Post by griffindor24 on Jan 29, 2016 22:51:45 GMT -5
OK I thought of one and its a little heavy. I wish that sometimes I could just behave my age instead of having so much responsibility with two kids. I mean, I'm 24 and have a 2 year old. I should have sown my wild oats while I had the chance. I would never trade my babies for anything, I just miss feeling like the old me sometimes.
A girl at work had her son in July and named him River. Not sure what's worse, Bear or River.
River Phoenix. I actually knew him in HS. He went to our brother school down the road from my boarding school for a time. Miss him.
Andplusalso, we considered River for P's name. Sorrynotsorry
ETA: Our FFFC name selection for P was Fergus. From before we were pregnant and for the first 20-22 weeks that was what we were going to name him. But people either loved it or said Holy WTF!??! so we got gun shy and changed our minds. I still love it and would totally use it on another boy. It's a strong Scottish name. Sorrynotsorry part deux.
OK I thought of one and its a little heavy. I wish that sometimes I could just behave my age instead of having so much responsibility with two kids. I mean, I'm 24 and have a 2 year old. I should have sown my wild oats while I had the chance. I would never trade my babies for anything, I just miss feeling like the old me sometimes.
I feel like this a lot also. I'm 28 with 3 kids, started when I was 24, so still pretty young. I think its normal to feel that way, especially when your kids are acting up or you've had a shit day.
It's no greener on this side, I assure you. I had mine in my 30's and now 40's. I'm glad I went out and sowed my oats and lived it up first, but when I was in my 20's and watching all my friends get married and have kids while I felt zero domestic or maternal calling at all, it was hard. I can't complain about how things turned out but sometimes I wish I'd gotten it together in my 20's and done this then. I think it's perfectly normal at any age to sometimes go "WTF am I doing here?!" on the hard days.
OK I thought of one and its a little heavy. I wish that sometimes I could just behave my age instead of having so much responsibility with two kids. I mean, I'm 24 and have a 2 year old. I should have sown my wild oats while I had the chance. I would never trade my babies for anything, I just miss feeling like the old me sometimes.
I feel like this a lot also. I'm 28 with 3 kids, started when I was 24, so still pretty young. I think its normal to feel that way, especially when your kids are acting up or you've had a shit day.
I thought you were older than me. You sound so much wiser, ha.
30 here, with 3 kids. Started at 24. No regrets. I can go do crazy shit with DH after they move out, right?
FFFC? I actually considered the name River for DS. DH wasn't a fan.
Honestly? I kinda like it too. I also KIND OF liked the name Lake, but figured it would be heard as Blake, which I had on our list briefly until H told me about the basketball player Blake Griffin. Can't have a Griffin and a Blake.
We have George as a backup boy name (after my Pappy and St. George). I realized one day though that we could never use it as a first name since we already have a Lucas...and DH is a huge Star Wars fan.
You can still care for someone regardless of what they did...that just means that your feelings are genuine. Hope he turns himself in to start righting the situation. How are the kids? Your sister?
sorry for the late response! My niece is doing well, I finally got to speak to her yesterday. My nephew is back in the hospital for a viral infection unfortunately. My sister is downplaying their injuries and won't discuss anything about what happened. She only contacted me to ask for money. It's shitty.
Glad to hear your niece is doing well. Sorry to hear about your nephew. Hopefully the infection clears up soon.
I feel like this a lot also. I'm 28 with 3 kids, started when I was 24, so still pretty young. I think its normal to feel that way, especially when your kids are acting up or you've had a shit day.
It's no greener on this side, I assure you. I had mine in my 30's and now 40's. I'm glad I went out and sowed my oats and lived it up first, but when I was in my 20's and watching all my friends get married and have kids while I felt zero domestic or maternal calling at all, it was hard. I can't complain about how things turned out but sometimes I wish I'd gotten it together in my 20's and done this then. I think it's perfectly normal at any age to sometimes go "WTF am I doing here?!" on the hard days.
This. I will be 32 next week, and we are on our first kid. We still want one more, hopefully before I turn 35. Part of me is glad I waited, because I got everything out of my system and had a lot of "me" time, but then again, we could possibly still have kids in our house when we are 55 years old.
It's no greener on this side, I assure you. I had mine in my 30's and now 40's. I'm glad I went out and sowed my oats and lived it up first, but when I was in my 20's and watching all my friends get married and have kids while I felt zero domestic or maternal calling at all, it was hard. I can't complain about how things turned out but sometimes I wish I'd gotten it together in my 20's and done this then. I think it's perfectly normal at any age to sometimes go "WTF am I doing here?!" on the hard days.
This. I will be 32 next week, and we are on our first kid. We still want one more, hopefully before I turn 35. Part of me is glad I waited, because I got everything out of my system and had a lot of "me" time, but then again, we could possibly still have kids in our house when we are 55 years old.
+2. I'm married to the love of my life, whom I met when I was 22. But for ages he was the one who got away, we didn't get married till I was 31, then we both had significant illnesses in the next few years. I was 35 when we finally started trying and 38 two days before L was born, and we want one if not two more. And I was miserable and ill for most of my twenties and the only boyfriend I ever had is the one I married, so I don't have particularly happy memories to look back on.
Don't mind me, feeling sorry for myself this evening! Life is better now than I could ever have imagined it, despite the hard parts.
I got married at 28 and had LO at 30. If we have a second, h wants to wait 3-4 years, so I'd be 33-34. My mom had me at 33 and I always thought she was so old and, well, now that may be me!
Post by carolyngrace on Jan 30, 2016 19:21:41 GMT -5
My mom had me at 36 and she was definitely an "old" mom in my group. But she waited almost 4 years in-between all 4 kids. She loved having some time in-between and more independent kids before the next baby came. We're all still really close, so it worked out!
Post by tatersalad on Jan 30, 2016 21:06:11 GMT -5
Old mom here, no regrets except that we are so set in our freewheeling ways it can sometimes seem greener on the other side. Very lucky to have our boys. If we were younger I would have put a minimum of 4 years between them.
@pcrunk is raptors nest ever going to re-open? I've been buying baby name wire bracelets and all kinds of other shit I probably don't need while checking on yours.
I got married at 28 and had LO at 30. If we have a second, h wants to wait 3-4 years, so I'd be 33-34. My mom had me at 33 and I always thought she was so old and, well, now that may be me!
I got married at 28, first kid at 30, second kid at almost 33. If I'm comparing to all the people I went to high school with (which is easy to do because, FB) I'm probably very slightly ahead of average. There are still a lot of folks getting married and having their first baby.
I feel like an a-hole but sometimes when I get a gift and I have no use for it or it does not have significant sentimental value, I'll put it in the donation box, immediately.
My SO is somewhat of a packrat and has a hard time letting things go. This means we have loads of crap that SO claims will become handy or he'll need in the future. I, on the other hand am currently looking at a souvenir that my BFF got LO while she was in Vegas. It's a little beanie baby-type bear with a Vegas logo. Thank you BFF for thinking of LO, I sincerely appreciate the thought and intent behind the gesture but ain't nobody got time to find a place to store said souvenir just to do the same thing and put in a donation box 5 years down the road.
I feel like an a-hole but sometimes when I get a gift and I have no use for it or it does not have significant sentimental value, I'll put it in the donation box, immediately.
My SO is somewhat of a packrat and has a hard time letting things go. This means we have loads of crap that SO claims will become handy or he'll need in the future. I, on the other hand am currently looking at a souvenir that my BFF got LO while she was in Vegas. It's a little beanie baby-type bear with a Vegas logo. Thank you BFF for thinking of LO, I sincerely appreciate the thought and intent behind the gesture but ain't nobody got time to find a place to store said souvenir just to do the same thing and put in a donation box 5 years down the road.
+1 to all of this! Our donation bags got a little heavier after Christmas...
I'm genuinely surprised that this is confession worthy. I thought everyone did that... It's why I am really careful when choosing Christmas and birthday presents, so that people won't have the hassle of dealing with something they don't want.
+1 to all of this! Our donation bags got a little heavier after Christmas...
I'm genuinely surprised that this is confession worthy. I thought everyone did that... It's why I am really careful when choosing Christmas and birthday presents, so that people won't have the hassle of dealing with something they don't want.
purple I agree it's not a huge confession, but I confessed it because I think some people could interpret my actions as ungrateful of the gift/token received, which isn't the case. Also, because the tv show Hoarders.
Ok I should probably wait on this but if I do I might forget to share.
I have one of those little baskets for holding bottle pieces in the dishwasher. I was all annoyed that my nipples didn't fit in the nipple holders. I recently discovered that you have to separate the nipple from the ring. I can't believe I didn't notice you could do that. Oops.
Someone pointed that out to me on Facebook. I had no idea either and I've worked with kids for years.
+1 to being an older mom. I'm 37. It has a lot to do with why I may only have one. I'm glad I waited though...I wasn't mature enough when I was younger to put someone else first.
Eta: I just realized how bratty that sounded. I didn't mean to imply any of you fabulous ladies aren't mature enough! Was just trying to say that I wasn't
Not bratty at all. I am amazed by the maturity level of most 20 something moms. I was a total disaster until 26. And then my idea of getting it together involved a a year of prep, three years of law school, followed by several years of getting settled in my career while working 80 hours a week. Le sigh. Oh well. I made it eventually.
Post by griffindor24 on Feb 2, 2016 18:34:15 GMT -5
In regards to being a young mom; my mom always told me you either have some extra energy with having kids early or extra wisdom with waiting a few years. I'm not sure if that's always the case but its encouraging to me on days where I feel like I'm going nuts. And its true; I'll only be in my early 40s when my kids are in college so DH and I will hopefully be able to have some time just us to do traveling and other such things. Its just hard to see friends traveling and I'm like, I can't even go away for a weekend without my breastfed baby.
In regards to being a young mom; my mom always told me you either have some extra energy with having kids early or extra wisdom with waiting a few years. I'm not sure if that's always the case but its encouraging to me on days where I feel like I'm going nuts. And its true; I'll only be in my early 40s when my kids are in college so DH and I will hopefully be able to have some time just us to do traveling and other such things. Its just hard to see friends traveling and I'm like, I can't even go away for a weekend without my breastfed baby.
You can travel and BF. You just need a pump and someone you trust to watch your baby. I say if you and h feel like traveling for short trips then go for it.
In regards to being a young mom; my mom always told me you either have some extra energy with having kids early or extra wisdom with waiting a few years. I'm not sure if that's always the case but its encouraging to me on days where I feel like I'm going nuts. And its true; I'll only be in my early 40s when my kids are in college so DH and I will hopefully be able to have some time just us to do traveling and other such things. Its just hard to see friends traveling and I'm like, I can't even go away for a weekend without my breastfed baby.
You can travel and BF. You just need a pump and someone you trust to watch your baby. I say if you and h feel like traveling for short trips then go for it.
Our anniversary is in May and I am really hoping to get out of the house for the weekend even if we just go to my in-laws cabin. I will have to pump but just to have some time away would be heavenly.
You can travel and BF. You just need a pump and someone you trust to watch your baby. I say if you and h feel like traveling for short trips then go for it.
Our anniversary is in May and I am really hoping to get out of the house for the weekend even if we just go to my in-laws cabin. I will have to pump but just to have some time away would be heavenly.
With DS I waited until he was 9 months to stay the night away. It was my bday and we had a party and stayed at a hotel in town that way if there was an issue I could drive home. Everything went fine and it was liberating to have that private time w H again. w Ali I had a weekend away when she was 4 months old and it felt too soon and all I wanted to do was be home w her. You'll know when the time is right.
Post by griffindor24 on Feb 3, 2016 10:43:58 GMT -5
For those who have gone away overnight, did you wake up through the night at all to pump? Did you notice a difference in milk supply at all? I have a friends bachelorette party coming up and she said to bring DS but I really would prefer not to and I'm wondering how best to prepare to go away overnight.
For those who have gone away overnight, did you wake up through the night at all to pump? Did you notice a difference in milk supply at all? I have a friends bachelorette party coming up and she said to bring DS but I really would prefer not to and I'm wondering how best to prepare to go away overnight.
I went away for a long weekend when LO was 8 weeks old. It was a bachelorette weekend and so we were up late. I just pumped right before I went to sleep and right after I woke up. I also pumped in a restaurant bathroom and twice at the airport. I dumped all of it though, because A. I didn't want to have to deal with bringing it all home on the flight and B. Excessive drinking. I did not notice a change in my supply, but LO wanted to nurse a lot when I got back. I just figured he was making up for lost time.
I pumped at around 6pm before getting ready for dinner then I pumped before going to bed at 11pm. I didn't wake in the middle of night and pump either.
Post by baytosa2013 on Feb 3, 2016 17:14:35 GMT -5
Also an old mom (38 this year) and C is our first and maybe only. I was way too selfish in my 20's to have a baby and even in to my 30's I still wasn't totally convinced. I suppose it helps that most of my close friends are older than me and also have less than 5 year olds running around. It's fairly common in our specific little area.
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