Post by frecklesnbrains on Nov 20, 2015 9:14:04 GMT -5
H and I watched the movie, but the books are soooooo poorly written I couldn't make it through 5 pages without wanting to burn them. Movie was a bit of a guilty pleasure though Enjoy!
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I totally had a sex dream about my ex last night. I dated this guy all through middle and high school and we just drifted apart when I went away for college so he's always been my "what if" ex. I haven't seen him in at least 15 years other than on facebook. The funny thing is that we never actually had sex but we always had this crazy chemistry. The dream sex was pretty damn good though!
Post by frecklesnbrains on Nov 20, 2015 12:46:37 GMT -5
ArgyleEnigma, titania, I'm totally a Carolyn Hax junkie too! I have a friend who knows her somehow (I can't remember exactly how) but she always posts the live chats on FB and I spend at least an hour every Friday devouring them.
Post by frecklesnbrains on Nov 20, 2015 13:26:00 GMT -5
So today's Carolyn Hax column has a letter from a 38 year-old soon-to-be first time mom who is scared of being an older parent and intimidated by the local mom groups who are full of "pert, cardio-obsessed twenty somethings". This woman is me... or at least it could be! I don't particularly like Carolyn's response though.
But in response to what you already said, there's a mom at my sons daycare that is much older than me and I remember talking to her about feeling a bit insecure being so young (I was 25 with my first) compared to the other moms and she was shocked and said I felt the same way but because I'm so old! We laughed and laughed and now are good friends. Everyone feels out of place! Especially with the first because no one knows what the fuck they're doing.
Post by frecklesnbrains on Nov 20, 2015 13:38:22 GMT -5
She suggested that she should go to the groups anyway and keep an open mind, which I suppose is reasonable. I think what bothered me was it seemed like she didn't validate the poster's insecurities. It's easy to feel different when you're doing this later in life. I even feel insecure on these boards sometimes (I'm the oldest one on June '16, I believe). Although I think it's wonderful to meet people from all sorts of backgrounds because you can learn something from everyone, I also think it's natural to seek kindred spirits. I love talking with women who understand fully what it's like to have spent so much time and energy on their careers and/or who took a while to find the love of their life. I'm fit and healthy for a 38 year-old, but I KNOW my energy levels of half what they were a decade ago. Throw pregnancy-induced fatigue or newborn-induced sleep deprivation on top of that and it's easy to feel overwhelmed.
She suggested that she should go to the groups anyway and keep an open mind, which I suppose is reasonable. I think what bothered me was it seemed like she didn't validate the poster's insecurities. It's easy to feel different when you're doing this later in life. I even feel insecure on these boards sometimes (I'm the oldest one on June '16, I believe). Although I think it's wonderful to meet people from all sorts of backgrounds because you can learn something from everyone, I also think it's natural to seek kindred spirits. I love talking with women who understand fully what it's like to have spent so much time and energy on their careers and/or who took a while to find the love of their life. I'm fit and healthy for a 38 year-old, but I KNOW my energy levels of half what they were a decade ago. Throw pregnancy-induced fatigue or newborn-induced sleep deprivation on top of that and it's easy to feel overwhelmed.
I read that and thought it is way easier said than done to go to a group who you feel is so different from you. I know I would feel uncomfortable in that situation. Sorry you feel insecure! FWIW, from hearing you talk about hiking and running I know for sure you are fitter and have more energy then me!
Post by origamimommy on Nov 20, 2015 13:54:22 GMT -5
frecklesnbrains, I understand that. I think it's easy for all of us to feel that way in the midst of becoming a new mom. You'll find your footing and your core group, but I completely understand the feelings there (although on the opposite side of the spectrum I guess).
She suggested that she should go to the groups anyway and keep an open mind, which I suppose is reasonable. I think what bothered me was it seemed like she didn't validate the poster's insecurities. It's easy to feel different when you're doing this later in life. I even feel insecure on these boards sometimes (I'm the oldest one on June '16, I believe). Although I think it's wonderful to meet people from all sorts of backgrounds because you can learn something from everyone, I also think it's natural to seek kindred spirits. I love talking with women who understand fully what it's like to have spent so much time and energy on their careers and/or who took a while to find the love of their life. I'm fit and healthy for a 38 year-old, but I KNOW my energy levels of half what they were a decade ago. Throw pregnancy-induced fatigue or newborn-induced sleep deprivation on top of that and it's easy to feel overwhelmed.
I read that and thought it is way easier said than done to go to a group who you feel is so different from you. I know I would feel uncomfortable in that situation. Sorry you feel insecure! FWIW, from hearing you talk about hiking and running I know for sure you are fitter and have more energy then me!
Haha! It's all a farce! I require 9-10 hours of sleep every night.
I read that and thought it is way easier said than done to go to a group who you feel is so different from you. I know I would feel uncomfortable in that situation. Sorry you feel insecure! FWIW, from hearing you talk about hiking and running I know for sure you are fitter and have more energy then me!
Haha! It's all a farce! I require 9-10 hours of sleep every night.
That's cause you are hiking like 20+ miles every weekend! Also staying up past 10pm is like 2am to me, so I get it
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