Post by onesweetworld on Nov 16, 2015 11:28:11 GMT -5
Hello Ladies!
Hugs to all dealing with shitty things people say. At the conference this weekend my colleagues kept referring to me as the mom. And even went so far as telling me I should have kids ASAP because id be such a great mom. Well thanks for the compliment but it really didn't feel good.
doodler and kayladawn91, sorry about the crappy comments you received. We haven't told anyone we're TFAS and whenever we're asked, we just say that we're thinking about it. More times than not, when someone knows how old I am, I hear some variation of "You better get on it because you're not getting any younger!" Hearing that really sucks when you've been unsuccessfully TTC for awhile. Or I occasionally get "Why would you want to have a baby when you're nearing 40?" Seriously?
I'm at work today with nothing to do again. I'm trying to figure out what I want for lunch. After having a carb fest all weekend (Burgers! Pizza! Wine!), I want to have a lower carb week but a salad just doesn't sound good to me right now.
Hugs!
You can come do some of my work if you'd like. I've been out of the office for 4 days and I'm going to come into 500+ emails to read and delete.
Post by singingsea on Nov 16, 2015 12:08:51 GMT -5
Can I please choke this person out? This was their facebook status.
Warning triggers.
"WE ARE EXPECTING!!! I know, I know it's crazy, right? We can't believe it ourselves. I wasn't going to put it on FB, but wanted to make it official...I mean everyone said we were crazy!! So, yes we are expecting Christmas in just over 5 weeks !!! Re-post if you have any sense of humor. Heeheehee!"
I feel like I'm overacting but I also feel like this person is being a twat. I guess I don't have a sense of humor?
Add me to the list of dealing with stupid shit people say. I called my mom on Saturday to ask what we should bring to Thanksgiving dinner. In the background I heard my dad reply with "Tell her to bring a positive pregnancy test!"
This cold is kicking my ass. Just walking up the stairs this morning was an effort.
Can I please choke this person out? This was their facebook status.
Warning triggers.
"WE ARE EXPECTING!!! I know, I know it's crazy, right? We can't believe it ourselves. I wasn't going to put it on FB, but wanted to make it official...I mean everyone said we were crazy!! So, yes we are expecting Christmas in just over 5 weeks !!! Re-post if you have any sense of humor. Heeheehee!"
I feel like I'm overacting but I also feel like this person is being a twat. I guess I don't have a sense of humor?
With the volume of pregnancy announcements I've had in my news feed this last week or so, you're not alone in this. I also hate the pregnancy April Fools jokes.
Can I please choke this person out? This was their facebook status.
Warning triggers.
"WE ARE EXPECTING!!! I know, I know it's crazy, right? We can't believe it ourselves. I wasn't going to put it on FB, but wanted to make it official...I mean everyone said we were crazy!! So, yes we are expecting Christmas in just over 5 weeks !!! Re-post if you have any sense of humor. Heeheehee!"
I feel like I'm overacting but I also feel like this person is being a twat. I guess I don't have a sense of humor?
With the volume of pregnancy announcements I've had in my news feed this last week or so, you're not alone in this. I also hate the pregnancy April Fools jokes.
I mean it's not even april fools. I expect this stupid shit on april fools but not on a Monday in November. I keep typing something then erasing it.
Can I please choke this person out? This was their facebook status.
Warning triggers.
"WE ARE EXPECTING!!! I know, I know it's crazy, right? We can't believe it ourselves. I wasn't going to put it on FB, but wanted to make it official...I mean everyone said we were crazy!! So, yes we are expecting Christmas in just over 5 weeks !!! Re-post if you have any sense of humor. Heeheehee!"
I feel like I'm overacting but I also feel like this person is being a twat. I guess I don't have a sense of humor?
Well, this type of thing isn't funny on April Fool's Day so definitely not funny on some fucking random day in November!
What is in the water?! Hugs to everyone dealing with insensitive comments.
Can I please choke this person out? This was their facebook status.
Warning triggers.
"WE ARE EXPECTING!!! I know, I know it's crazy, right? We can't believe it ourselves. I wasn't going to put it on FB, but wanted to make it official...I mean everyone said we were crazy!! So, yes we are expecting Christmas in just over 5 weeks !!! Re-post if you have any sense of humor. Heeheehee!"
I feel like I'm overacting but I also feel like this person is being a twat. I guess I don't have a sense of humor?
Hate this stupid status SO. VERY. MUCH. Hate the April Fools "joke" just as much.
Can I please choke this person out? This was their facebook status.
Warning triggers.
"WE ARE EXPECTING!!! I know, I know it's crazy, right? We can't believe it ourselves. I wasn't going to put it on FB, but wanted to make it official...I mean everyone said we were crazy!! So, yes we are expecting Christmas in just over 5 weeks !!! Re-post if you have any sense of humor. Heeheehee!"
I feel like I'm overacting but I also feel like this person is being a twat. I guess I don't have a sense of humor?
I've deleted two people on Facebook for posting this already. (People I hadn't talked to in 5+ years anyway)
Can I please choke this person out? This was their facebook status.
Warning triggers.
"WE ARE EXPECTING!!! I know, I know it's crazy, right? We can't believe it ourselves. I wasn't going to put it on FB, but wanted to make it official...I mean everyone said we were crazy!! So, yes we are expecting Christmas in just over 5 weeks !!! Re-post if you have any sense of humor. Heeheehee!"
I feel like I'm overacting but I also feel like this person is being a twat. I guess I don't have a sense of humor?
Can I please choke this person out? This was their facebook status.
Warning triggers.
"WE ARE EXPECTING!!! I know, I know it's crazy, right? We can't believe it ourselves. I wasn't going to put it on FB, but wanted to make it official...I mean everyone said we were crazy!! So, yes we are expecting Christmas in just over 5 weeks !!! Re-post if you have any sense of humor. Heeheehee!"
I feel like I'm overacting but I also feel like this person is being a twat. I guess I don't have a sense of humor?
Nope Nope Nope. I already get too many pregnancy announcements on facebook this isn't funny at all. I would be tempted to put a response about IF and pregnancy loss and say that this stuff isn't funny and is really insensitive to anyone who is going through it.
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Post by singingsea on Nov 16, 2015 12:40:48 GMT -5
So after typing and erasing multiple times I simply wrote: "I would give anything to be pregnant" No response. By not chewing her out I'm hoping that she'll think about it and be more considerate in the future.
Edit: LOL she's liked every comment but mine. Twat.
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And there is a lot more wrong with H's truck than anticipated. I'm wondering if any of it stems back to his car accident this summer. I still don't feel like they looked at everything and am afraid it knocked some stuff loose hence and now has caused damage.
It is now brakes, power steering, tie rods, wheel bearing, etc. Ugh. Do not need the additional expenses. We already are working on paying for the pool to be fixed (that IL's should really be paying for) and having to pay for a home study (hence why the pool needs to fixed sooner rather than later) since we are looking at fostering/adopting.
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doodler and kayladawn91, sorry about the crappy comments you received. We haven't told anyone we're TFAS and whenever we're asked, we just say that we're thinking about it. More times than not, when someone knows how old I am, I hear some variation of "You better get on it because you're not getting any younger!" Hearing that really sucks when you've been unsuccessfully TTC for awhile. Or I occasionally get "Why would you want to have a baby when you're nearing 40?" Seriously?
I'm at work today with nothing to do again. I'm trying to figure out what I want for lunch. After having a carb fest all weekend (Burgers! Pizza! Wine!), I want to have a lower carb week but a salad just doesn't sound good to me right now.
Yes!!! Nobody knew that we were TTC#2. When they asked we just blew them off. Now that we had the loss in September apparently it's everybody's business to comment on me getting pregnant. No thanks!!!
butlerfan that sucks. I hate when expenses like that all pile up.
I'm absolutely livid right now at the walk-in clinic here in town. About a month ago, H went down there to get a physical done for work. He has to have one every 2 years, and it's just easier to drop in there on a day off or something than to take time off work for an actual appointment. It's never been an issue before.
The doctor there that day spent like 20 minutes lecturing him about his weight and how he needs to do something about it. Like, straight up lecturing him. Almost had him in tears. She wouldn't listen to a word he had to say. She finally filled out the form for his physical and sent him on his way, but she also wrote him a referral for a nutritionist. We figured that was the end of it, move on, go somewhere else next time.
Nope. The doctor decided that he HAD TO see that nutritionist and not only wrote the referral, but had someone at the clinic make an appointment for him. We only found out because they called us to let us know when his appointment was, like 2 days before.
Ok fine. We saw the nutritionist, she was amazing. Super nice, very sensitive. Her husband's had a lot of similar issues to H, so she had some great suggestions and was really helpful. At least something good came out of all this, so we'll let it go.
Then yesterday we pick up our mail and there's a bill from the clinic for $140. Turns out that stupid fucking doctor told them to bill it as an "obesity visit" rather than a wellness visit, so the insurance isn't covering it. H is like, wtf? I came in for a physical and a TB test, why would it be billed as an obesity visit (whatever the fuck that is...)? The clerk got all snippy and said they can't change billing codes just to make it easier for him.
Soooo, now we're going to have to fight them on this. And I think a strongly worded complaint letter to their clinic manager is probably in order. I'm so irritated that I'm sitting here googling trying to figure out who else I can file a complaint with about this person.
doodler and kayladawn91, sorry about the crappy comments you received. We haven't told anyone we're TFAS and whenever we're asked, we just say that we're thinking about it. More times than not, when someone knows how old I am, I hear some variation of "You better get on it because you're not getting any younger!" Hearing that really sucks when you've been unsuccessfully TTC for awhile. Or I occasionally get "Why would you want to have a baby when you're nearing 40?" Seriously?
I'm at work today with nothing to do again. I'm trying to figure out what I want for lunch. After having a carb fest all weekend (Burgers! Pizza! Wine!), I want to have a lower carb week but a salad just doesn't sound good to me right now.
I've been getting these BS comments as well. I want to seriously kick some shins when people say that kind of stuff.
I would be livid pismoduo! Definitely fight them on it. They shouldn't bill it as an "obesity visit" (WTF is that anyway) because that is NOT what he went there for. It isn't YH's problem that this asshole doctor felt the need to lecture him about his weight and then decided to bill more/differently ... Sorry you have to deal with that! Dealing with insurance/billing can be such a PITA!
Post by sleepymonkey on Nov 16, 2015 14:09:00 GMT -5
pismoduo, WTF is an obesity visit? I have never heard of someone going to a walk-in clinic just to discuss their weight. I bet the office gets more money for "obesity visits" than they do for "wellness exams". It is such a shame that the doctor lectured your husband to the point of making him feel bad about himself. I would definitely be complaining to the clinic manager because that is just not right.
Post by TheEleventhHour on Nov 16, 2015 14:13:28 GMT -5
Uggghhhh I am trying to watch a movie during naptime but DH has the parental control on the Playstation and I cannot remember it! Oh well, guess DH is going to have to watch Pitch Perfect 2 with me when he gets home.
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sleepymonkey, TheEleventhHour, I did a quick google search after ranting and most of what I'm finding indicates that billing code should be used when doing assessments or behavioral therapy for obese patients who are seeking help with weight loss. How the hell the clinic thinks they can make a jump from "patient came in for physical" (which is in his chart for the visit) to "assessment/behavioral therapy" is beyond me. I'm pretty sure a 20 minute rant and a referral to a nutritionist don't count as behavioral therapy. Not to mention that it STILL isn't the service that was requested. It's like charging me to remove stitches when I came in for a cholesterol test.
I think the next conversation with their billing department might have the word "fraud" thrown around a little. This might not be actual fraud, but it's certainly skirting the line.
Post by TheEleventhHour on Nov 16, 2015 16:25:57 GMT -5
pismoduo I totally agree this is definitely toeing the line into fraud zone ... it sounds like their billing department needs to be reminded of the definition of an "obesity visit". I hope you can get it sorted soon!
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