house too.
runningmommy519 I wouldn't think Batman or Sully are violent/scary... I'd assume they meant like zombies or Michael Meyers or something... If those aren't allowed then what's the point?!
Post by motownthrowdown on Oct 28, 2015 9:28:13 GMT -5
@aliam20 we feel her fontanel (that soft spot on top of baby's head) pretty frequently. If there is a problem, fluid will start to build up in her brain, pushing up on that soft spot. Hers is usually dented in (IMPORTANT NOTE: normal soft spots should NOT be sunken in, this is a sign of dehydration) because the shunt drains fluid out. Two nights ago, it felt slightly wrong. At the 4am feed yesterday, it was slightly more wrong, so we took her in. It's all on touch. By the time she starts acting differently, there is already pressure on her brain.
We feel her head all the time. It probably looks really weird lol. To quote professor Moody, we need CONSTANT VIGILANCE because the shunt could fail at any time and she can't tell us that something is wrong yet.
I know, right @mrspanpan? See? All the lawyers and HR folks are super fired up about this for you joi922. You're making a big stink, right? You're creating a record of whose fault it is? Oh man, I would be SO angry.
runningmommy519 I don't think batman is violent. Did they give superheroes as an example? Batman fights crime with the police...
I relate to you in so many ways here. My DS1 also "fights bad guys" and shoots guns all of the time. It's just something little boys do. Even pretend guns he makes with his hands, though, I don't let him point at other children unless they are actively pretending and participating in the game with him. That's got to be something teachers are used to. They're little boys.
Also, I hate that they pass out candy at school. Don't they get enough of it on trick or treat? My DS1 had dental surgery less than a year ago and he's still not allowed to have certain types of candy. So many huge battles! This time of year isn't fun.
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