I have a little name problem

[la79al]

My 4 year old picked a name to call the baby until it is born.  Except now we are starting to talk about names for after it is born and nothing seems right.  Like in my mind, this baby is a boy and his name is the name that DD picked.  I think if it is a girl, I can move past it to a new name but at this point boy names just aren't sounding right.  Tell me that once this baby is born, I will get over this, stop feeling like a name traitor and we can pick a real name.  FWIW, the current name is nothing like peanut or baby bear or anything like that but not really a real name either.  

[orangepickle]

Soooo... What is it?

[la79al]

I didn't want to share, buuuut, it's Starry, like Starry Night.  Like I said, she's 4.  Help?

[staccajaye]

So you think you will call your baby Starry Night once born?

[mpiemont]

You're considering naming the baby Starry? But only if it's a boy?


(yay I get to use my favorite gif)

Please don't.

I think your 4 year old will get over it if you name the baby a real actual name. She can call him that as a nickname or term of endearment. You aren't a name traitor.

[CTri17]

I would just start asking your 4 yo names that you also would be ok with, that way if they choose a name you won't hate it

[honeylemon]

I see no problem.

Because you know you're NOT going to give your child a name that your four year old came up with.

Use it as a nickname and give the kid a real name.

[la79al]

No, I can't use Starry for either.  And my 4 year old is well aware that the baby gets a new name once it is born and she is fine with that.  But I feel like we call it Starry so often, that is really it's name.  I can't even think of a good name that Starry would be a nickname for.  I really think the baby will continue to be Starry after birth, even though it is nowhere near it's real name.  

[stargazerlily]

NMS, but I've heard of Star for a girls' name. My best friend named her daughter Skylar, what about that or Skye? Starts with S and sky/star related?
ETA: These suggestions are meant more for a girl. Although I have heard of boy Skylars.

[amelandre]

Jan 31, 2015 22:29:59 GMT -5 @gfj48 said:

I had a coworker named Starlin

An elementary school friend's mom's name was Starling. Starling Gaye Last-Name which we found hysterical in 5th grade.

[lgsdesigner]

Just allow your 4 yr old to nickname him/her Starry. Once you have the real name, gently get her used to it, and eventually, she will just use that.
My son used to call Lydia (when she was still in utero) "Snuggle Bug". He stopped once he learned the real name.

[honeylemon]

Ok after thinking about it some more, I have a suggestion.

Stellan

It is a legitimate Nordic (Swedish I believe) masculine name and if I recall correctly, the meaning is something celestial/star related. You could name him Stellan and still use Starry as a nickname.

[Poppy]

You have to name it something and it can't be starry. So it seems like you just have to start trying out names that you are considering until one sticks.

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Jan 31, 2015 23:12:27 GMT -5 @allybells said:

Jan 31, 2015 23:11:45 GMT -5 honeylemon said:

Ok after thinking about it some more, I have a suggestion.

Stellan

It is a legitimate Nordic (Swedish I believe) masculine name and if I recall correctly, the meaning is something celestial/star related. You could name him Stellan and still use Starry as a nickname.

I like this!!

Me too!

[veenie]

I don't think there is anything wrong with the nm not being derived from the real name. I call DD all sorts of things that have no connection to her name, it's just between me and her.

I do like Stellan though!

[staccajaye]

Jan 31, 2015 22:40:30 GMT -5 alwayslastzz said:

One of my friends married a stripper named Star.

Of Course he did

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Feb 1, 2015 8:47:22 GMT -5 staccajaye said:

Jan 31, 2015 22:40:30 GMT -5 alwayslastzz said:

One of my friends married a stripper named Star.

Of Course he did

Stripper names are always acceptable name, I mean Star and/or Starry is perfect it's so Van Gogh.

*sarcasam*

[smilesp]

Feb 1, 2015 8:46:44 GMT -5 petrichor said:

DS wanted to name this baby Larry, which I immediately vetoed.
So he asked if we could call him Baby Larry for now. Everyone in our life refers to him as Larry except dh who is convinced everyone will call him Larry when he's born. I'm not concerned because we won't use that name. DS is attached to it but once this LO is born he'll have a new identity.

I called DS Knuffle Bunny while in utero and never once called him that when he was born.

Sometimes we call ours Baby Larry too because of our last name. Too funny!

[jentull]

Jan 31, 2015 22:43:16 GMT -5 @gfj48 said:

Jan 31, 2015 22:40:58 GMT -5 lgsdesigner said:

Just allow your 4 yr old to nickname him/her Starry. Once you have the real name, gently get her used to it, and eventually, she will just use that.
My son used to call Lydia (when she was still in utero) "Snuggle Bug". He stopped once he learned the real name.

or they'll call their sibling that forever! my cousin (basically a brother) was called pook in utero...I still call him that and he's 24.

^^ this. My DH was called Boog in utero BC he was dancing so much ("put on my boogie shoes") they still call him Boog...sometimes nn stick. I refuse to call him that.

[snapdragon]

Well, if it's a girl, there is a Hebrew name Atara with the nickname Tari. It's a legit name meaning crown.

[mariisz]

On another thread you posted that your daughter named the baby Violet? So which one is it?

[ilovejosh]

Feb 1, 2015 10:02:45 GMT -5 snapdragon said:

Well, if it's a girl, there is a Hebrew name Atara with the nickname Tari. It's a legit name meaning crown.

Atara is such a cool warrior princes sounding name! That's def going on my guilty pleasure names list for the future

[amelandre]

Jan 31, 2015 23:11:45 GMT -5 honeylemon said:

Ok after thinking about it some more, I have a suggestion.

Stellan

It is a legitimate Nordic (Swedish I believe) masculine name and if I recall correctly, the meaning is something celestial/star related. You could name him Stellan and still use Starry as a nickname.

Stellan Skarsgård is one of my favorite actors. Anyone else seen Girl With the Dragon Tattoo? He played Martin Vanger.

Also, a nn doesn't have to have anything to do with their given name. We call my niece (real name Evelyn) Baby Bug or Bug all the time because that's what my older niece decided to call her.

[evpwed]

According to my parents, my older brother desperately wanted me to be named Margarita and even refused to use my real name for awhile. He got over it and I thank my Mom all the time for NOT naming me that. You are not a name traitor, you just haven't found the right name yet. Just keep searching and trying things out.

[snapdragon]

Feb 1, 2015 10:35:20 GMT -5 ilovejosh said:

Feb 1, 2015 10:02:45 GMT -5 snapdragon said:

Well, if it's a girl, there is a Hebrew name Atara with the nickname Tari. It's a legit name meaning crown.

Atara is such a cool warrior princes sounding name! That's def going on my guilty pleasure names list for the future

I actually know quite a few Taris, and one Rachelle Atara. You know...I never considered it before but now that you mention it I think it's going on my list!

[sarahchrismck]

Sounds like your new baby will have a cute nn from older sister - I think that's kind of sweet. But I agree with others, that shouldn't be the baby's name. You just haven't found the right name yet, or maybe you need to see your baby to make the naming decision.

Side note, my 5-year-old niece keeps calling my baby "Sunshine Sparkle," because she thinks that's what I should name him. She'll get over it when he's born and we tell her what his name will be.

[shmee]

Feb 1, 2015 9:51:56 GMT -5 jentull said:

Jan 31, 2015 22:43:16 GMT -5 @gfj48 said:

or they'll call their sibling that forever! my cousin (basically a brother) was called pook in utero...I still call him that and he's 24.

^^ this. My DH was called Boog in utero BC he was dancing so much ("put on my boogie shoes") they still call him Boog...sometimes nn stick. I refuse to call him that.

We call my daughter Boogs. Sometimes nicknames do just stick.

The first few months of her life we called her Peen (short for peanut) so I think Boogs is an improvement

[amelandre]

Feb 1, 2015 12:53:21 GMT -5 sarahchrismck said:

Sounds like your new baby will have a cute nn from older sister - I think that's kind of sweet. But I agree with others, that shouldn't be the baby's name. You just haven't found the right name yet, or maybe you need to see your baby to make the naming decision.

Side note, my 5-year-old niece keeps calling my baby "Sunshine Sparkle," because she thinks that's what I should name him. She'll get over it when he's born and we tell her what his name will be.

My 4yo niece wants this baby to be Rainbow Rose if it's a girl, if it's a boy, we are to name it Harry Potter or Pirate Tangerine.

DH says he'll consider Rainbow Pirate for either. Lol

[tomatopie]

I have a friend that named her boy Stellan. I feel like thats kind of a galactic name.

[freddyisready]

You will get over the name-traitor feeling after the baby is born and you start calling the baby his or her real name. You have started a habit and it might take a month or 2 to break. It's better than naming your kid Starry Night though.