Just a question to put out there, not sure if my LO is just lazy or clingy. how much does you LO want to walk on their own? Mine would do anything to get me to carry her. I make her walk from the jeep to inside the house in the evenings, but that is always an ordeal, When I ask if she wants to walk in to daycare she will say no and I don't really want to deal with a hissy fit in the driveway/parking lot. Around the house I try to make her walk most of the time, but at the end of the day I don't want to listen to her crying for 2 hours because I wont pick her up, I can distract her to get her to stop crying, but as soon as I get up she starts all over again.
Am I creating a monster or is this just a phase she is going through? I try real hard not to acknowledge her when she is acting up, just turn around or ignore her. Anyone going through this as well or any tips to get her to stop?
Miles is VERY independent and likes to walk. We have taught him that outdoors in the street, holding hands is non-negotiable. He has two choices. Walking hand-in-hand or I carry him (or stroller). Same thing in the garage (condo, MANY cars).
He is, at this time, a bit more clingy and wanting "lap" a lot more. But we always offer to let him walk. Yesterday at the mall he walked A LOT.
DD prefers to walk everywhere. We also have a holding hands rule if we're in a parking lot or store. Sometimes she'll ask to be carried, usually after she's been walking a lot. Sometimes I wish she'd be more agreeable to the stroller. She usually fights it and it would make outings with a lot of walking with her easier.
My DD also generally prefers to walk. If she's not walking generally that means she is either super tired or being clingy. Her dad on the other hand has gotten her used to being carried all the time, so she just expects him to do it more. Probably you have a mix of factors. Like others have said, sometimes it would be nice to have a kid who was happy to stay put :/
Tabitha prefers to walk over being carried. She likes her stroller, but wants to be able to get into stuff. She is getting better with letting us hold her hand, but resists it.
DD loves to walk, but is so far still pretty good about the stroller as long as we put her in it from the get-go. (However, if we let her out of the stroller and let her walk, it is often a struggle to get her back in unless she is tired).
She is luckily very good at holding hands. When she first started walking she really resisted it, but I read a strategy that worked pretty well for us - go for a walk around the block, and explain to her that she could walk as long as we held hands, but that if she didn't hold my hand I had to carry her. If she pulled away, immediately pick her up and carry her. If she fought being carried, I'd put her down until she pulled away again...rinse, repeat. After a few walks like this, she caught on pretty quickly, and now will often offer us her hand to hold when we are outside. (Now whether she'll try to drag us along to where she wants to go is another matter )
The main issue we have right now, which results in a lot of carrying, is following directions around the house. For example, often if I ask her to come here for something (time to eat, time to get changed, or I need to go upstairs to do chores and want her to come with me so she isn't unattended, etc.), she'll either ignore me or run away. I usually end up needing to pick her up and carry her to where I need her to go (sometimes after catching her). It gets pretty frustrating at times. (I'm pretty sure she understands directions because about 25% of the time she will actually respond appropriately to a direction, lol.)
DD will only stay in her stroller for about 5 minutes...wether it's a walk or we are in a store. She loves her wagon on walks but sometimes wants to get out and walk on her own. We let her if we are on a sidewalk in our neighborhood. She is good about holding our hand. If we are out shopping she likes sitting in the cart, but only 15-20 minute max so I am an efficient shopper when by myself. After that time limit she either wants to be held or wants to walk around. Since I am 7 months pregnant, I'll go to either target or the grocery store by myself with DD. Additional stores require my husband or my mom to come with me. Or they will watch her and I'll go by myself.
J loves to walk but he's not a good hand holder, so most of the time in public he's in the stroller or a shopping cart.
Right now he's really into stairs. We live in a tri level house and we have one full flight of straight, wooden stairs and another set of five stairs that leads to the lowest floor. I let him practice the shorter staircase on his own with me nearby but now he's getting brave and tries the long staircase if no one is looking and someone (ahem, MH) didn't shut the gate well.
Just a question to put out there, not sure if my LO is just lazy or clingy. how much does you LO want to walk on their own? Mine would do anything to get me to carry her. I make her walk from the jeep to inside the house in the evenings, but that is always an ordeal, When I ask if she wants to walk in to daycare she will say no and I don't really want to deal with a hissy fit in the driveway/parking lot. Around the house I try to make her walk most of the time, but at the end of the day I don't want to listen to her crying for 2 hours because I wont pick her up, I can distract her to get her to stop crying, but as soon as I get up she starts all over again.
Am I creating a monster or is this just a phase she is going through? I try real hard not to acknowledge her when she is acting up, just turn around or ignore her. Anyone going through this as well or any tips to get her to stop?
Some days DD wants to be held more than others. I don't think you can spoil a 20 month old by holding him/her when they want mommy. Soon enough they won't want to be held at all and I personally will miss that.
Post by younglove316 on Nov 10, 2015 6:39:27 GMT -5
DD would love to walk everywhere if I let her. I've been letting her do so more and she's getting better about it but she won't always hold my hand. When she doesn't want to she just throws herself to the ground and won't move. I give her one more chance and if she won't hold it I put her back in the shopping cart, stroller, or carry her depending on where we are.
I want her to be more independent so last week at the zoo I let her walk a bit. She did great holding my hand, we just walked very slowly haha
E is 50/50 on wanting to be independent and walk by herself and wanting to be carried. She's generally more clingy when she senses something is about to happen (like leaving her with her grandparents, or dropping her off at daycare) and at the end of the day when she's missed me.
Levi is a runner (already!). So he is either strapped into the stroller or carried or put very quickly in a cart (at grocery, etc). I will not chance it in a parking lot, but at the park/field for brother's sports heck yes he is walking (well as I said running). In the house I will carry him upstairs for change of clothes/bath time bc damnit I want to hold him and snuggle- that's when Mr. Independent shows up and wants to walk. So, I let him and hold his hand (when he lets me!).
I say do what works best for you, are you sah? If not I think a little cling-ness in the evenings/weekends is normal. If I'm tired/carrying too much stuff inside then I insist he walks, hence melt downs have occurred on the driveway or in the garage.
Post by RandomName on Nov 10, 2015 18:47:20 GMT -5
DD likes to walk (and run). She's getting better with the mandatory hand holding in our parking garage and outside. If she's tired or fussy she'll want to be carried. She does get tired on long walks and wants to be carried.
Post by angelsnight on Nov 11, 2015 0:25:42 GMT -5
E likes to walk. Thankfully she is pretty good about reaching for my hand when we're out in public. However she JUST started walking like a month ago, so she could go through a "pick me up" stage. I don't know.
J is FINALLY learning to hold my hand when we're walking outside! He's getting better about going into jellyfish mode and flopping to the ground when we're doing something he doesn't want to do too.
Post by lakecountrygal on Nov 20, 2015 21:36:19 GMT -5
We do both, it totally depends upon where we are and if we are running late or not as well as the weather. Now that we have snow he gets carried outside so his shoes don't get wet and destroy the interior of our vehicles, in stores he goes in a cart for now, but he gets to walk when we are inside at daycare or ECFE to the classroom. Once I cross the threshold I put him down and let him go.
J is FINALLY learning to hold my hand when we're walking outside! He's getting better about going into jellyfish mode and flopping to the ground when we're doing something he doesn't want to do too.
Yes, this is a perfect way to describe it! DD1 has it mastered.
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