How did you?

[cavewmn]

We are expecting our rainbow in July. Yay!

Dh's parents asked if it would be okay to take the kid to church with them sometimes. 
We are fine with this. Our child will choose what they want to be when they are old enough. 

The problem is they keep adding in "and you guys can join us too." 
I keep telling them we will be sleeping in those days. Thinking they will get the hint. 

Long story short: How did you tell your family you aren't religious and to stop trying to push going to church?

[4paws]

cavewmn, other than just outright telling them, I don't have any advice. I would suggest that DH, because it is his parents, tell them what you guys have decided for your family and let them know that you will respect their decision and ask that they respect yours, including that they are welcome to invite/take your little one from time to time but that you will handle any conversations with LO about religion, God, etc.

Assuming you have a good relationship I would think that they would be thrilled you are letting them take the LO at all. If they are pushy though, you may want to reconsider them taking LO as it could confuse the little one OR if you have any concerns about what they might say while you are not there. Only you know how they will behave with LO when you are not around.

[aves0708]

Congratulations on expecting your rainbow!

If it's bothering you or they are really persistant, I agree with 4paws, that this is a conversation your DH should have with his parents. If it's just a little annoyance I would consider if it's worth it to bring it up or just quietly turn them down each time. I had to have that conversation with my mom when I was in college. Every time I was home she would want me to go to church with her and I always I had reason not to hoping she'd just give up. She didn't. I finally had to tell her that I was not religious and didn't believe the same things she did. I am really close with my parents so this was a tough conversation involving tears on both ends, but I'm so glad I did it. Both of my parents have been very respectful since. DH's family is also super religious and honestly I'm not sure if he ever said anything to them. When we visit on Sunday's they never say anything to us about going.