Post by sleepymonkey on Jan 21, 2016 11:11:07 GMT -5
So many hugs, dovahfel. That does sound like a really rough week. And I'm really sorry your H backed out of the SA. Like rablissful said, it could be just an excuse. Maybe he's just worried about the result. MH's SA was this week and I know he is really worried that it's "his fault" that we're having difficulty. I am actually really hoping that it's an issue with me and not him because I know how guilty he will feel if it is MFI, even though IF is no one's fault no matter what the cause.
Ugh the next 3 nights are going to be rough at work. Damn daycare germs giving us all colds! Also dear god I walked by the toddler 1 classroom after dropping DS off and there was a sign that said they had one confirmed case of ringworm. NO. Why are kids so gross?!
Uuugh ringworm sucks. One of the chinchillas at the Petsmart I work at somehow got it. Poor babies
Our dog had it a couple of years ago and we were so afraid of DS getting it. The dog was so miserable so I can't imagine little kids with it
ironbaby, that sounds like an awesome weekend! I love Melting Pot! I can do without the main course but the cheese and the dessert are so good, not to mention their drinks. I've been to a Brazilian steakhouse twice and it was so good but so much food.
Our neighborhood is having a little get together at the pavilion/playground this weekend. Of course this is the weekend when it's only supposed to be in the 50s, which is cold for us. It's a potluck and I am thinking of bring a big crock pot full of hot chocolate. I'm sure some people will appreciate that!
I was just about to say the same thing about Melting Pot. Bring me all the cheese and chocolate fondue but keep the boiled dinner stuff. DNW raw chicken floating around my other food. Also, that shit takes forever to cook.
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Apparently H is coming around and volunteered to shovel the driveway after work before we get hit again.
I have to go to my hometown Saturday for a 10 year reunion planning meeting. I'm kind of nervous. Anyone have good ideas?
Free booze.
Even if it's only for a couple hours.
We have like no budget. From the comments we have received people want a big party, but probably aren't willing to pay for tickets to cover it all. I thought about suggesting a heavy appetizer kind of thing to make it less expensive.
We have like no budget. From the comments we have received people want a big party, but probably aren't willing to pay for tickets to cover it all. I thought about suggesting a heavy appetizer kind of thing to make it less expensive.
So many hugs, dovahfel. That does sound like a really rough week. And I'm really sorry your H backed out of the SA. Like rablissful said, it could be just an excuse. Maybe he's just worried about the result. MH's SA was this week and I know he is really worried that it's "his fault" that we're having difficulty. I am actually really hoping that it's an issue with me and not him because I know how guilty he will feel if it is MFI, even though IF is no one's fault no matter what the cause.
MH put his off for months..."forgetting" or running out of time. I felt the same way as you hoping it was my "problem" and not him. He also took it hard getting "bad" news, but he is dealing much better now. I thought it would devastate him bc of his personality and how sensitive he can be, but he's grown up a lot through the process.
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It's DH's birthday today! Had to update my siggy. Turns out the nightie that I bought for our anniversary of meeting on Tuesday did not so much look sexy on, so I'm returning it today and now the plan is for a sexy birthday surprise
Plus I want to give him a good night because he's going to be a trooper and drive me in the snow tomorrow morning to my HSG and then deal with me being crampy and loaded up on oxy and xanax (I love that my RE has me take those for the HSG - he is like, 30% of patients say it is quite painful, so I want to plan for you being in that 30%). I told him that if we can even possibly physically make it there I don't want to cancel because I just want to know if I have blocked tubes or not. I'm kind of terrified because tomorrow tells me whether we have a few options or whether I'm just limited to IVF.
It's DH's birthday today! Had to update my siggy. Turns out the nightie that I bought for our anniversary of meeting on Tuesday did not so much look sexy on, so I'm returning it today and now the plan is for a sexy birthday surprise
Plus I want to give him a good night because he's going to be a trooper and drive me in the snow tomorrow morning to my HSG and then deal with me being crampy and loaded up on oxy and xanax (I love that my RE has me take those for the HSG - he is like, 30% of patients say it is quite painful, so I want to plan for you being in that 30%). I told him that if we can even possibly physically make it there I don't want to cancel because I just want to know if I have blocked tubes or not. I'm kind of terrified because tomorrow tells me whether we have a few options or whether I'm just limited to IVF.
Happy birthday to your DH! I'm glad your RE recognizes the pain involved. I remember my mom telling me how bad my aunt cried during hers due to the pain. I'm crossing my fingers that your tubes aren't blocked!
And I love your RE. I found my HSG pretty uncomfortable. Give me all the drugs!!
l really like him - he's very good at explaining everything that he's doing and being very honest about how it's going to feel. For my saline sono he explained the whole procedure before starting, including that he has to use a different kind of speculum that is much less comfortable than a normal one, and then he tells me each thing he's doing as he does it. And he didn't try to downplay the HSG - he said that about 30% say it's no big deal, about 40% say it is fairly uncomfortable, and the remaining 30% say it is painful. Plus he's concerned that my tubes may have spasmed during the lap, which is why they appeared blocked, so the xanax is to keep those bad boys relaxed too.
And I love your RE. I found my HSG pretty uncomfortable. Give me all the drugs!!
l really like him - he's very good at explaining everything that he's doing and being very honest about how it's going to feel. For my saline sono he explained the whole procedure before starting, including that he has to use a different kind of speculum that is much less comfortable than a normal one, and then he tells me each thing he's doing as he does it. And he didn't try to downplay the HSG - he said that about 30% say it's no big deal, about 40% say it is fairly uncomfortable, and the remaining 30% say it is painful. Plus he's concerned that my tubes may have spasmed during the lap, which is why they appeared blocked, so the xanax is to keep those bad boys relaxed too.
Good luck to you and I hope your tubes are clear! Sounds like you have a great doctor.
This week has been a hard one. I was in the ER last week with my very first athsma attack. I didn't even know I had asthma but there it is. Die to that emergency my sub plans were terrible. The sub then complained about me to the principal, my mentor.....and about every other staff and faculty member in the school. I've had FOUR people talk to me about it. So embarrassing. I also was laid up with a fever (athsma was from being sick) so I missed more days....one of the other subs took it upon herself to conference with a parent because they knew each other outside of school. That parent came to me yesterday to ream me about bad communication because the sub told her about some kind of project that doesn't even exist...
I'm also trying to not think about the fact that today we were going to do my husband's SA, but he backed down because it was too hard to get to the clinic, so he effectively benched us for 4 months at least.
So many hugs to you. What a rough week for you. Sorry H is being difficult...do you think he is worried that the test will find out that "he" is the issue (even though it really doesn't matter who has the issue-it becomes a joint issue...if that makes sense at all...words are hard today).
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This week has been a hard one. I was in the ER last week with my very first athsma attack. I didn't even know I had asthma but there it is. Die to that emergency my sub plans were terrible. The sub then complained about me to the principal, my mentor.....and about every other staff and faculty member in the school. I've had FOUR people talk to me about it. So embarrassing. I also was laid up with a fever (athsma was from being sick) so I missed more days....one of the other subs took it upon herself to conference with a parent because they knew each other outside of school. That parent came to me yesterday to ream me about bad communication because the sub told her about some kind of project that doesn't even exist...
I'm also trying to not think about the fact that today we were going to do my husband's SA, but he backed down because it was too hard to get to the clinic, so he effectively benched us for 4 months at least.
As a sub, this makes me irrationally irritated really fucking mad. Subs should know that you can go into a classroom and there are ZERO plans. Some days you just wing it. And under no circumstances are subs supposed to talk to parents. I hope you're feeling better!
Also big hugs. I hope your H changes his mind. I have a feeling it's more than just too hard to get to the clinic though because that seems like a huge cop out excuse. Maybe you could talk to him more about it?
I know!!! I subbed for 3 years. I've easily taught a month's worth of days (spread out) with literally nothing except a room key. I made it work. I get that it's frustrating not to have stuff. I get that I'm supposed to. But life happens. Sadly my room was in disarray because I was *getting* sick and feeling like a beat up bag of assholes. I would never DREAM of doing what my subs did when I was a sub. Holy hell.
As for the SA. We are talking about it. Its led to more than a few fights. He just seems to drag his feet about this whole process. He finally admitted that it's because he's afraid he's the problem and he couldn't really handle that right now (his dad is dying so I give him lots of slack about that. it really is fair) But the avoidance doesn't make it any easier on me.
I'm really hoping things get better soon. it's been a long haul of bad days. I know they gotta turn around soon.
dovahfel I'm sorry you're having a rough week. Asthma does suck.. Hopefully you're better soon and have no further bouts with it. Mine flares up when I'm sick too and sometimes even just knowing that relieves me so I know when to expect it.
daisy818 Good luck on your HSG!! I didn't think it was too bad, uncomfortable yes but not as painful as I expected. Just a little cramps and I took Tylenol before going in.
mustloveerica Fingers crossed for good SA! You're husband is funny with the splooge in a cup shop comment.
dovahfel - *hugs*. Sorry you and your H are having a rough week.
daisy818 - I think one thing that helped me with the HSG was not eating a lot before it. My room was set up bad so I had to do it on a wedge thing instead of the normal set up and being at that angle + the fluids made me queasy.
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