sammysam I'm going to broach the subject once he gets a new job. We're both kind of in flux and once that's resolved for one or both of us, it'll be time to reassess. I'm just super impatient.
diamondsndaisies Do you have a c section incision? That's not healing? How much is still open/are they having your dress it in any certain way? I am just curious because it seems like they should be doing something for you if it is enough to think you may be going back for surgery!! That does't sound good!
Yes. Its about an inch long. It was a little smaller, but when they put the stitches in, they cut out some bad skin so it would close properly. Well those stitches dissolved and it didn't heal shut. I went back in on Monday and he is just having me "pack" it with gause until it heals shut. I've decided that if it isn't showing noticeable improvement in 2 weeks, I am having someone else look at it.
nuggetrn do you need to be in your job for a year before you are eligible? What would happen if you did get KU and weren't eligible? Is there anyway you could make it work financially? If not then I change my answer. Are you in the US?
I am in the US.
My understanding is that in order to be eligible for 12 weeks of unpaid FMLA (which protects my job and allows me to come back to the same job after maternity leave) I have to work 1250 hours and be there for a year (although.... is it and or OR? Because I will hit 1250 before I hit a year). Short term disability is 6 weeks of pay at 60% and in order to be eligible for those benefits I also have to be employed for a year (99% sure about this, I just consulted a friend who works for the same company and had a baby last year). I can use my TOP (time off paid, which includes all vacation/sick time whatever) on top of that, to get to 100%. Or, I can take the 60% and use the other time to ensure I get paid across that 12 week span.
If I got pregnant before I were eligible for those benefits I am pretty sure that I would just have to use whatever TOP I had available. I only work 3 days per week at this job (I would outright quit the other job I am working) so I think my available TOP at that point would get me about 3-4 weeks off.
We have enough money in savings right now that I think I would feel decently comfortable with finances, but we would deplete it quicker than would probably make me feel good. We would however have 9 months to squirrel money away and I think we could get close to doubling what we have today which would feel really good. DH is looking at getting a part time job right now, and will hopefully be up for a raise at his full time job in February. Those two things will also make a difference.
I feel like we could swing it financially.... it is more the fact that I would not get nearly as much time off of work as I would like. But do I want a baby, or an extra 2 months off?
And this could all be a moot point anyways because of the PCOS and not ovulating. And I had a CP in November so my confidence in this whole process isn't really at it's highest right now anyway.
I am open to any and all advice/thoughts/anecdotes from anyone
diamondsndaisies Do you have a c section incision? That's not healing? How much is still open/are they having your dress it in any certain way? I am just curious because it seems like they should be doing something for you if it is enough to think you may be going back for surgery!! That does't sound good!
Yes. Its about an inch long. It was a little smaller, but when they put the stitches in, they cut out some bad skin so it would close properly. Well those stitches dissolved and it didn't heal shut. I went back in on Monday and he is just having me "pack" it with gause until it heals shut. I've decided that if it isn't showing noticeable improvement in 2 weeks, I am having someone else look at it.
Did they take a culture of the wound? Have you been on, or are on any antibiotics right now? Are you a smoker or diabetic (GD?) Wounds won't heal well if there has been damage to blood flow... I am thinking you are pretty healthy so it seems weird to me that you are not healing well. Seems to me like there is something else going on. Is the wound draining anything? Any odor? Do you know how deep the wound is or is it more on the surface?
Sorry for all of my questions, just trying to get a better idea of what it is doing and maybe I can give you some advice! I am glad you are being proactive about this
Yes. Its about an inch long. It was a little smaller, but when they put the stitches in, they cut out some bad skin so it would close properly. Well those stitches dissolved and it didn't heal shut. I went back in on Monday and he is just having me "pack" it with gause until it heals shut. I've decided that if it isn't showing noticeable improvement in 2 weeks, I am having someone else look at it.
Did they take a culture of the wound? Have you been on, or are on any antibiotics right now? Are you a smoker or diabetic (GD?) Wounds won't heal well if there has been damage to blood flow... I am thinking you are pretty healthy so it seems weird to me that you are not healing well. Seems to me like there is something else going on. Is the wound draining anything? Any odor? Do you know how deep the wound is or is it more on the surface?
Sorry for all of my questions, just trying to get a better idea of what it is doing and maybe I can give you some advice! I am glad you are being proactive about this
No he hasn't. He swears its not infected, even though I have been having a yellowish discharge and yes it stinks. No, I haven't been on antibiotics since I left the hospital.
I have never been a smoker and I am not diabetic.
I don't know how deep it is (I can't see it-maybe 1/4 inch at most?) but he says its only on the surface and that everything on the inside is healed.
nuggetrn I took maternity leave last January so here's my experience.
I took a new job in July. Had my baby six months later in January. My company chose to allow me to take the 16 weeks allowed in my city and keep my job protected. However, my husband is taking a new job in the next few months (please, please, please) and we wouldn't start trying until he's been there for three months. Because then, best case, we have a baby right after he's been there a year and he can take job protected time off.
A couple things I did: I used my PTO to cover the gap between disability starting. I also didn't allow for federal taxes withheld from the disability so it was closer to my actual salary after taxes. Because of the time of the year, our tax refund covered a month too. Unless you HAVE to, I wouldn't use all your time off to cover it because babies are super unreliable and tend to get sick all. The. Time. I did end up going back to work part time and used my PTO to make those weeks full time weeks.
It's hard but doable. Focusing on savings is a great goal for now and take it from there.
Did they take a culture of the wound? Have you been on, or are on any antibiotics right now? Are you a smoker or diabetic (GD?) Wounds won't heal well if there has been damage to blood flow... I am thinking you are pretty healthy so it seems weird to me that you are not healing well. Seems to me like there is something else going on. Is the wound draining anything? Any odor? Do you know how deep the wound is or is it more on the surface?
Sorry for all of my questions, just trying to get a better idea of what it is doing and maybe I can give you some advice! I am glad you are being proactive about this
No he hasn't. He swears its not infected, even though I have been having a yellowish discharge and yes it stinks. No, I haven't been on antibiotics since I left the hospital.
I have never been a smoker and I am not diabetic.
I don't know how deep it is (I can't see it-maybe 1/4 inch at most?) but he says its only on the surface and that everything on the inside is healed.
Is it a pus like discharge or just a lighter yellow fluid? Some light yellow fluid is not always bad. The fact that it stinks though makes me lean towards something else. You are only packing it with gauze? No antibiotic ointment or anything? Any redness or warmth around the wound edges?
All wounds have bacteria in them but it doesn't always mean that it is infected. I would at least want to be putting some kind of ointment on it in an effort to stop any growth. I think assessing it for another week or so and making a decision about seeing someone else and getting a different plan going is a good one. Unless there are reddened or warm areas, and thicker pus instead of just fluid. In which case I would say don't wait and get in somewhere sooner than that.
Thank you @saiven! I very much agree with the hard but doable part. I guess I just feel like I am not being all that smart to purposefully put myself in that situation.... but then again, do I really even care right now? Leaning towards not caring more and more every day.
No he hasn't. He swears its not infected, even though I have been having a yellowish discharge and yes it stinks. No, I haven't been on antibiotics since I left the hospital.
I have never been a smoker and I am not diabetic.
I don't know how deep it is (I can't see it-maybe 1/4 inch at most?) but he says its only on the surface and that everything on the inside is healed.
Is it a pus like discharge or just a lighter yellow fluid? Some light yellow fluid is not always bad. The fact that it stinks though makes me lean towards something else. You are only packing it with gauze? No antibiotic ointment or anything? Any redness or warmth around the wound edges?
All wounds have bacteria in them but it doesn't always mean that it is infected. I would at least want to be putting some kind of ointment on it in an effort to stop any growth. I think assessing it for another week or so and making a decision about seeing someone else and getting a different plan going is a good one. Unless there are reddened or warm areas, and thicker pus instead of just fluid. In which case I would say don't wait and get in somewhere sooner than that.
So the pus is kinda thick, but its not red around the area or warm. It still bleeds from time to time (especially when it gets messed with) which he said was good. So, I don't know what to think anymore. I would really like to avoid another surgery, but if it puts an end to this then so be it.
Is it a pus like discharge or just a lighter yellow fluid? Some light yellow fluid is not always bad. The fact that it stinks though makes me lean towards something else. You are only packing it with gauze? No antibiotic ointment or anything? Any redness or warmth around the wound edges?
All wounds have bacteria in them but it doesn't always mean that it is infected. I would at least want to be putting some kind of ointment on it in an effort to stop any growth. I think assessing it for another week or so and making a decision about seeing someone else and getting a different plan going is a good one. Unless there are reddened or warm areas, and thicker pus instead of just fluid. In which case I would say don't wait and get in somewhere sooner than that.
So the pus is kinda thick, but its not red around the area or warm. It still bleeds from time to time (especially when it gets messed with) which he said was good. So, I don't know what to think anymore. I would really like to avoid another surgery, but if it puts an end to this then so be it.
See that's what is throwing me off... If it is not that deep and only an inch why is he talking about surgery!! He should be able to make that heal without saying you need to go back to surgery!
Bleeding is good because it means there is viable tissue and oxygen and nutrients being carried to the area which will promote healing. So yes, that is good. Although annoying, lol.
Nope, he specifically said surgery. So, I don't know what the hell is going on. If it hasn't shown major progress in 2 weeks I will be consulting someone else.
nuggetrn I wish I had advice for you. I'm in Canada so things work differently. We have a 1 year paid maternity leave (up to 55% of your salary up to a cap) that we are paid by the government through employment insurance so long as we have worked 600 hours in the past 52 weeks and many companies will top up your pay to 100% of your salary for part or all of your leave depending on their policies. Also because of our Healthcare system having a baby doesn't cost anything. So I know it's easy for me to say just do it because of what we have in place here.
Nope, he specifically said surgery. So, I don't know what the hell is going one. If it hasn't shown major progress in 2 weeks I will be consulting someone else.
That just makes me scratch my head.... makes zero sense.
thechickencoop, sorry I'm late to this thread! I should be having an HSG late next week, and there is reason to suspect one or both tubes may be blocked. My RE said that if they are blocked it could be a pretty painful procedure, and he also wants to make sure my tubes are "relaxed" and don't spasm (since that may have been what happened during my lap) so he plans to, in his words, "drug me up" in advance with an opioid and possibly a valium or something. I have my SHG on Monday so he was going to give me all the details/scripts then. But if your doctor didn't tell you to take anything like that, my guess is you'd be fine to drive yourself.
eucalyptus - I was on BCPs for 15 years continuously (didn't take placebos) and stopped in Dec. 2014. I started TTC immediately, although as you can see below that hasn't been successful. But my cycles came back immediately and have been very regular (usual 29-30 day cycle). Main thing I've noticed is weight gain - my weight was pretty stable but in the past year I have gained 15 pounds. Working on losing that now!
Can I come play here for a little while? I feel like I jump in and out of this thread more than I would like to, but I hope you'll have me
Numbers: Onto cycle 14, CD1
Circumstances: Seeing an RE; mild endo removed with a lap in November; currently benched and taking BCP for more testing this cycle
R/R/NSNFQ: Started my period today, which means more IF testing. RE has me taking BCPs again so that my lining doesn't build up and then he wants to do a saline sono on Monday and an HSG probably Friday. Hopefully will have some answers soon! But the idea of taking BCP again just really sucks, and I hope they don't make me sick. When I first started them way back when they made me pretty ill, and I've been off of them for over a year now.
GTKY: I'm not terrible with tech, but I am far from savvy.
nuggetrn I wish I had advice for you. I'm in Canada so things work differently. We have a 1 year paid maternity leave (up to 55% of your salary up to a cap) that we are paid by the government through employment insurance so long as we have worked 600 hours in the past 52 weeks and many companies will top up your pay to 100% of your salary for part or all of your leave depending on their policies. Also because of our Healthcare system having a baby doesn't cost anything. So I know it's easy for me to say just do it because of what we have in place here.
Yea... :/ That would certainly make this decision a lot easier.
nuggetrn to contextualize why I took a new job in July (3 months pregnant), I had been trying to get pregnant for months and got laid off in April. Got pregnant the next weekend. Freaked out.
Saw RE 1/11/17 HSG x 2 - 2nd revealed both tubes open and arcuate uterus Cycle #1-2 Femara 5mg + TI = Cancelled - poor response Cycle #3 - Femara 7.5mg and Dex 0.5mg - another poor response - waiting to see when I O
Post by gabride2010 on Jan 13, 2016 15:20:17 GMT -5
@diamondsanddaisies I agree with nuggetrn. They shouldn't stitch it since it is oozing. I don't see the need for surgery either since the wound is so small. The bleeding is definitely a good sign. A picture could be helpful if you feel like posting one.
nuggetrn Can you get iodaform gauze OTC? That's what I packed my friend's C/S incision with until it healed. I don't know if it needs an RX or not.
Saw RE 1/11/17 HSG x 2 - 2nd revealed both tubes open and arcuate uterus Cycle #1-2 Femara 5mg + TI = Cancelled - poor response Cycle #3 - Femara 7.5mg and Dex 0.5mg - another poor response - waiting to see when I O
nuggetrn do you need to be in your job for a year before you are eligible? What would happen if you did get KU and weren't eligible? Is there anyway you could make it work financially? If not then I change my answer. Are you in the US?
nuggetrn , are you already working in your new job? Some awesome employers will allow you take take FMLA before the year. Might be worth checking-- hopefully yours is one of them!
Edited-- I just saw your later post. Sorry I jumped the gun! Sounds like you've already figured out what you can get. Follow up question, are you required to use your TOP during your FMLA or is it just an option for getting paid during those weeks?
Yes. Its about an inch long. It was a little smaller, but when they put the stitches in, they cut out some bad skin so it would close properly. Well those stitches dissolved and it didn't heal shut. I went back in on Monday and he is just having me "pack" it with gause until it heals shut. I've decided that if it isn't showing noticeable improvement in 2 weeks, I am having someone else look at it.
diamondsndaisies, I hope that you heal soon. This sounds terrible!
nuggetrn I wish I had advice for you. I'm in Canada so things work differently. We have a 1 year paid maternity leave (up to 55% of your salary up to a cap) that we are paid by the government through employment insurance so long as we have worked 600 hours in the past 52 weeks and many companies will top up your pay to 100% of your salary for part or all of your leave depending on their policies. Also because of our Healthcare system having a baby doesn't cost anything. So I know it's easy for me to say just do it because of what we have in place here.
sammysam, I think I can safely say we are all so jealous right now. This is just fantastic.
Numbers: CD 2, Cycle 22, Month 18 (I suck at counting)
Circumstances: TTA until March/April for FMLA eligibility, then will move to NTNP indefinitely because MH sucks (no, i'm not bitter at all.)
R/R/NSNFQ: I might have a cyst. All the familiar symptoms are there. I was in severe pain for days. Still feel like crap.
GTKY: It took me like 20 minutes to copy and paste the top part from last week's thread. I struggle with technology. How about you? I have had my phone for a little less than a year and I am sure it can do things that I have no clue it is capable obf.
That turned into a long question/ramble. Please delete when you respond. Haha
*For own my amusement I am not deleting your ramble. Love you, my little nugget. I am more technology savvy than I let on. I just don't care to use it unless I have to.
Saw RE 1/11/17 HSG x 2 - 2nd revealed both tubes open and arcuate uterus Cycle #1-2 Femara 5mg + TI = Cancelled - poor response Cycle #3 - Femara 7.5mg and Dex 0.5mg - another poor response - waiting to see when I O
Saw RE 1/11/17 HSG x 2 - 2nd revealed both tubes open and arcuate uterus Cycle #1-2 Femara 5mg + TI = Cancelled - poor response Cycle #3 - Femara 7.5mg and Dex 0.5mg - another poor response - waiting to see when I O
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