Did any of you guys get (or are you planning to get) a Sids Monitor? I wasn't planning on getting one - but then someone brought it up to Mr. Pugs at our shower last weekend and now I think he really wants one. Interested in thoughts and/or reviews if you've used one before.
No! To me it's just one more thing to constantly worry about. From what I've read and hear from those who have used them is that they constantly give false alarms. No thanks. I will also say that we had a "SIDS episode" with DD. I literally just by chance walked in to her room at the right time and noticed that she wasn't breathing and had to do CPR. I asked the doctors about the SIDS monitors and none of them recommended using them because of the reasons I mentioned above.
We had our pre-admission/hospital tour yesterday. I think it's really starting to hit home with H that this is happening. I think the logistics of it all is starting to worry him (it's been worrying me for months). He's like "obviously we need to do whatever is best for the baby....but an induction sure would be beneficial." I think it also bothered him when the lady told him to just plan to stay the night with me for 2-3days. That's just not possible, & I know that. He will have to go home to feed cows & check calvers twice a day so likely he'll leave early evening and come back in the morning after chores. It probably seems weird/bad to some people, but it's just part of our life. I mean H had to take a phone call during our tour to bid on a bull that was selling. Our life revolves around the cattle not vice versa.
It's just the way things work out sometimes. If it weren't cattle, it could just as easily be something else. For us, it was DD. We have no family here and no one that could really help us with DD while I was in the hospital - and honestly, we just prefer that she be with one of us. H was there while the babies were born and for a few hours after. For the next few days he and DD spent two hours tops at the hospital to visit us. I think it put some of the nurses off a bit, but it was what worked for us and I was fine with it.
Ok so I'm seriously already over people saying "guess you'll just have to try again for a boy" after they find out we're having girl. No.just.no. Why the hell is a boy more "desirable" or necessary than a girl?!?!!? We wanted a HEALTHY baby (and all indications are that she is) so we're good. If we're happy with 1 child, it's not up for you to comment on & try to "convince" me that we need to have another.
Mind your own fucking business and stay out of my ute & my sex life thank you very much!!!
(((I think the rage hormones are flaring up lately)) hehe
They will keep saying this no matter how many kids you have and it annoys the piss out of me. This is girl #3 for us and we are DONE after this, but literally everyone is like, "Aw, you need to try for that boy!". Um, no. I usually say if we wanted a boy that badly we would've adopted one. That shuts most people up. Most.
Post by halfahippy on Feb 16, 2016 20:19:19 GMT -5
I have a boy and this baby is a girl. I'm getting a lot of "oh good for you! Now you can be done!" I reply that we were done either way and we just wanted 2 healthy kids. We would have been and are happy with any combination of siblings.
I have a boy and this baby is a girl. I'm getting a lot of "oh good for you! Now you can be done!" I reply that we were done either way and we just wanted 2 healthy kids. We would have been and are happy with any combination of siblings.
The is us too. We had DD first and now a boy and if we even hint that maybe we are finished with having children people go but you have one of each...why would you want more?? Ugh... because we might???
Post by zombiesquad on Feb 16, 2016 21:22:15 GMT -5
Apparently, I've officially reached freak show status. Went to the store. I got so many wide-eyed stares. Then at the checkout:
Cashier: Whoa! You like you're about ready to drop. You havin' a boy? Me: Yes. Cashier: Is this your first? Me: Second. Cashier: You in your last month? Me: Actually I'm only 5 1/2 months. You know they say you show faster with the second.
Cashier's mouth drops open as I drop the mic, pay for my stuff and move along.
So that last part didn't happen but I wish it had. So tired of people's questions.
And enough with people thinking they know our family plan. I've heard everything from "Oh perfect! A boy and a girl. I bet you're done," to "Oh, you can pop out one more out can't cha?"
Last Edit: Feb 16, 2016 21:35:02 GMT -5 by zombiesquad
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Post by rachelilly23 on Feb 16, 2016 21:33:07 GMT -5
Lots of people assumed since I had 2 boys that I wanted to try for a girl. H and I would have been fine with a 3rd boy, and I actually expected it.
I may get flamed, but we definitely tried the Shettles method for conceiving a girl... Who knows for sure if it worked, but I was still shocked when they said it was a girl. If we did have 3 boys, we'd still be done at 3 kids. Happy and healthy is what mattered, but since this baby was very much planned when my boys were not as much so, we figured we'd give it a shot at the recommended girl babymaking approach
Lots of people assumed since I had 2 boys that I wanted to try for a girl. H and I would have been fine with a 3rd boy, and I actually expected it.
I may get flamed, but we definitely tried the Shettles method for conceiving a girl... Who knows for sure if it worked, but I was still shocked when they said it was a girl. If we did have 3 boys, we'd still be done at 3 kids. Happy and healthy is what mattered, but since this baby was very much planned when my boys were not as much so, we figured we'd give it a shot at the recommended girl babymaking approach
Post by awkwardturtle on Feb 16, 2016 21:56:00 GMT -5
I just learned a new trick, maybe this is common knowledge. For anyone getting itchy skin, you can put a few capfuls of oil in the bath and soak in it. Pat dry afterwards. I feel so much better right now.
Working mommas lets play a game... how many times today did someone say "Are you still here?"
So far my number is 3
Once, from a patient. She immediately apologized for being rude and promised not to tell me I looked like I was about to pop. It actually kind of made me laugh though. She just had a baby 5 months ago so she's a comrade. =)
We had our pre-admission/hospital tour yesterday. I think it's really starting to hit home with H that this is happening. I think the logistics of it all is starting to worry him (it's been worrying me for months). He's like "obviously we need to do whatever is best for the baby....but an induction sure would be beneficial." I think it also bothered him when the lady told him to just plan to stay the night with me for 2-3days. That's just not possible, & I know that. He will have to go home to feed cows & check calvers twice a day so likely he'll leave early evening and come back in the morning after chores. It probably seems weird/bad to some people, but it's just part of our life. I mean H had to take a phone call during our tour to bid on a bull that was selling. Our life revolves around the cattle not vice versa.
We are in the same boat. Plus toddler. And DH will sleep so much better at home, which really matters in our life. He does not function on poor sleep. So, yeah, I'll be by myself quite a bit.
We had our pre-admission/hospital tour yesterday. I think it's really starting to hit home with H that this is happening. I think the logistics of it all is starting to worry him (it's been worrying me for months). He's like "obviously we need to do whatever is best for the baby....but an induction sure would be beneficial." I think it also bothered him when the lady told him to just plan to stay the night with me for 2-3days. That's just not possible, & I know that. He will have to go home to feed cows & check calvers twice a day so likely he'll leave early evening and come back in the morning after chores. It probably seems weird/bad to some people, but it's just part of our life. I mean H had to take a phone call during our tour to bid on a bull that was selling. Our life revolves around the cattle not vice versa.
We are in the same boat. Plus toddler. And DH will sleep so much better at home, which really matters in our life. He does not function on poor sleep. So, yeah, I'll be by myself quite a bit.
While we don't have cattle our plans are for dh to go home at night. . I'm going we're only there for one night anyhow. But if I have to share a room I don't think he can stay the night anyhow and my hospital only has 5 beds for maternity ward and only one is a single room. Besides which home is 5 minutes away, he can releave someone of dd duty and have enough sleep to help me more.
Post by isolemnlyswear on Feb 17, 2016 7:47:55 GMT -5
I was awake from 3:45am-6:30am. Finally fell back asleep and then DH woke me to bring in DD before he left for work at 7:30 and I had 3 (I think or maybe 1 long) painful contraction(s) in under 5 minutes. They were to the point I was curling up in a ball going "ooooo" through it/them.
So yea. Not a great way to wake up. And even though I'm completely over being pregnant I'd like little man to cook a tad bit longer because 36w 5d is earlier than I'd like for him to come out.
We are in the same boat. Plus toddler. And DH will sleep so much better at home, which really matters in our life. He does not function on poor sleep. So, yeah, I'll be by myself quite a bit.
While we don't have cattle our plans are for dh to go home at night. . I'm going we're only there for one night anyhow. But if I have to share a room I don't think he can stay the night anyhow and my hospital only has 5 beds for maternity ward and only one is a single room. Besides which home is 5 minutes away, he can releave someone of dd duty and have enough sleep to help me more.
+4 - My parents will be up the first week, so we would rather save his time for a few weeks later when he'll be recovering from the old snip-snip. With #1, he would come visit after work and bring me food if the dinner didn't cut it that night at the hospital. Plus with a toddler thrown into the mix, it will be good to have some stability at home.
Did any of you guys get (or are you planning to get) a Sids Monitor? I wasn't planning on getting one - but then someone brought it up to Mr. Pugs at our shower last weekend and now I think he really wants one. Interested in thoughts and/or reviews if you've used one before.
Big nope nope nope.
But to be fair, my LO will be in a bassinet a few feet from me at night, and in the pnp napping during the day. If not there, then in bed with us, inches from my boob. Danger from SIDS drops off around 4 months, which is when we'll try to transition to the crib. (Risk is gone after 12 months.)
Also, there are risk factors to consider, and our family has like, one. So my concern is pretty minuscule.
blackbird, my H is planning to go home after baby arrives. I assume we will be there 1-2 nights, and depending on the timing he wont sleep there. We have pets to care for, but more importantly, one of us needs to get solid sleep before she comes home. I may ask my friend who is going to be there for the birth to stay with me if I feel like I need it.
I would rather send him home and know that he slept soundly and that my kitties are fed (I'm also planning to send him home with a blanket she's been in so they can sniff it out) so when baby and I come home, he can be functioning at 100% to balance the likely 50% or less functioning power I'll be running on.
Lots of people assumed since I had 2 boys that I wanted to try for a girl. H and I would have been fine with a 3rd boy, and I actually expected it.
I may get flamed, but we definitely tried the Shettles method for conceiving a girl... Who knows for sure if it worked, but I was still shocked when they said it was a girl. If we did have 3 boys, we'd still be done at 3 kids. Happy and healthy is what mattered, but since this baby was very much planned when my boys were not as much so, we figured we'd give it a shot at the recommended girl babymaking approach
H said he'd be slightly disappointed in a boy last time. And, he got his way. Now, he really wants a boy. We'll see.
I don't think there's anything wrong with having a preference. It's when you're DEVASTATED that you don't have the other sex that it's an issue.
I'm honestly neutral this time, but I've always had a preference before.
Post by rachelilly23 on Feb 17, 2016 9:40:17 GMT -5
My H won't stay in the hospital after baby is born. I have 2 boys and a dog and no family within 750 miles. So yeah, I'll be on my own too. I'm hoping to get away with staying only one night, but it's doubtful. My kids are known to have bad jaundice, so they'll probably just keep me the recommended two nights while baby lounges under the bililights.
blackbird, The plan is for H to go home after bonding time with LO. He might stay I'd he is too tired to drive though. We've never both been away from DD2 all night before.
On the topic of boy vs. girl - I have lost count of all the "Oh! GOOD!!" and "Oh that's so great - on your first try!" I've gotten when I say little one is a boy.
So would I get your condolences if he were a she? Yeah, we just wanted a kid. Heh
Lots of people assumed since I had 2 boys that I wanted to try for a girl. H and I would have been fine with a 3rd boy, and I actually expected it.
I may get flamed, but we definitely tried the Shettles method for conceiving a girl... Who knows for sure if it worked, but I was still shocked when they said it was a girl. If we did have 3 boys, we'd still be done at 3 kids. Happy and healthy is what mattered, but since this baby was very much planned when my boys were not as much so, we figured we'd give it a shot at the recommended girl babymaking approach
H said he'd be slightly disappointed in a boy last time. And, he got his way. Now, he really wants a boy. We'll see.
I don't think there's anything wrong with having a preference. It's when you're DEVASTATED that you don't have the other sex that it's an issue.
I'm honestly neutral this time, but I've always had a preference before.
Yes, we definitely would not have been devastated with a 3rd boy. I love my boys and am honestly a little scared of a girl! I wanted 2 kids, H wanted 3. After my 2nd was born, I just didn't feel like we were done, and I don't think I would have felt done if my 2nd was a girl. So I was willing to go for 3. This time, I am very much done lol.
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