How Old Comfortable TTC Poll

[seattleblondie]

What is the oldest *you* (personally) would feel comfortable TTC?

[requiressnacks]

Can you give some context or better explain the purpose of this poll, seattleblondie?

[♪♫choppinbroccoli♫♪]

Where is the SS "dafuq?" answer?

[mrsjene]

Due to IF, I feel like I don't have a real choice in the matter.

[ceejay]

I'm usually all for clicky polls, but this question is weird.

[seattleblondie]

Jan 14, 2016 17:12:05 GMT -5 requiressnacks said:

Can you give some context or better explain the purpose of this poll, seattleblondie?

I have been thinking about this a lot lately as I would be AMA (advanced maternal age) if we TTC/pg. I have been wondering what others thought about this (for themselves).

I thought a poll might be better than a post, but people could post if they didn't want to answer the poll (or not participate at all of course, if they don't want to).

but perhaps this is more of a young crowd and most of you aren't thinking about this?

[mrsjene]

Jan 14, 2016 17:22:21 GMT -5 seattleblondie said:

Jan 14, 2016 17:12:05 GMT -5 requiressnacks said:

Can you give some context or better explain the purpose of this poll, seattleblondie ?

I have been thinking about this a lot lately as I would be AMA (advanced maternal age) if we TTC/pg. I have been wondering what others thought about this (for themselves).

I thought a poll might be better than a post, but people could post if they didn't want to answer the poll (or not participate at all of course, if they don't want to).

but perhaps this is more of a young crowd and most of you aren't thinking about this?

Not necessarily. There's actually quite a few of us that are close to AMA or are AMA.

[notagoddess]

Jan 14, 2016 17:22:21 GMT -5 seattleblondie said:

Jan 14, 2016 17:12:05 GMT -5 requiressnacks said:

Can you give some context or better explain the purpose of this poll, seattleblondie ?

I have been thinking about this a lot lately as I would be AMA (advanced maternal age) if we TTC/pg. I have been wondering what others thought about this (for themselves).

I thought a poll might be better than a post, but people could post if they didn't want to answer the poll (or not participate at all of course, if they don't want to).

but perhaps this is more of a young crowd and most of you aren't thinking about this?

Well most people here are actively TTC. We're past the decision stage at this point.

[requiressnacks]

Jan 14, 2016 17:22:21 GMT -5 seattleblondie said:

Jan 14, 2016 17:12:05 GMT -5 requiressnacks said:

Can you give some context or better explain the purpose of this poll, seattleblondie ?

I have been thinking about this a lot lately as I would be AMA (advanced maternal age) if we TTC/pg. I have been wondering what others thought about this (for themselves).

I thought a poll might be better than a post, but people could post if they didn't want to answer the poll (or not participate at all of course, if they don't want to).

but perhaps this is more of a young crowd and most of you aren't thinking about this?

I just don't think there is a right answer here. We have a mixed crowd, of mainly 20's and 30's, but I think we are all just hoping for the same result. For me, I'll keep going until we have success. I don't know what age that will be.

[seattleblondie]

Jan 14, 2016 17:27:22 GMT -5 mrsjene said:

Jan 14, 2016 17:22:21 GMT -5 seattleblondie said:

I have been thinking about this a lot lately as I would be AMA (advanced maternal age) if we TTC/pg. I have been wondering what others thought about this (for themselves).

I thought a poll might be better than a post, but people could post if they didn't want to answer the poll (or not participate at all of course, if they don't want to).

but perhaps this is more of a young crowd and most of you aren't thinking about this?

Not necessarily. There's actually quite a few of us that are close to AMA or are AMA.

it's hard. we are considering TTC, but I feel like (due to my age) we are running out of time to decide :-(

[akraus2015]

I guess I really don't know how to answer this, because I'd like a baby like...yesterday. I thought I'd have a take home baby by now. And I'm not getting any younger.

[♪♫choppinbroccoli♫♪]

Jan 14, 2016 17:22:21 GMT -5 seattleblondie said:

Jan 14, 2016 17:12:05 GMT -5 requiressnacks said:

Can you give some context or better explain the purpose of this poll, seattleblondie ?

I have been thinking about this a lot lately as I would be AMA (advanced maternal age) if we TTC/pg. I have been wondering what others thought about this (for themselves).

I thought a poll might be better than a post, but people could post if they didn't want to answer the poll (or not participate at all of course, if they don't want to).

but perhaps this is more of a young crowd and most of you aren't thinking about this?

I think you'll find here that there are people of all ages TTC. It's a question you have to ask yourself, IMO. Everyone's situation is different.

[notagoddess]

Jan 14, 2016 17:29:26 GMT -5 akraus2015 said:

I guess I really don't know how to answer this, because I'd like a baby like...yesterday. I thought I'd have a take home baby by now. And I'm not getting any younger.

Yes.

This post is rubbing some of us the wrong way because we all want to get pregnant on here. This is an unpleasant reminder that time is passing, and getting or staying pregnant is not necessarily within our control.

In an ideal world, I'd have my first child by now. But it hasn't happened. I'm going to keep trying until it does.

[mrsjene]

Jan 14, 2016 17:29:23 GMT -5 seattleblondie said:

Jan 14, 2016 17:27:22 GMT -5 mrsjene said:

Not necessarily. There's actually quite a few of us that are close to AMA or are AMA.

it's hard. we are considering TTC, but I feel like (due to my age) we are running out of time to decide :-(

For me, there's no such thing. It's just keep going until we have a baby.

[Deleted]

So I think there may have been a better approach to this. Also a poll was probably not appropriate for this question.

There are many different factors that come into play when deciding to no longer TTC; age, finances, employment, other children, living situation, physical health, mental health, personal preferences, just to name a few. Any advice we could give you is anecdotal and no one's circumstances will be exactly alike. Ultimately, you have to do what is right for you and you S/O and make the decision for yourselves.

[Rama]

I think this would have gone over better as a post versus a poll. It's just weird, especially without really knowing who you are or why you're asking.

At least, I'd be much more open about exploring your hesitation and pros/cons for you to TTC right now. My decision to TTC is personal and not one I'm willing to just share without a good reason.

[seattleblondie]

Jan 14, 2016 17:35:49 GMT -5 notagoddess said:

Jan 14, 2016 17:29:26 GMT -5 akraus2015 said:

I guess I really don't know how to answer this, because I'd like a baby like...yesterday. I thought I'd have a take home baby by now. And I'm not getting any younger.

Yes.

This post is rubbing some of us the wrong way because we all want to get pregnant on here. This is an unpleasant reminder that time is passing, and getting or staying pregnant is not necessarily within our control.

In an ideal world, I'd have my first child by now. But it hasn't happened. I'm going to keep trying until it does.

I would be willing to take it down if it is bothering the board.

[PepperPottsJ]

Definitely rubbing the wrong way.

I honestly feel that this is a judgey question to ask. AMA does not mean too old to TTC. It is not my fault it took me a long time to find MH and not my fault I now have to move on to an RE. The AMA ladies have the same reproductive rights as the < 35 crowd.

I don't believe you intended this to be hurtful, but it is.

If it's helpful to you, I believe the age most insurance companies refuse to cover treatments is 45.

[seattleblondie]

Jan 14, 2016 17:54:29 GMT -5 PepperPottsJ said:

Definitely rubbing the wrong way.

I honestly feel that this is a judgey question to ask. AMA does not mean too old to TTC. It is not my fault it took me a long time to find MH and not my fault I now have to move on to an RE. The AMA ladies have the same reproductive rights as the < 35 crowd.

I don't believe you intended this to be hurtful, but it is.

If it's helpful to you, I believe the age most insurance companies refuse to cover treatments is 45.

This wasn't meant to be "judgey".

I can take it down if the board would like.

[PepperPottsJ]

Jan 14, 2016 17:56:51 GMT -5 seattleblondie said:

Jan 14, 2016 17:54:29 GMT -5 PepperPottsJ said:

Definitely rubbing the wrong way.

I honestly feel that this is a judgey question to ask. AMA does not mean too old to TTC. It is not my fault it took me a long time to find MH and not my fault I now have to move on to an RE. The AMA ladies have the same reproductive rights as the < 35 crowd.

I don't believe you intended this to be hurtful, but it is.

If it's helpful to you, I believe the age most insurance companies refuse to cover treatments is 45.

This wasn't meant to be "judgey".

I can take it down if the board would like.

No need from my perspective, learn from it and let's move on

ETA we are trying to help you learn what flies and does not so we can support each other

[mrsjene]

Jan 14, 2016 17:56:51 GMT -5 seattleblondie said:

Jan 14, 2016 17:54:29 GMT -5 PepperPottsJ said:

Definitely rubbing the wrong way.

I honestly feel that this is a judgey question to ask. AMA does not mean too old to TTC. It is not my fault it took me a long time to find MH and not my fault I now have to move on to an RE. The AMA ladies have the same reproductive rights as the < 35 crowd.

I don't believe you intended this to be hurtful, but it is.

If it's helpful to you, I believe the age most insurance companies refuse to cover treatments is 45.

This wasn't meant to be "judgey".

I can take it down if the board would like.

Deleting things is frowned upon.


It'll blow over, but I think it's a good idea to keep in mind that a lot of people on this board have a lot of circumstances that can't be summed up in a poll such as this one.

[wanderingheart]

Where's the "until I hit menopause" option?

[longhornwino0907]

Jan 14, 2016 17:57:50 GMT -5 PepperPottsJ said:

Jan 14, 2016 17:56:51 GMT -5 seattleblondie said:

This wasn't meant to be "judgey".

I can take it down if the board would like.

No need from my perspective, learn from it and let's move on

ETA we are trying to help you learn what flies and does not so we can support each other

This. Don't delete; it will go over very poorly if you delete. You posted something that rubbed people the wrong way, but that doesn't mean you shouldn't stick around, see how the community works, and jump in again when you're ready.

[seattleblondie]

Jan 14, 2016 18:05:28 GMT -5 longhornwino0907 said:

Jan 14, 2016 17:57:50 GMT -5 PepperPottsJ said:

No need from my perspective, learn from it and let's move on

ETA we are trying to help you learn what flies and does not so we can support each other

This. Don't delete; it will go over very poorly if you delete. You posted something that rubbed people the wrong way, but that doesn't mean you shouldn't stick around, see how the community works, and jump in again when you're ready.

OK. I really don't want to hurt people's feelings though.

[longhornwino0907]

Jan 14, 2016 18:06:47 GMT -5 seattleblondie said:

Jan 14, 2016 18:05:28 GMT -5 longhornwino0907 said:

This. Don't delete; it will go over very poorly if you delete. You posted something that rubbed people the wrong way, but that doesn't mean you shouldn't stick around, see how the community works, and jump in again when you're ready.

OK. I really don't want to hurt people's feelings though.

Don't think of it that way! No one is sitting behind their computer crying over your poll.

Look, pretty much all of us, at one time or another, has said something in a thread that rubbed someone else the wrong way. It happens. And think of it this way: you didn't get told you're going on a post-it, so that's good news!

[seattleblondie]

Jan 14, 2016 18:08:33 GMT -5 longhornwino0907 said:

Jan 14, 2016 18:06:47 GMT -5 seattleblondie said:

OK. I really don't want to hurt people's feelings though.

Don't think of it that way! No one is sitting behind their computer crying over your poll.

Look, pretty much all of us, at one time or another, has said something in a thread that rubbed someone else the wrong way. It happens. And think of it this way: you didn't get told you're going on a post-it, so that's good news!

post-it?

[PepperPottsJ]

Jan 14, 2016 18:11:32 GMT -5 seattleblondie said:

Jan 14, 2016 18:08:33 GMT -5 longhornwino0907 said:

Don't think of it that way! No one is sitting behind their computer crying over your poll.

Look, pretty much all of us, at one time or another, has said something in a thread that rubbed someone else the wrong way. It happens. And think of it this way: you didn't get told you're going on a post-it, so that's good news!

post-it?

:-). When someone says/types/does something truly appalling they go on a post-it.

[seattleblondie]

Jan 14, 2016 18:13:25 GMT -5 PepperPottsJ said:

Jan 14, 2016 18:11:32 GMT -5 seattleblondie said:

post-it?

:-). When someone says/types/does something truly appalling they go on a post-it.

on the board somewhere?

[longhornwino0907]

Jan 14, 2016 18:11:32 GMT -5 seattleblondie said:

Jan 14, 2016 18:08:33 GMT -5 longhornwino0907 said:

Don't think of it that way! No one is sitting behind their computer crying over your poll.

Look, pretty much all of us, at one time or another, has said something in a thread that rubbed someone else the wrong way. It happens. And think of it this way: you didn't get told you're going on a post-it, so that's good news!

post-it?

They don't need to remember that you said something hurtful/stupid/etc.

You're just new and we're trying to help guide you down a path toward the highest level information, enjoyment, and support from this community of wonderful people.

[wanderingheart]

#lurkingisagoodthingtodo