Intro and vent

[karalee]

Hey everyone! My names Kara. A little about myself: I'm 26 and DH is 30.  We've been trying to conceive for 8 months now. A year ago I had my left ovary taken out due to a 11cm cyst. My doctor said it wouldn't be a problem at all to conceive after the operation... But now I'm having second thoughts about that....

Anyways, the last few months have been extremely hard for me as 4 of my friends have announced that they're prego. 

Tonight my best friend told me she's pregnant and wants me to help her announce it to her DH. I broke down and cried. We've always planned on being pregnant together. But, it's looking bleaker and bleaker for me... So it hit home hard and I just bawled... Is that terrible of me? I'm super excited for her but, I just keep questioning when will it be my time? Ugh....

Sorry for the long rant..... 

[pismoduo]

Sorry you're feeling that way.

Just so you know, 8 months is still within the "normal" range for getting pregnant. It can take a healthy couple up to 12 months to get pregnant. I know it's frustrating, but hopefully keeping that in mind helps.

I don't think it's terrible that you're feeling sad. I have the same feelings sometimes.

[karalee]

Thanks Ladies.... My DH is no help in the area.... I know my time will come... It doesn't help that my AF came yesterday so my hormones are already out of whack.

[icequeen]

Welcome. I am sorry to hear about your health issues, but 8 months is still within normal limits. And also try to keep in mind that just because your friend is pregnant, does not mean you will not get pregnant in the future too. Hugs!

[Deleted]

Welcome.

[RaeLynn28]

Sorry you are feeling this way. I'm on month 8 as well and know that it can be discouraging. Like PPs said, you are still within normal range. You have joined a great community. welcome

[mrss44]

Welcome!

[Sparkly]

Welcome. I'm sorry you're having a hard time. I think your feelings are understandable, but remember that other's fertility has no bearing on your own. Best of luck to you!

[queenbabee]

Lurking.
I felt the same way. We had been trying for 13 months and just when I made my appointment with doctor to see wtf was going on, my SIL & brother announced they were pregnant. We are all super close and even though I was excited for them,it was devastating. I didn't break down until about 4 weeks later , but when I did, I completely lost it. Drunk crying and all...it was messy. The next day I POAS because my boobs hurt & boom. Pregnant.
My point is this. Her being pregnant does not prevent you from getting pregnant. You never know what's going to happen. You may end up being pregnant together after all my son and nephew are 1 month apart.
Good luck & welcome.

K.bye.....(tiptoes out back door)

[sister13]

Hello and welcome. A couple things - according to doctors, you should still be able to get pregnant with one functioning ovary. Typically, the remaining ovary takes over the functions and compensates. Now, I would recommend that you take the fertility friend tutorials and begin charting and temping to confirm that you are indeed ovulating and that may give you some reassurance.

However, if you do have an annual gyn appointment coming up anytime soon, I would check with your doctor and tell her your concern (but probably don't schedule a special appt). I know the doctors say that it shouldn't affect ability to conceive, but I honestly have never seen whether the results are 100% exactly the same when you only have one ovary. I had surgery for a large cyst several years ago (before ever TTC) and it ended with most of one ovary being removed.

I am considerably older and in the advanced medical age category, so take this with a grain of salt, but I had very poor bloodwork testing results that put me in the diminished ovarian reserve category. Now, I am not trying to scare you but the RE (fertility specialist) did tell me at the time that there was a possibility the one ovary was a contributing factor, which was contrary to what my gyn had said that the time of my surgery. So, this is only an anecdote and hopefullly it is not (a) discouraging, or (b) reason to run out and demand some testing. You are still within normal timeframes.

In the meantime, definitely go to fertilityfriend.com and take the tutorials and start charting, this will help you confirm ovulation and make sure your timing is good! Best of luck to you!

[westisleflower]

I'm sorry you are having a tough time. There are a lot of women here who have a wealth of information. Welcome to the board!

[JulietRose]

Welcome! Sorry to hear you're having a hard time. This is a wonderful community and I wish you good luck.

[itsmeally]

Good luck. I think it is totally normal to be frustrated the way you are. I think a lot of women here are in the same boat. You're in good company. Welcome.

[ttcminicofer]

Welcome!

[getzystark]

Welcome.

[thewickedfairy]

Welcome.
Sorry you are feeling that way.

[talon]

Welcome!

[GoBigOrGoGnome]

I think everyone has those feelings from time to time and it definitely sucks. What is your friend planning that she needs help from you to tell her H?

And just a friendly tip: no one says "prego" much around here since that's just a pasta sauce, they use "pregnant" and "knocked up".

Welcome!

[wanderingheart]

Like everyone has already mentioned, those feelings are pretty normal. We all have our bad days (or weeks). Welcome to the community!

[achromia]

Welcome! As others have said, we all have our up and down days with TTC and it's normal to get frustrated after a while - I wish you luck.

[mlgnumbers]

Welcome. I'm sorry you're having a down time right now. I hope you're able to find camaraderie and support here. Good luck!

[URMySunshine77]

Welcome and I hope that you start feeling better soon. We all have our ups and downs.

[wirt2cute]

Welcome. Sorry your feeling down.

[WVaRN]

Hi and welcome. We all have those days where it seems like everyone around us it getting pregnant except us. I know it might seem hard but try to just be happy for your friend, because I would hope that she would be happy for you if the situation was reversed. And you never know it could still happen for you soon and you and her might end up pregnant together after all. FX for you.

[teraiin]

Welcome! Sorry that you are feeling down, I think it happens to most of us sometimes. I'd try to stay positive, you are still within the year time frame it can take. If it would make you feel more in control perhaps talk to your doctor about what the next step should you not conceive in a year?

Edited because early morning typing is a skill I have yet to master.

[housecarder]

Welcome. I understand how you are feeling. One of my best friends, 2 of my younger sisters, and 4 of my cousins are all pregnant. It can be hard especially since my pregnant twin cousins both have one year olds so my family is having babies left and right. Just try to focus on learning your body better. I started temping this month and actually knowing I ovulated and not just guessing at it helped me relax so much.

[teambrink]

Welcome and best of luck to you.

[mainewifey]

Welcome, and good luck! It is tough to wait, and it sucks when you realize that pregnancy is not something that can really be planned.

[meerkatmillie]

Welcome! I had an 8cm cyst removed (dermoid, laparotomy) last July and am onto cycle 6 TTC now. Both of my sisters have been knocking out babies left and right, so for some time I felt discouraged. But somehow, with time and some reasoning with myself, those feelings of jealousy, resentment, and depression have passed and I'm ok now.

[papm951214]

Welcome! We definitely sympathize with your situation, and you've found a very supportive group. I hope you can reach back out to your friend and share in her joy when you're ready. We're glad you're here!