Friday confessional

[athn64]

It's good for the soul

[ArgyleEnigma]

We bought a minivan before baby was even conceived, just because that's the kind of car DH wanted. And we knew we wanted kids.

My condition was that it be a secret minivan, because we'd been TTC for 8 months at that point and I reeeealy did not want folks putting on their ute goggles when they saw it.

[Flair Underwood]

Oooh, I want a mini van so bad! My Elantra is going to be snuggly with two kids.

[amiet79]

We have a minivan and I love it! We bought it when DD was born and it's so spacious and comfortable. Before the van we had a Pontiac Sunfire and it was so cramped in there! Best purchase ever.

[nitecheese]

We're eyeing minivans with #2 on the way. I have the envies.

New confession - I pretty much hate sex now. I do it so DH doesn't feel sad and rejected, but I have no desire to get it on.

[amiet79]

nitecheese , my libido has definitely taken a nosedive. When DH and I do have sex, it's great, but I just can't get in the mood very often. It's hard to get in the mood when you're exhausted, emotional, and don't feel attractive.

[csat]

Not scandalous but I love when I see men bring their babies and young children on my morning commuter train, like this guy standing in front of me with the most adorable baby strapped to him in a front carrier. Can't stop staring, I probably look like a crazy lady.

[csat]

Same hereabout libido, although I had 3 sex dreams about DH last night, they were really good but I have no desire to act on them, think I'll be pretty satisfied for awhile now.

[sandandsea]

I'm in the market for a new car (I always have to say that like on the Price is Right....a NEEEEEWWWW CAR!!!!) and DH suggested a minivan. I vetoed it quickly as I park in an awful parking garage daily with 70% compact spots, tons of bad drivers, and millions of door dings. I want to keep a smaller car. I have a Mazda 3 hatchback now and am either going with the Audi A3 Etron (DH's choice) or Prius (my choice).

My confession - I love hatchbacks...so practical, but still small cars with great MPG!

Another confession - I'm going to test drive the Audi for DH tonight, but I really don't want it. I'm 98% sure that I want the Prius, but I'm keeping (trying) an "open mind" for DH as he thinks the Prius is FUGLY.

[broadwaymama]

My confession is that when I go to they gym I stick my belly out as much as I can because I want people to know I'm pregnant not just fat lol. I feel like I just look fat

[titania]

Jan 29, 2016 11:50:48 GMT -5 broadwaymama said:

My confession is that when I go to they gym I stick my belly out as much as I can because I want people to know I'm pregnant not just fat lol. I feel like I just look fat

I feel like I'm constantly rubbing my stomach out in public to say "there's life in here! Not just cookies!!"

[2dogs2kids]

Car confession- I miss my Mini Cooper and would love to trade in my BMW for another one, but it's not practical for 2 kids.

Real confession- As much as I am looking forward to being a SAHM after baby surprise arrives, I am equally terrified that I'm not cut out for it.

[frecklesnbrains]

Re: poor libido. I'm glad I'm not the only one. I'm still waiting for that "second trimester libido surge" that people talk about. Maybe TMI but I used to be the type of girl who orgasms 100% of the time, but I've just lost that ability since being pregnant. We used to have sex 3-4 times per week but now we're down to less than once a week. My body just doesn't feel right. I'm uncomfortable and I can't O in any of the pregnancy-friendly positions. My poor H is upset because he thinks it's his fault even though I try to reassure him that it's not his fault.

[nitecheese]

frecklesnbrains, that is pretty much where I am. Dislike.

[athn64]

I get the libido surge. DH loves it. He kept talking about throughout all of my crappy first tri.


On the subject of cars, I will drive a pickup for as long as it is feasible. Extended cab has space for the babies. Nobody's taking my truck away from me. If we get a minivan, DH will have to drive it.

[pbandj714]

So glad I'm not alone in the lack of libido. DH was really looking forward to the 2nd Tri surge, and I just haven't had it. Plus the heartburn every evening doesn't get me revved to go either. Boo.

[txmommy14]

ArgyleEnigma, that is amazing!! Love it.

I guess my confession is that I'm on pelvic rest because of the placenta previa and I don't really mind that much, even though we're intimate in other ways. I get annoyed when I get that weekly email that says, "enjoy the increased libido!" and I'm like, "whaaaa?"

[soultrane]

This talk of increased libido is like a foreign language to me. I haven't experienced the increased energy this time either though, so I imagine that the two may be connected. All I want to do is sleep!

[mladerri]

2dogs2kids I have a Mini Cooper. Or I should say we have one. We got an Suv when ds was born and I drive the suv and dh drives the cooper. I'm glad we still have it so I can pretend I'm go carting some days but definitely not practical for baby.

[microworm]

Jan 29, 2016 14:53:57 GMT -5 soultrane said:

This talk of increased libido is like a foreign language to me. I haven't experienced the increased energy this time either though, so I imagine that the two may be connected. All I want to do is sleep!

+1. My body must know there is already a baby in there, so no need for sex.

[birdhut]

Jan 29, 2016 11:50:48 GMT -5 broadwaymama said:

My confession is that when I go to they gym I stick my belly out as much as I can because I want people to know I'm pregnant not just fat lol. I feel like I just look fat

I do this when I take DD swimming and pat my stomach a couple times.

[mymilkshake]

Count me in for the barely there libido. My husband also is wondering where the second trimester "surge" is. After reading this thread it sounds like a myth!

[sandandsea]

Jan 29, 2016 15:10:18 GMT -5 mladerri said:

2dogs2kids I have a Mini Cooper. Or I should say we have one. We got an Suv when ds was born and I drive the suv and dh drives the cooper. I'm glad we still have it so I can pretend I'm go carting some days but definitely not practical for baby.

I've seen a mom at DC put her child in the backseat of her mini through the trunk.  I thought it was ingenious!

[nymama917]

Me too on the lack of libido. But you all are nicer than me cause my H just isn't getting any. I not only don't want it I'm disgusted at the thought. I was like this last time so I think he had low expectations . Bad news is that it was just as bad the whole year I was breastfeeding. Will I ever want it again? My poor H maybe I just need to be nicer!

[woodengirl07]

Count me in too! I'm on pelvic rest so it's not an option but it hasn't bothered me one bit.

[shan]

Well, I'll fess up. Sex has been amazing second tri. It's not all the time or anything, but the libido is definitely up and it feels even better than normal. It wasn't like this with dd1. Maybe it's bc we had tttc - and now that there's no pressure to get pregnant it's better??? Who knows. I'll take it.

[beshert42]

I'm also in the "flaunting my belly" group. I figure this is the only time in life where it's "cute" and not frowned upon, so I might as well live it up. Also, I feel like I just look fat because I'm so short, so I kind of wish I had a neon sign pointing to my bump that says, "BABY, NOT TACOS".

[vivela]

DH and I were having sex yesterday and towards the end, I though I felt something brush up against my leg. I thought, "that's weird, I know where all of DH is at the moment," but just thought I'd imagined it.
When it was over, I looked up and the dog was sitting on the bed about 6 inches away, staring at us. DH had forgotten to close the door to the upstairs. She seemed s little stressed out by the whole thing, too. One of my weirder interactions with my pet.

[babyzebra]

vivela I always have to lock my dog out of the room. Not because he gets stressed, but because he sits and stares at me with his judgy eyes the whole time! I don't need your approval, dog!

[frecklesnbrains]

vivela it probably used to strike me as bizarre, but DH and I have sex when our cats are in the bed all the time. The cats don't seem to mind at all so we've totally gotten used to it. I feel weird/dirty admitting that though.