Weekly check in. 11-8

[cocobellaf]

Nov 10, 2015 6:58:02 GMT -5 Ray said:

cocobellaf crying is completely acceptable. Who the fuck responds to a pregnancy announcement passive-aggressively? Assholes. That's who. Feel all the feels mama.

hobbesgal I hope your MS gets better and you're able to get some sleep tonight. I had my first bout of nausea yesterday and it was no fun.

It's all good today.  I am working on not being so sensitive!  I am one of those hyper-sensitive, INFJ type-people.  It's definitely a struggle for me, but I will have to get better at letting things roll off my back.

ETA:  It mostly hurt because it was people that I considered friends.  I understand now that they responded the way they did because one of their friends has been going through a couple years of infertility (MIF, IVF treatments) and she was upset, so they wanted to show their solidarity with her.  I understand that.  But it still really hurt.  

[pittpurple]

cocobellaf, I totally get it that it's hard when people aren't just deliriously excited like you are. It is definitely exciting! But an early and unexpected pregnancy announcement is like getting punched in the stomach when you're struggling. And that sounds like an incredibly difficult struggle so I'm sure her friends just wanted to be conscious of that. I'm sure everyone will be more excited next time you talk about it!

[bluedot]

@houseofcarder lostinfaith225 yay buckeyes!

acorn99 it's the best of the worst in the Giants division this year... love them, but they need to get it together!

ginabini it was so sad to see the Mets come so far only to lose. I was so disappointed.

[bluedot]

1. How far along are you?
6w tomorrow

2. Any thing new?
Just got back from our NC road trip. Just me, and a toddler for 7.5 hours in the car... it actually went so well. Great trip to see my best friends. Who I did tell about the pregnancy, bc I couldn't make it through without getting caught anyway lol

3. Symptom check?
A little evening nausea, sore boobs... crazy dreams... I had one last week where I named the baby "Shallamar" wtf?

4. Rants/Raves?
Appointment is 1 week from tomorrow. I can't wait!!! I'm hoping it's a great birthday present!

5. Gtky: do you watch college football? If so, do you have a team? If not, what sports do you like to watch?

Well I gave away my teams in the above post, but...

Go Buckeyes!
I love the Giants, but also cheer for the Bengals (DH's team)

[Ray]

Nov 10, 2015 7:56:04 GMT -5 icaughtfire said:

Nov 10, 2015 6:58:02 GMT -5 Ray said:

cocobellaf crying is completely acceptable. Who the fuck responds to a pregnancy announcement passive-aggressively? Assholes. That's who. Feel all the feels mama.

Um..loss moms? Women dealing with IF? Not everyone has to squee just because you announce you're pregnant. It can be hurtful for some to hear news like this.

I totally get that it can hurt to hear that news sometimes but I think you can still feel hurt without being passive aggressive. Saying something like "I'm happy for you but having a really hard time with it" is a non ass-hole-ish way to convey that. I mean. Obviously I wasn't there so I don't know what was said, but those are my thoughts.

ETA: I also don't really get the solidarity thing? Does supporting one friend mean you can't be happy for another? Unless she was rubbing it in her face ? Idk. I'd need more details

[icaughtfire]

Nov 10, 2015 10:30:44 GMT -5 Ray said:

Nov 10, 2015 7:56:04 GMT -5 icaughtfire said:

Um..loss moms? Women dealing with IF? Not everyone has to squee just because you announce you're pregnant. It can be hurtful for some to hear news like this.

I totally get that it can hurt to hear that news sometimes but I think you can still feel hurt without being passive aggressive. Saying something like "I'm happy for you but having a really hard time with it" is a non ass-hole-ish way to convey that. I mean. Obviously I wasn't there so I don't know what was said, but those are my thoughts.

ETA: I also don't really get the solidarity thing? Does supporting one friend mean you can't be happy for another? Unless she was rubbing it in her face ? Idk. I'd need more details

Speaking as a loss mom, I can tell you that I said & did some pretty assholish things while grieving. I'm generally not an asshole. I just think your blanket statement of anyone who doesn't respond positively to a pregnancy announcement is an asshole is pretty ridiculous.

[Ray]

But you just said that the things you said were asshole-ish? Idk like I said, I feel like there are ways to be grieving or upset but still polite or at least civil. I just don't understand passive-aggressiveness/rudeness in general. I tend to bite my tongue and avoid confrontation though, others react differently, maybe some can't process it yet without lashing out. Still doesn't make it ok to the person on the receiving end. (Again gloating or being purposefully insensitive is a different story, idk what was said)

ETA tag: icaughtfire

[icaughtfire]

Okay Ray.

::eyeroll::

[Ray]

Lol okay icaughtfire

[lostinfaith225]

@bluedot
You are my new favorite person!

[cocobellaf]

I think it will be one of those things later on where we'll just pretend it didn't happen. The end.

ETA:  To Ray, I said in our private FB group that H and I were surprised with a BFP over the weekend, and that I was thankful because with my PMDD we weren't sure if we were going to continue TTC anymore.   But it doesn't matter.  I could have been more sensitive when saying something, and I shouldn't let it get to me.

[housecarder]

Nov 9, 2015 11:56:41 GMT -5 icaughtfire said:

1. How far along are you? 3w5d. I'm basically 5 minutes pregnant.
2. Any thing new? Nothing yet!
3. Symptom check? Just tired. Sore boobs. Lower back pain.
4. Rants/Raves? Just anxiously awaiting my first appointment & trying to stay positive.

5. Gtky: do you watch college football? If so, do you have a team? If not, what sports do you like to watch? I don't watch college, but do love NFL. Steelers fan, in case the avatar didn't give it away.

requiressnacks..I use MFP too. What are you setting yours on..lose, maintain, gain? Like I know I shouldn't actively try to lose weight, but I'm also very plus size & don't need to gain much either. I gained 50lbs with DD..DNW to gain 50lbs.

Baby Fire clearly needs this:
www.etsy.com/listing/128241370/pittsburgh-steelers-excuse-the-spit-up?ref=shop_home_active_1

[housecarder]

lostinfaith225, bluedot, There is one for us too.
www.etsy.com/listing/192695721/excuse-the-spit-up-ohio-state-or-your?ref=shop_home_active_1&ga_search_query=Ohio

[bluedot]

Just laying here trying to go to sleep... hello exessive drool from out of no where I forgot about you ...

[lostinfaith225]

Nov 10, 2015 22:11:20 GMT -5 housecarder said:

lostinfaith225, bluedot, There is one for us too.
www.etsy.com/listing/192695721/excuse-the-spit-up-ohio-state-or-your?ref=shop_home_active_1&ga_search_query=Ohio

Love it!!!

[bluedot]

Nov 10, 2015 11:58:57 GMT -5 lostinfaith225 said:

@bluedot
You are my new favorite person!

Why thank you

[TnT10]

Nov 9, 2015 11:56:41 GMT -5 icaughtfire said:

1. How far along are you? 3w5d. I'm basically 5 minutes pregnant.
2. Any thing new? Nothing yet!
3. Symptom check? Just tired. Sore boobs. Lower back pain.
4. Rants/Raves? Just anxiously awaiting my first appointment & trying to stay positive.

5. Gtky: do you watch college football? If so, do you have a team? If not, what sports do you like to watch? I don't watch college, but do love NFL. Steelers fan, in case the avatar didn't give it away.

requiressnacks..I use MFP too. What are you setting yours on..lose, maintain, gain? Like I know I shouldn't actively try to lose weight, but I'm also very plus size & don't need to gain much either. I gained 50lbs with DD..DNW to gain 50lbs.

I also gained 50 lbs with DD and still had 20 of it to lose!  I will not do that again... Oh and I will refrain from eating ice cream with frosting on top every day at 38w.   Haha!  

[feisty]

1. How far along are you? No clue yet, by dates would be 6 weeks 3 days, but thinking its at least a week less since I didn't get a positive test until pretty late.
2. Any thing new? Just getting used to the idea of a sibling for DS and going through this all again. I really wanted to lose weight before having another, so I will be trying to minimize my gain as well as a few other ladies. I only gained 20 with DS, but he was also born 5 weeks early.
3. Symptom check? big, sore boobs - a little nasaous
4. Rants/Raves? Not much, except agree that BFP came right before several big social things

5. Gtky: do you watch college football? If so, do you have a team? If not, what sports do you like to watch? We watch most sports, you can tell my team by avatar. I like NFL Eagles and DH is a Steelers fan (DS is mostly rooting for Steelers, but he's a 'Cuse fan too). Looking forward to college basketball season!

[honeybee434]

1. How far along are you? 4 weeks 6 days

2. Any thing new? I'm having a hard time not telling people this time around. Last time was easy. I told two of my close coworkers (my work family) just because I needed to tell someone, I see them more than my actual family, and if something went wrong I would want them to know what was going on with me. It's hard to not just blurt it out to the world.

3. Symptom check? Nothing big. Not having much of an appetite. Things sound either really good and I want to wait right.this.minute, or they sound awful and repulsive. This is exactly how I was last pregnancy but it didn't hit until I was a few weeks further along than I am now.

4. Rants/Raves? My office was doing a diet bet. I went to the organizer who is like our "office mom" and I told her I needed out because I was pregnant (I didn't want to lose my $$), and she was going to make me stay in it and forfeit bc "everyone else would be mad if she let someone out without everyone knowing the reason." I was irritated. I would be so easy to just let me drop out and not say anything. No one would know. But then she apparently had a change of heart by the end of the day and put my money on my desk. It was all so weird and awkward and she made it much more dramatic than it needed to be.

5. Gtky: do you watch college football? If so, do you have a team? If not, what sports do you like to watch? I don't watch a ton of college football, just with DH when OU is on. I watch every other sport, though: KU college basketball, Green Bay Packer football, Royals baseball and Thunder NBA

[Ray]

honeybee434 a royals fan eh? <shakes a Blue Jays fist>