Stupid Work Travel!

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Ugh. I found out last week I have to take a last minute trip Thur-Friday next week cross-country for work. Of course, Friday is when I am due to O, if things match up to last month. That means we will miss both O-1 and O. I know people GKU with O-2 through O-4, but I feel like this month is going to be out for me. How do people who either travel often for work or have SOs who do so deal with TTC? This really sucks.

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Feb 1, 2015 14:27:45 GMT -5 @spicymama said:

Ugh. I found out last week I have to take a last minute trip Thur-Friday next week cross-country for work. Of course, Friday is when I am due to O, if things match up to last month. That means we will miss both O-1 and O. I know people GKU with O-2 through O-4, but I feel like this month is going to be out for me. How do people who either travel often for work or have SOs who do so deal with TTC? This really sucks.

Have sex when you can. Not much else you can do.

[fuzzylogic]

Maybe you'll get lucky and O early or late. Hell, last month I O'd way later than normal, and this month it's later than usual again. Just HIO and hope for the best.

[icaughtfire]

So you're missing 2 out of 5 days? Okay..not a huge deal?

Many, many, MANY people get pregnant hitting ONE day in their fertile window. Have sex when you can..what else can you do? Besides...last months O date means nothing for this month.

[Deleted]

Feb 1, 2015 14:30:39 GMT -5 W said:

How do you know it's on Friday??



ETA: I never O on the same day.. You don't know when you're going to O.

This is true -- I'm going off of the last two months when I Oed either CD-21 or CD-22....I know you never know, I just never thought about how work travel was going to mess this stuff up before. I travel usually every other month and its a bit frustrating realizing that it may get in the way...

Oh well...ignore my silly rant  

[joy]

So because you think you're going to miss two out of five days then you have no chance of pregnancy?

No. Nononononono.

This mindset actually drives me bananas. If it took five days of straight sex to get pregnant, then humans would've died out eons ago.

Also - if you look at the chart showing percent of pregnancies versus that what day they had sex, you'll see that O-2 has the best chances.

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Feb 1, 2015 14:40:05 GMT -5 joy said:

So because you think you're going to miss two out of five days then you have no chance of pregnancy?

No. Nononononono.

This mindset actually drives me bananas. If it took five days of straight sex to get pregnant, then humans would've died out eons ago.

Also - if you look at the chart showing percent of pregnancies versus that what day they had sex, you'll see that O-2 has the best chances.

Thank you all for talking me off the ledge -- work has been crazy stressful this month and the unexpected work trip is just icing on the hellish cake. I'm being silly, but as a type-A perfectionist it drives me nuts not to be in control of these things! 

[Sparkly]

I'm traveling for work this week and though not "due" to O, I certainly could. We don't consider ourselves out at all. We'll have sex the night before I leave, and the day I come home, and if O happens in there, we'll have more or less the same chances as if it happens before or after the trip.

[joy]

Feb 1, 2015 14:44:26 GMT -5 @spicymama said:

Feb 1, 2015 14:40:05 GMT -5 joy said:

So because you think you're going to miss two out of five days then you have no chance of pregnancy?

No. Nononononono.

This mindset actually drives me bananas. If it took five days of straight sex to get pregnant, then humans would've died out eons ago.

Also - if you look at the chart showing percent of pregnancies versus that what day they had sex, you'll see that O-2 has the best chances.

Thank you all for talking me off the ledge -- work has been crazy stressful this month and the unexpected work trip is just icing on the hellish cake. I'm being silly, but as a type-A perfectionist it drives me nuts not to be in control of these things! 

Hehehe. I'm just really laid back about what days to have sex. Do your best! It just takes one time.

[akraus2015]

This might be a UO, but I love work travel. I think a little absence makes the heart grow fonder and the "Honey, I'm home" sex more fun!

[icequeen]

Try not to stress about it too much. You do not know for sure what day you will O unless you confirm it with temping or an ultrasound. All you can do, like PP's have said, is have sex when you can. You are most certainly not out.

[sister13]

Feb 1, 2015 14:27:45 GMT -5 @spicymama said:

Ugh. I found out last week I have to take a last minute trip Thur-Friday next week cross-country for work. Of course, Friday is when I am due to O, if things match up to last month. That means we will miss both O-1 and O. I know people GKU with O-2 through O-4, but I feel like this month is going to be out for me. How do people who either travel often for work or have SOs who do so deal with TTC? This really sucks.

Obviously, the only real answer is to panic and arm-flail!

[mustloveerica]

I travel a lot for work. If we hit two to three days in FW I'm happy. We also get used to a lot of quickies before I have to catch my flight. It happens. There's no use worrying about things you can't change.

[sister13]

Feb 1, 2015 14:44:26 GMT -5 @spicymama said:

Feb 1, 2015 14:40:05 GMT -5 joy said:

So because you think you're going to miss two out of five days then you have no chance of pregnancy?

No. Nononononono.

This mindset actually drives me bananas. If it took five days of straight sex to get pregnant, then humans would've died out eons ago.

Also - if you look at the chart showing percent of pregnancies versus that what day they had sex, you'll see that O-2 has the best chances.

Thank you all for talking me off the ledge -- work has been crazy stressful this month and the unexpected work trip is just icing on the hellish cake. I'm being silly, but as a type-A perfectionist it drives me nuts not to be in control of these things! 

Is this what we're calling special snowflakes these days? 

[ghostmonkey]

Feb 2, 2015 11:11:00 GMT -5 sister13 said:

Feb 1, 2015 14:27:45 GMT -5 @spicymama said:

Ugh. I found out last week I have to take a last minute trip Thur-Friday next week cross-country for work. Of course, Friday is when I am due to O, if things match up to last month. That means we will miss both O-1 and O. I know people GKU with O-2 through O-4, but I feel like this month is going to be out for me. How do people who either travel often for work or have SOs who do so deal with TTC? This really sucks.

Obviously, the only real answer is to panic and arm-flail!

[risscaboobs]

Rude - my replies keep being blocked by work. Let's try this again:

OP - please read this page of the newbie blog: tbttgp.wordpress.com/hpt-accuracy-chart/

O-2 is actually the best day as far as chances to from my understanding, so missing O-1 and O does not mean you are out. That is if you even O on Friday. My ovulation day varies each month by a couple of days.

[sister13]

Feb 2, 2015 11:29:29 GMT -5 ghostmonkey said:

Feb 2, 2015 11:11:00 GMT -5 sister13 said:

Obviously, the only real answer is to panic and arm-flail!

Exactly!

[kellybenelly83]

Feb 1, 2015 14:27:45 GMT -5 @spicymama said:

Ugh. I found out last week I have to take a last minute trip Thur-Friday next week cross-country for work. Of course, Friday is when I am due to O, if things match up to last month. That means we will miss both O-1 and O. I know people GKU with O-2 through O-4, but I feel like this month is going to be out for me. How do people who either travel often for work or have SOs who do so deal with TTC? This really sucks.

ok, so A. dont jump to conclusions. you'll O when you O, just hump it out. missing 2 days in your fertile week is not a crisis.

B. did I miss something crucial in the information here? Yesterday in WTO you say your DH is going for a SA today? Why? You've been trying since December. 

C. your siggy has complete Type-a. am I assuming this means your personality, which I dont really think needs to be added behind your PCOS. 

[sister13]

Feb 2, 2015 12:44:21 GMT -5 kellybenelly83 said:

Feb 1, 2015 14:27:45 GMT -5 @spicymama said:

Ugh. I found out last week I have to take a last minute trip Thur-Friday next week cross-country for work. Of course, Friday is when I am due to O, if things match up to last month. That means we will miss both O-1 and O. I know people GKU with O-2 through O-4, but I feel like this month is going to be out for me. How do people who either travel often for work or have SOs who do so deal with TTC? This really sucks.

ok, so A. dont jump to conclusions. you'll O when you O, just hump it out. missing 2 days in your fertile week is not a crisis.

B. did I miss something crucial in the information here? Yesterday in WTO you say your DH is going for a SA today? Why? You've been trying since December. 

C. your siggy has complete Type-a. am I assuming this means your personality, which I dont really think needs to be added behind your PCOS. 

Her intro said that they wanted to "eliminate any worry" because DH smokes MMJ.  

Who wants to waste time like all the rest of the squares who wait to see if there is a problem first.  

[kellybenelly83]

Feb 2, 2015 12:49:35 GMT -5 sister13 said:

Feb 2, 2015 12:44:21 GMT -5 kellybenelly83 said:

ok, so A. dont jump to conclusions. you'll O when you O, just hump it out. missing 2 days in your fertile week is not a crisis.

B. did I miss something crucial in the information here? Yesterday in WTO you say your DH is going for a SA today? Why? You've been trying since December. 

C. your siggy has complete Type-a. am I assuming this means your personality, which I dont really think needs to be added behind your PCOS. 

Her intro said that they wanted to "eliminate any worry" because DH smokes MMJ.  

Who wants to waste time like all the rest of the squares who wait to see if there is a problem first.  

I am so over this shit. 
Literally 2 ladies I know really well were concerned about that and they both got pregnant on their first cycle. 


OP, Get the fuck over yourself. you arent special. just because you miss 2 days doesnt mean you are out, and smoking doesnt mean he's sterile. how bout you try for a little longer (oh I dont know, maybe a year?) before going to appointments that should be given to people who ACTAULLY need them. Type-A apparently does mean speshul snowflake.

[risscaboobs]

Feb 2, 2015 12:52:27 GMT -5 kellybenelly83 said:

Feb 2, 2015 12:49:35 GMT -5 sister13 said:

Her intro said that they wanted to "eliminate any worry" because DH smokes MMJ.  

Who wants to waste time like all the rest of the squares who wait to see if there is a problem first.  

I am so over this shit. 
Literally 2 ladies I know really well were concerned about that and they both got pregnant on their first cycle. 


OP, Get the fuck over yourself. you arent special. just because you miss 2 days doesnt mean you are out, and smoking doesnt mean he's sterile. how bout you try for a little longer (oh I dont know, maybe a year?) before going to appointments that should be given to people who ACTAULLY need them. Type-A apparently does mean speshul snowflake.

Nooo!!! Please don't lump me in with her.

[kellybenelly83]

Feb 2, 2015 12:56:02 GMT -5 risscaboobs said:

Feb 2, 2015 12:52:27 GMT -5 kellybenelly83 said:

I am so over this shit. 
Literally 2 ladies I know really well were concerned about that and they both got pregnant on their first cycle. 


OP, Get the fuck over yourself. you arent special. just because you miss 2 days doesnt mean you are out, and smoking doesnt mean he's sterile. how bout you try for a little longer (oh I dont know, maybe a year?) before going to appointments that should be given to people who ACTAULLY need them. Type-A apparently does mean speshul snowflake.

Nooo!!! Please don't lump me in with her.

pfft you know I love you

[kellybenelly83]

Feb 2, 2015 13:20:19 GMT -5 W said:

kellybenelly83
I tried to explain in her intro that a SA was worthless when you've only been trying for two months. I was wondering why no one else agree then.

yeah I missed that post I guess.
We were bound to get a few SS I guess. 

[mustloveerica]

Maybe the "mom/mommy/mama" curse is following us over from the dump.

[sister13]

Feb 2, 2015 13:20:19 GMT -5 W said:

kellybenelly83
I tried to explain in her intro that a SA was worthless when you've only been trying for two months. I was wondering why no one else agree then.

Yeah, I saw your responses in there, I was surprised. I only saw it in the post history when I was curious as to how long OP had been trying. 

[beckynsean11]

1) Chill the fuck out.

2) Have sex when you can. Some cycles are just going to have shitty timing, that's life.

3) Seriously chill, there's no reason for your husband to have testing. You just freakin started trying. Stop.

4) Please remove Type-A from your siggy. It's not an IF diagnosis & has zippity fucking doo da with TTC.

[getzystark]

I don't give any fucks about the original post, but W your spoiler in your siggy is GENIUS!!

[Deleted]

I'm not even sure how to respond to this thread (perhaps I shouldn't, but what the hell, I'm up for some dramaz). I really don't give a shit if you think I am a "special snowflake" or whatever the fuck you want to call me. I've had a shitastic few weeks at work, am pissed I'm getting sent across the country, and still figuring this TTC thing out.

FWIW, We decided (with our doctor, btw) to go forward with the SA because we already know I'm likely to have issues (PCOS, Hashimotos) and we don't want to put any other obstacles -- things that we could control -- in our way. We agreed we would see if MM was actually an issue before MH would give it up. We're not planning on doing anything besides this until we go through the full year, which is the plan we agreed to with our doctor. I truly don't see what the issue you all have with having more information? What, truly, is the issue with a SA? Is it just jealousy that your doctors hold firm to the year thing? No, seriously, I am curious why, for real? Do I think that getting a clean SA would mean we would be on the gravy train to pregnancy? No. Do I know I would be incredibly upset if I found out a year from now that the primary reason we didn't GKU was because of something we could have addressed without medical intervention? Yes.

So what the fuck ever.

BTW, I have no intentions of leaving; I certainly don't expect rainbows and unicorns and I am not going to go crying and deleting my shit because you disagree with me. I can take criticism. I can also ignore it. So thanks, but moving on.

[GoBigOrGoGnome]

Feb 2, 2015 21:25:42 GMT -5 @spicymama said:

I'm not even sure how to respond to this thread (perhaps I shouldn't, but what the hell, I'm up for some dramaz). I really don't give a shit if you think I am a "special snowflake" or whatever the fuck you want to call me. I've had a shitastic few weeks at work, am pissed I'm getting sent across the country, and still figuring this TTC thing out.

FWIW, We decided (with our doctor, btw) to go forward with the SA because we already know I'm likely to have issues (PCOS, Hashimotos) and we don't want to put any other obstacles -- things that we could control -- in our way. We agreed we would see if MM was actually an issue before MH would give it up. We're not planning on doing anything besides this until we go through the full year, which is the plan we agreed to with our doctor. I truly don't see what the issue you all have with having more information? What, truly, is the issue with a SA? Is it just jealousy that your doctors hold firm to the year thing? No, seriously, I am curious why, for real? Do I think that getting a clean SA would mean we would be on the gravy train to pregnancy? No. Do I know I would be incredibly upset if I found out a year from now that the primary reason we didn't GKU was because of something we could have addressed without medical intervention? Yes.

So what the fuck ever.

BTW, I have no intentions of leaving; I certainly don't expect rainbows and unicorns and I am not going to go crying and deleting my shit because you disagree with me. I can take criticism. I can also ignore it. So thanks, but moving on.

I'm curious as to how you could address any issue the SA found without medical intervention. People aren't jealous of your fucking doctor, they are irritated because people like you who get unnecessary testing are the reason for sky-rocketing healthcare costs. Do you know how many people on this board have Hashimotos or PCOS? 

Having a shit-tastic week at work doesn't give you an excuse for unnecessary testing. I'm traveling at the end of February for work during what will probably be my FW and you don't hear me bitching. Everything you said above is what makes you the epitome of a "special snowflake".

ETA: Its a good thing you say you're ok with criticism, because your post just made certain you'll receive plenty.

[icaughtfire]

Feb 2, 2015 21:25:42 GMT -5 @spicymama said:

I'm not even sure how to respond to this thread (perhaps I shouldn't, but what the hell, I'm up for some dramaz). I really don't give a shit if you think I am a "special snowflake" or whatever the fuck you want to call me. I've had a shitastic few weeks at work, am pissed I'm getting sent across the country, and still figuring this TTC thing out.

FWIW, We decided (with our doctor, btw) to go forward with the SA because we already know I'm likely to have issues (PCOS, Hashimotos) and we don't want to put any other obstacles -- things that we could control -- in our way. We agreed we would see if MM was actually an issue before MH would give it up. We're not planning on doing anything besides this until we go through the full year, which is the plan we agreed to with our doctor. I truly don't see what the issue you all have with having more information? What, truly, is the issue with a SA? Is it just jealousy that your doctors hold firm to the year thing? No, seriously, I am curious why, for real? Do I think that getting a clean SA would mean we would be on the gravy train to pregnancy? No. Do I know I would be incredibly upset if I found out a year from now that the primary reason we didn't GKU was because of something we could have addressed without medical intervention? Yes.

So what the fuck ever.

BTW, I have no intentions of leaving; I certainly don't expect rainbows and unicorns and I am not going to go crying and deleting my shit because you disagree with me. I can take criticism. I can also ignore it. So thanks, but moving on.

Yes, everyone is super jealous their husbands didn't get to jack off in to a cup right away. How did you figure it out??

Premature testing raises wait times & prices for those that actually NEED testing. Being impatient =/= need for testing.

You're gonna make so many friends here, please stick around and don't change that awesome attitude of yours.