babyzebra- that really stinks he said that! We can't control when we get pregnant, stay pregnant, etc. Maybe he needs to realize it's only one summer out of your entire career. There will be many more summers where you are working!
Post by ArgyleEnigma on Jan 20, 2016 21:37:18 GMT -5
babyzebra, I'm pretty mad on your behalf. What a thoughtless, mean thing to say. It would definitely be reasonable to tell him so, and why, in private.
I also always rage at the idea that our families, our REAL LIVES, should be shuffled around to accommodate work instead of the other way around. Is work going to give me that kind of loyalty in return? No. I'm an asset to work and they're and asset to me, they aren't my sick grandmother and they aren't going to care for me in my hard times, either.
babyzebra I'm sorry you had to experience that convo. Don't feel bad about the timing. There is really never a perfect time to have a baby and in the grand scheme of things you really won't miss too much work wise.
vivela I really hope he realizes why you're upset and tries to work on making good decisions. Men won't change because of a baby, but it definitely requires a little maturing. Maybe baby will help a little.
Post by pdxlaurens on Jan 20, 2016 22:17:18 GMT -5
I've gotten to the point where I'm obviously pregnant and not just carrying weight around my waist. And thus the unsolicited comments are flowing freely. We just went to LA to visit family which included my nephew's baptism and a party after. Since I had my 1 yr old with me all week I got a lot of "wow, you'll have your hands full!" and a surprising number of people asked if I was excited which rubbed me the wrong way. These weren't people I know well. And what if I wasn't excited for some reason?! Probably me being hormonal and feeling over-exposed but holding back the snark was hard.
babyzebra and GOmamab15 I'm sorry for being so blunt (I'm in a bit of a mood) but fuck those guys. What a completely dick thing to say... and completely fucking ignorant. "Yes I totally should have planned better, please give me the magic wand I need to make me get pregnant on demand at exactly the right time for YOU, boss. Cause really when I'm thinking of having sex with my partner to try and create life YOU and YOUR needs are a top consideration." Fucking idiot thing to say... Even as a joke. Sorry for the rant that just really hit a nerve with me.
Thanks ladies, you are the best! I feel a lot better now. I've known him for a little while now, so I'm not sure if he just felt like it was ok to say something like that because it wasn't a formal interview and we know each other or what? If he doesn't like the fact that I'm pregnant then he doesn't have to hire me. But he will. Because I'm awesome at what I do. I'm even awesomer when I'm pregnant.
Even though I don't like his sexist comment, I would be crazy not to accept the position. I've been doing this long enough to know that on the grand scheme of potentially fucked up shit that could happen, this is unfortunately pretty low on the list. Plus, it would be way more money and security for my family, which is what this is all about.
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