Post by jennaleigh23 on Dec 31, 2015 5:00:25 GMT -5
Was wondering how you ladies would handle a paternal grandpa really pushing boundaries. My son's father lives with his own father and doesn't drive so grandpa drives him most places.
Mostly ever since I got pregnant dad hasn't really wanted to be involveD but grandpa has been pushing for him to be involved. Grandpa announced my pregnancy on fb when I was only 9 weeks along and hadn't even told most of my family.
He posts pictures of my son without permission.. he showed up at mediation expecting to be involved basically in negotiations as a parent. He does the bulk of the parenting when my son is over there and also the majority of the communication. Basically I'm Co parenting with grandpa and despite this, dad keeps getting more and more time for visits.
So as per our new mediation agreement I'm supposed to inform dad of any upcoming appointments and my son has his 6 month check up in a month. I was discussing it yesterday with dad at a pick up and grandpa chimes in "yeah that sounds good we should be able to make it."
I feel like this is really pushing the extent of his involvement and that if dad wants to parent then all the power to him but that I shouldn't be losing time with my son for his grandpa to be parenting him. I also struggle to see the three of us all attending a dr appt. Like are we all three going to go to parent teacher interviews?
I have had discussions with dad, lawyers and mediators about grandpa's involvement and everyone agrees he needs to take a step back and he does for a week or two and then he's right back to old ways.
I'd love some advice on how to handle this and also keep the somewhat peace that we have. When I have stepped in and tried to ask that dad do the parenting instead of him he becomes really rude at exchanges and even goes off about me on social media to the rest of liams extended family. It doesn't keep me up at night but I know the more grandpa is mad at me the more alienating will be done when they do have my son.
Mostly ever since I got pregnant dad hasn't really wanted to be involveD but grandpa has been pushing for him to be involved. Grandpa announced my pregnancy on fb when I was only 9 weeks along and hadn't even told most of my family.
He posts pictures of my son without permission.. he showed up at mediation expecting to be involved basically in negotiations as a parent. He does the bulk of the parenting when my son is over there and also the majority of the communication. Basically I'm Co parenting with grandpa and despite this, dad keeps getting more and more time for visits.
So as per our new mediation agreement I'm supposed to inform dad of any upcoming appointments and my son has his 6 month check up in a month. I was discussing it yesterday with dad at a pick up and grandpa chimes in "yeah that sounds good we should be able to make it."
I feel like this is really pushing the extent of his involvement and that if dad wants to parent then all the power to him but that I shouldn't be losing time with my son for his grandpa to be parenting him. I also struggle to see the three of us all attending a dr appt. Like are we all three going to go to parent teacher interviews?
I have had discussions with dad, lawyers and mediators about grandpa's involvement and everyone agrees he needs to take a step back and he does for a week or two and then he's right back to old ways.
I'd love some advice on how to handle this and also keep the somewhat peace that we have. When I have stepped in and tried to ask that dad do the parenting instead of him he becomes really rude at exchanges and even goes off about me on social media to the rest of liams extended family. It doesn't keep me up at night but I know the more grandpa is mad at me the more alienating will be done when they do have my son.