Post by lostinfaith225 on Jan 27, 2016 19:39:52 GMT -5
I don't know if I should share my story from last time. But I don't want it to be like last time.
I am going to the hospital and bring on the epi!!! (Even though I had a terrible skin rash from the tape after). Haha
So, with ds I was induced at 38.5 weeks due to high blood pressure and vomitting. I got the first miso pill at 3 or 4 in the afternoon. Water didn't break til like 4 or 5am. Lots of waiting!
When it was time to push, I pushed for just under 3 hours. I was so weak from vomitting. It was awful. He came out and my uterus would not retract. They couldn't get the medicine in me because my Iv stopped working. So cue my bad ass dr yelling for a new Iv. I lost half my blood supply. I almost passed out, blood pressure was like 70/40 At one point.
After all that settled down, I had uncontrollable shivering for an hour and I was the last person to hold ds.
I'm going with a hospital birth and will go unmedicated if I can, if not I'm not going to beat myself up over getting an epi. I watched "The Business of Being Born" and it kind of inspired me to try unmedicated first, but we will see.
I truly hated this documentary. It was so biased & I felt like Rikki Lake basically shamed any mom who didn't have the desire or ability to give birth med free in her bathtub.
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I'm going with a hospital birth and will go unmedicated if I can, if not I'm not going to beat myself up over getting an epi. I watched "The Business of Being Born" and it kind of inspired me to try unmedicated first, but we will see.
I truly hated this documentary. It was so biased & I felt like Rikki Lake basically shamed any mom who didn't have the desire or ability to give birth med free in her bathtub.
Yeah I can totally see that. It also made it seem like unmedicated births are a breeze....which I'm pretty sure they are not.
Post by littlesthobo on Jan 27, 2016 20:25:15 GMT -5
Hospital and epidural is the plan. This was the plan last time, and to just go with the flow. I ended up going into labour quickly at 39 weeks. Felt like contractions just started all of a sudden, like what happens in the movies, and we were in the car and off to the hospital! I thought I would labour at home a little longer. Nine hours after my first contraction, DS arrived. I'm a little worried about having a faster labour this time!
Post by jewelsofthenile on Jan 27, 2016 20:46:37 GMT -5
I did had an unmedicated hospital birth last time and I will be hoping to repeat that this time. Being able to move was great. If you are worried about too many interventions at a hospital labor as long as you are comfortable at home. There isn't a whole lot of time to worry about the hospital suggesting too many things when you walk in 10 cm dialated I did not intend to wait that long but my doctor said wait until your contractions last for a minute and about 4-5 min apart for an hour before you go to hospital and by the time that happened and we drove the 30 min to the hospital I was ready to push.
mcktymck A lot of people will try to tell you horrifying stories or tell you that your plan is crazy. I don't get it either. Yeah, it totally hurt like hell but it was also really awesome. I loved being able to get up out of the tub and stand with DS in my arms. It was such an awesome and empowering experience.
+1
Personally, I don't even know how anyone remembers how bad it was. I went 9 hours full pitocin before I got the epi. I remember it being painful, but it's in a theoretical kind of way. Like I know it must have sucked, but two weeks later I was ready to do it again.
Post by roccobabyk on Jan 27, 2016 20:59:34 GMT -5
I hope to attempt an unmedicated VBAC at a hospital. Not completely opposed to an epidural but I would like to wait as long as possible for it. With DD it just eventually stopped working. I was induced with DD at 41 w and nothing went great. I ended up having a c-section 26 hours later after I never dilated past 4cm.
Personally, I don't even know how anyone remembers how bad it was. I went 9 hours full pitocin before I got the epi. I remember it being painful, but it's in a theoretical kind of way. Like I know it must have sucked, but two weeks later I was ready to do it again.
Birth amnesia is real!
Totally agree except I'd say I was in the ready to do it again maybe 2 YEARS later. 2 weeks post birth I was still in the what the hell happened and who is this creature living in my home phase.
Post by madamewaffles on Jan 27, 2016 22:47:28 GMT -5
I am having a planned c/s. I am still working on accepting that but understand why my medical team is recommending it. I have a rare physical disability that will most likely impede on my ability to have success during the pushing phase of labor. There is like 1 medical study on pregnancy and labor outcomes with my disease, so I am kind of a guinea pig. So erring on the side of caution, we will try to make this a safe and controlled environment for baby to be born in.
mcktymck A lot of people will try to tell you horrifying stories or tell you that your plan is crazy. I don't get it either. Yeah, it totally hurt like hell but it was also really awesome. I loved being able to get up out of the tub and stand with DS in my arms. It was such an awesome and empowering experience.
I hate the horror stories. I always try to tell first time moms that it's not as bad as everyone makes it out to be. After that baby comes out you forget about the pain anyways, at least I did.
Mine was crazy, and mine was rough. I didn't forget any of it. If a FTM asks me about it, I tell them how it was for me, openly and honestly....I don't sugar coat it. But I also remind them that just because it happened to me, DOES NOT mean that it will happen to them....and I stress that. That being said, even though it was an awful experience, it wasn't so awful that I would give up having more children because of it. Was it a shitty experience? You bet! But I ended up with something awesome out of the whole thing, my DD....and the chances of having a delivery like that again is pretty slim.
mcktymck, I have had tons of friends/family members go without drugs and loved their experience. Some were open screamers, some were super focused and breathed like an angry bull, and one of them (who had three unmedicated births), went into such a zone, she didn't utter a word or make any sounds. But all of them said the same thing...that once they got to the point where they wanted to give up and didn't think that they could do it, they were at the height of the pain and a few pushes away from it being over. Tell your mom to stop worrying about your vagina....there are still many countries that don't even offer drugs for birth, and they all do just fine!
Post by housecarder on Jan 28, 2016 5:47:46 GMT -5
DD was an emergency c section. My OB didn't recommend a VBAC with my history so DS was a scheduled RCS and it was heaven. These girls are going to be a RCS at 37 weeks.
mcktymck, I agree with harlowjune1984, on this one. Your mom is not the queen of your uterus. Lots of women still deliver unmedicated and they've done it for thousands of years too. So I think we can all agree that unmedicated births are possible and have been the norm for a really long ass time, and at the same time be grateful that if we want to tap out or have problems we live in a time/place where interventions exist
Totally agree except I'd say I was in the ready to do it again maybe 2 YEARS later. 2 weeks post birth I was still in the what the hell happened and who is this creature living in my home phase.
I blame my crazy desire on genetic biological impulse. My grand mother had 9 kids in 14 years. My mother always wanted more, but she was diagnosed with cancer when I was 3 months old. So I think the crazy just runs in the family. My Dd is 10 months and I can't even remember what was so bad about the newborn stage.
With DS, was induced due to low amniotic fluid and had an epidural. I was in labor for about 18 hours with a little over an hour of pushing. I was very happy with how things went, and I hope things go just as smoothly this time. I would prefer not having to be induced again.
But I am already stressed out about how to figure out what to do with DS if I do go into labor naturally. My parents are close by and happy to take him but I am already thinking about how I have never been apart from him for a night. We will have to have a practice run or two before this LO arrives.
So I am pretty ignorant when it comes to all the possible options, but this is my idea:
I would prefer to go into labour naturally and will try to labour unmedicated for as long as possible. I'd like to see my baby as soon as possible afterwards.
I don't really care what they have to do to get the baby out of it means vacuums, episiotomy, or C-section if it comes to that. And obviously if labour just isn't happening I'll eventually take pitocin. I suppose I should research this stuff some more lol.
I'll be in a hospital with an OB if all goes to plan.
They only test you if you have symptoms. So I had horribly itchy palms and feet at night. Literally my only symptom. I called the OB line to see if I could take Benadryl (because who hasn't been pregnant and itchy?) and they made me rush into L&D. They do this specialty lab test that looks for bile levels. Basically, your body starts over producing bile, your liver stops filtering it effectively and because a baby in utero is not equipped to handle that level of bile it can cause the worst possible option for any woman 36 weeks pregnant. If it happens early, they can give you steroids and some other medications that help with the filtering, but the only "cure" is to deliver. I was 37 weeks by the time the results came back so off to L&D I went. They say it's more common in Latin American decent and there's a strong genetic predisposition, but there's no diet/medication you can start to prevent it.
Hospital and epidural is the plan. This was the plan last time, and to just go with the flow. I ended up going into labour quickly at 39 weeks. Felt like contractions just started all of a sudden, like what happens in the movies, and we were in the car and off to the hospital! I thought I would labour at home a little longer. Nine hours after my first contraction, DS arrived. I'm a little worried about having a faster labour this time!
This is my birth story almost exactly! Except that it took us an hour and a half to get to the hospital and it was like driving on a bumpy country road the entire way because of all of the ice haha! At least this time the most we will have to deal with on the drive is rain!
I'm surprised how many of you are going to go unmedicated, that is amazing! So what do you to prepare for an unmedicated birth? I plan on getting an epi but want to be more prepared to be unmedicated if I need to be. I can see that if I'm not able to get the epi losing my shit, so I should be prepared haha! They told me that next time since it will go quicker that I shouldn't wait so long to come to the hospital.
I'm surprised how many of you are going to go unmedicated, that is amazing! So what do you to prepare for an unmedicated birth? I plan on getting an epi but want to be more prepared to be unmedicated if I need to be. I can see that if I'm not able to get the epi losing my shit, so I should be prepared haha! They told me that next time since it will go quicker that I shouldn't wait so long to come to the hospital.
Whoops. I was just gonna go in and be like "hold the meds".
Definitely going to need to do more research. Did not know there were things I could/should do to prepare :S
I'm surprised how many of you are going to go unmedicated, that is amazing! So what do you to prepare for an unmedicated birth? I plan on getting an epi but want to be more prepared to be unmedicated if I need to be. I can see that if I'm not able to get the epi losing my shit, so I should be prepared haha! They told me that next time since it will go quicker that I shouldn't wait so long to come to the hospital.
Whoops. I was just gonna go in and be like "hold the meds".
Definitely going to need to do more research. Did not know there were things I could/should do to prepare :S
I was just thinking more mental preparation- like what methods are you planning on to deal with the pain, etc!
Whoops. I was just gonna go in and be like "hold the meds".
Definitely going to need to do more research. Did not know there were things I could/should do to prepare :S
I was just thinking more mental preparation- like what methods are you planning on to deal with the pain, etc!
There are several "methods" that people follow, like hypnobabies and maybe the Bradley method? I didn't do much research on those, but I know resources are available.
I was really into yoga pre-DD so I used a lot of breathing techniques to get through labor. I also read a couple books about natural birth, one of which was Ina May Gaskin's book. I personally don't think taking classes is necessary but I do think some sort of mental preparation is extremely beneficial. Positive anecdotes of med-free births are also really inspiring for me, because then I think "F yeah, I can totally do this!"
DD was an emergency c section. My OB didn't recommend a VBAC with my history so DS was a scheduled RCS and it was heaven. These girls are going to be a RCS at 37 weeks.
housecarder, Did you find the recovery of your RCS with DS easier than your recovery with DD? I have had a lot of friends have two c-sections, and so far, they are all saying the scheduled c-section (their second one) the recovery was a lot better, but that it is a little scarier at first because of the fact you are walking down to the OR and then sitting there getting the epi and drugs while fully awake. Whereas with their first, they all already had their epi, had been in labor for hours, and were wheeled down...so at that point, they were so exhausted they didn't even care about the fact that they were going under the knife....as they didn't really have time to think about it.
Post by jewelsofthenile on Jan 28, 2016 10:28:21 GMT -5
I did the hypnobabies home study course. Its a pretty good time commitment like an hour of listening to CD's a day for at least 6 weeks. The books also give a pretty good overview of the process of birth. I will try to use it again this time. It did not make my birth pain free but it was a good way to feel prepared to try a med free birth.
Hospital birth is absolutely the plan for me as a FTM!
I have to say... I respect everyone planning for an unmedicated birth SOOO MUCH. You are much braver and stronger women than I am. I'm over here like "GIVE ME ALL THE DRUGS". The thought of potentially needing to have an episiotomy (sp?) gives me the heeby jeebies so I'm just planning for the epi after laboring for a bit. I would love to go the unmedicated, but I just don't think I can. My mom was completely unmedicated for both my sister and me so I know she would try to help me prepare if I asked, but I just want baby bean to get here safe and sound!
I do know I want to push hard (no pun intended) to have the "golden hour" immediately after birth where they totally leave baby and me alone, skin to skin. Hoping my hospital team cooperates!
DD was an emergency c section. My OB didn't recommend a VBAC with my history so DS was a scheduled RCS and it was heaven. These girls are going to be a RCS at 37 weeks.
housecarder , Did you find the recovery of your RCS with DS easier than your recovery with DD? I have had a lot of friends have two c-sections, and so far, they are all saying the scheduled c-section (their second one) the recovery was a lot better, but that it is a little scarier at first because of the fact you are walking down to the OR and then sitting there getting the epi and drugs while fully awake. Whereas with their first, they all already had their epi, had been in labor for hours, and were wheeled down...so at that point, they were so exhausted they didn't even care about the fact that they were going under the knife....as they didn't really have time to think about it.
I was actually more scared of trying a VBAC than a RCS. I was relaxed from not being in induced labor for almost 24 hours, and the recovery was a million times better. With DD I was falling asleep, and so out of it that I didn't really have time to enjoy her right away. With DD I was also terrified that something was wrong because she was in distress (hence the emergency CS).
With DS I showed up ready to go in and knew what was coming, I was awake the whole time. I was alert for all the clean up, assessments on him, and first meeting, and then had all day to enjoy him with visitors (DD was born in the evening).
ginabini, did you talk to your OB about episiotomies? Some won't even do them unless you're already starting to tear and they're going for damage control. It may give you piece of mind.
Hospital birth is absolutely the plan for me as a FTM!
I have to say... I respect everyone planning for an unmedicated birth SOOO MUCH. You are much braver and stronger women than I am. I'm over here like "GIVE ME ALL THE DRUGS". The thought of potentially needing to have an episiotomy (sp?) gives me the heeby jeebies so I'm just planning for the epi after laboring for a bit. I would love to go the unmedicated, but I just don't think I can. My mom was completely unmedicated for both my sister and me so I know she would try to help me prepare if I asked, but I just want baby bean to get here safe and sound!
I do know I want to push hard (no pun intended) to have the "golden hour" immediately after birth where they totally leave baby and me alone, skin to skin. Hoping my hospital team cooperates!
At least in my area, doctor's try to avoid doing episiotomies as much as possible, so that's good news! And most hospitals are on the wagon with the first hour of skin to skin (unless there are things that prevent that from happening with baby/ mama). So that is good news!
TnT10, TheTuna15, I definitely plan to talk to my OB about the episiotomy. I know its becoming less and less common, just one of those "what if's" that's in my head.
I'm surprised how many of you are going to go unmedicated, that is amazing! So what do you to prepare for an unmedicated birth? I plan on getting an epi but want to be more prepared to be unmedicated if I need to be. I can see that if I'm not able to get the epi losing my shit, so I should be prepared haha! They told me that next time since it will go quicker that I shouldn't wait so long to come to the hospital.
Whoops. I was just gonna go in and be like "hold the meds".
Definitely going to need to do more research. Did not know there were things I could/should do to prepare :S
I did a Bradley class and for me it was pretty useless. I think the instructor was just really terrible because I have heard of others taking it and loving their instructors.
I pretty much just did what felt comfortable at the time whether it was walking, swaying, or sitting on the bed. The pain comes in waves and I think the most important thing is to be able to focus your mind on something other than the pain.
I have no idea how long I will try to labor at home for this one. I didnt wait that long with DS before I went to the birth center. My contractions were 3 minutes apart form the very start and I went in and was only dilated to 4cm. From start to finish my labor was barely 12 hours.
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