TFAS Check in 11.24

[cheezee]

oh boy do I understand this guilt. When we figured out we were going to have some trouble TTC I second guessed our decision a ton!! Why would we rock our perfect little boat?? DD has been so awesome lately and now she is four (FOUR!!) and why in the world would we want to start over with another infant? But then I see her with her little cousin or a friends baby and my heart melts. I know dividing our attention will rock her world but I know she will be an awesome big sister. I want her to have that bond with a sibling. I try not to fret over the age gap at this point...there are pros and cons to any age gap. It is what it is...and I know we'll make it work.

[amparo1981]

Age of LO(s):27 months so definitely solidly in the 2 year old range, but it still seems like we had her first birthday party last month.

Circumstances:trying, trying, trying. WTF body.

Cycle:9

CD/DPO:4

RRCS:I thought nothing could be more annoying than trying during FW and then CD1. Nope, even more annoying is not getting a FW at all. So I'm happy for a new cycle, but still frustrated.

GTKY- Have you ever made and hosted Thanksgiving or any holiday dinner? Two years ago. But it was very low-key. Turkey, mashed potatoes, salad, desert. Last year was cheese fondue.

caz1221, sleepymonkey, cheezee, I am also on board the "this kid is so easy-going, what will the next one be like" train. But how could they not be as perfect, right?....RIGHT?

[penguin129]

Hugs to all the ladies in need.

DD will be at least 3 by the next time a lo comes around. I'm not majorly concerned about an age gap. I'm the opposite though because DD had colic and gerd so we had a hard time with her. I'm hoping the second baby is an easy baby.

[sleepymonkey]

amparo1981, My SIL's first son was such a calm/sweet baby and young toddler. Then she got had DS2 when DS1 was 3 1/2 and he turned into a little hellion. And DS2 was a very restless, colicky baby and very rambunctious toddler. I look at them and the idea of LO2 scares me a bit. But then I look at DD and see how awesome she is and can't help but want another one.

[catlady22]

Age of LO(s): 12 months

Circumstances: TFAS, cycles haven't regulated since weaning. I had one period over 40 days ago, but nothing since.

Cycle: 2

CD/DPO:

RRCS: I have no clue when my cycle is going to regulate. I hate not knowing.

GTKY- Have you ever made and hosted Thanksgiving or any holiday dinner? Yes, I have hosted Friendsgiving twice now. I would love to host our whole family but they wouldn't come to our house.

[jense927]

Age of LO(s): 23 months - almost 2!!!

Circumstances: TTC

Cycle: 10

CD/DPO: 8

RRCS: Well we are coming up on a year here in Dec so I scheduled an appointment with an RE for Dec 22nd.I feel better having it on the books. It is like a weight lifted off my shoulders. I feel so responsible for all of this and to have someone else also taking a look at things feels like a good thing. Plus the office was soooo super helpful and nice on the phone.

GTKY- Have you ever made and hosted Thanksgiving or any holiday dinner? No! I am hosting this Christmas though, I am so nervous!!

DS was difficult as a baby because he had reflux plus he was born early so my anxiety was through the roof. Things are so much calmer now but I can't wait for him to have a sibling. He has shown such a huge interest in all things baby lately it kind of breaks my heart.

[mayflowers]

Nov 24, 2015 13:40:56 GMT -5 @zerozeroone said:

Nov 24, 2015 13:18:32 GMT -5 penguin129 said:

Hugs to all the ladies in need.

DD will be at least 3 by the next time a lo comes around. I'm not majorly concerned about an age gap. I'm the opposite though because DD had colic and gerd so we had a hard time with her. I'm hoping the second baby is an easy baby.

DS also had terrible reflux and was a difficult baby. The first 6 months were really hard. Maybe that's why I'm getting a little shy about TTC...I haven't forgotten those earlier months.

This is us and DS is just over 6 mo (6 mo and a week). He's also in teething hell so he's been difficult, but he's also good and I fear a second will be colicky and sleep poorly and make DS look like a saint just bc DH and I think he's difficult.

[judyblume14]

mayflowers, (hugs). I'm sorry.

Age of LO(s): 14.5 months

Circumstances: TTC#2

Cycle: Month 4/Cycle 3

CD/DPO: CD 7

RRCS: My maternity clothes are all packed up (we're trying to sell our condo), but sitting in a bag in my car because we don't have space to store. It's like they're mocking me. This is the time of year I got pregnant with DD. It'd be nice not to buy a whole other set of maternity clothes...

GTKY- Have you ever made and hosted Thanksgiving or any holiday dinner? Nope. But I am baking my fist pumpkin pie this week!

[dashook]

Nov 24, 2015 11:02:47 GMT -5 sleepymonkey said:

dashook , I understand that guilty feeling. I often look at DD and worry about how she would feel about a sibling. She is so used to being the center of attention, with both me and MH and also my parents that I think it will be tough for her to share the spotlight. I also have the scary thought that she was/is such a good baby and toddler (so far) that we're tempting fate by trying for another.

Oh my gosh, same!  Especially now that he sleeps so beautifully through the night, I'm like, "Shit, the next one is going to be brutal" haha!

[dashook]

Nov 24, 2015 13:00:59 GMT -5 cheezee said:

oh boy do I understand this guilt. When we figured out we were going to have some trouble TTC I second guessed our decision a ton!! Why would we rock our perfect little boat?? DD has been so awesome lately and now she is four (FOUR!!) and why in the world would we want to start over with another infant? But then I see her with her little cousin or a friends baby and my heart melts. I know dividing our attention will rock her world but I know she will be an awesome big sister. I want her to have that bond with a sibling. I try not to fret over the age gap at this point...there are pros and cons to any age gap. It is what it is...and I know we'll make it work.

Yes--this!!  This honestly is why we're full steam ahead on my very first PP cycle.  The only thing I know for certain is we want more than one kid.  So whenever it happens, it happens, and that will be our reality, and we will embrace it!

[givemewine]

Age of LO(s):6 going on 26

Circumstances: We are currently trying.

Cycle: Today is day 1 of Provera

CD/DPO:cd 94

RRCS:Had my appointment yesterday. I was prescribed Provera(shocker!). He wants to see me again on CD 21 to check my levels to see if there was any ovulation(which there won't be). He also wants to check my thyroid since the last time it was checked was about 3 years ago.

GTKY- Have you ever made and hosted Thanksgiving or any holiday dinner? Last year I hosted Christmas dinner. It was hectic, but I loved every minute of it.

[sammysam]

@zerozeroone I feel the same way...I am not sure TFAS is what I really want. I actually had a panic attack a few months ago when we were fooling around and I realized that we were likely right in the middle of my FW.

Age of LO : 22 months tomorrow

Circumstances : TFAS in January

R / R : I was so firmly OAD for such a long time now (SO is the one who is pushing for a second...which is easy for him because he works crazy hours and is never home...) that when my mom made a comment about a potential #2 the other day I looked at her like she was completely insane...before I remembered that there is actually a possibility for a #2. Although I am starting to feel like I might be pulling the plug on TFAS...or at least delaying it for a while.

GTKY: I REALLY want to host Christmas at some point. My parents always host but now that all my cousins and siblings and friends have kids there are 88 people at my parents' house on Xmas eve. That is not even an exaggeration. And I don't know that I can handle that. When our new house is done I might have immediate family only and see how that goes.

[BabyStandish]

Age of LO(s): 10.5 months

Circumstances: NTNP, No PP AF yet, BF'ing my LO

RRCS: I've been a little crampy today so I'm hoping this means my first PP period is on it's way. It better not just be gas or something

GTKY- Have you ever made and hosted Thanksgiving or any holiday dinner? The only dinner I've made has been Easter. I'd like to host Thanksgiving/Christmas though. We just got a house this past summer so it looks like that might be happening sometime next year although the only family I have in town is MIL so it won't be a real big ordeal. The rest of our family has all moved out of state over the past 2 years. LAME!

[BabyStandish]

dashook CRAP I need to work on my invites!! I'm such a procrastinator though. I totally get that feeling about LO too. It helps seeing him finally start playing with my friend's babies. I know he'll enjoy a playmate.

judyblume14 pumpkin pie is the best!! That is also what I'm contributing to T-day.

catlady22 FX that your cycle regulates soon.

mayflowers and cheezee and anyone else who needs it---BIG HUGS!

[mayflowers]

@zerozeroone *loss mentioned* if it helps any, my sister had pre e and HELLP with her first pregnancy which was IVF and Twins, lost a twin to NEC and went on to have a healthy pregnancy with no issues and went full term with no pre e/NEC.

[dashook]

BabyStandish I was cramping on and off for weeks before AF came back so FX yours is not far off!!

[monicageller]

Age of LO(s): 3

Circumstances: Nothing special- just trying for #2

Cycle: 2

CD/DPO: 6

RRCS: I got pregnant on the first cycle with barely trying with my son, so I was very dissapponted that it didn't happen the first cycle this time. I tried to be realistic and knew it was unlikely to be so easy- but I was truly shocked with cycle day 1. It took me a couple of days to get over it, but I'm feeling better now.

GTKY- Have you ever made and hosted Thanksgiving or any holiday dinner? Nope! We always go to my parent's and my in-law's. This year my in-laws are doing it on Friday, so I don't have to try and stuff my face twice in one day.

[hurricanerek]

Life got busy so I'm a day late over here.

Age of LO(s): 15 months

Circumstances: ttc next month

Cycle: last TTA cycle

CD/DPO: 14/4

RRCS: FF gave me ch at cd10 which is a bit early but I'm inclined to agree. Hopefully it means that this cycle is short and we can get busy next month.
In other news, dd has been refusing many of her nursing sessions and I think we're nearing the end but I'm still in denial about it. I'm also not sure how weaning is going to affect my cycles.

GTKY- Have you ever made and hosted Thanksgiving or any holiday dinner?
Nope. Our house is too small to host that many people. We do a new year's party every year but we just do apps and drinks rather than a full meal.

[mayflowers]

OPK is almost positive today! I had started getting concerned the very faint line was just residual hcg but today it's much darker than the past few days! Guess that explains my cramping for the past almost week. Can't wait for a regular cycle so I can see if there's a pattern before we can start TTC in February!

[ladytiffany24]

mayflowers YAY! Almost there!

[penguin129]

mayflowers Yay! I would call that a positive.

[penguin129]

sammysam I think switching from OAD to TFAS definitely plays a part in how I am feeling about the process. H really wants DD to be a big sister. She will be a great one. I said we'd try mostly because of him. I agree about the big sister part. I had a traumatic post labor experience so I am wondering if that is why I'm kind just (not even sure what the word is) about the process. I know once I am pregnant I have to get past the 24 hours after labor. Maybe the experience bothers me more than I realize.

[sammysam]

@zerozeroone Your experience sounds terrifying to me! I'm sorry you had so much to deal with after your pregnancy. For me it was labour that was rough. There were some complications that almost killed us both...I find I am freaking out about the idea of something happening to me and DD growing up without me. But even when I get past that, just like you said, there is still another baby to care for. I just don't know that it's what I want. So I completely understand the freaking out! Do you feel yourself starting to lean more in one direction or the other yet?

penguin129 You sound exactly like me. And I totally agree with SO when he says DD would be a great big sister...she would. But I don't know if I'm cut out to be a mother of 2. Do you think part of your blah feeling might be, because you are so attached to DD, you are more worried this time around about something going wrong? I think that's my biggest fear...and because SO is not really around very often due to work and living situations, it is just DD and I...I'm having a hard time picturing that dynamic changing...and I'm not sure I want it to change. How are you feeling about everything now?

[penguin129]

sammysam I think it is more that I'm worried about how things are going to change with the addition of a new LO. H and I had a really good talk last night. I am feeling much better today thank you for asking.

[ameliabird]

mayflowers, so sorry for your loss and surgery

Age of LO(s): 2 today!

Circumstances: ttc #2

Cycle: 2

CD/DPO: CD8

RRCS: see WTO.

GTKY- Have you ever made and hosted Thanksgiving or any holiday dinner? I used to host a "friendsgiving" in college. It was alot of fun. I cooked the turkey and a pie usually and then had friends bring the other side dishes. This last Thanksgiving I co-hosted our family one with my SIL but I only made stuffing and a pie.

[sammysam]

@zerozeroone my feelings are abut the same as yours. I think I am also leaning towards "not at this time"...but it's a hard decision to make. I was not a lover of pregnancy or the newborn stage but I ADORE my toddler. I guess for me I'm having a hard time getting past all the negatives. I would love DD to have a sibling but I worry about my relationship with her changing because of a new baby as well as all the things I will miss out on with her because of a new baby...and because of our ages we really have to decide soon...so I am having a really hard time with this decision.