Do you go to your SO's doctor apps?

[wesleycrusher]

Or do they go to yours? not including pregnancy.

DH sees specialists frequently for a chronic health condition. I've only ever been to 2 appts over the years, and those were only because I had to to drive him to satellite offices.

Now he has to go see a liver specialist and part of me wants to go. Maybe because im in the medical field but I feel like DH never gives me all the info. Like last month he went to see his doctor about an ear infection and then 2 weeks later we get paperwork in the mail for a CT scan of the abdomen that DH didn't even tell me he went for. But then I think its stupid to go since we know more than likely the liver issue is from a medication he takes and is nbd.

I'm debating if I should go or not. Is it weird? do you ever go to appointments with your SO?

[bennyandthejets13]

Nope never went. I don't think I would either unless it was something serious and even then he would have to ask me.

[redbears]

My husband never goes to the doctor, but in your case it seems completely normal for you to go. In hindsight, my husband had a follow up appointment after he had a heart attack (we were only dating at the time) and I wish I had come. He never gives me all the info that I want in some situations. I say go if you'll feel more at ease about it. Doctors can be scary, he may actually want you there too.

[mrsbutt]

I have never gone but he also has never had a serious medical condition or needed to see a specific specialist. I might go to one of those, if he asked me to.

I do make his doctor's appointments because he really gives two shits about his health and I know he needs his yearly physical so I make it and tell him to be there.

[ChickenOnSunday]

I've never gone with him but I do push him to make appointments. The man is awful about taking care of himself.

I see a cardiologist for my heart and an oncologist for my ovary and I've never even thought to have DH come with me.

[theseaword]

Only when I drove him. He has terrible allergic reactions sometimes, so I've gone with him to a few appointments when he was too uncomfortable to drive. He has never gone with me other than for my pregnancy appointments.

[McBenny]

I don't usually but I could and I don't think it weird.

[ceebug]

I don't, but I wouldn't feel weird if he was seeing a specialist. It is always handy to have an extra set of ears or someone else to ask questions that he patient might not have thought of. I don't think it's weird.

[Deleted]

If asked, I would. If not asked, I wouldn't. I guess if I had an inkling that it might be something more serious, I would offer to join him, but wouldn't be offended if he said no.

On the flip side, I wouldn't ask him to come to any of my appointments either.

[ladyviking]

The only ones I've ever been to are specialist appointments. I like going as its a lot of info to take in and it's helpful for me to hear too. He's only ever been with me when pregnant.

[Deleted]

I go to some. The first time he went to a podiatrist he asked me to come because he didn't know what to expect.

Early in our marriage, I was having some health issues, and he went to every appt as moral support.

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Jan 30, 2015 10:10:05 GMT -5 @nonniedee said:

I go to some. The first time he went to a podiatrist he asked me to come because he didn't know what to expect.

Early in our marriage, I was having some health issues, and he went to every appt as moral support.

Also, English is his second language, and he has a thick accent. Sometimes, when he goes by himself, things get lost in translation.

[mymorningcoffee]

DH only went to one. I had a breast cancer scare, so I really needed some support for that appointment in case my results were bad.

I think it would be totally normal to go with your SO to a specialist appointment, and since you are in the medical field it makes even more sense as long as he is OK with it.

[daometjing]

I go to some. Not routine check ups, or minor illnesses, though. Partly it is because I can talk to the doctors and translate things into layman'sterms for him. For example, he hurt his knee recently. He went to the doctor, and can't even repeat the name of the injury. I woildnt feel comfortable making a decision with him about treatment or surgery with incomplete information.

Also, my mother was diagnosed with bladder cancer in 2012. In January of 2013, she went alone to her oncologist alone. She told us all she had a PET scan and everything was fine. The plan was chemo infusions and monitoring for the next year or so. They actually told her it was terminal and she declined further treatment. She made the right decision for her, but we were blindsided when she got sick and we learned how far the cancer had spread. I know my husband is not my mom, and wouldn't keep that sort of information from me, but for now I want to try to go to important appointmentswith him.

[mrsw062610]

I don't go with DH to doctor appointments, but might if it was serious or he wanted me to. He came to all of my doctor appointments when I was pregnant. But doesn't come with me to other appointments. But once again, would if it were serious.

[socomama]

I've only been to one. He had to have surgery to remove a pilonidal cyst, and I needed to know how to care for him afterwards. He came to all my prenatal appointments except for two. He's never come with me for a physical or regular OB check-up.

I would definitely go in your situation, OP.

[pearlofwisdom]

The times he has gone I've taken him.

[numbbears]

I don't, but if he wanted me to go with him, I would.

He hasn't gone for anything serious though.

He sometimes tags along to mine.

[Idani]

Regular appointment, no. When we struggled with IF and we were each seeing specialists and having tests done, yes we went to support each other and have a second set of ears.

[bearfootz]

I've only gone when he's had an injury and I've had to be the driver. I think if he had something serious going on I'd probably ask if I could go with.

[rayray007]

If DH had a chronic or severe condition I would probably go so that we all have the same info, I can help ask questions, and I know what the plan is. But I've never been, and DH has had multiple MRIs and knee surgeries and appts with specialists for his knees and feet (sport injuries).

[lucilleaustero]

nope and nope

[kirotea]

Mine sees a GI doc. If it's just a routine visit, he goes alone. Same for his routine visits with his surgeon. Other than that, I go with him but luckily we haven't had any of those types of visits recently.

All other PCP/therapist visits - he goes by himself. If he were to request my presence, of course I'd be there but he hasn't yet.

[cmonkey]

When mh was diagnosed with MS I went to the first few neurologist appointments because there was a lot to learn. Plus mh was so shaken up about the diagnosis he had trouble remembering questions we wanted to ask and he needed the moral support. Luckily he's done great and all of his appts lately have been routine so I don't go.

He want to maybe 2 OB appts with me at the end of my pregnancy, but that's it.

[empire]

We go them if it makes sense. I have a chronic medical condition and sometimes he has questions for my neurologist. Or if we need to make a decision on something like when he hurt his knee. It was easier to talk out treatment options when we both heard the doctor and could ask questions.

[northernlghts]

Nope, not unless he asks me too

[spooko]

I have, but not always. I don't think there's anything wrong with going, and I would be much more likely to insert myself if I felt like DH wasn't being up front with me.

[thebay]

We just about always go to each other's apts. It's nice to have company and we're both well-versed in the other's medical history.

[thebanich]

I haven't yet. But would if he asked. He has asthma but it is pretty well controlled. If it wasn't I would be stalking him everywhere.

[hedgehog]

Routine physicals, physical therapy, follow-ups, minor illness - no.

Urgent care - varies, depending on illness, level of incapacity (if strep throat and able to drive, no; if unable to walk or drive, yes).

Specialist appointments (neurologist consult), pre-surgical appointments - yes, if feasible with scheduling.