I'm starting to wonder if all the puking is going to cause damage. I burned through my esophagus by age 8 and was on meds and a restricted diet for years. I really don't want to cause damage again.
This may be a weird confession but here goes. Not a ton of people know I'm pregnant, but we've already had several people say, "you already have one of each. Why are you having another one?" You know, because the whole point of having kids is making sure you have one of each.
Yes!!! We were still in the hospital within a day of my shooting a 9 lb, 8 oz baby out of my vag (so, you know, bleeding), and people were like, "So now that you have a boy and a girl, you're done, right? Perfect family!" Wha?!? People are dumb; your confession is valid. /gavel
Post by liljackjack on Jan 8, 2016 11:22:00 GMT -5
I'm hoping for a boy. Just for convenience. I won't be sad per se, if it's a girl. I do love girly things, but a boy would just make life easier. DS1 and a boy could share a bedroom, we could make a mini guestroom out of our 4th bedroom. We have all newish boy things, DD could mother hen them. A girl would be too far apart in age for DD to share a room, so we lose our playroom and guest room, all my girly things are 5 years old.
I'm hoping for a boy. Just for convenience. I won't be sad per se, if it's a girl. I do love girly things, but a boy would just make life easier. DS1 and a boy could share a bedroom, we could make a mini guestroom out of our 4th bedroom. We have all newish boy things, DD could mother hen them. A girl would be too far apart in age for DD to share a room, so we lose our playroom and guest room, all my girly things are 5 years old.
I am enjoying being back at work more then I enjoyed being a SAHM. (Except for a few months in the summer when we could be outside all day every day) I feel guilty because people say "concentrate on your kids they are the most important thing" but staying at home I give her 20% of my attention, the rest is cooking, cleaning, trying to keep her from breaking her head open or eating something she shouldnt ect. and only 20% of actual playing or fun. Now that I only see her a few hours a day she is HAPPY to see me. And we laugh and play and I don't feel guilty for not cleaning and for giving her all my attention. Plus, working allows me to hire a house keeper and take that off my plate.
I'm starting to wonder if all the puking is going to cause damage. I burned through my esophagus by age 8 and was on meds and a restricted diet for years. I really don't want to cause damage again.
Have you spoken to your doctor and tried meds?
So many hugs. I was there my last pregnancy, its awful.
I'm starting to wonder if all the puking is going to cause damage. I burned through my esophagus by age 8 and was on meds and a restricted diet for years. I really don't want to cause damage again.
Have you spoken to your doctor and tried meds?
So many hugs. I was there my last pregnancy, its awful.
I'm trying meds, but it didn't occur to me I could be causing damage till recently.
After 4 grandsons, I am sure MIL will hope this one is a girl lol
That reminds me that H's sister will probably be all over us again about how we need to have a boy to "carry on the family name." H's brother has only girls. It's 2016 - what in the world does it matter if a family name is carried on?
It's probably the only annoying thing H's sister does, so I shouldn't complain too much.
After 4 grandsons, I am sure MIL will hope this one is a girl lol
That reminds me that H's sister will probably be all over us again about how we need to have a boy to "carry on the family name." H's brother has only girls. It's 2016 - what in the world does it matter if a family name is carried on?
It's probably the only annoying thing H's sister does, so I shouldn't complain too much.
What I never understand about this is why they say/assume a daughter can't or won't carry on the name. Not a crazy notion for their future spouses to take their name?!!
That reminds me that H's sister will probably be all over us again about how we need to have a boy to "carry on the family name." H's brother has only girls. It's 2016 - what in the world does it matter if a family name is carried on?
It's probably the only annoying thing H's sister does, so I shouldn't complain too much.
What I never understand about this is why they say/assume a daughter can't or won't carry on the name. Not a crazy notion for their future spouses to take their name?!!
I can't remember the last time I really cleaned my house. DH & I both work full time, I travel out of state for a week at a time/commute 2.5 hours a day, plus we have a 14 month old. I don't even feel guilty about it. I should hire a maid though...but then I would have to pick up all the laundry/cloth diapers sprawled about...
I'm with you. My mom moved in with us recently and she started doing all the housekeeping. I should have moved her in years ago.
I'm not nursing this baby. At all. Not even once. I had a terrible time of it before and the thought of trying again gives me major anxiety. I only decided I wanted another baby after I gave myself permission to be done with nursing forever.
After 4 grandsons, I am sure MIL will hope this one is a girl lol
That reminds me that H's sister will probably be all over us again about how we need to have a boy to "carry on the family name." H's brother has only girls. It's 2016 - what in the world does it matter if a family name is carried on?
It's probably the only annoying thing H's sister does, so I shouldn't complain too much.
When we told H's grandparents that we were expecting the first time, the first thing they asked was, exact wording, "do you know if it's a boy yet?"
They mentioned so, so many times about how ds will carry on the family name and that "the pressure is off H's brother, but it would still be nice if there were other boys to carry it on as well". Yuck.
There will also be some sanctimommy who will try to tell you that you should gaze lovingly into the eyes of your baby during all feeding sessions rather than watch tv, read or play on your phone. Don't listen to her. You will spend approximately 99 hours per day with your boob or a bottle in your baby's mouth in the first 10 weeks. Take at least some of that time to do something that relaxes you. There will always be someone trying to nake you feel guilty as a mom. Don't do it to yourself!
This will probably be my sister. I am not enjoying being pregnant at the same time as her. She is always judgy and sanctimonious and pregnancy hasn't improved that. I am already over listening to how her doctor said she is the best pregnant person ever and she would never do x, y, z to her baby. And since she's three weeks ahead of me she knows everything because she has already done it. I've already gotten a bunch of reminders from her and my mom not to eat too much because gaining too much weight apparently makes you a horrible person worthy of scorn. (/vent)
Don't listen to them. Your doctor will help you navigate your weight gain and eating habits. Every person and pregnancy is different. My doctor said the average woman should gain around 40lbs, but he expects me to gain more because I am on prednisone. Instead of focusing on how much weight I gain we are going to focus on making sure my pregnancy is healthy. Right now I just try to focus on eating somewhat healthy, but I am not going to beat myself up for enjoying some unhealthy meals (I might be eating deep dish pizza right now...).
TTC #1 since August 2011 DH (32): SA is ok, slightly low morph, normal SCSA Me (32): Slightly low P4, hostile CM, carrier for CF, high NKC, High TNFa, heterozyogous mutated Factor XIII, and +APA October 2012-August 2015: 4 failed IUIs, 3 failed IVFs, 2 failed FETs w/donor embryos, 1 freeze all IVF, 1 Failed FET, and 1 cancelled FET November 2015: FET w/ DEm #3 Transferred 1 perfect 6AA blast
Me (30) MH (32) Dx: MFI (low all the things) M. 10/11. TTC Since 01/14 IUI#1-3(Letrozole + Trigger) = BFN Second Opinion. Changed RE's. IVF 09/15 Long Lupron 12R/9M/8F, Transferred 1=BFN. 4 frosties. FET #1 12/15 Transferred 1 (3 still on ice)
This will probably be my sister. I am not enjoying being pregnant at the same time as her. She is always judgy and sanctimonious and pregnancy hasn't improved that. I am already over listening to how her doctor said she is the best pregnant person ever and she would never do x, y, z to her baby. And since she's three weeks ahead of me she knows everything because she has already done it. I've already gotten a bunch of reminders from her and my mom not to eat too much because gaining too much weight apparently makes you a horrible person worthy of scorn. (/vent)
Don't listen to them. Your doctor will help you navigate your weight gain and eating habits. Every person and pregnancy is different. My doctor said the average woman should gain around 40lbs, but he expects me to gain more because I am on prednisone. Instead of focusing on how much weight I gain we are going to focus on making sure my pregnancy is healthy. Right now I just try to focus on eating somewhat healthy, but I am not going to beat myself up for enjoying some unhealthy meals (I might be eating deep dish pizza right now...).
Yep, I don't even discuss weight with them, and have stopped talking about food. After all the comments they have made about pregnant women being "too big" and horrible comments about overweight people I know they will talk about it behind my back which makes me feel self-conscious. This thread has motivated me to take another break from my family which should help my anxiety level.
I'm not nursing this baby. At all. Not even once. I had a terrible time of it before and the thought of trying again gives me major anxiety. I only decided I wanted another baby after I gave myself permission to be done with nursing forever.
I've never liked nursing. Everyone tells me it's such a special bond, and you miss it, etc. Nope. Not at all. The only reason I did/do it is because it's free. I think a lot of women feel like something is wrong with them because they don't like breastfeeding, but I think it's actually pretty normal to not like it.
I can't remember the last time I really cleaned my house. DH & I both work full time, I travel out of state for a week at a time/commute 2.5 hours a day, plus we have a 14 month old. I don't even feel guilty about it. I should hire a maid though...but then I would have to pick up all the laundry/cloth diapers sprawled about...
I'm with you. My mom moved in with us recently and she started doing all the housekeeping. I should have moved her in years ago.
If DH would allow it, I would move my parents in tomorrow so that they could handle the cleaning and laundry. We just don't have time to get anything done.
I want a boy because it would be easier on a lot of things, but I also want a girl because DD never wore bows after she was super sick. And then I realize that's a really stupid reason to want a girl.
Me (30) MH (32) Dx: MFI (low all the things) M. 10/11. TTC Since 01/14 IUI#1-3(Letrozole + Trigger) = BFN Second Opinion. Changed RE's. IVF 09/15 Long Lupron 12R/9M/8F, Transferred 1=BFN. 4 frosties. FET #1 12/15 Transferred 1 (3 still on ice)
I'm not nursing this baby. At all. Not even once. I had a terrible time of it before and the thought of trying again gives me major anxiety. I only decided I wanted another baby after I gave myself permission to be done with nursing forever.
I've never liked nursing. Everyone tells me it's such a special bond, and you miss it, etc. Nope. Not at all. The only reason I did/do it is because it's free. I think a lot of women feel like something is wrong with them because they don't like breastfeeding, but I think it's actually pretty normal to not like it.
I nursed for 13 months and never felt "a special bond" as many women like to say. I also did it because it was free, convenient not to make or clean bottles, and healthy. Plus, I had an excuse to have pump breaks at work lol
Don't listen to them. Your doctor will help you navigate your weight gain and eating habits. Every person and pregnancy is different. My doctor said the average woman should gain around 40lbs, but he expects me to gain more because I am on prednisone. Instead of focusing on how much weight I gain we are going to focus on making sure my pregnancy is healthy. Right now I just try to focus on eating somewhat healthy, but I am not going to beat myself up for enjoying some unhealthy meals (I might be eating deep dish pizza right now...).
Yep, I don't even discuss weight with them, and have stopped talking about food. After all the comments they have made about pregnant women being "too big" and horrible comments about overweight people I know they will talk about it behind my back which makes me feel self-conscious. This thread has motivated me to take another break from my family which should help my anxiety level.
Read 'Expecting Better', there is a whole section on weight gain and it will really relax you. Plus taking a break from anyone or group that is toxic to you is 100% a good idea! Hugs!
I've never liked nursing. Everyone tells me it's such a special bond, and you miss it, etc. Nope. Not at all. The only reason I did/do it is because it's free. I think a lot of women feel like something is wrong with them because they don't like breastfeeding, but I think it's actually pretty normal to not like it.
I nursed for 13 months and never felt "a special bond" as many women like to say. I also did it because it was free, convenient not to make or clean bottles, and healthy. Plus, I had an excuse to have pump breaks at work lol
I'm seriously considering going formula for the next one. DS still won't take a bottle and it has completely wiped me out and I'm afraid of it again.
remylove1011 no but it does look a lot like my kitty. She is a norwegian forest cat with a head bigger than her body. It's adorable. Is your avatar your cat? I love long haired cats! So pretty.
I nursed for 13 months and never felt "a special bond" as many women like to say. I also did it because it was free, convenient not to make or clean bottles, and healthy. Plus, I had an excuse to have pump breaks at work lol
I'm seriously considering going formula for the next one. DS still won't take a bottle and it has completely wiped me out and I'm afraid of it again.
Do what makes you happy and not stressed. Formula works for lots of people. Although, I will say that not all BF babies refuse bottles. DS loves to eat no matter where it comes from.
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