Are you finding out?

[housecarder]

Dec 14, 2015 16:18:22 GMT -5 TheTuna15 said:

housecarder, but he is wearing the shit out of that tiara. I tell MH all the time that kids will like whatever as long as no one makes a big deal over what they "should" like

Oh he rocks it. H is awesome about letting the kids like whatever they want. He says if we let our daughter like "boy" stuff then we should do the same for our son. I told him about this thread and he said if someone ever commented about his son wearing pink the convo would go like this:
Random person: What a cute little girl!
H: He's actually a boy.
RP: But he's wearing pink.
H: Yes, but I'm pretty sure his penis is still intact despite that.

[beebe918]

Dec 14, 2015 15:23:51 GMT -5 housecarder said:

And if someone losses interest in my pregnancy just because there is no more suspense or info to find out then I don't care. 

Seriously, I don't even get that excited about names/sex, if anything I want to see pictures of the little baby!

[sarcaztic10]

Dec 14, 2015 16:23:12 GMT -5 housecarder said:

Dec 14, 2015 16:18:22 GMT -5 TheTuna15 said:

housecarder, but he is wearing the shit out of that tiara. I tell MH all the time that kids will like whatever as long as no one makes a big deal over what they "should" like

Oh he rocks it. H is awesome about letting the kids like whatever they want. He says if we let our daughter like "boy" stuff then we should do the same for our son. I told him about this thread and he said if someone ever commented about his son wearing pink the convo would go like this:
Random person: What a cute little girl!
H: He's actually a boy.
RP: But he's wearing pink.
H: Yes, but I'm pretty sure his penis is still intact despite that.

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DS is really in to My Little Pony stuff (believe it or not it's also a show that doesn't make me want to rip off my ears) and we could care less aside from when the catchy songs get stuck in our heads but even that was more tolerable than the Dora phase... Toys and clothes do not define a person. Whether this LO is a girl or boy (we don't care either way) we will still be reusing DS's baby stuff as long as it is still good.

[housecarder]

Dec 14, 2015 18:48:19 GMT -5 sarcaztic10 said:

Dec 14, 2015 16:23:12 GMT -5 housecarder said:

Oh he rocks it. H is awesome about letting the kids like whatever they want. He says if we let our daughter like "boy" stuff then we should do the same for our son. I told him about this thread and he said if someone ever commented about his son wearing pink the convo would go like this:
Random person: What a cute little girl!
H: He's actually a boy.
RP: But he's wearing pink.
H: Yes, but I'm pretty sure his penis is still intact despite that.

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DS is really in to My Little Pony stuff (believe it or not it's also a show that doesn't make me want to rip off my ears) and we could care less aside from when the catchy songs get stuck in our heads but even that was more tolerable than the Dora phase... Toys and clothes do not define a person. Whether this LO is a girl or boy (we don't care either way) we will still be reusing DS's baby stuff as long as it is still good.

Funny enough DS set me straight once while we were shopping. He picked up some onesies and was like "We need these for my babies". One had monsters and the other had skulls. I said "What if they are girls?" And he responded "Girls can wear pirates and monsters too." Fair enough.
And MLP is one of the few shows that H loves to watch with the kids.

[dscarr]

Dec 13, 2015 21:39:28 GMT -5 rungirlrun said:

Team green all the way! Did the same for DS, and hearing H say we had a son right after I delivered was such an awesome special experience. Made the birth so much more exciting in my opinion. And plus we received so many gender neutral baby gifts that we can reuse for this one even if we have a girl.

All this a million times! Except with DD after 31+ hours of labor my husband was way out of it when the doctor held her up and said look dad! He just starred like he didn't understand what she was trying to get him to understand. I was a bit over it at that point, so it was me who said that it was a girl. 

[hobbesgal]

I'll keep this short and sweet: yes, we're finding out.

[dscarr]

harlowjune1984, I feel like I could've written this word for word. The part about losing interest in pregnancies after they announce the name and gender is spot on the money for me. 

[sarcaztic10]

Dec 14, 2015 18:53:51 GMT -5 housecarder said:

Dec 14, 2015 18:48:19 GMT -5 sarcaztic10 said:

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DS is really in to My Little Pony stuff (believe it or not it's also a show that doesn't make me want to rip off my ears) and we could care less aside from when the catchy songs get stuck in our heads but even that was more tolerable than the Dora phase... Toys and clothes do not define a person. Whether this LO is a girl or boy (we don't care either way) we will still be reusing DS's baby stuff as long as it is still good.

Funny enough DS set me straight once while we were shopping. He picked up some onesies and was like "We need these for my babies". One had monsters and the other had skulls. I said "What if they are girls?" And he responded "Girls can wear pirates and monsters too." Fair enough.
And MLP is one of the few shows that H loves to watch with the kids.

Every time I mention that I don't mind that DS loves MLP to other moms of boys they give me the craziest looks. Then I have to explain that the writer for MLP is really good and that the characters have actual personalities. I don't think I am converting anyone but DS still loves them.

Although we had a bullying incident at his school earlier this year regarding him liking MLP and I was really crushed that at 5 there were already mean kids with closed minds. DS's teacher was awesome about it and DS decided not to bring his MLP stuffed animals out in public. It still upsets me that it happened but I know that he had to learn about bullies at some point.

[TheTuna15]

Dec 14, 2015 19:55:24 GMT -5 sarcaztic10 said:

Dec 14, 2015 18:53:51 GMT -5 housecarder said:

Funny enough DS set me straight once while we were shopping. He picked up some onesies and was like "We need these for my babies". One had monsters and the other had skulls. I said "What if they are girls?" And he responded "Girls can wear pirates and monsters too." Fair enough.
And MLP is one of the few shows that H loves to watch with the kids.

Every time I mention that I don't mind that DS loves MLP to other moms of boys they give me the craziest looks. Then I have to explain that the writer for MLP is really good and that the characters have actual personalities. I don't think I am converting anyone but DS still loves them.

Although we had a bullying incident at his school earlier this year regarding him liking MLP and I was really crushed that at 5 there were already mean kids with closed minds. DS's teacher was awesome about it and DS decided not to bring his MLP stuffed animals out in public. It still upsets me that it happened but I know that he had to learn about bullies at some point.

Aww. I'm sorry that he had a bad experience with that. It makes me sad that at 5 he wouldn't want to bring out some of his toys. MLP is awesome and friendship is fucking magic. Actually, there's a whole subset of MLP fans that are all teenage and adult dudes and they're called bronies. I don't see why a little boy wouldn't enjoy the show. 

[bluedot]

We will find out. We did last time as the a/s around 20w, and will do the same this time. The room will be pretty much gender neutral, but I just have no patience and want to be ready either way. We haven't really talked names yet, so I think knowing will help with that.

[jewelsofthenile]

I didn't want to find out but my husband did and the day of the ultrasound I really didn't see the point of waiting. I would like to wait this time but who knows I may change my mind at the last minute before the AS

[prvc678]

I have no clue as of right now. Due to my history, more information is usually better and eases my anxiety quite a bit. But before we ever had kids I always wanted to be Team Green. I couldn't convince DH with our first, and coming off a late-term loss with her, I needed to know ASAP whether to expect the same sex or not so I could emotionally prepare myself. This may be my last pregnancy, and I still do have that desire to have a Team Green baby, I just don't know if my emotions can handle it.

[comicSans]

What is this about people losing interest? I have 0 cares if anyone beside dh is interested in my pregnancy or not.

[prvc678]

Dec 14, 2015 20:49:16 GMT -5 comicSans said:

What is this about people losing interest? I have 0 cares if anyone beside dh is interested in my pregnancy or not.

Thumbs up. I give no fucks whether anyone else cares about my pregnancy.

[harlowjune1984]

I never said there was anything wrong with someone of the opposite gender using something that leans towards another gender was wrong. Not once. I hate pink and all things frilly, so yes, I wanted to avoid tons of pink and frilly gifts if I was having a girl. I have no issues with my kid wearing TMNT, or "boy" clothes, or now wearing (some) pink.

And I don't give that whole response every time someone asks me why we are Team Green. I wrote it out on here because the OP asked why we were choosing to be one or the other.

[lovegrilledcheese]

I'm team finding out. Because of IF and are previous loss I'm having trouble allowing myself to get excited and become connected with our baby. I feel if I know it will help me connect with our baby more.

[Deleted]

Dec 14, 2015 12:00:35 GMT -5 harlowjune1984 said:

Dec 14, 2015 10:53:34 GMT -5 cavewmn said:

Holy cow harlowjune1984 that is quite a thought out list.

I always feel like I have to explain it, because most of the time when I would say "we want it to be a surprise" we would have someone shoot back with "it's a surprise at 20 weeks too!" We have a lot of reasons behind not finding out, so when people ask, now they get the whole explanation from our end.

NEWSFLASH!!!

[littlesthobo]

We found out with DS and will be finding out with this one at the anatomy scan. Last time I felt like Rachel on Friends when the tech pointed to the screen and said, "you see that little turtle there?" And I was like, "No! What? Where? Are you saying it's a boy?"

[risscaboobs]

Dec 14, 2015 21:37:14 GMT -5 @no1curr said:

Dec 14, 2015 12:00:35 GMT -5 harlowjune1984 said:

I always feel like I have to explain it, because most of the time when I would say "we want it to be a surprise" we would have someone shoot back with "it's a surprise at 20 weeks too!" We have a lot of reasons behind not finding out, so when people ask, now they get the whole explanation from our end.

NEWSFLASH!!!

LOL

[ginabini]

I'm totally late to this party... We are 100% finding out! I am very much a "must know all the things" FTM! haha

[tikoberry99]

We wanted to be team green but my RE nurse told me our embryos were both boys when our genetic testing results came in. There is a 1% chance the test is wrong. So I tell people it's a boy and he has a brother on ice.

[rungirlrun]

Dec 15, 2015 12:55:34 GMT -5 tikoberry99 said:

We wanted to be team green but my RE nurse told me our embryos were both boys when our genetic testing results came in. There is a 1% chance the test is wrong. So I tell people it's a boy and he has a brother on ice.

Did the nurse not know you didn't want to find out the sex?  If a nurse/dr/technician slips and tells us the sex, I will be pissed (I feel very strongly about being team green; you may not so maybe it wasn't a big deal).  When I had DS, the only person who knew the sex was the technician at my anatomy scan, but she didn't say anything and it was never written down so I'm sure she didn't care.  None of the midwives knew so I knew it wouldn't slip.  We moved this summer so I'm being seen elsewhere so hopefully only the A/S technician will know this time around as well.

[tikoberry99]

Dec 15, 2015 16:28:49 GMT -5 rungirlrun said:

Dec 15, 2015 12:55:34 GMT -5 tikoberry99 said:

We wanted to be team green but my RE nurse told me our embryos were both boys when our genetic testing results came in. There is a 1% chance the test is wrong. So I tell people it's a boy and he has a brother on ice.

Did the nurse not know you didn't want to find out the sex?  If a nurse/dr/technician slips and tells us the sex, I will be pissed (I feel very strongly about being team green; you may not so maybe it wasn't a big deal).  When I had DS, the only person who knew the sex was the technician at my anatomy scan, but she didn't say anything and it was never written down so I'm sure she didn't care.  None of the midwives knew so I knew it wouldn't slip.  We moved this summer so I'm being seen elsewhere so hopefully only the A/S technician will know this time around as well.

I assumed the nurse would ask if we wanted to know the sex so I never told them we wanted to be team green. I answered the phone and she blurted out "you have to normal boys!" I had to pull over and have myself a long cry. I couldn't believe she didn't ask me first if I wanted to know. Uggg well we know so for the past 3 months I've been buying boy stuff lol.

[housecarder]

Dec 15, 2015 17:58:37 GMT -5 tikoberry99 said:

Dec 15, 2015 16:28:49 GMT -5 rungirlrun said:

Did the nurse not know you didn't want to find out the sex?  If a nurse/dr/technician slips and tells us the sex, I will be pissed (I feel very strongly about being team green; you may not so maybe it wasn't a big deal).  When I had DS, the only person who knew the sex was the technician at my anatomy scan, but she didn't say anything and it was never written down so I'm sure she didn't care.  None of the midwives knew so I knew it wouldn't slip.  We moved this summer so I'm being seen elsewhere so hopefully only the A/S technician will know this time around as well.

I assumed the nurse would ask if we wanted to know the sex so I never told them we wanted to be team green. I answered the phone and she blurted out "you have to normal boys!" I had to pull over and have myself a long cry. I couldn't believe she didn't ask me first if I wanted to know. Uggg well we know so for the past 3 months I've been buying boy stuff lol.

I'm still irritated for you about all this! But I'm glad you can buy all the boy stuff.

[beebe918]

Dec 15, 2015 18:30:08 GMT -5 housecarder said:

Dec 15, 2015 17:58:37 GMT -5 tikoberry99 said:

I assumed the nurse would ask if we wanted to know the sex so I never told them we wanted to be team green. I answered the phone and she blurted out "you have to normal boys!" I had to pull over and have myself a long cry. I couldn't believe she didn't ask me first if I wanted to know. Uggg well we know so for the past 3 months I've been buying boy stuff lol.

I'm still irritated for you about all this! 

Me too! Did you ever say anything to anyone at the practice about it?

[rungirlrun]

Dec 15, 2015 17:58:37 GMT -5 tikoberry99 said:

Dec 15, 2015 16:28:49 GMT -5 rungirlrun said:

Did the nurse not know you didn't want to find out the sex?  If a nurse/dr/technician slips and tells us the sex, I will be pissed (I feel very strongly about being team green; you may not so maybe it wasn't a big deal).  When I had DS, the only person who knew the sex was the technician at my anatomy scan, but she didn't say anything and it was never written down so I'm sure she didn't care.  None of the midwives knew so I knew it wouldn't slip.  We moved this summer so I'm being seen elsewhere so hopefully only the A/S technician will know this time around as well.

I assumed the nurse would ask if we wanted to know the sex so I never told them we wanted to be team green. I answered the phone and she blurted out "you have to normal boys!" I had to pull over and have myself a long cry. I couldn't believe she didn't ask me first if I wanted to know. Uggg well we know so for the past 3 months I've been buying boy stuff lol.

I'm also frustrated for you :-( If it was me, I'd probably say something to the practice. Not that it will change your situation but maybe prevent it from happening to someone else. But I'm glad for healthy babies for you!

[daometjing]

We will be finding out. I'm too impatient not to know.

[ellebelle]

We found out last time with DD. It helped me connect with the pregnancy since I was having a tough time being PgAL.

This time we will find out again. And we technically could know now. Our IVF nurse knows but I asked her not to tell us yet. I want to make it through first tri before thinking about anything else. We do know that of our 5 embryos, 3 were boys and 2 were girls, so slightly higher chance of boy than girl this time.

[katelou]

@tikoberry99 that is awful of her! I hope you gave them an earful over that!
I'm sorry you don't get the surprise you wanted but congrats on your son

[icaughtfire]

We're definitely finding out. I'm a control freak and I need to know all the things. Surprises are the fucking woooorst.