Post by skategirl128 on Feb 16, 2016 11:44:19 GMT -5
I'll take the wine!!!!
My car saga is still ongoing. The dealer is fixing the damage from the tire (all in all it was the struts, two front tires, the spare and the brakes). Now they are also saying the exhaust system needs replacing. Which I did in 2013!!!! I did call consumer affairs as I wish I had never purchased this car. We are still going to trade it in but man I'm so frustrated. Still in the rental and still fighting with this dealer. All of this headache for a car that's a 2009! Yeesh!
Otherwise things are good. Job is great and I'm doing well health wise. Just ready for February to be over. It's always hard!
skategirl128, yikes, so sorry to hear about the car troubles, how frustrating. I hope it's able to get sorted out. Yes to all the wine, and I hear you about wanting February to be over.
Last Femara cycle was a BFN, so we're already onto the next one. I've been in a funk lately due to several things, so hoping things start to look up soon. I'm volunteering again with the Lenten preschool program with my church, so that starts up tomorrow and should help keep me busy. Lots of (((hugs))) to everyone.
Post by dendylouwho on Feb 16, 2016 14:38:06 GMT -5
skategirl128: Yeesh. So sorry about the car problems. I had a 2008 and it became a huge piece of crap really quickly. I ended up getting a new car when I really didn’t want to/shouldn’t have had to. I hope it is taken care of soon.
grneyes So sorry about the BFN. I also hope things will start to look up for you soon! (((((Hugs)))))
AFM: We have an appointment with the perinatologists on Thursday afternoon. I am honestly scared what they will say whether or not they say I can or cannot safely get pregnant. If I can, I am sure it will be hard. If I can’t, it will be hard. Sigh. (((((Hugs))))) to all!
Sorry for being MIA. Things are pretty rough over here in my world. My RE appt went fine. He pretty much said he can't do anything without an MFM sign off. We are seeing my MFM on 3/18 and hopefully they will be practical with us and come up with plan that doesn't have us benched until December.
We're taking a trip to Chicago the first weekend in March so hopefully that will help pass the time. I'm trying to plan things every week so I have something to look forward to.
Post by skategirl128 on Feb 16, 2016 20:59:22 GMT -5
rslh10 you don't have to apologize for being MIA. You have always given so much support- and now is our time to give back. Take as much time as you need, love!!!
Sending you the biggest of hugs and all my love your way. I think of you guys everyday! I'm always here if you need me!
AFM:NTNP or living childless...working on getting happier at life again. Trying to get back into creating some art. I have all the supplies to start a painting just haven't gotten there yet... hopefully this weekend.
Post by dendylouwho on Feb 17, 2016 13:57:04 GMT -5
rslh10 : So many ((((Hugs)))) to you. I hope Chicago is all sorts of fun and distraction for you.
@sarahwithanh : ((((Hugs)))) lady.
renegadewhit : I am sorry you had a bad day. I was unhappy at my last job and making a job change made all the difference. I hope you are able to find options in your field. Drink ALL the wine!!!
rubysi: If you get a chance, I would love to see your painting when you finish it.
@eliida : Darn it. I hope the ultrasound gives you some good insight as to what is going on.
@sarahwithanh were coming for the field museum/dinosaurs, and going to shedds aquarium. We wanted to go somewhere close without having to fly to see Dino bones. Are you in chi?
@eliida I was mentioning to DH about seeing if anyone was in the area and wants to get a drink with me one of the nights. Are you close? We're staying at a Hampton inn hotel on E Huron st. Is that somewhere that you're close to?
Post by skategirl128 on Feb 17, 2016 21:44:39 GMT -5
Well I got my car back. The damage is fixed but the exhaust system is shot. Which was replaced by the dealer at my cost in 2013. Not covered or recalled and it's basically not worth anything at this point. It's only 7 years old!! I'm so over dealing with this. SO and I are starting the car purchasing process this weekend. I'm overwhelmed and just frustrated. I know that this minor in the grand scheme of things but man. February can take a hike.
Part of why this is so hard is this was the car that was my late-FIs. It was the newer of the two vehicles and so when he passed I kept his. Getting rid of it is oddly emotional- and I'm sure that makes me sound even crazier!
Big hugs if you've kept up with my car drama! I'm so sorry I've been such a needy lady- I'm going to get back to my normal positive self! That's my promise to myself!
P&R for me right now but will be back to properly read&comment later!
I'm in the mids of this 2nd round of treatement for my adhesions, meanwhile we've finally started testing at the same hospital. I'm unhappy with how little testing they're actually doing.. they're just checking my LH, FSH and P4 and MHs swimmers, and have mentioned a foam HSG. But no AMH or AFC for instance, while this is and has been one of my worries all these years since my mum is DOR/POF - it's been brushed away by my GP but I had hoped that it'd now finally be taken seriously by the OB, but no. We've been told they can't do that at this H? I originally didn't even want to do any testing here but since we were stuck for 3mo of IUA treatement anyway I figured it'd be easier to get testing started under the same roof. Now I wish I hadn't.. so we basically decided that once we finish treatement for the IUAs (and pray they won't return once again within no time) we're moving on to the fertility clinic. We've had our referral since November but then my adhesions returned and MH needed back surgery so we had to postpone. Sadly they now have a 3mo waitlist (instead of the 3wks originally)..
The delay frustrates me though as I worry about my adhesions returning (it took um less then a month after my first surgery..) before we've been able to start any IF treatement. MH&I are also yet undecided whether or not to give IUIs a try yes/no or to hop straight onto IVF. Since the chance of adhesions recurrance is pretty high for me, the window of being able to get pregnant isn't endless so to speak and the more time passes the more likely the IUAs return, and more treatement means even more delay. Taking my age into consideration, we wonder whether the best option would be to start IVF, and to possibly do an freeze if/when more IUA procedures are necessary, then a FET when the ute coorporates again? Maybe hopping to IVF straight away is overkill but we're not sure whether we want to risk doing 3-6 IUIs prior to IVF with the IUAs hanging over our heads.. if that makes sense??
After my procedure week before last I suddenly felt so extremely overwhelmed by everything to do with 3T/IF and TTCAL (I mention those seperately as they both bring different mindfucks to my head)!. My emotions have been all over the place for a while now and it is as if I lost my bounce after going back'n'forth between hopefulness and disappointment and sadness and everything in between these past many months. All this thinking about options and what nots was doing my head in and I needed to change that, it was only making me feel more depressed. I really needed a bit of a break. Which included a couple steps back from TCF, but I'm back now - I just miss you all heh But I won't pick up temping or anything and the plan atm is to just go with the flow, try not to worry to much heh until we have our test results back and have the appt with the RE at the IVF clinic, then go from there. Yes that's gonne take months but it is what it is so I best focus on having a good life rather then be all-consumed by this hmm?
Sorry it's so long! Just got a lot on my mind I guess. Here's a hot chocolate cocktail as a thanks for reading!
rslh10 , Lots of (((hugs))). Chicago trip sounds fun, I hope you get to meet up with some of the ladies here!
dendylouwho , GL with your appointment today, let us know how it goes!
@sarahwithanh , (((hugs))), I'm sorry for the BFN. Have you started any testing yet?
renegadewhit , My church is doing a 5 week program for Easter with adult and child classes. I'm helping to work with the kids on weekly mission activities. Good luck with the job search - I understand the feelings about being at crossroads with things, I hope you are able to find something that helps your career!
rubysi , Painting sounds like a fun and relaxing activity, you'll have to share some of your pieces with us!
@eliida , I'm so sorry to hear that you might be dealing with retained tissue still. How did the ultrasound go?
muscari , Like rslh10 , said, it's important to have your AMH tested before deciding on a treatment plan, it will tell you how aggressive you need to be. AMH is also a better indication of ovarian reserve than FSH. Will IVF be covered for you? If so, given your age and the time limit with the IUAs, I would probably start with IVF. I would also ask your doctor about taking Vitamin D and CoQ10 - both things that can help with egg quality/AMH while you wait to start treatment.
Post by dendylouwho on Feb 18, 2016 17:19:01 GMT -5
skategirl128: ((((Hugs)))) It is completely understandable why this is even harder with that type of sentimental value attached to your car. This may be silly but, is there something you could keep from the car as a small memento?
muscari: ((((Hugs)))) lady. That is so much stuff to be sorting through. As someone who has been benched for over 6 months, I know how much waiting just freaking sucks. Have you talked to your doc who is treating your IUAs about the possibility of recurrence while waiting? Is there any way to call to see if there are cancellations? Sometimes persistence pays off when it comes to wait lists. I am sorry that this whole process is emotionally draining. I got the lecture to ‘just relax’ at my appointment today. I know he is right but I still don’t like hearing it lol.
Post by dendylouwho on Feb 18, 2016 17:35:08 GMT -5
I had my appointment today with the perinatologist.
I didn't have anything shoved up my vagina for this appointment so that is a huge plus!
Overall it went well and he was optimistic. He said that he doesn't think that my uterine malformation has anything to do with my losses and that the malformation in and of itself shouldn't mean that I can't get/stay pregnant and have a healthy pregnancy and baby. He recommends to try again, on our own. If we have another loss, he wants me to get an MRI and to ensure that we have the loss tested for genetics (we didn't with either of our first two losses). If we have another losss, he said we can make bigger decisions about surrogacy, IVF, etc.
I am glad it was good news and not all gloom and doom like I had expected. I am just in kind of in disbelief. Plus, I can't help shake the fear of having another loss. He mentioned it rather flippantly though he recognized that losses are hard and emotional. My husband and I will have to talk more to see what we actually want to do. Our RE wants to jump to IUI/IVF and I don't know if we are there yet. We can get pregnant, it just won't stick. I do have 12 IUIs covered by my insurance so part of me is thinking, WTF, just do it. I think I am gripping my bench with all my might. lol Decisions, decisions.
Post by dendylouwho on Feb 18, 2016 17:42:20 GMT -5
@sarahwithanh, I will say that it sounds like he is taking the steps an RE would take if you went to see them. I think some labs would be a good idea in addition to the HSG and the SA just to make sure there isn't something else going on. If he hesitates on any of those, I would push to see an RE. Do you both agree on when the HSG/SA should happen? I had to really push to get referred to an RE but I did and they finally referred me. My OB was not that great though.
grneyes no, I went in at the 1 year AL mark and my doctor (OB) wanted to wait 3 more months. I told him I charted, temped, and tried opks, but didn't like them. He wants me to use opks only and have sex the night I get a positive. Then I send him all my cycle statistics/info. After 3 months he said that we would have DH do a SA first then do what I think is an hsg to check that my tubes are clear. Honestly, I'm concerned about his plan. He is not an RE as far as I know and he didn't mention ever referring me out. I also think he is not taking it very seriously because I am only 28 and have been pregnant. I hate confrontation though and have a hard time advocating for myself. I don't know. At least he didn't tell me to take clomid without monitoring. I would run the other way if that was the case.
*I welcome any thoughts on this as I feel so helpless and stupid right now. I'm at a point where I feel like I'm sitting and twiddling my thumbs and I want to do something.
My opinion? Call an RE and tell them you need an appt. Does your insurance require a referral?
ETA- this is my opinion becauseeeeeee I was 28 and diagnosed with low AMH after trying for 6-7 mo this on my own with zero luck. Had I waited a year like my stupid ass OB told me to and not advocated for myself, I would have been staring straight at IVF, no doubt.
Post by 4furrypaws on Feb 18, 2016 23:09:17 GMT -5
@eliida, Oh fuck no to those ass holes! I'm at a point now where I fucking SAY things!!! I can't take people's insensitive and ignorant actions! It makes all this bull shit so much harder. I'm so fucking sorry you had to deal with this today. Wish I could reach through the interwebs and HUG you so tight! Is there a reason why you are doing another round of Miso rather than getting a D&C? I had to do two rounds with our last loss. IDK if I could have done any more.
@eliida what the fuck! I'm so sorry you had that many triggers in one day. People are fucking morons, I'm pretty positive of that. I would seriously complain about the necklace wearing bitch. That would have sent me over the edge.
If it makes you feel less alone I had a trigger filled afternoon. A woman at my manicure today was talking about how similac keeps sending her coupons ...but she's breastfeeding. Lady, so happy you were able to get a baby to keep and you get to breastfeed it! But please....Shut the mother fucking hole in your face before I lose my god damn shit.
@eliida, Ugh... I am so sorry you had to go through that. So many hugs.
skategirl128, I hope you find a new car that makes you happy.
muscari, hugs.... it does get very overwhelming. Get those tests and IVF and freeze for later seems like a great plan. You know where to find me if you need anything.
dendylouwho, sometimes good news is the hardest news. Hold your be ch as long as you need to.
grneyes no, I went in at the 1 year AL mark and my doctor (OB) wanted to wait 3 more months. I told him I charted, temped, and tried opks, but didn't like them. He wants me to use opks only and have sex the night I get a positive. Then I send him all my cycle statistics/info. After 3 months he said that we would have DH do a SA first then do what I think is an hsg to check that my tubes are clear. Honestly, I'm concerned about his plan. He is not an RE as far as I know and he didn't mention ever referring me out. I also think he is not taking it very seriously because I am only 28 and have been pregnant. I hate confrontation though and have a hard time advocating for myself. I don't know. At least he didn't tell me to take clomid without monitoring. I would run the other way if that was the case.
*I welcome any thoughts on this as I feel so helpless and stupid right now. I'm at a point where I feel like I'm sitting and twiddling my thumbs and I want to do something.
Does your insurance require a referral to a RE or can you just make the appointment directly? If you can make the appointment yourself, I wouldn't even go back to the OB to discuss testing/a treatment plan - they are not trained in infertility treatment as you know. I would go on sart.org/Find_A_Clinic/ put in your zip code to find a list of RE practices in your area. You can take a look at their ART data success reports and their websites to get a feel for them. It might take a month or so depending on how busy the practice is for a consult with the RE, so I would just go ahead and schedule the appointment. If you have other questions about testing or the process, feel free to PM me.
ETA: I was getting confused for a second with the dates in your siggy - I'm guessing your D&C was in 2015? Still, it's been a year since then so I would contact the RE. Don't worry about feeling bad - an OB is by no means an expert when it comes to infertility.
dendylouwho, I'm glad you got some encouraging news! I would probably want the MRI now though if it helps them make a better informed decision about your situation. If you have treatment covered, I would go ahead with it after all further testing was done.
@eliida, Huge ((((hugs))). I'm so sorry you had to deal with all the crap. People can be so stupid/insensitive sometimes. I'm also sorry for still needing miso and the hernia. I really hope it works for you this time. I hope you are able to get some relaxation in this weekend!
Post by dendylouwho on Feb 19, 2016 13:36:52 GMT -5
@eliida: So many (((((Hugs))))) I want to punch the waiting room lady for you. You would think they would have better guidelines for their employees as well. I really hope this round of miso is the last one for you.
@sarahwithanh: I think all of those emotions are totally appropriate, even if they feel crazy and weird. ((((Hugs)))) You have waited more than the standard time to see an RE. It is scary to try to find the ‘why’ behind what we are going through. I echo what others said about trying to go to an RE directly without your OB even knowing.
@eliida and grneyes: He said to wait on the MRI because it really isn’t likely to give us more information at this point in time. He said that if I have another loss then it may be a good idea because at that point, it may be due to something more than just shitty luck. I think my copay/deductible will make it about $500-ish. I will have to think about if I want it now. I didn't even talk to MH about this last night. I just wasn't ready.
Post by elliecat17 on Feb 19, 2016 14:13:27 GMT -5
Hi all. Sorry it's been so long. I will come back and post on other posts.
AFM: I'm am sitting here waiting on AF. Where she is I have no idea. I'm 3 days late now. And annoyed, because once that BFN shows up I just want to move on. H and I also awoke to a leaking roof this morning after freezing rain in the night. It took us 6 hours to shovel the roof and then get the inside to stop dripping. Life never ends does it?
@sarhwithanh You have every right to stand up and say you want a second opinion. Although is he having you wait 3 months because you were on the bench for that long after the loss? And (hugs) on the BFN.
@eliida, I'm so sorry. That all sounds awful. So many hugs. BTW, how did I not know all this time that you're a Chicago lady too?
rslh10, I'm so sorry, people suck. I haven't had a manicure in months because the last three times I went there were super pregnant women in there complaining about being pregnant. I couldn't deal so I just stopped going. My nails look like shit.
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