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[mymilkshake]

Nov 16, 2015 9:36:27 GMT -5 Flair Underwood said:

GL, bighair12!!!  Have fun!

I learned on Friday that my BOSS told someone that I am pregnant. I know she is socially awkward but WTF?!?!?!? Not your news to share, lady. A board member noticed my pooch and asked her, so she told her. Not okay. You're supposed to say, "i don't know, you'll have to ask Flair." And when I told my boss I SPECIFICALLY said, "i am ready to tell you because of appointments and if I appear tired or stressed, blah blah blah. But I am NOT ready to tell other people yet."

I often have trouble respecting my boss. It's not good.

That's crazy. I'd be upset about that too.

[bgkc4]

Nov 16, 2015 9:36:27 GMT -5 Flair Underwood said:

GL, bighair12!!!  Have fun!

I learned on Friday that my BOSS told someone that I am pregnant. I know she is socially awkward but WTF?!?!?!? Not your news to share, lady. A board member noticed my pooch and asked her, so she told her. Not okay. You're supposed to say, "i don't know, you'll have to ask Flair." And when I told my boss I SPECIFICALLY said, "i am ready to tell you because of appointments and if I appear tired or stressed, blah blah blah. But I am NOT ready to tell other people yet."

I often have trouble respecting my boss. It's not good.

How dare she?! It would be annoying had it been a mere coworker, but the fact that it's your BOSS makes it also completely inappropriate. I would reiterate to her (in a stern manner) that you only told her for scheduling purposes, and that you don't want her to tell anyone else. I would tell her that you would appreciate discretion in this matter going forward!

[GOmamab15]

Thanks cattuccino
Really I'm afraid that if my boss/HR knows, I might get selected for a lay off. There was a lay off recently of about 10% of our staff. I'm afraid there's another phase of lay offs looming.
I know it's shitty to think that a decision could be swayed by being preg, but reality is it totally could be.

[Flair Underwood]

bgkc4, mymilkshake, I'm so used to her crazy... and I keep saying "just get through maternity leave and then see what else is out there."

babyzebra, I'm so sorry you have to deal with migraines.  I've never really had one so I can only fathom how brutal they are.  Good luck and I hope some relief is coming your way soon!

[cattuccino]

Nov 16, 2015 14:45:35 GMT -5 GOmamab15 said:

Thanks cattuccino
Really I'm afraid that if my boss/HR knows, I might get selected for a lay off. There was a lay off recently of about 10% of our staff. I'm afraid there's another phase of lay offs looming.
I know it's shitty to think that a decision could be swayed by being preg, but reality is it totally could be.

I'm sorry you have that added possible stress, I don't blame you. You're right that reality isn't fair usually.

How was lunch?

[cattuccino]

babyzebra I've also been getting migraines, but normally do not pregnant too. I've been caving and taking a Tylenol when they're brutal....doesn't help but sometimes takes the edge off enough I can at least keep a better eye on DD.

Hope you get relief soon

[GOmamab15]

cattuccino Lunch was delicious! She gave me "baby's first stuffed animal" and was super sweet.

[vivela]

Flair Underwood, WTF... that is bizarre. No person with normal social skills would do that.
babyzebra, Sorry about your migraine! I can't imagine dealing with that on top of pregnancy symptoms. I've never had one but my husband gets them, not pretty.

I'm telling my sister and her girlfriend tonight. They are the last of the "early group" who are finding out. Everyone else will wait until 12 weeks minimum. I got to tell my whole immediate family in person this time, which is nice.
Now I just need this all to go right. I've been feeling vaguely crampy this afternoon. I can't tell if it is cramps or just back pain, but it is stressing me out. PGAL brain is having a surge today.

[titania]

Nov 16, 2015 17:34:05 GMT -5 vivela said:

Flair Underwood, WTF... that is bizarre. No person with normal social skills would do that.
babyzebra, Sorry about your migraine! I can't imagine dealing with that on top of pregnancy symptoms. I've never had one but my husband gets them, not pretty.

I'm telling my sister and her girlfriend tonight. They are the last of the "early group" who are finding out. Everyone else will wait until 12 weeks minimum. I got to tell my whole immediate family in person this time, which is nice.
Now I just need this all to go right. I've been feeling vaguely crampy this afternoon. I can't tell if it is cramps or just back pain, but it is stressing me out. PGAL brain is having a surge today.

good luck telling your sister! Sorry you are stressing today I have been feeling crampy too today. Hopefully you feel better soon.

[virginiaorjohn]

My dad just told me he really wants to send out our news in his annual "Christmas letter" and I told him I didn't feel comfortable with that. Not only because I'm not even sure if I'll tell people on Christmas Day (even though we'll be 13.5 weeks, it just seems so early to me, thanks PGAL brain), but also because he would likely send out his letter when I was more like 11 weeks.
Fuck. No.
He was totally fine with it but I am having residual guilt of course. He's just really excited about his first grandbaby and I love his excitement, just not in this instance.

[Andrea]

Nov 16, 2015 18:16:17 GMT -5 virginiaorjohn said:

My dad just told me he really wants to send out our news in his annual "Christmas letter" and I told him I didn't feel comfortable with that. Not only because I'm not even sure if I'll tell people on Christmas Day (even though we'll be 13.5 weeks, it just seems so early to me, thanks PGAL brain), but also because he would likely send out his letter when I was more like 11 weeks.
Fuck. No.
He was totally fine with it but I am having residual guilt of course. He's just really excited about his first grandbaby and I love his excitement, just not in this instance.

My dad posted a pseudo cryptic (but totally obvious) Facebook message SECONDS after we told him we did not want anyone to know, and very specifically no Facebook announcements.  Sigh. 

[frecklesnbrains]

Thankfully my dad does neither FB nor Christmas letters. Haven't told him yet though! I will when I see him at Thanksgiving. I'm really, really hoping I have MaterniT21 results back before Thanksgiving... it would give me so much peace of mind, plus I'll know the sex so that'll be fun to tell my family!

In other news, I'm by myself at home tonight and I decided to eat dessert first. Pumpkin pie with whipped cream. No regrets.

[bgkc4]

virginiaorjohn, I think its sweet that your dad is so excited, but I also understand your hesitancy.

I'm actually struggling with this myself right now. I want to mention it to family and close family friends in our holiday mailings, but I think mid-December (when Christmas cards typically go out) is too soon. So I'm thinking of sending New Year's cards this year instead, and announcing the pregnancy that way. I wouldn't send them until early January. Even a couple of weeks makes a huge difference to me. We only send cards to family and close family friends, so I'm probably over-thinking it (especially since a lot of people will probably notice by Christmas), but I'll have more peace of mind waiting until January.

[txmommy14]

Ugh. Tonight has been terrible. There's awful rain in Texas right now.....I got stuck in traffic for 2 and a half hours trying to take a meal to a family in my church that just had a baby. My poor son was covered in urine by the time we got home because he was in the car for so long. After I got home, my garage door wouldn't shut. I knocked on my neighbor's door and they tried to help, but we couldn't get it to work, so now I have to call the garage door place tomorrow and just set my security alarm tonight. Please come home soon, DH!!! I'm falling apart!

Thankfully I *think* I'm feeling less nauseous.

[virginiaorjohn]

Nov 16, 2015 21:12:15 GMT -5 bgkc4 said:

virginiaorjohn, I think its sweet that your dad is so excited, but I also understand your hesitancy.

I'm actually struggling with this myself right now. I want to mention it to family and close family friends in our holiday mailings, but I think mid-December (when Christmas cards typically go out) is too soon. So I'm thinking of sending New Year's cards this year instead, and announcing the pregnancy that way. I wouldn't send them until early January. Even a couple of weeks makes a huge difference to me. We only send cards to family and close family friends, so I'm probably over-thinking it (especially since a lot of people will probably notice by Christmas), but I'll have more peace of mind waiting until January.

I am very lucky that both my parents are so supportive, and were I due beginning of June instead of end, I would let him hire a plane to write it across the sky if he wanted. I wish I was more comfy with the idea, honestly, but not this time. Maybe we'll have a third pregnancy that he can put in a future letter!
I think the New Years cards are a great idea! I get multiple holiday cards each day during December so getting a card in January real is special. I know my aunt used to send out Valentines Day cards, too, if you need a few extra weeks even, haha.

ETA: preg brain forgot words

[titania]

Nov 16, 2015 22:31:19 GMT -5 txmommy14 said:

Ugh. Tonight has been terrible. There's awful rain in Texas right now.....I got stuck in traffic for 2 and a half hours trying to take a meal to a family in my church that just had a baby. My poor son was covered in urine by the time we got home because he was in the car for so long. After I got home, my garage door wouldn't shut. I knocked on my neighbor's door and they tried to help, but we couldn't get it to work, so now I have to call the garage door place tomorrow and just set my security alarm tonight. Please come home soon, DH!!! I'm falling apart!

Thankfully I *think* I'm feeling less nauseous.

oh no! I'm so sorry for such a stressful evening! Hopefully everything will be sorted out tomorrow.

[nymama917]

I took a sick day today. Feeling a bit guilty. I had my appointment today but the big issue is that my MIL is coming tomorrow with a friend and our house is a wreck. We were out of town all weekend so I had no time to clean and I don't have the energy to get things done after work so I felt like it was my only choice. I enjoyed the day and got a lot of stuff done but it's really not like me to just take a sick day when I'm not sick....heck I never even take them when I am sick. Oh well I'm over it and feeling accomplished and fully accepting I'll probably be extra nauseous tomorrow as punishment

[lakecountrygal]

I folded 7 loads of laundry tonight, but then felt like I was going to pass out before I was finished. I'm now going to bed with laundry all over my living room but I don't care I'm pretty sure sleep is more important.

[txmommy14]

Nov 16, 2015 22:44:46 GMT -5 nymama917 said:

I took a sick day today. Feeling a bit guilty. I had my appointment today but the big issue is that my MIL is coming tomorrow with a friend and our house is a wreck. We were out of town all weekend so I had no time to clean and I don't have the energy to get things done after work so I felt like it was my only choice. I enjoyed the day and got a lot of stuff done but it's really not like me to just take a sick day when I'm not sick....heck I never even take them when I am sick. Oh well I'm over it and feeling accomplished and fully accepting I'll probably be extra nauseous tomorrow as punishment

Don't feel guilty! Being pregnant means you need some mental health days of days to catch up with so much less energy after work during the week. Glad you took the day off!

[Andrea]

Posted this on PAIF. Thought you guys may enjoy.

[virginiaorjohn]

Andrea meanwhile I am like absurdly happy that I am still fitting in my size 12 skinny jeans. Is it too much to ask that I blossom into a real bump overnight??

[Andrea]

Nov 17, 2015 0:11:28 GMT -5 virginiaorjohn said:

Andrea meanwhile I am like absurdly happy that I am still fitting in my size 12 skinny jeans. Is it too much to ask that I blossom into a real bump overnight??

Lol, I know. This lady on my floor who I see daily was giving me the once over today. I wanted to get in her face & be like, "I'm not gaining more weight, I'm pregnant!" I'm ready for the blump to transform.

:::::no one remind me of this convo when I am botching about my back pain when the Blump grows up:::::

[mladerri]

nymama917 my work calls them "personal days" for that exact reason. Sometimes you need a day off and it's okay you're not sick! Feel good you got stuff done and didn't waste a day off.