2.0 Mama venting

[pearlvirus]

I don't think I'm competent enough to take on the actual check-in but I need to complain today! Maybe we should start with sharing our 2.0s birthday or EDD?

lakecountrygal
younglove316
katka512
@kellbell
fishbulb
fish8412
mrssmith613
@babylentilbean
RandomName
newmomma8

Is that how this is done?!?

[pearlvirus]

DD1 was due in April but came March 29, so I didn't actually participate in this board during my pregnancy, lol.
DD2 cam November 5, making them just over 19 months apart and making her officially 2 months old today!!
I am having the hardest time caring for both of them. I don't know why we ever thought 2u2 would be a good idea. DD1 is SO high needs, she requires near constant attention and has been getting her canines in for the last 2 weeks and so hasn't been sleeping well. Plus DD2 has her THIRD cold and isn't sleeping either. All this sickness makes preschool seem not worth it, although she loves it and I love having a couple hours off from her :/
Also a little about me: I'm 32, currently a SAHM and living in WI.

[younglove316]

DD1 was born on March 7th & DD2 was born on November 13th so they are just over 20 months apart. I'm lucky that DD1 can play indepently for awhile but I will admit we have let her watch more tv than I would like.

95% of the time, DD2 will not let me put her down during the day so I feel like constantly holding her which makes me feel guilty that I'm not giving DD1 just 1 on 1 time. She also has reflux and the last two days have been terrible with the spit up. She is just soaking herself & me constantly and I feel like I constantly smell :/ I'm currently waiting on a call back from the pedi but right now I just feel so overwhelmed and frustrated.

Like you pearlvirus, my husband and I have wondered why we thought 2u2 would be a great idea. I think once DD2 starts becoming more mobile and interactive that it will get a lot better but right now I'm just lost. I don't even know the right word to describe how I'm feeling anymore.

[katka512]

DD1 and DD2 will be almost exactly 2 years apart. My EDD is 2/26. I'm scared lol
Everyone I've talked to says it's very hard in the beginning but that they're glad they have their kids close together. I'm hanging onto that because I know we'll have some rough days ahead.
I worry that DD1 will hate me once the baby is here and that she'll feel neglected. I have no idea how I will balance it all. I guess time will tell.

[lakecountrygal]

DS1 was born 3/4 and will be 27 months when LO is born (due 6/3). We can find out what we are having January 18th if we want but are still on the fence. Right now DH and I are fighting about names, I no longer love our girl name and he doesn't like the boy names that I do.

[angelsnight]

Oh I shouldn't have read this thread, I was just starting to get on board with having another. Though DD will be at least almost 3 but still.

I hope things calm down for you all very soon! Just remember, the newborn stage is tough, remember how you felt when your M14 was a newborn, and things got better. At least that's what I tell myself about having another Good luck ladies!

[RandomName]

DD was born March 8, 2014
DS was born August 8, 2015 making them exactly 17 months apart.

DS also needs to be in my arms but now at almost 5 months it's only for sleep! Sleep is my Everest so I won't dwell on that now. The plus: he's more playful with toys and his sister. They are finally starting to interact it's amazing. Its not without challenges though. I'm am so happy to be over the new born phase. 2u2 has been an emotional journey with huge ups and down. It's crazy to think DS will be 7 months old when DD turns 2. Damn what was I thinking... haha.

[kaitkat]

I haven't posted here in forever!! But I'm back lol

So dd is a March 3rd baby

And the twins are due in August of this year. Based on This thread I am now way more scared haha

[lakecountrygal]

Congrats on the twins kaitkat!

[kaitkat]

Jan 9, 2016 13:12:18 GMT -5 lakecountrygal said:

Congrats on the twins kaitkat!

Thank you!! It was such a shock

[mrssmith613]

Due date is 2/15 I have a RCS scheduled 2/8 tho. I am going to talk to them Monday about induction options because the closer I get to the date I feel like I atleast need to try natural for myself to mentally heal (if that makes any sense) and I have to go back to school the following wk so it would make that easier as well.

This would be my 3rd c/s, my 1st was an emergency under general because they thought LO was in distress when ultimately it came down to the placement of the monitor. My 2nd was a scheduled because they basically scared me in to it with their calculator giving me a 50% success rate but after recently reviewing that pregnancy record, the doctor I was seeing put in the wrong information which brought my score so low. My success calculation this time around is 79%, so I think it's worth a shot. I've really struggled with this and just want to give myself another chance.

[fishbulb]

J's birthday is March 30 and #2 is due on May 4, so they will be a little over two years apart. I'm worried about all of the major life changes we're putting J through in the next few months. We're going to start potty training, we'll move him to a big boy bed, and then he's getting a sister and will have to learn to share mommy's attention. He's a pretty adaptable kid (for a toddler anyway) but I can't help but worry for him.

[fish8412]

DD2 was just born 1/8 at 10:39 pm. 5 lbs 11 oz, 19.25 inches. We got home from the hospital yesterday morning. (I just posted in the random thread).

DD1 was born 3/5 so they are almost exactly 22 months apart. So far DD2 is good with her baby sister. She will give kisses and ask to hold her every now and then. But when I'm nursing the baby, DD1 wants a mommy hug. Ugh it's hard and we've only been home 24 hours! I have bad mommy guilt already. I'm a SAHM so DD1 has gotten all of my attention since she was born. Luckily my husband took off of work all this week and my parents live 10 min away.

I'm looking forward to this thread!!

[pearlvirus]

Congrats fish8412!!

[walkek85]

DS1 was born March 18th.
DS2 is due May 8th so they will be 2 years, 1 month and 20 days apart.

I have no idea what to expect. I keep trying to envision what it will be like to have two and also how Carter will be with his little brother. I am so hoping that DS2 is similar to DS1 because he was a really easy baby. I am also a SAHM with a DH that travels for work and is gone minimum 3 nights per week.

We did just sign DS1 up for an early preschool program that starts September and is two full days a week. I'm thinking it will be nice to have two days with just one child, and he will also enjoy being around other kids and adults.

Like fishbulb, Carter will be going through some big changes from a crib to a bed, potty training a little after he turns 2, and the new sibling. Only time will tell how it all goes.

[RandomName]

walkek85 it was such a huge help for me to put DD in daycare two days a week from Oct-Dec. In hind sight I should have started the day care closer to DSs birth (he was 2 months when DD started). She thrives in daycare and I knew she was bored with me coach bound with a newborn. It was nice to see her happy.

[pearlvirus]

I SAH but signed DD1 up for half day preschool 4 days a week in sept. It's been really nice to have a break from her since DD2 came in Nov. I had the same worry as @45parallel that she would be bored with me. After an adjustment period she loves it too! She doesn't even want to leave when we come to pick her up However, the colds have been ridiculous. I wish we could have started her 6 months (more?) before DD2 was born because DD2 had been sick a lot. Like scary hospital twice already a lot. Plus it makes everyone sleep worse and that rrrrrrealy sucks when sleep is already at a minimum.

[younglove316]

DD2 will not nap! For awhile she would only nap on me and then we had a few good days that she would sleep in the PNP and now it's just no napping at all.

I feel terrible saying it but I'm wishing time to speed up a little bit.

[RandomName]

Jan 15, 2016 14:39:36 GMT -5 younglove316 said:

DD2 will not nap! For awhile she would only nap on me and then we had a few good days that she would sleep in the PNP and now it's just no napping at all.

I feel terrible saying it but I'm wishing time to speed up a little bit.

I hope I'm not the norm but at over 5 months we are still up 6-7 times a night. Day time naps are improving a bit.

[younglove316]

Jan 15, 2016 18:56:28 GMT -5 RandomName said:

Jan 15, 2016 14:39:36 GMT -5 younglove316 said:

DD2 will not nap! For awhile she would only nap on me and then we had a few good days that she would sleep in the PNP and now it's just no napping at all.

I feel terrible saying it but I'm wishing time to speed up a little bit.

I hope I'm not the norm but at over 5 months we are still up 6-7 times a night. Day time naps are improving a bit.

I can see that being us! We have cut back on our nighttime wake ups but it's only because I'm bringing her into bed with me, otherwise it was every 2 hours. I'm going to try the swaddle again tonight and see if she likes it yet.

[RandomName]

younglove316 , DS liked the swaddle for all of 5 seconds haha. This helped us tremendously tho: 



Eta: I just use a regular A&A type swaddle blanket. It's fantastic. 

[younglove316]

RandomName I've heard really good things about the merlin suit but I don't want to keep wasting money if she won't use it.


Part of the really frustrating part is that she thinks after the first stretch that it's cool to just cat nap. I know the first stretch is usually the longest but she will only go 45 minutes to an hour after we go back up. That's why I started putting her in bed because I just couldn't do it anymore.

[RandomName]

younglove316 that was us exactly. I'm regretting co-sleeping now tho because my convinced I'm reinforcing the bad sleeping. Once I get in my house (I'm living with the inlaws right now) and DS has his own room I'm doing the transition head on. It will be miserable but I'm looking ahead to when it gets better. I has to. Right?!

[younglove316]

Jan 15, 2016 19:53:12 GMT -5 RandomName said:

younglove316 that was us exactly. I'm regretting co-sleeping now tho because my convinced I'm reinforcing the bad sleeping. Once I get in my house (I'm living with the inlaws right now) and DS has his own room I'm doing the transition head on. It will be miserable but I'm looking ahead to when it gets better. I has to. Right?!

Yes it has to because that's what I keep telling myself! I know I'm going to regret co sleeping but for right now it's probably what's best. I was so cranky towards everyone but now I can at least get some sleep. I will say I'm excited for her to be at an age that I can actually enforce sleep habits, that's terrible isn't it?!

[RandomName]

younglove316 not at all! I have been counting down to sleep training! I will say it was a life saver to get the sleep I did co-sleeping. As much as I think I regret it now it was survival mode need of sleep.

[fishbulb]

J cosleeps half the night with us and we're about to move him to his big boy bed. I am not looking forward to that transition. I have a feeling he'll be in our room a lot once he has free reign of the upstairs.

[RandomName]

fishbulb Good luck with the transition. The thought of a free rein child scares me.

[younglove316]

fishbulb good luck with the transition! I'm terrified of when that day comes.

[newmomma8]

I'm close to fish8412, DD was 2/24/14 and DS showed up 1/4/16.

DD loves DS, she wants to hold him all the time. She's a great kid so it hasn't been too difficult, but I have had help for the first 3 weeks, not major help, but because of having to have a c section this time my mom stayed with me the second week and DH stayed this week. I'll be by myself next week, so my tune may change by the end of the week. Lol

Also BF'ing this time and it's not bad, I feel very lost and "play by ear", but it's going well, other than the mastitis I was diagnosed with yesterday.

Here's my kiddos, T says "I hold him, I hold Gray".
Also she had a few M&M's so her mouth was colored. Lol Talk about brushing teeth before bed!

[RandomName]

newmomma8 awe look how happy YD is! Beautiful kids and the pics a keeper for sure