Post by pghtruelove on Jan 20, 2016 10:29:40 GMT -5
erbear we really enjoy it! It gives really good social time but also gives great ideas for things to do at home. They send you home with a paper of what you did that day. Today is our first day of level 2. We took a month off.
jillywilly I feel similar to what billyhorrible said. If you dont have a naturally solid sleeper then when it teething or growth spurts or anything happen then sleep is disrupted.
I totally here you on the mental health and marriage. Its one of the reason we are 2 and thru, both of mine werent good sleepers and it takes a real toll.
For now Ive set 2 nurse times 11 and 3, if he wakes up before that then he CIO with interval soothing, he waits us out sometimes too but over the past few weeks its been less and less of that. I *think* he is getting it, its just a sloooooow process.
This is currently our night feeding routine as well. We did CIO with interval soothing at naps and bedtime, and I wake him up to nurse 2x at night. No more waking every 45 minutes! He has turned into quite the snoozer.
I also have dropped nursing to every 3 hours at night - if she wakes up in between, h gets up and soothes her back to sleep. It doesn't take more than 10 minutes for him, usually. So, she'll be in bed around 7 and I could nurse at 10, 1, and 4, but it's usually less. Last night it was only once (she did get up around 9:30 and H got her to sleep).
Eta: she's been an explosion of new skills and she's grown a lot lately, so that also accounts for sleep regressions. Plus, teeth.
My LO was down to 1 feeding at night until a little after 3 months and since then she's kinda been all over the place. Right now I think she wakes 2-3 times to nurse. I nurse her and fall right back to sleep (we co-sleep) and don't usually check the time anymore. For a while we were trying to soothe her back to sleep without nursing her but she would get hysterical. And if I just nurse her right away then she'll nurse for like a minute and fall back to sleep. So I personally don't have an interest in trying to night wean right now. At 1 year if she's still waking 2-3 times a night to nurse then we'll certainly revisit. By that point I'm hoping to have her in her crib as well.
It seems like a lot of our babies are regressing sleepwise. I can't imagine night-weaning b/c I broke my baby & he won't sleep without being nursed first. He'd never go back to sleep.I don't even know how we got here, he used to be able to put himself to sleep. Now he can't & its my fault.
I actually said to DH last night - "I don't know where we went wrong to create this," and after having a mental breakdown around 5 a.m., after feeling like a crappy mom all night, I actually told my baby this morning "you broke mommy." Sleep issues suck, especially because they leave you feeling so tired and terrible the next day. Logically I know we probably didn't break our baby, but mom guilt is a powerful force that knows no logic.
Anybody willing to give me the 5 second lesson on how to post pictures on tapatalk?
Standard Wednesday here. W seems to feel a little better today. Meeting with the attorney today to finalize/sign our wills and then that is officially off my list! Woo!
Ironically, Tapatalk is the one place I can post pictures, ha. When you're posting a reply, hit the little "+" sign next to the dialogue box, and then the window will get bigger and a button you can press to pick pictures pops up.
Post by mrsdee1982 on Jan 20, 2016 11:04:51 GMT -5
Morning ladies. Hope everyone has access to all the caffeine they need/deserve today.
@bubbs119 , Congrats! That's a huge accomplishment!
Yesterday my 14 year old goddaughter got into BIG trouble at school. My BFF was telling me about it and said she had texted her husband and told him to come home from work because they needed to Parent. She didn't want to tell him what had happened over the phone, because she didn't want him to drive while angry. I told her I would hang out until he got home and then take the 2 boys (7 years old and 3 years old) out to dinner so she and her DH could have some privacy to discuss the issue at hand and then discuss with GD.
Moms of 3, I don't know how you do it! I took my 7 year old and 3 year old godsons and my 7 month old daughter out to dinner. It was only for an hour and half, but I was EXHAUSTED by the end of it. My hat off to you all.
These have been the only lactation treats that have actually helped me out. I'm not talking TONS extra, but I noticed I got over an ounce pumping at night. I did add cinnamon to them, too!
Post by holliberry28 on Jan 20, 2016 12:23:37 GMT -5
Congrats @bubbs119!
I don't have much going on. H is on a western movie kick and made me watch "Bone Tomohawk" with him and one of the last scenes was so disturbing and horrendous that I couldn't fall asleep for about an hour after. Good movie though.
We've had a good day, but not really enough naps. I'm wondering whether I crammed too much into the day. We went to an hour long music class this morning, then had a cuppa with some of the other mums and babies; came home for lunch; Skyped my sister; went out again to meet friends to play; and got home at nearly five. I'm currently in nap jail with mixed feelings as it's nearly six o'clock and bedtime starts at seven!
L's sleep has been less settled since she moved into her own room two and a half weeks ago. I think we just need to wait it out as she's going through a lot of cognitive leaps, but H is finding it hard. She sttn from eight weeks to four months so I know she will again - we just need to be patient!
I spilled whipped sweet potatoes on my pants. I look so classy.
LO didn't have her first bottle today until 12:30 - 5.5 hours after I last nursed her. H gave her avocado at 9:30 and then she napped from 10:30-12. It's kind of amazing how she holds out when I'm not home!
It seems like a lot of our babies are regressing sleepwise. I can't imagine night-weaning b/c I broke my baby & he won't sleep without being nursed first. He'd never go back to sleep.I don't even know how we got here, he used to be able to put himself to sleep. Now he can't & its my fault.
I actually said to DH last night - "I don't know where we went wrong to create this," and after having a mental breakdown around 5 a.m., after feeling like a crappy mom all night, I actually told my baby this morning "you broke mommy." Sleep issues suck, especially because they leave you feeling so tired and terrible the next day. Logically I know we probably didn't break our baby, but mom guilt is a powerful force that knows no logic.
STAHP.
Both of you.
Neither of you broke your babies. Neither of you has done a single thing wrong.
Sleep issues are 100% child development centered and 0% parent caused. LBB was a terrible sleeper. I skipped reading the stupid, fear-mongering books that serve to line the pockets of so-called sleep experts and read studies. Hundreds of studies. Studies on babies here, Europe, Australia, Asia. I mean, I was up multiple times a night anyway, right?
Sleep goes in cycles. For babies and adults. Light, deep, REM, etc. etc. As our brain develops, we're better able to transition through the phases of sleep. Meaning how long a baby sleeps before waking often has to do with mental development. And just like physical development, that's going to be different for every child.
Now what about a baby that was sleeping well and stops? In a controlled environment, with no other factors, we would all peacefully drift from one cycle to the next. But that's not how it works with adults, and that's not how it works with babies. We all have "things on our mind" which make transitioning more difficult. With adults, you may wake up between cycles remembering something you need to do. Anxiety is a key factor in cycle wakes, insomnia, etc. Babies are similar. Not that babies have anxiety, but if there's anything going on developmentally, or causing discomfort (sickness/teething) it makes it more difficult for them to transition.
Babies don't have a lot of resources at their disposal. They are terrible journalers, have difficulty reading to themselves, and make a mess if they try to fix themselves a midnight snack. And EVERY study I read showed that sleep aids do not hinder development. So whatever sleep aid your child needs, use it. If that's a lovey, nursing, a shirt that smells like you, white noise, whatever. They won't need it forever, and honestly, we all have certain things we rely on to cue our body it's time for sleeping. Even adults.
We've had a good day, but not really enough naps. I'm wondering whether I crammed too much into the day. We went to an hour long music class this morning, then had a cuppa with some of the other mums and babies; came home for lunch; Skyped my sister; went out again to meet friends to play; and got home at nearly five. I'm currently in nap jail with mixed feelings as it's nearly six o'clock and bedtime starts at seven!
L's sleep has been less settled since she moved into her own room two and a half weeks ago. I think we just need to wait it out as she's going through a lot of cognitive leaps, but H is finding it hard. She sttn from eight weeks to four months so I know she will again - we just need to be patient!
I'm curious, what does this mean? Like a play date?
I actually said to DH last night - "I don't know where we went wrong to create this," and after having a mental breakdown around 5 a.m., after feeling like a crappy mom all night, I actually told my baby this morning "you broke mommy." Sleep issues suck, especially because they leave you feeling so tired and terrible the next day. Logically I know we probably didn't break our baby, but mom guilt is a powerful force that knows no logic.
Babies don't have a lot of resources at their disposal. They are terrible journalers, have difficulty reading to themselves, and make a mess if they try to fix themselves a midnight snack. And EVERY study I read showed that sleep aids do not hinder development. So whatever sleep aid your child needs, use it. If that's a lovey, nursing, a shirt that smells like you, white noise, whatever. They won't need it forever, and honestly, we all have certain things we rely on to cue our body it's time for sleeping. Even adults.
Congratulations @bubbs119, that's a huge accomplishment! Today is our warmest day for a while (19° right now), so once E wakes up we're heading to out to run errands. I am way more excited about this than I should be.
Post by musicfrk2002 on Jan 20, 2016 13:17:21 GMT -5
PSA: if you are microwaving store bought purees, either put them in a different container or make sure every eensy weensy bit of foil came off the plastic first.
musicfrk2002, that made me laugh so hard! My first year in uni my roommate was from Hong Kong and had never used a microwave. I told her she was welcome to use it but no metal. LOL ff a few months and I can hear all of my roommates whispering in the kitchen I come out to a dorm full of smoke and the smell of burning tires. She had microwaved my metal mixing bowl!
I need to put this somewhere. My SIL (H's sister) needs a kidney. Background: we used to be close, we had a disagreement and now we get along ok, but nothing like we used to be. I always told her when the time came that she needed another kidney (she's already had one transplant) I would be tested to see if I could donate. We have the same blood type, that's all I know at this point.
Would any of you consider donating a kidney? Any advice or thoughts?
BTW H will not donate, and he doesn't think I should either.
I need to put this somewhere. My SIL (H's sister) needs a kidney. Background: we used to be close, we had a disagreement and now we get along ok, but nothing like we used to be. I always told her when the time came that she needed another kidney (she's already had one transplant) I would be tested to see if I could donate. We have the same blood type, that's all I know at this point.
Would any of you consider donating a kidney? Any advice or thoughts?
BTW H will not donate, and he doesn't think I should either.
Moved my answer here:
This might deserve its own thread. Does she have any kids? In my mind that matters. If she does then I absolutely would get tested.
I need to put this somewhere. My SIL (H's sister) needs a kidney. Background: we used to be close, we had a disagreement and now we get along ok, but nothing like we used to be. I always told her when the time came that she needed another kidney (she's already had one transplant) I would be tested to see if I could donate. We have the same blood type, that's all I know at this point.
Would any of you consider donating a kidney? Any advice or thoughts?
BTW H will not donate, and he doesn't think I should either.
Moved my answer here:
This might deserve its own thread. Does she have any kids? In my mind that matters. If she does then I absolutely would get tested.
She has one child, we were pregnant at the same time (with our now 3 year olds). Her pregnancy is probably a big contributor to why she needs a new kidney, it was really hard on it.
That's tough veggiemo ! It's a serious recovery time and extensive testing to even find out if you are a match. My mom's bff donated a kidney to one of their friends and she's still healing and the surgery was in September. I can't even imagine the recovery time and having little ones.
Oh wow, that's a long time. I wondered about that, recovery and caring for kids and how much work I would have to miss, etc.
This might deserve its own thread. Does she have any kids? In my mind that matters. If she does then I absolutely would get tested.
She has one child, we were pregnant at the same time (with our now 3 year olds). Her pregnancy is probably a big contributor to why she needs a new kidney, it was really hard on it.
If you gave her a kidney would she need another one again later?
DD (2.5) is sick and resting peacefully on the couch. I have to return these library books that are already overdue. Sooooo tempted to leave her there while I run out, I mean its literally 1 mile down the road. I wont but so tempting
Post by mrsdee1982 on Jan 20, 2016 13:56:35 GMT -5
I know nothing about this, but what I have heard is that the recovery time for the Donor is far longer/harder than the recovery time for the Receiver.
That being said, if it were my husband, child, sibling or parent, I would donate if I could. My In-Laws…I don't know. I'd have to think a little harder about that.
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