Also I see fake trees as a privilege. My mom always said we were too poor for fake trees so we got real ones. We got the real ones for free from my Mamaw and Papaw.
It was 42 degrees Celsius (that's about 107 degrees Fahrenheit for my US friends) here today. I gave DS1 the day off school. We had my neighbour and her kids (all kept out of school because of the heat too) over for an all day pool party. #noregrets
Damn! I would be inside cranking the AC no amount of water can make me want to be outside in 107 weather. Hellll naw!
It was 42 degrees Celsius (that's about 107 degrees Fahrenheit for my US friends) here today. I gave DS1 the day off school. We had my neighbour and her kids (all kept out of school because of the heat too) over for an all day pool party. #noregrets
I totally don't blame you! Half of our school doesn't have a/c and it's ridiculously hot when it's in the high 80s because of bad circulation, too.
So I have a confession, and it's going to sound pretty bad... I've been fantasizing about getting hit by a car so I don't have to go to work anymore- well for awhile. All I want to do is stay home. I want to be with my baby and I DO NOT WANT to be teaching anymore.
stinybean LT for supporting my decision but not for your wish. Hope you can find a way to stay home with your LO and/or find a new career without being hit by a car!
I figured that was the LT the unfortunate part is there is no way out anytime soon bc DH doesn't work, so it's all on me.
Post by ombradellarosa on Nov 20, 2015 5:14:02 GMT -5
I have long been wanting to cry out for help on Facebook as well as make a snarky comment about how it's so funny how people are all up in your Pinterest but no one says "Hey, I see you are pinning to a board called Postpartum Mood Disorder. Do you need to talk? I genuinely want to help you!" But I'm afraid of what responses I would get. So I Googled how to ask for help with a new baby, and I found a lot of good stuff. Including this absolute gem: www.popsugar.com/moms/How-Really-Help-New-Mom-37281129 Fingers crossed, hoping for the best. Last time I shared some parenting thing with "feeling sad" I got a share with a tag saying "haha wait until she is three." Like wtf is wrong with you, I said I'm feeling sad and you're laughing at me and just-you-waiting me. Should have gone with "feeling depressed" like I wanted to but afraid it would look AWy.
ombradellarosa I'm sorry you're going through such a rough time. I hope that you have spoken to your dr about your PPD. I hope that we can help support you in working out what's bothering you. I think the biggest thing is that it's stupidly taboo in our society to admit weakness. We should be able to ask for help and people be willing to help us.
I know that awhile back there was a PPD check-in, but I haven't seen it in awhile. I personally am feeling depressed, as you could probably tell by my confession. I know it's because I'm having a horrible year at work, but when you feel this way you don't even know how to function on a day to day basis. And then to add on top of that taking care of a little being is really rough.
I'm more than willing to listen to you if you need to talk via PM.
Also I see fake trees as a privilege. My mom always said we were too poor for fake trees so we got real ones. We got the real ones for free from my Mamaw and Papaw.
I don't know where you're getting your real trees from but in my experience it's exponentially more expensive to buy a real tree every year over a fake tree once.
Yup. I saw fake trees as being for poor-er people growing up. Rich people had big beautiful real ones.
stinybean LT for supporting my decision but not for your wish. Hope you can find a way to stay home with your LO and/or find a new career without being hit by a car!
I figured that was the LT the unfortunate part is there is no way out anytime soon bc DH doesn't work, so it's all on me.
What about working for an agency as a SEIT? Then you can work park time, make your own schedule, etc? I know it sucks because you don't have the school schedule or vacation time off though. Does it have to do with the type of population you teach? Could you switch grades/schools?
I have long been wanting to cry out for help on Facebook as well as make a snarky comment about how it's so funny how people are all up in your Pinterest but no one says "Hey, I see you are pinning to a board called Postpartum Mood Disorder. Do you need to talk? I genuinely want to help you!" But I'm afraid of what responses I would get. So I Googled how to ask for help with a new baby, and I found a lot of good stuff. Including this absolute gem: www.popsugar.com/moms/How-Really-Help-New-Mom-37281129 Fingers crossed, hoping for the best. Last time I shared some parenting thing with "feeling sad" I got a share with a tag saying "haha wait until she is three." Like wtf is wrong with you, I said I'm feeling sad and you're laughing at me and just-you-waiting me. Should have gone with "feeling depressed" like I wanted to but afraid it would look AWy.
Im so sorry she was rude, you would think another mother with a young child would be most understanding
I have 2 close friends who had PPD after our first babies were born, one got on a low dose of zoloft and the other when a more holistic route but both found some relief. I agree with the other ladies, step 1 is talking to your dr if you havent already and making a treatment plan. PPD is a very real thing and mist likely wont just go away on its own.
Im glad you have opened up here and hope we can support you
Also I see fake trees as a privilege. My mom always said we were too poor for fake trees so we got real ones. We got the real ones for free from my Mamaw and Papaw.
I don't know where you're getting your real trees from but in my experience it's exponentially more expensive to buy a real tree every year over a fake tree once.
We got the real ones for free from my Mamaw and Papaw. If it wasn't for them we wouldn't have had a tree at all.
I put my kid on her ABC mat to walk out of the room and I heard a thump - she rolled into the TV stand. There aren't any bumps or lumps or marks but I still feel guilty for putting her down.
So I have a confession, and it's going to sound pretty bad... I've been fantasizing about getting hit by a car so I don't have to go to work anymore- well for awhile. All I want to do is stay home. I want to be with my baby and I DO NOT WANT to be teaching anymore.
I've been there. But not teaching, and not even related to staying at home with kids.
Fingers crossed, hoping for the best. Last time I shared some parenting thing with "feeling sad" I got a share with a tag saying "haha wait until she is three."
How helpful of your friend. Next time she's on fire, just let her know the people in Pompeii had it worse.
I've been using my husband's deodorant all week. Not because I ran out, but because mine is still packed in the suitcase from last weekend.
I only use men's deodorant and have for about a year and a half now. I have different one than my husband but it's still men's. It works better than women's IMO.
Post by threearrows on Nov 20, 2015 11:37:23 GMT -5
I donate breastmilk to a local mom. I pump an extra 25ish ounces a day in addition to what my LO eats. The lady who takes the milk says "thanks!" and replaces the bags, but I feel like that's not enough of a return on my investment. It's over an hour of my time a day, not to mention I'm feeding her kid and she doesn't have to pay for the food--just $13 every two weeks for bags. I want to be selfless with this, but I'm having a hard time putting in so much effort for just a "thanks!" when she picks it up. And then I feel like an awful person because I'm not selfless.
I donate breastmilk to a local mom. I pump an extra 25ish ounces a day in addition to what my LO eats. The lady who takes the milk says "thanks!" and replaces the bags, but I feel like that's not enough of a return on my investment. It's over an hour of my time a day, not to mention I'm feeding her kid and she doesn't have to pay for the food--just $13 every two weeks for bags. I want to be selfless with this, but I'm having a hard time putting in so much effort for just a "thanks!" when she picks it up. And then I feel like an awful person because I'm not selfless.
I donate breastmilk to a local mom. I pump an extra 25ish ounces a day in addition to what my LO eats. The lady who takes the milk says "thanks!" and replaces the bags, but I feel like that's not enough of a return on my investment. It's over an hour of my time a day, not to mention I'm feeding her kid and she doesn't have to pay for the food--just $13 every two weeks for bags. I want to be selfless with this, but I'm having a hard time putting in so much effort for just a "thanks!" when she picks it up. And then I feel like an awful person because I'm not selfless.
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That is a fuckton of BM.
Not sure why, but the use of "fuckton" in this case just really made me giggle.
Post by beersandweirs on Nov 20, 2015 13:10:36 GMT -5
FFFC: This is kind of a two-part confession, I received a couple of packs of razors in my stocking last year, and I just now opened the first pack. Which is a testament to both how infrequently I shave and how often I change my razors.
FFFC: This is kind of a two-part confession, I received a couple of packs of razors in my stocking last year, and I just now opened the first pack. Which is a testament to both how infrequently I shave and how often I change my razors.
Can we share this confession? Pretty sure I've only changed mine twice in the last year...
Post by hannahl201477 on Nov 20, 2015 13:20:10 GMT -5
I would love a baby free day for DH and me to just sleep ALL day! Lol. But I don't think I'm ready for him to not be with me at night. I have trust issues. The only person I trust to take care of him over night is my mom and she lives 3 hours away.
Post by billyhorrible on Nov 20, 2015 14:04:54 GMT -5
I am so burned out. My boss went to go watch his son's college water polo game out of town today, so instead of working, I'm spending the playing on the computer and shopping for Channukah/Christmas gifts.
Post by holliberry28 on Nov 20, 2015 14:14:34 GMT -5
I have major guilt about how much my MIL helps with the baby. Not only does she watch him during the week when we work, basically from 6:30 to 5:30, but she also takes him in the morning on the weekends so we can sleep (usually from 7 to 11-12).
I think I shouldn't be so ok with all the help, and spend the mornings with him on the weekends, but I'm desperate to sleep.
Do you guys think I'm a terrible mom for not spending as much time with him as I could?
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