Random question. Is it weird that MIL doesn't change any diapers when we visit? She'll happily hold DD for hours but then as soon as she needs a diaper change she hands her off. She even woke DH from a nap once because DD pooped.
The reason I ask is because my mom always offers to change DD and my friends mom regularly changes her kid without a word. Obviously I don't mind changing her myself but it just seems odd to me. MIL keeps offering to babysit but DH is honestly afraid that she'll leave DD in a dirty diaper all day.
Just bring it up. Tell her your concerns that she isn't comfortable changing a diaper so you aren't sure how her watching LO will go. I'm willing to bet she will do just fine and she will change a dirty diaper if she is the only one around. My brother is the best uncle ever and he doesn't like changing diapers, but if we aren't home and he is watching the kiddos for us, he changes them.
That's what I figured but DH gets really annoyed by it. I mean I thought it was weird too but it never occurred to me that she would just completely ignore diaper changes while babysitting. I think he is looking for excuses not to trust her for some reason, which makes it hard for me to trust her.
Random question. Is it weird that MIL doesn't change any diapers when we visit? She'll happily hold DD for hours but then as soon as she needs a diaper change she hands her off. She even woke DH from a nap once because DD pooped.
The reason I ask is because my mom always offers to change DD and my friends mom regularly changes her kid without a word. Obviously I don't mind changing her myself but it just seems odd to me. MIL keeps offering to babysit but DH is honestly afraid that she'll leave DD in a dirty diaper all day.
Pfft, I think it's weird my IL's WANT to change dirty diapers. They're always like "do you have a dirty diaper" EVERY TIME THEY SEE HER. Yes. Yes she has a dirty diaper all the time we never change her. Lol
Haha, same with my MIL. I always try to change her but MIL insists she can change her. I feel bad like, you are the grandparent you get the fun part of this and get to enjoy her and I will take the dirty diapers.
I have a question that I'm not exactly sure how to ask without sounding like a weirdo.
Here's the build up: Some good friends have invited a group out for a birthday dinner next Wednesday at 7:00. I pick DS up from daycare at 5:15. Imagine the route from daycare --> restaurant --> home resembles a backwards capital L with home being the top. It's about 20 minutes from daycare to restaurant and 20 from restaurant to home.
The question du jour: Is it terrible that instead of being excited to go to dinner I'm trying to come up with a way to get out of it because it sounds like a total fiasco with an infant?
I feel like I'm becoming anti-social because it's so much extra effort to do things like that with a 3 month old in tow. I avoid making plans on weeknights because I need those few hours to get ready for the next day. If it was a weekend it would be different. I should mention that I get stressed pretty easily so having a routine really keeps things in check for me.
Not terrible. Having an infant can really make you appreciate the few hours at night you get after work to just be home. Kids are the best excuse in the world to get out of doing something.
This. I do a lot less when the baby is this young. It's just not worth the hassle sometimes.
Post by mrssarahrenee on Feb 3, 2015 17:17:06 GMT -5
nicb13 Super late to the party but that wicked sucks about your mom. Yay for good news from the Dr. alfibet Sorry about your grandma. Lots of healing thoughts your way! mrsbabe614 All the love to you and LO. That must be incredibly hard to listen to him cry. I know what you mean about feeling inadequate. windwithfingers Best of luck tonight! gretchenweiners7 boooo infections. Ow! carriedaway19 I force myself to go out occasionally because otherwise I would never see friends. Of it makes no sense, make alternate plans with the bday person so you aren't feeling guilty.
Random question. Is it weird that MIL doesn't change any diapers when we visit? She'll happily hold DD for hours but then as soon as she needs a diaper change she hands her off. She even woke DH from a nap once because DD pooped.
The reason I ask is because my mom always offers to change DD and my friends mom regularly changes her kid without a word. Obviously I don't mind changing her myself but it just seems odd to me. MIL keeps offering to babysit but DH is honestly afraid that she'll leave DD in a dirty diaper all day.
Pfft, I think it's weird my IL's WANT to change dirty diapers. They're always like "do you have a dirty diaper" EVERY TIME THEY SEE HER. Yes. Yes she has a dirty diaper all the time we never change her. Lol
Post by crawford411 on Feb 3, 2015 17:54:05 GMT -5
I am finally home after a wickedly long day. Also, I saw a 36 year old today with no teeth, insulin dependent diabetes, prior heart attack, and morbid obesity. Dudes, take care of the bodies you have. You only get one.
Pfft, I think it's weird my IL's WANT to change dirty diapers. They're always like "do you have a dirty diaper" EVERY TIME THEY SEE HER. Yes. Yes she has a dirty diaper all the time we never change her. Lol
Haha, same with my MIL. I always try to change her but MIL insists she can change her. I feel bad like, you are the grandparent you get the fun part of this and get to enjoy her and I will take the dirty diapers.
Your MIl sounds exactly like my mom. I go get the stuff to change him and she's already half way through by time I get back.
I feel like a POS wife because we still haven't DTD since A was born. I think H gave up.
I haven't either but my H said whenever I'm ready, it's all up to me. I'm lucky that he wasn't bugging me and pressuring me for it.
H has only asked once, and I should've just done it. It was right after I got the mirena placed but before the breakthrough bleeding had started. It was also the day before we left for Christmas out of state.. so I had a zillion things to get done. I still feel fat and squishy. The mirena apparently wants me to exhaust my entire supply of tampons, and it's getting a little ridiculous. Also, we're just so damn tired. Maybe one day we'll have sexy time again.
Meagan
31 dx with PCOS 2010
DS1 12-29-11 Matthew
BFP 10/19/13 missed mc at 5 weeks discovered at 8 weeks. D&C 11/18/13
BFP 2/16/14 EDD 10/31/14
DS2 11-4-14 Alex
If there is a PNW Probie get together you gals better gopro that shit like carriedaway19 suggested for WWF's date!
Also, mrsc22 Yikes, I am certain she would have cried if you weren't right there but so glad you were there. Kids are scary.
Just the other day I realized I hadn't heard lo cry during the night and was afraid that I was sleeping through it. The very next night he tested out my theory. I hear him just fine.
Off to go work out with my future SIL. See you notches later!
Guise. 14 pages?! I've been reading sporadically throughout the day and throwing out love tits...
windwithfingers have fun tonight! nicb13 sorry everything's a bit pear shaped! Glad you got good news about your biopsy though - what a relief! mrsc22 SUPER MAMA. I know that was scary but you've got a good mama 6th sense thing going on. Hugs to you and your sweet girl. (I totally did the same thing with DS a couple of times -we don't have a video monitor- but I woke up and knew something was wrong. DH was like, HOW?!) saragw WTG on the nap! gretchenweiners7 feel better soon, notch! alfibet hope your grandma gets well (and can go home) soon! crawford411 sorry you had a long day - thanks for the reminder about taking care of our bodies...I'm always telling DS to take care of his body...I really need to do a better job of leading by example.
I'm so tired -- and I need to start doing our taxes tonight and plan lessons for the rest of the week. H better actually be helpful tonight since he's home.
Post by purplehippo on Feb 3, 2015 19:14:19 GMT -5
I feel like a terrible O14 Notch. With DH being home while his shoulder heals, I'm definitely not on here much. When he goes back to work I'll be back. I miss you crazy ladies!
DD1 is still sick. She seems to go up and down with how well she is. Currently she is watching the Kitten Bowl (recorded it) and having a popsicle.
Haha, same with my MIL. I always try to change her but MIL insists she can change her. I feel bad like, you are the grandparent you get the fun part of this and get to enjoy her and I will take the dirty diapers.
Your MIl sounds exactly like my mom. I go get the stuff to change him and she's already half way through by time I get back.
See, all of this is why I thought MIL was being weird for not changing diapers. I mean I don't really get why she would want to but apparently it's something grandma's just do.
I haven't either but my H said whenever I'm ready, it's all up to me. I'm lucky that he wasn't bugging me and pressuring me for it.
H has only asked once, and I should've just done it. It was right after I got the mirena placed but before the breakthrough bleeding had started. It was also the day before we left for Christmas out of state.. so I had a zillion things to get done. I still feel fat and squishy. The mirena apparently wants me to exhaust my entire supply of tampons, and it's getting a little ridiculous. Also, we're just so damn tired. Maybe one day we'll have sexy time again.
I'm also feeling fat and squishy. Scratch feeling fat I know I have gained weight recently since my jeans are tighter. H assures me he loves me the way that I am an I believe him but my own hang ups about my size keep us from sexy time.
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