Post by seannemairi on Jan 14, 2016 13:05:57 GMT -5
So, here's the deal - right before Christmas my husband had his holiday party and it was out of town so his company put us up in a hotel. Well, my parents lived right behind the hotel so they watched Hunter for the night. We took advantage of it and we did the dirty. Well it just so happens that that particular month I was transitioning from one job to another and my insurance had lapsed. I did not refill my birth control that month because I did not want to pay God knows how much for something that I would be able to take in just a couple of weeks, plus I'm still breastfeeding & I know I'm not doing it at the rate at which it makes it safe to have unprotected sex but I figured my fertility would be low enough that I could take the chance. Well my husband decided that he was going to chance it and I could very possibly be pregnant right now. It was as much my fault as it is his because I let it happen, but I am absolutely angry, upset, and terrified right now. In an ideal world I would have loved to let my body heal at least for a year before trying to have another baby and I wanted to spend so much quality time with my little one now because I'm absolutely not ready to share my love with another baby yet, but if I have to obviously I'm gonna. The thought of that devastates me because I am so overwhelmed with this new kind of love for Hunter, I only want to spend time with her right now. I feel like an emotional mess because some people have a really hard time having babies or can't at all and that makes me feel even more guilty for feeling the way that I feel. I know I'll get over it and love another baby just as much as I love Hunter and frankly, I haven't even taken a pregnancy test, it's just an inkling that I have - I'm terrified to take pregnancy test because then it's real. All of this sounds so selfish and silly when i read it to myself. I would judge me. But that's where I'm at right now and I just needed to vent, thanks guys
Thanks all for the tips, I had no idea about the Ziploc bags, good to know! I ended up going to the nearest store and buying cheapie Gerber bottles, they screw into the Medela parts. How big of a deal do you think it is that I can't boil them first? I washed them really well with super hot water.
I think you're fine, especially since it's an emergency situation.
I also boiled water in the electric kettle and poured it over them, I feel pretty okay about their cleanliness.
budders, that's kind of how I felt. There were some good ideas but I found she made some pretty huge claims and then didn't back them up. I also am not ready for finger foods, it's a personal thing. It's nothing to do with nutrition or anything like that I'm just TERRIFIED of the whole choking/gagging.
budders, I LOVE hearing you say that. My one friend is very militant that basically if you don't do blw you will damage your child forever. But she also has made backhanded comments about how her LO was fully BF and mine was FF and that she wonders how he'll take to solid food because of it.
So, here's the deal - right before Christmas my husband had his holiday party and it was out of town so his company put us up in a hotel. Well, my parents lived right behind the hotel so they watched Hunter for the night. We took advantage of it and we did the dirty. Well it just so happens that that particular month I was transitioning from one job to another and my insurance had lapsed. I did not refill my birth control that month because I did not want to pay God knows how much for something that I would be able to take in just a couple of weeks, plus I'm still breastfeeding & I know I'm not doing it at the rate at which it makes it safe to have unprotected sex but I figured my fertility would be low enough that I could take the chance. Well my husband decided that he was going to chance it and I could very possibly be pregnant right now. It was as much my fault as it is his because I let it happen, but I am absolutely angry, upset, and terrified right now. In an ideal world I would have loved to let my body heal at least for a year before trying to have another baby and I wanted to spend so much quality time with my little one now because I'm absolutely not ready to share my love with another baby yet, but if I have to obviously I'm gonna. The thought of that devastates me because I am so overwhelmed with this new kind of love for Hunter, I only want to spend time with her right now. I feel like an emotional mess because some people have a really hard time having babies or can't at all and that makes me feel even more guilty for feeling the way that I feel. I know I'll get over it and love another baby just as much as I love Hunter and frankly, I haven't even taken a pregnancy test, it's just an inkling that I have - I'm terrified to take pregnancy test because then it's real. All of this sounds so selfish and silly when i read it to myself. I would judge me. But that's where I'm at right now and I just needed to vent, thanks guys
No judgment, and I get the fear of having an answer, but since you're already anxious and stressed, why not just take the test and find out? There's a good chance you're not pregnant and if that's the case, you're working yourself up when you don't need to.
Exactly this...since you're so stressed about the situation, I would just take a test so you know. You could be worrying for nothing. Good luck and keep us updated!
Eta--TL; DR article summary-Healthy, full-term BF babies absorb a ton of iron through BF. Adding iron supplements can actually cause them to absorb less iron from BF and possibly slow their growth.
Well man!! My instinct was telling me supplements weren't necessary, but I've been giving them on Ped's orders. Guess I'll just not feel bad when we skip them (frequently)
budders, I love this particular friend to death and she's been super supportive and helpful generally so I truly think her comments come from a place of love and maybe of pride in her own daughter but it reall makes me stabby when she says things like that.
Post by seannemairi on Jan 14, 2016 13:55:59 GMT -5
Thanks y'all. It's been on my mind a little but I hadn't thought about it in depth too much so I had planned on waiting until a month after we did it to take a test. It happened on dec. 19th, but today has just been a series of annoyances and mild stresses so of course my brain was like "hey, you have this other huge thing hanging over you, think about that too!" Which brings me to now. I'm taking one tonight so the hubs can be there.
Post by carolyngrace on Jan 14, 2016 13:56:16 GMT -5
Our food journey accelerated very rapidly the last couple of weeks. I went from purees *maybe* once/day to a combination of purees, mum mums, finger foods, and bites of whatever I'm eating. He's probably eating 3 times/day (though not a lot each time).
To the iron question - they will get it same as all the babies before the invention of rice cereal 50ish yrs ago. Breastmilk or formula mainly and as they eat more food keep it balanced, veggiemo had great suggestions of beans, kale and tofu
Our food journey accelerated very rapidly the last couple of weeks. I went from purees *maybe* once/day to a combination of purees, mum mums, finger foods, and bites of whatever I'm eating. He's probably eating 3 times/day (though not a lot each time).
So has ours! We went from me wondering if he was ever going to eat anything that didn't come in a bottle a few weeks ago, to last night he legit could not get enough of some broccoli I kind of mashed down and mixed with some cheese. DH made it in one of his bowls, and I was like, wow, he'll never eat that - should we save some in the fridge? Nope, gobbled almost all of it down, and then finished it off with a few puffs.
Post by jillywilly on Jan 14, 2016 14:20:50 GMT -5
@seannemari, good luck! I totally understand your feelings. Even though it was super, super improbable (we have fertility issues + I JUST finished pumping + mini pill, although I missed a few), I POAS a few weeks ago because I got all crazy that I felt like I was PMS'ing for weeks, but no period (which is basically how I felt super early in pregnancy). Even though I was totally crazy for doing so, the 100% piece of mind was good to have, as I am in no way, shape or form ready to have another baby quite yet. Hope you get similar feelings of relief tonight!
Our food journey accelerated very rapidly the last couple of weeks. I went from purees *maybe* once/day to a combination of purees, mum mums, finger foods, and bites of whatever I'm eating. He's probably eating 3 times/day (though not a lot each time).
Amelia can put down some serious quantities of food. There have been times where she has been fed 5oz of puree and she wants more! Like "MMMM MMMM MMMM", mouth open, legs kicking, more!
We do normally 3 meals a day, 2-4oz each meal. Girl loves her food.
Us too, and he was so whatevs to food for awhile. This morning he ate a banana and egg pancake, 2oz applesauce mixed with oatmeal and for lunch he just polished off 3 oz of puree, a dozen puffs
How is everyone's baby handling their mum mums? I got some for E to try last night, but I had to take it away. He took it from me and chomped it into a gigantic bite, then shoved in more and took another gigantic bite on top of that. I expected him to just chew or gnaw on it, but he acted like he wanted to swallow it whole.
mirage86 she will bite off a piece from time to time but mostly gums it. She loves those things!
We give purees twice a day now, about 2.5-3 ounces. She loves food! She's gained 11 ounces in a month since she's started eating (yay, we're at 13 lbs, 5 oz!). She's been having mangoes this week and they're so yummy! She had an apple pumpkin last night that was delicious, too.
Oh, and Gilmore Girls - that's it? Soooo unsatisfying. They can hurry it right up with this reboot.
@bubbs119, I truly don't think she means to be hurtful at all. I think for her it's truly a curiosity. But for me it's difficult because I have such strong emotions regarding my inability to BF.
She is also just very blunt with everyone and I've actually had to talk her down from things at work so she doesn't shove her foot in her mouth and get in trouble.
mirage86 she will bite off a piece from time to time but mostly gums it. She loves those things!
We give purees twice a day now, about 2.5-3 ounces. She loves food! She's gained 11 ounces in a month since she's started eating (yay, we're at 13 lbs, 5 oz!). She's been having mangoes this week and they're so yummy! She had an apple pumpkin last night that was delicious, too.
Oh, and Gilmore Girls - that's it? Soooo unsatisfying. They can hurry it right up with this reboot.
If she likes mangos you could mix with avocado, its DS's fav combo and yea for good fats and sweet mango yumminess
Post by beersandweirs on Jan 14, 2016 17:03:39 GMT -5
When we went to the grocery store this weekend, they had two types of apples on sale; pink ladies (my fave) and another kind called pacific rose, and they were in a bin right next to each other. I accidentally bought the pacific rose and was wondering why all my apples this week had been lousy. I would not recommend pacific rose apples, they taste only slightly better than red delicious, which is a pretty big insult in the apple world.
When we went to the grocery store this weekend, they had two types of apples on sale; pink ladies (my fave) and another kind called pacific rose, and they were in a bin right next to each other. I accidentally bought the pacific rose and was wondering why all my apples this week had been lousy. I would not recommend pacific rose apples, they taste only slightly better than red delicious, which is a pretty big insult in the apple world.
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