MOTN Chat

[queenb]

@aliam20 aw so sorry

We're in the midst of a full-fledged sleep regression! B used to be pretty easy to get down and was sleeping anywhere from 7-10 hours straight! This last week has been a nightmare. Finally got him to bed at 9 and he woke up at MIDNIGHT . Now we're up for the second time just hanging out in the rocking chair. Not feeling optimistic. I miss my STTN baby.

[ampaints]

@aliam20 hope he feels better soon.

[joi922]

@aliam20 poor little guy, and so scary for you. I hope he feels better soon.

[motownthrowdown]

@aliam20, oh no. Fx he's better ASAP.

ajetter, why'd it have to be SNAKES?! Indiana jones fan? Nm, lol. I'm really tired.

queenb, twin bitching tonight! I'm glad I'm not the only one. Total of 4 hours for me last night, in 2 chucks of about two hours each. Ughhhh.

[aracale]

We're trying not swaddling tonight. Putting her down in the PNP was a failure, but I just got 2.5 hours with her in the bed with me. Shooting for a repeat of that now that she's done nursing again.

[aracale]

Nope. I got 30 minutes with her next to me in bed. Now we're nursing again. How the hell do you get a baby to sleep unswaddled?

[ampaints]

3:30 is a totally awesome time to be up for the day! At least M can take as long as he needs to nurse. Is it really only Wednesday?

[packmomma]

Nov 18, 2015 3:59:33 GMT -5 ampaints said:

3:30 is a totally awesome time to be up for the day! At least M can take as long as he needs to nurse. Is it really only Wednesday?

And who says you can't emote sarcasm through text? hope you get lots of coffee today and maybe some extra snuggles too.

[ajetter]

I just fed her from the right side 1.5 hours ago. I haven't leaked in forever. Naturally when I go to feed her on the left the right one is soaking me. Yay.

I would just like two good nights of sleep. I mean I want way more than that. But two would be a good start. My body needs a recharge, I'm tired of running on fumes.

[mommabakes]

I know that i complain her a lot, but I'm gonna do it again!
He naps really well throughout the day, but night time is absurd. I was up for three hours in the night trying to get him back down. Plus up every 30-60 minutes the rest of the time. He wouldn't be settled down other than by eating. I know he doesn't need to eat every hour, but what else do I do when that's the only thing to get him to stop crying? He is getting progressively worse and I don't know how to reverse it, because I don't know what's wrong! He falls asleep swaddled in his crib, white noise, dark room. There is a dim night light. It stays dark and quiet when I nurse him, we avoid diaper changes at night unless it is obviously necessary. He wakes up crying so frequently, but i just don't know why. I am at a loss here. My daughter was a crappy sleeper, but even she slept for 2-3 hours at a time!

[RandomName]

mommabakes sorry you are going through this too. DS is very similar with awful nighttime sleep. A few things that help us get a bit better sleep: in bed with us, elevate his head in his bassinet (we use a pregnancy wedge under his thin mattress), lie him in his side supported, double swaddle, loud white noise. I wouldn't mess with your LOs daytime naps if they are going well. For both my kids - good naps means a good night (for DD) and a less shitty night (for DS).

[mommabakes]

Nov 18, 2015 6:42:57 GMT -5 @missava387 said:

mommabakes - I'm so sorry. Ugh I'd be ready to throw in the towel at this point of I were you. Have you considered shortening his naps throughout the day? Maybe keeping them to 1.5- 2hours? That's something I read a few months ago as a suggestion to getting baby to sleep better at night.

Thanks. His naps aren't typically longer than two hours, but I've found if I wake him up, rather than him waking himself, he is just a huge grump until his next nap :/

[motownthrowdown]

I second leaving daytime naps alone. When A is awake more during the day, it's a nightmare trying to get her to sleep as long. Unless baby is sleeping like 4-5 hours straight during the day. Then I might think about it.

Does baby have something to look at if they wake up? A has been horrible and we think it's because we forgot to turn on our ceiling fan the last two nights. When she wakes up, she watches the fan (even in the dark! This kid did not get my shitty eyesight!) and it kind of calms her down and she can put herself back to sleep. Do you have a fan or a mobile in the room?

[mommabakes]

Nov 18, 2015 6:51:49 GMT -5 RandomName said:

mommabakes sorry you are going through this too. DS is very similar with awful nighttime sleep. A few things that help us get a bit better sleep: in bed with us, elevate his head in his bassinet (we use a pregnancy wedge under his thin mattress), lie him in his side supported, double swaddle, loud white noise. I wouldn't mess with your LOs daytime naps if they are going well. For both my kids - good naps means a good night (for DD) and a less shitty night (for DS).

I'm sorry you're dealing with it also

We have tried to have him sleep in the rock n play, in case it was reflux or something, and that didn't help at all, do I doubt elevating his crib mattress would help. We do loud white noise already, but I might try putting him on his side. What do you use to prop?

[mommabakes]

Nov 18, 2015 7:00:38 GMT -5 motownthrowdown said:

I second leaving daytime naps alone. When A is awake more during the day, it's a nightmare trying to get her to sleep as long. Unless baby is sleeping like 4-5 hours straight during the day. Then I might think about it.

Does baby have something to look at if they wake up? A has been horrible and we think it's because we forgot to turn on our ceiling fan the last two nights. When she wakes up, she watches the fan (even in the dark! This kid did not get my shitty eyesight!) and it kind of calms her down and she can put herself back to sleep. Do you have a fan or a mobile in the room?

There is a ceiling fan. I'll try leaving it on at night. Thanks for the suggestion

[RandomName]

mommabakes I roll two blankets. One longer one to support his back that's about the length of him. The other on his front from him feet to mid belly. It's in the bassinet so the key is that is tight around him. It's supposed to simulate your arms around him.

We elevate bc we in the never ending cold season and it helps him breath better at night.

[packmomma]

mommabakes I'm with you on this one. W sometimes gives me a 3 hour chunk and then it's every hour or so. Like you I know he doesn't need to eat but I don't know how to stretch it out. I'll be trying everyone's advice too. Big exhausted hugs to you.

[mommabakes]

Nov 18, 2015 7:36:08 GMT -5 packmomma said:

mommabakes I'm with you on this one. W sometimes gives me a 3 hour chunk and then it's every hour or so. Like you I know he doesn't need to eat but I don't know how to stretch it out. I'll be trying everyone's advice too. Big exhausted hugs to you.

Hope you start getting some better sleep soon!!

[packmomma]

Nov 18, 2015 7:49:43 GMT -5 mommabakes said:

Nov 18, 2015 7:36:08 GMT -5 packmomma said:

mommabakes I'm with you on this one. W sometimes gives me a 3 hour chunk and then it's every hour or so. Like you I know he doesn't need to eat but I don't know how to stretch it out. I'll be trying everyone's advice too. Big exhausted hugs to you.

Hope you start getting some better sleep soon!!

He just took a 3 hour morning nap in the swing. I spent the entire time doing research on sleep routines for his age and tips to get him to sleep longer. I think I'm putting him down to late. Most nights H doesn't get home till 7. From what I read babies should be going down between 6-8. Does anyone else have a SO that gets home late? I feel bad that he'll miss out on that time.

[ampaints]

packmomma I don't get home until 6:30-7 depending on the day. M usually has a nap when he gets home from daycare either 6-7ish or 7-8ish. He actually goes to sleep between 9:30 & 10:30 most nights and usually skills through the night. Maybe he needs a nap later inn the day? Good luck either way, I hope he starts giving you longer stretches.

[packmomma]

Nov 18, 2015 12:02:29 GMT -5 ampaints said:

packmomma I don't get home until 6:30-7 depending on the day. M usually has a nap when he gets home from daycare either 6-7ish or 7-8ish. He actually goes to sleep between 9:30 & 10:30 most nights and usually skills through the night. Maybe he needs a nap later inn the day? Good luck either way, I hope he starts giving you longer stretches.

I'm going to try later naps. I think H's favorite part of the day is coming home to see W and it would suck if they missed out on that time. I would love some longer stretches of sleep so I'm going to try all of the things to see what works.

[hopefulreturn]

Nov 18, 2015 3:52:35 GMT -5 aracale said:

Nope. I got 30 minutes with her next to me in bed. Now we're nursing again. How the hell do you get a baby to sleep unswaddled?

We use the halo sleep sacks with Velcro swaddle but leave arms out. Sometimes I'll hold her hands/arms down in the crib as she drifts to sleep. It's working for us! (Although we only ever did arms in for naps)

[pmcd886]

My child will not fall asleep tonight....

[packmomma]

+1 I even asked H to rock him because I wasn't having any luck. I had such high hopes for tonight.

[ajetter]

On the bright side, Thea slept 10pm-4:45am. The downside is it's because she was so tired from our crib transition going miserably. And no, that wasn't in the crib. I know I need to get her out of the RnP, but I like sleep...

[packmomma]

W woke up every 2 hours max last night. So exhausted. I was planning on dropping him off at the il's and running errands but I may just take a nap in their guestroom.

[ars093s]

Nov 19, 2015 9:24:06 GMT -5 @mrspanpan said:

ajetter, I am in denial of moving from the RNP too. He has been sleeping 8 or 9 hours in it and I'm scared to change that. I do feel like he is getting a little too big for it, but you know...sleep!

+1 for still in RnP over here too. She naps in the crib during the day, but have been afraid to attempt it at night just yet. I think I want to time the crib transition with breaking the swaddle...just not today.

[ajetter]

Nov 19, 2015 11:28:00 GMT -5 ars093s said:

Nov 19, 2015 9:24:06 GMT -5 @mrspanpan said:

ajetter, I am in denial of moving from the RNP too. He has been sleeping 8 or 9 hours in it and I'm scared to change that. I do feel like he is getting a little too big for it, but you know...sleep!

+1 for still in RnP over here too. She naps in the crib during the day, but have been afraid to attempt it at night just yet. I think I want to time the crib transition with breaking the swaddle...just not today.

With DD2 I ended up waiting until 5.5 months, then going cold turkey on everything with the Ferber method. Put her in the crib, took away the swaddle and stopped nursing her to sleep. I felt like a bitch but it was 4 semi rough days tops and we've had a great sleeper since. But Thea has been rolling on her side in it while swaddled which is no good.

[mommabakes]

Henry is in his crib, sleeping. Fingers crossed that it lasts for several hours because this momma needs some sleep!

Sending out sleepy baby thoughts to all of you in need!

[zonagirl]

@mrspanpan that sound awful, I hope you all are able to get some sleep soon!

Afm I have been really spoiled by Ava as far as sleep goes. For some reason tonight she went five hours instead of her usual nine. Just making sure I don't get it in my head that I know what's going on I guess!