My FFFC is that little man still hasn't gotten a true bath. He will be 4 weeks on Sunday. By the time I get the other two toddlers fed, bathed, and in bed, I am exhausted and the baby is fussing because he is tired and ready for sleep. Not to mention, the sadness of not really get pics of his first bath because it's just me. Part of me is contemplating holding off just a little longer so DH can help and be there (flying to see DH for Thanksgiving). I swear my kid doesn't stink though!
Post by leopardgurl831 on Oct 30, 2015 7:54:33 GMT -5
@lildiamondeyes I still check here, but it's so dead.
pambeesley we haven't even given a sponge bath and DS is 2weeks. Today DH told me I should just do it while he's at work and take pictures. Poor second child.
I was wondering if that's why things had slowed. My Fbook is set to private so I had to take the time to find tmg14 on there and was too lazy to do so until yesterday. She hasn't accepted my request yet (that I know of) so I had no clue how busy it is. I think it's nice to have everything in one location, but I don't see how we can keep doing our "threads" without them getting lost in the shuffle. I'm on a breastfeeding group and I feel like I'm constantly inundated with posts. It also feels weird to give all my privacy away after so many people on this board made me feel like it was so wrong to give out info. I'm neither for nor against, but will be sure to check in both places
I was wondering if that's why things had slowed. My Fbook is set to private so I had to take the time to find tmg14 on there and was too lazy to do so until yesterday. She hasn't accepted my request yet (that I know of) so I had no clue how busy it is. I think it's nice to have everything in one location, but I don't see how we can keep doing our "threads" without them getting lost in the shuffle. I'm on a breastfeeding group and I feel like I'm constantly inundated with posts. It also feels weird to give all my privacy away after so many people on this board made me feel like it was so wrong to give out info. I'm neither for nor against, but will be sure to check in both places
My profile is still set to private, so no one in the group can "see" my stuff unless they are friends. Even then, I have those set to a limited profile so they don't have full access to my info.
My FFFC is that I'm disappointed in DH's Mom/my MIL. I don't really think of his family as my family (which I should), because they are never around and I don't speak to them like ever. His family's first language is Japanese and that's all they speak even though they know English.
Anyway, his Mom didn't come to the baby shower (as expected she lives out of state), didn't send a gift (also expected), and didn't even acknowledge that we had a shower. Last night I told DH he should call his Mom and let her know what's going on with the baby most likely needing to be induced. After speaking with her we found out she is leaving Tuesday for Japan to take care of her elderly Mom and won't be back in the states until December 15th! I wasn't planning to have her come until Thanksgiving anyway, but I'm just shocked that she probably won't see her first Granddaughter until Christmas. I didn't anticipate his parents being very involved, but I'm still disappointed that she would book a trip to be away when we're having a baby. This is not an emergency trip. She goes to see her Mom 4-5 times a year.
My FFFC is that I'm disappointed in DH's Mom/my MIL. I don't really think of his family as my family (which I should), because they are never around and I don't speak to them like ever. His family's first language is Japanese and that's all they speak even though they know English.
Anyway, his Mom didn't come to the baby shower (as expected she lives out of state), didn't send a gift (also expected), and didn't even acknowledge that we had a shower. Last night I told DH he should call his Mom and let her know what's going on with the baby most likely needing to be induced. After speaking with her we found out she is leaving Tuesday for Japan to take care of her elderly Mom and won't be back in the states until December 15th! I wasn't planning to have her come until Thanksgiving anyway, but I'm just shocked that she probably won't see her first Granddaughter until Christmas. I didn't anticipate his parents being very involved, but I'm still disappointed that she would book a trip to be away when we're having a baby. This is not an emergency trip. She goes to see her Mom 4-5 times a year.
Is it a cultural thing for her to be so disconnected? Regardless, that's really crappy of her and I am sorry she did that to you (and granddaughter!)
Yes and no. If I spoke Japanese or was Japanese I think she and I would speak more, but I doubt I would see her more. They live in NJ and we live in NH. She doesn't drive and there is no direct transportation here other than flights which we would have to pay for. He is the second child so his parents aren't very involved in his life. His dad is always working and his mom basically drops her life anytime asked to help out his older brother which is cultural.
Dammit, at the rate people are leaving I won't be able to AW the seamonkey. This sucks.
You can AW to me! Lol I'm still waiting too. I highly doubt she is coming on her own so she will be born anytime between Nov 2-4th depending on how induction goes
I'm still over here checking things out, too. I was just never a big poster in the first place and with E here, it's even harder. It may just be slower as a combo of FB and new babies. I like how easy it is to find dedicated threads here, so I'm definitely not leaving!
My fffc: I'm really excited for my mom to leave and us to be on our own, but also completely terrified. I'm hoping all the crying (on my part) subsides soon, too.
Fffc #2: I may have paid like $8 for an app to track his nursing, sleeping, diapers, and my pumping. I like it, but I'm pretty sure it wasn't necessary.
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Add us to the no bath club also. Her umbilical cord just fell off, but we have no intention of sticking her in a bathtub any time soon. She still gets wiped down with a wet washcloth, though. My kids have super dry skin so even my older ones only get baths 2-3 times a week or if they get particularly dirty.
I might just wash her hair tonight, but she hasn't been doing anything to get dirty, so I am not going to mess with that sensitive skin.
FFFC when I wiped there was definitely some mucus plug there. It's exciting, but also makes me nervous/disappointed. I really don't want this baby born on Halloween! Also as uncomfy as I am I really like the doctor that's on call Monday.. I know losing pieces doesn't equal labor, but we will see
FFFC when I wiped there was definitely some mucus plug there. It's exciting, but also makes me nervous/disappointed. I really don't want this baby born on Halloween! Also as uncomfy as I am I really like the doctor that's on call Monday.. I know losing pieces doesn't equal labor, but we will see
I love my children, but I don't like them much today. DD is super anxious and being annoying, DS1 woke up way early and then barely took a nap so he's a mess. DS2 is 3 days old so I'm cutting him a little slack for now. Send alcohol.
I am so tired y'all. I kicked my H out of bed tonight so I could co sleep with the baby. So far, I've slept better tonight than I have in a week.
+1 for a good sleep.
My DH is out of town and LO slept with me last night (technically it is still the night). He slept from 11:30 till 4 (which is really 5 cause the clocks went back an hour). He also hadn't eaten since 10, that is 7 hours between feeds. I have a bassinet beside my bed and all he ever does is grunt and make noises. I put him in the bed last night cause I couldn't deal with the noise and he slept so soundly. I always said I wouldn't sleep with him in the bed but in the end you do what you have to for some sleep.
My late FFFC: I didn't even realize that Ez.ra was a bible name, let alone a book in the bible or what it's about. Makes me feel kinda weird. But no one has commented poorly about it, so it must not be a bad book or anything. And one of our goals when picking names was no bible names, oops. That was DH's rule and he approved the name!
My late FFFC: I didn't even realize that Ez.ra was a bible name, let alone a book in the bible or what it's about. Makes me feel kinda weird. But no one has commented poorly about it, so it must not be a bad book or anything. And one of our goals when picking names was no bible names, oops. That was DH's rule and he approved the name!
And here I just thought you were a Hanson fan (Taylor's oldest is Ezra)
My late FFFC: I didn't even realize that Ez.ra was a bible name, let alone a book in the bible or what it's about. Makes me feel kinda weird. But no one has commented poorly about it, so it must not be a bad book or anything. And one of our goals when picking names was no bible names, oops. That was DH's rule and he approved the name!
And here I just thought you were a Hanson fan (Taylor's oldest is Ezra)
Fanson fo' life
I found that out the other day, too! Not their biggest fan, but can't hate on the local band!
I'm so freaking over H complaining about being tired! I get it dude. I also understand that I don't do nearly half of what he does during the day. He's constantly moving. Either running errands, cleaning something in the house, doing laundry or even moving the yard. But seriously, most of what he's doing can effing wait! He's trying to do everything that he used to do but when you add in the nights where he's getting uo to care for the babies, he's not getting sleep. I truly feel bad that I can't help because I'm recovering from another surgery. But he's doing it to himself at this point and I am having a hard time hiding my annoyance now. Last night completely sucked because he was running around all damn day and then at 6pm decides he's finally going to try to nap. But then he couldn't because every little thing would bug him. The babies were crying (my mom was over to watch them), the house smelled (my gma was making dinner), he was worried about how much time he had so that meant he couldn't relax. Ugh. And now this morning since he's had to get up to feed them during the night, he's throwing a fit each time they need something.
He's a great husband and father, but I can't stand when he gets like this and I feel like he's being a martyr. When I told him he needs to not do anything today, he just lost it and listed off all the things that need to get done. Fine then. Kill yourself by not taking a day off. Just stop whining about it. We have twins and it's always going to be hard on some level! He needs to just come to terms with it.
kbrooke06 Maybe this is a guy thing! My husband is doing the same thing. He is trying too hard to do everything and then getting irrationally upset when it doesn't work out. He took over an hour to cook dinner the other day and then got really mad that the kids were in his way, which led to him yelling at them which led to them crying, which caused them to be clingy--it was really hard to hear and not be able to do anything about. And then he brings up his grocery list/meal plan for the week with a whole ton of really time consuming new recipes that the kids for sure aren't going to eat- when I reminded him of the kids screaming for an hour when he cooked, he got mad that I was being really negative and he was just trying to help.
I am hoping he gains a new respect for what I do every day (which will probably only last a week). I have been a SAHM for 5 years now and there are lots of reasons for why I do some of the things I do. We have variations on grilled chicken and veggies multiple times a week because it is really quick to cook and the kid love it. I really have to gauge their moods to determine if I am going to be able to get anything done in the kitchen that day. There are some days when it is much easier to cook something more complicated and other days when it would be a mess.
So glad mine isn't the only one that's nuts, km380 and cnbpa3027!!
I'm going crazy being stuck on the couch or in bed. They are almost 6 weeks old and my c-section is finally healed shut. But of course now I have my gall bladder surgery to recover from.
@usernamesarehard and RJBrownie thanks for showing the other side of it. He's mentioned that he needs to do all the things because he wants the house to feel normal still. He has been doing the housework and wants me to basically sit with the babies all day errday. Which wears us both down. I can't do much, so I feel like the only thing I can do to help is take care of the babes, but damn. I wish he would take a few minutes to relax.
kbrooke06, I think I may be YH. That seriously sounds like my lyfe, I can't sit still during the day and pretty much clean and do stuff the whole day and then have a minor freak out almost every night around 11:00 because I'm so tired. Rinse & repeat. Interesting to hear the other side of it though, and I wonder if my H feels the same way you do. Just to offer the other perspective, for me, keeping moving and being productive helps me feel normal and like I'm still a human. Or something. Not sure if that helps you or not, I'm not the most eloquent a half a bottle of wine in.
+ 1. It stresses me out if I'm not busy. I need to feel productive or else I have anxiety about all the stuff I feel needs to be done.
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