No one is allowed to stay with us the first 2 weeks. If DH's mother insists on visiting (even though she has shown no interest what so ever for our pregnancy) she is staying in a hotel. Luckily dh agrees.
She would be one to expect to be waited on while she took care of the baby....
cocobellaf, I agree with everyone else. Visitors were about the last thing I wanted in the few weeks after having the baby. My parents and ILs came over frequently but only stayed an hour or so each time. You are really going to want time alone with your little family to establish a routine in those first few weeks. If your MIL is loud and overbearing she is going to be about the last person you want around. When I was pregnant with DS my ILs mentioned wanting to come over and do laundry, clean etc. I had to have H have a convo with them and set some ground rules. No stopping by unannounced etc. You, your H and your baby are a family now and parents and ILs are secondary. You want to start that precedent now not when you are on your last nerve. Your H is going to have to get behind you and manage his mother though.
The weather turned here and it snowed this morning. And after shivering for the last week at BIL's I have no interest in being cold...so I brought a space heater to work with me and I have it blowing glorious warm air on myself. I feel like my grandma was in her 90s...cranking the heat up into the 80s.
Is anyone else experiencing poor circulation? Or am I just super odd?
The weather turned here and it snowed this morning. And after shivering for the last week at BIL's I have no interest in being cold...so I brought a space heater to work with me and I have it blowing glorious warm air on myself. I feel like my grandma was in her 90s...cranking the heat up into the 80s.
Is anyone else experiencing poor circulation? Or am I just super odd?
It snowed here this morning too, just a tiny bit. It was so weird though I was not expecting snow after it being 75 degrees 10 days ago.
She wants to come stay for 2 weeks before the baby and then for a few weeks after. I say no. H says, she can stay for a little while. I say, NO. We'll see. Maybe I can handle up to a week.
This is/would be a hard rule for me. I personally don't want anyone staying with us after the birth. I will have too much on my plate already without having to worry about hosting anyone else. Not sure if your MIL is anything like mine but with mine I would be expected to still be a good host to them and have a clean house etc and that is just not going to happen. Also, I like that time to bond with the baby as a family without anyone else.
Maybe you could compromise and say that she can visit for a week after you have been home as a family for two or three weeks. By that time you will havea bit of a pattern down and you will be more comfortable.
Yep, I didn't want anyone staying with me after DS was born. My in-laws and parents came down to meet the baby in the hospital but stayed in a hotel. They all brought food, and my mom did some cleaning of my house while I was in the hospital which was all appreciated. No one is my family is overly pushy, but I wanted time to adjust to being a family of 3 without houseguests. It was awesome bc my mom actually suggested this and said she'd only stay if I wanted her to, and my in-laws never overstep boundaries so they were pretty understanding.
The weather turned here and it snowed this morning. And after shivering for the last week at BIL's I have no interest in being cold...so I brought a space heater to work with me and I have it blowing glorious warm air on myself. I feel like my grandma was in her 90s...cranking the heat up into the 80s.
Is anyone else experiencing poor circulation? Or am I just super odd?
Not super odd. My one gf was freezing all of the time when she was pregnant. On the other hand, I'm in the midst of a constant hot flash. So I totally went out today, in 30 degree weather, with no jacket.
Hiya. I am having a really hard time being back. I was really anxious all day yesterday and barely slept last night. Thank goodness for a half day Thursday. 10 weeks until March break. And then 14 until summer break. That is how I am going to mentally get through this.
I feel like I could've written this word for word...even the half day on Thursday part. I had teacher nightmares last night.
housecarder , Oh Lord no. I haven't seen this done, but you never know.
Hopefully it's just because his family is old school superstitious. Like roll an egg on their head if they have a fever and then crack it open and "read" the yolk superstitious. I have a pic of my DD when she was like 8 months old with a small piece of paper stuck to her head because they lick it and put it on her forehead to get rid of hiccups. It worked, but I think it was because it shocked her.
Woah... I find other cultures fascinating, but... Woah.
housecarder , Oh Lord no. I haven't seen this done, but you never know.
Hopefully it's just because his family is old school superstitious. Like roll an egg on their head if they have a fever and then crack it open and "read" the yolk superstitious. I have a pic of my DD when she was like 8 months old with a small piece of paper stuck to her head because they lick it and put it on her forehead to get rid of hiccups. It worked, but I think it was because it shocked her.
Woah... I find other cultures fascinating, but... Woah.
madamewaffles , Thanks! It is just that she has a big goose egg on her forehead. The on-call doc gave us the symptoms and let us know when we would need to bring her in and I see toddlers all of the time with goose eggs, so somewhere in the back of my head I knew it would happen on day...but I still feel so bad! Of course, 5 minutes after it happened and while we are all fussing over her, she just wanted to be onto the next activity.
Don't feel bad! Kids get some crazy bumps and bruises, and it is always when you least expect it!
Last Nov, I was in the laundry room and DD was upstairs (she was 3 at the time). All of a sudden, I heard weird thumping and by the time I got out of the laundry room and to the stairs to see what she was doing, she was already at the bottom of the stairs, laying face down, with a busted lip and blood everywhere. She has always been so careful when it came to the stairs, so I was shocked that she fell down them! It happened around 8:30 at night, and I watched her all night long and through the morning. Checking for any sign of concussion, asking her questions (always got the correct answer), having her walk in straight lines, everything. The next morning, she had a huge purple line across the bridge of her nose, looked like her lip got in a fight with Rocky, but other than that seemed fine. So I got her ready, sent her to preschool, and around 11am (30min before pick up), got a call that she turned white, her eyes rolled back in her head, she was moaning, and she threw up all over the carpet in the classroom. We ended up in the ER, with a concussion, and I felt like mother of the year. But I had to cut myself some slack, because she passed every test I gave her, every time I gave it, and didn't have any symptoms until over 12 hours later.
I got the call from my dr while I was at lunch and missed it, NNOOOOO!!! And now they're closed for lunch so I have to wait an entire hour to call back. Someone please knock me out and wake me up in an hour, I can't handle the suspense!
Where in the hell are you that it's that cold? And have you built an igloo yet?
I was going to be all smart and say that's Celsius so not that cold Fahrenheit-wise, but then I did the math, and it's still -18 degrees F! Omg. Ray, keep us posted that you are still alive and don't freeze to death!
Where in the hell are you that it's that cold? And have you built an igloo yet?
I was going to be all smart and say that's Celsius so not that cold Fahrenheit-wise, but then I did the math, and it's still -18 degrees F! Omg. Ray, keep us posted that you are still alive and don't freeze to death!
Halfway through typing I had to stop and think, wait Celsius.... Then I was like, nope, still way too fucking cold. I imagine if you don't have an attached garage you must just have to set yourself on fire to go out to your car.
Ray, But I totally imagine that everyone in Ontario is still really nice to each other when it's cold. Because I live in a reality where Canadians are really nice versions of Americans. But in NJ as soon as the temp drops below 30 we're all telling each other off in the parking lot of babies r us.
harlowjune1984 That is one terrifying story! But like you said, you gave her every test and she passed. I understand that I am not going to be able to prevent every fall..but I still don't like that I can't. As for this fall, I slept in her room last night again and she was fine. In fact, the swelling was totally gone this morning and the bruise really isn't that bad - it is mostly yellow now and I think it will be completely gone by the end of the week.
Ugh trying to find cheap, easy to put in, no balls, no orings, an no piercer required jewelry is making me angry. Just shot my segment ring piece across the room.... Doubt I will ever find it again. Lol
My almost two year old has been up every hour since midnight. He has been STTN for a while but had a total regression and I'm at my wits end. I have no idea what to do
Ray, But I totally imagine that everyone in Ontario is still really nice to each other when it's cold. Because I live in a reality where Canadians are really nice versions of Americans. But in NJ as soon as the temp drops below 30 we're all telling each other off in the parking lot of babies r us.
This makes me sad the first day it snowed before we had our snow-blower a neighbour I don't know came and did my big-ass driveway for me.
Ahhh post baby visitors. First time around we only had a few family visitors at the hospital. I didn't want too many people coming there because I just felt gross. Looking back I would rather have people at the hospital instead of coming to our house. There was just never a "good time" for people to come. Unless you were my in laws.
We got home late Saturday evening and they had already decided they would come over Sunday morning because H's Grandma HAD TO SEE THE BABY RIGHT AWAY.
I think it will be different this time around because my MIL knows we will be doing what is best for us. She told me at like 8 weeks pp that I need to stop breastfeeding and let someone else feed DS for a change. My nipples hurt a little less after she said that.
Ray, That's so nice. We're on good terms with all of our immediate neighbors. But as a general rule strangers all hate each other. It's very weird.
Are we going to keep the Randoms weekly or switch to daily Randoms? Maybe people will post more on what's going on with their bad selves if we had an every day style check in. Or it could be that I'm just used to that on my other BMB and people will just start hanging around more later in the game.
MIL will be staying at her sister's house. Problem solved. WHEW.
Went to the OB yesterday, diagnosed with IBS. Hopefully getting it under control will alleviate all the sickness. HOPEFULLY. I'm really crossing my fingers and toes.
MIL will be staying at her sister's house. Problem solved. WHEW.
Went to the OB yesterday, diagnosed with IBS. Hopefully getting it under control will alleviate all the sickness. HOPEFULLY. I'm really crossing my fingers and toes.
Nice work! Is she still planning on staying for a month?
Sorry about your diagnoses, but I'm glad you have some answers. Did you get a chance to talk with your OB about anxiety? I've been thinking about you lately.
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