Post by mrsmonogrammed on Feb 4, 2016 12:52:01 GMT -5
You guys, give me strength to put down FB and not rip this girl a new one.
H's cousin's soon to be wife (did you follow that?) shared an article on her page about how we should stop judging moms for anything they do (article for those interested- www.amessagewithabottle.com/parenting-behaviors-get-over/) but she has a CRAZY friend who is very in your face anti vac, pro breastfeeding, co sleeping, baby wearing mama. Most of that is fine minus the anti vax shit, but she commented on this girl's post about how babies do NOT need formula and none of them would die without it because everyone can breastfeed if they try hard enough. *duh*.
PLEASE tell me it would be inappropriate to post this gif as a response to her. Because I'm aboutthisclosetoit.
I think a new mom came back to work this week and is trying to use the same pumping schedule as me because she's been in there almost every time I've gone to pump this week. Will be leaving a friendly note about working out a schedule this afternoon because I do not have time to go back and forth checking to see if it's open multiple times! (I work in a large office building and it takes me a few minutes to go back and forth to the room) I've had the room to myself so far so I'm annoyed to share.
Omg this was so me like 6w after I returned to work. Except that I work in a WIC office so my "pumping room" is also the breastfeeding room available to clients. So it's generally pretty busy but I can usually sneak in because it's fairly close to my office. But there was a dr who worked downstairs who came back and was on almost the same schedule as I was. I think she pumps in an office downstairs now because she got tired of coming up here and finding the room busy. Good luck with coming up with a plan:)
I work for a pretty big company and we have several mothers' rooms throughout our office buildings. I'd heard that they were constantly busy and you have to book the room through Outlook. So I was happy when I was able to book the room in our building every day at the times I wanted. One week a girl kept being in there during my time. I explained to her that I had the room booked at the same times every day and that you're supposed to book the room in Outlook like you would for any meeting room. She was still in there a couple more times but I think she finally figured it out and I haven't seen her since. Like a week ago though there was someone in the room and I assumed it was her so I gave "her" a few minutes before knocking. I waited a few more minutes and knocked again (so 10 minutes into my 30 minutes scheduled) and a man's voice says he'll be out in a moment. The guy walks out with his lunch bag. There is a sign right outside the door that details how you have to book the room and that nursing mom's have priority. WTH man, get out of here this isn't the cafeteria!
Post by mrsmonogrammed on Feb 4, 2016 13:13:35 GMT -5
belle0720 I would have been so pissed!! I feel guilty like when I walk out with my pump bag (it just looks like a purse, thanks Sarah Wells Bags!) and there is a client with their baby there to physically nurse and they think I was just in here do whatever. I promise I'm trying to feed my baby too, people!
Wow, I had no idea so many people had so many feels about water...
Team luke warm/cold tap water for formula bottles over here. Never boiled water or warmed a bottle for any of my kids. Also DNW to spend big $$$ on "baby water" when I am already spending big $$$ for formula.
SIB....+1 to this! If she's lucky (or I get distracted) it's warmed slightly above room temp.
I'd post the gif. People who can't understand that formula fed is sometimes the only option for baby/health/mom's sanity make me extremely rage-y.
I haven't had to formula fed but it pisses me the eff off that there will almost definitely be some poor new mom who's struggling to BF and doesn't have an awesome support group like we do here, reading that comment and thinking she's killing her baby by giving it formula. I'm definitely rage-y over here!!
You guys, give me strength to put down FB and not rip this girl a new one.
H's cousin's soon to be wife (did you follow that?) shared an article on her page about how we should stop judging moms for anything they do (article for those interested- www.amessagewithabottle.com/parenting-behaviors-get-over/) but she has a CRAZY friend who is very in your face anti vac, pro breastfeeding, co sleeping, baby wearing mama. Most of that is fine minus the anti vax shit, but she commented on this girl's post about how babies do NOT need formula and none of them would die without it because everyone can breastfeed if they try hard enough. *duh*.
PLEASE tell me it would be inappropriate to post this gif as a response to her. Because I'm aboutthisclosetoit.
Please post it. Along with a virtual punch in the face from a mom who very much wanted to breastfeed her baby, tried really, really hard for several weeks to breastfeed her baby, cried for probably days and days that she couldn't breastfeed her baby, and took way too much time to get over feeling guilty for supplementing her baby with formula because of people like her. I seriously cannot stand when pro-breastfeeding becomes anti-formula, because it seriously made me feel like a shitty mom in those first few weeks where you literally are not thinking rational thoughts. It also became a huge point of conflict between DH and I at the time. Ugh, I still have a lot of feels about this.
Wow, I had no idea so many people had so many feels about water...
Team luke warm/cold tap water for formula bottles over here. Never boiled water or warmed a bottle for any of my kids. Also DNW to spend big $$$ on "baby water" when I am already spending big $$$ for formula.
Not really feels, just.. look at Flint right now. I mean, I hate to sound paranoid but its reality in 2016 in the US not everyone is getting clean drinking water from their taps. This is why I boiled and this is why I filter.
Finally got into the pumping room after knocking several times and saying "excuse me I have this room booked". Dude walks out looking rather disheveled and says he fell asleep. He was very apologetic but how annoying! This isn't a nap room, you're taking away from my pumping time! I'm thinking about writing an email to someone to complain. I don't know who...but I feel like a sign outside of the door explaining the purpose of the room and how to book it aren't making it clear enough to people.
Post by iowamama615 on Feb 4, 2016 13:26:31 GMT -5
jillywilly, ditto. I had pretty much the same experience. Which is why I feel the need to privately message any of my mom friends on Facebook who are having a difficult time, and tell them that feeding their baby is more important than where the food comes from.
How does one go about finding someone to do their taxes that isn't H&R block (as recommended by you ladies)? Do I just google tax accountant in my area?
We use an accountant...its the same one that Dh's dad has been using for years. We just mail all of our stuff in and then about 2 weeks later get it all back with stuff to sign and it states how much we are getting back. My sister goes to my dad's account and she is typically there for about 3 hours or so and he tells them how much they are getting or owe before they leave. Im sure if you google accounts in your area you will be able to find one! I know our local community college has students who are studying to be accounts do taxes for the community for free, or a very small fee. You just have to sign up for a time slot. Might be worth looking into!
We use the infant water too Kristykristyleelee . V likes her formula warm so we just use the bottle warmer for four minutes. I grew up in a city that didn't have the best tap water so the paranoia continued on wherever I live.
mrsmonogrammed, +1 for asking you to please post. I'm another mama that really tried breastfeeding but it did not work out.
Post by periwinkledaydreams on Feb 4, 2016 13:45:36 GMT -5
So.. I just got off the phone with one of my best girlfriends and she told me she's pregnant! Due in May!!! They've kept it a total secret up until a month ago. She has a little girl who will be 2 in March, and now is expecting a boy who will be just shy of a year younger than LO We haven't gotten together since September, but made plans for next weekend.. so exciting!
Finally got into the pumping room after knocking several times and saying "excuse me I have this room booked". Dude walks out looking rather disheveled and says he fell asleep. He was very apologetic but how annoying! This isn't a nap room, you're taking away from my pumping time! I'm thinking about writing an email to someone to complain. I don't know who...but I feel like a sign outside of the door explaining the purpose of the room and how to book it aren't making it clear enough to people.
Today is my Friday. Picking up my BFF and her husband from the airport tonight, dropping baby off with my parents tomorrow around lunch, then it's day drinking and Mardi Gras time all weekend.
Are you in Louisiana? I'm SO ready for Mardi Gras break from school!! Three glorious days!!
We have EFF since month 2 or so. I guess I just don't think it takes that much time to make a bottle. Granted, we buy the gallons of "baby water", so we do not have to boil the water. Also, A takes the bottles at room temp, so we literally pour water in, scoop powder, shake. Takes less than a minute. That is the perspective I was coming from. I may be singing a different tune if I had multiples or if boiling the water was a necessity.
There is such a thing as baby water? Yes! Tell me more! This is something I can get behind. Little man will take room temp bottles but the filtered water out of the fridge is too cold so I have to warm the bottle up in a pan.
Whaaaaa? We EFF and DD can only stand the ready to feed that has to stay refrigerated. We have a $15.00 bottle warmer that takes like 1-2 mins tops to warm the bottle. I could not deal with heating in a pan eff that.
I forgot to share that this morning I heard Darius Rucker's "it won't be like this for long" and ugly cried my way to work. I've got a lot of feels lately.
I am crying just thinking about that song. It always gets me going.
There is such a thing as baby water? Yes! Tell me more! This is something I can get behind. Little man will take room temp bottles but the filtered water out of the fridge is too cold so I have to warm the bottle up in a pan.
Whaaaaa? We EFF and DD can only stand the ready to feed that has to stay refrigerated. We have a $15.00 bottle warmer that takes like 1-2 mins tops to warm the bottle. I could not deal with heating in a pan eff that.
Or.. run under hot water in the sink! Also only takes a few minutes.
You guys, give me strength to put down FB and not rip this girl a new one.
H's cousin's soon to be wife (did you follow that?) shared an article on her page about how we should stop judging moms for anything they do (article for those interested- www.amessagewithabottle.com/parenting-behaviors-get-over/) but she has a CRAZY friend who is very in your face anti vac, pro breastfeeding, co sleeping, baby wearing mama. Most of that is fine minus the anti vax shit, but she commented on this girl's post about how babies do NOT need formula and none of them would die without it because everyone can breastfeed if they try hard enough. *duh*.
PLEASE tell me it would be inappropriate to post this gif as a response to her. Because I'm aboutthisclosetoit.
PLEASE post this and then screen shot the ensuing conversation! My baby lost a pound by the time we went to her first dr appt at 4 days old because my boobs were not working and never did, so yes she could have died if it wern't for formula. Bitch.
alayne926 Yeah I'm for sure going to email someone! Just need to do some intranet searching to find the right contact, oh the pros and cons of working for a very large corporation...
Today is my Friday. Picking up my BFF and her husband from the airport tonight, dropping baby off with my parents tomorrow around lunch, then it's day drinking and Mardi Gras time all weekend.
Are you in Louisiana? I'm SO ready for Mardi Gras break from school!! Three glorious days!!
You guys get holidays for Mardi Gras?! That's awesome! My coworker is leaving to New Orleans tomorrow, I'm so jealous!
My desk faces the front of our clinic and on sunny days, the sun reflects on cars in the parking lot and right into my eyes. I heard rumors about our owner getting quotes for shades for the windows, but have yet to hear anything for sure.
I am seriously considering wearing sunglasses at work, because it is getting awful!
madymoiselle A third party company handled my mat leave. And we have a bunch of different HR groups that handle different things, it's really confusing. For a lot of things we have to call our HR Service Center which is located in Texas. We are in California lol. I'll figure it out though. I think maybe even the office building management group might take note of it. I feel like I recall them sending out information about the Mother's Rooms in the past so maybe they can send out a reminder email about their purpose and how to book them.
Wow, I had no idea so many people had so many feels about water...
Team luke warm/cold tap water for formula bottles over here. Never boiled water or warmed a bottle for any of my kids. Also DNW to spend big $$$ on "baby water" when I am already spending big $$$ for formula.
Not really feels, just.. look at Flint right now. I mean, I hate to sound paranoid but its reality in 2016 in the US not everyone is getting clean drinking water from their taps. This is why I boiled and this is why I filter.
Understood. And I don't think it's paranoid at all. I'm actually not all that far from Flint, the whole thing is frightening. Luckily our city is known to have high quality tap water so that's why I don't worry at home. But to be completely honest, even though my office building is in the middle of the city, it's an old structure and I have always been paranoid about the old pipes affecting the quality of water. I use bottled water for LO's bottles when I have him at the office with me. So, I totally get it. I shouldn't have been so bitchy about it in my earlier post.
I think I used most of E's nap time catching up... Sorry to everyone who is still dealing with sick babies and/or sleep difficulties. E decided to be awake for an hour or so last night for no reason. I really wish I could see what it is going on in their heads that wakes them up like that. As far as BF vs FF: I'm not sure how anyone could take a look at any sample of moms and babies and say that formula isn't necessary. In the end, I'm sure that a fed baby and a happy atmosphere at home matter a lot more than what type of food the baby is eating.
Post by holliberry28 on Feb 4, 2016 15:27:55 GMT -5
We are lazy over here, use the premade liquid Gerber formula.
I want to kill my coworker. She had the nerve to ask me if she should give me some of her work because I didn't look busy enough to her.
And, god forbid, I'm on TCF and she's chugging away like a little good worker ant like she is, fucking sue me.
Eta: I didn't have time to read all the posts because of the above mentioned coworker, but also hoping all the sick babies and mamas feel better soon!
budders, I'm sure they'll still have a great impression of you, do not think it's possible not to. Hope the rest of the week gets better and you finish your reports/meetings on a positive note.
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