britta Breakups are hard but I think you have a really good excuse!
I'm the opposite with stylists. I'm afraid of commitment so I always try a different place. They always try to make the next appointment as I leave and I'm always like "no, I'll call YOU, really" and I never call. I'm like a habitual one-night-stander of haircuts. Speaking of which, I need to find my next fling.
So I'm pretty sure I got invited to a wedding and was not given a +1 to bring my husband. Wtf. Who does that?
We got one of those last summer. It was MH's cousin. His name was on it with a 'one seat has been reserved in your honor' message and it was addressed to only him.
He RSVPed no. it was a local wedding and he'd have had no problem going he just thought it was super rude to not invite me. Apparently some spouses were included and some weren't. I guess I wasn't cool enough to deserve an invite.
So I'm pretty sure I got invited to a wedding and was not given a +1 to bring my husband. Wtf. Who does that?
We got one of those last summer. It was MH's cousin. His name was on it with a 'one seat has been reserved in your honor' message and it was addressed to only him.
He RSVPed no. it was a local wedding and he'd have had no problem going he just thought it was super rude to not invite me. Apparently some spouses were included and some weren't. I guess I wasn't cool enough to deserve an invite.
I don't think I would ever invite 1 spouse and not the other. It's whole couple or don't invite them at all. We gave all of our single guests a plus 1 too. And most of them didn't use it and just came stag. It's just super awkward. "Hey hun I'm going to this wedding but oh hey you're not invited sorry."
I'm getting ready to make my phone calls. I hate talking on the phone, but this is important stuff!
I HATE making phone calls. I will do everything under the sun to avoid having to call someone or a place. Or if its necessary, I'll make H do it. But these days, he's all "you need to get over it and just make the call yourself." I'm that person who would just rather you text me.
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Oh and she handed out invitations Friday. Handed out. Not mailed. It's not even in an envelope and doesn't have my name on it. And she's already asked me for my RSVP twice haha.
But if I go alone...who's going to drive me home when I get accidentally drunk at the open bar?!!?!??
...........oh wait. It's a cash bar.
Discuss.
He he. We did free beer, wine, and soda. If you wanted a mixed drink you had to pay for that. If you were in the wedding party you got free drinks no matter if it was a mixed drink or not. Most people on both sides would drink wine or beer any way so I don't think a lot of people had mixed drinks and that is the common etiquette for weddings in my and H's families.
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Post by diamondsndaisies on Feb 17, 2016 10:59:29 GMT -5
We are getting out office painted today! YAY! It is currently institutional pale green. It will now be a beige color. Our office has a big jury trial today and I am so bummed I have to stay in the office and I can't go watch.
Post by ThankfulSnail on Feb 17, 2016 11:01:48 GMT -5
OMG mustloveerica, that is the most flameworthy bride I've ever heard of! I really kind of want you to go to the wedding and report back about what kind of faux pas she makes at the ceremony/reception, even though I totally would never go to a wedding my DH wasn't invited to.
We invited all couples together to our wedding and were lucky enough to have the extra budget room to invite all single people with a +1, too. If you can't afford to invite your guest with their spouse, you can't afford to invite that guest, it's as simple as that.
I think a cash bar is not cool. I realize that may be a UO, especially depending on your region, but IMO if you are hosting an event, you host what you can afford. If that's a full bar, great. If that's table wine only, great. Your event, you decide what's served, but I don't like the idea of guests having to open their wallets at an event that's hosted. I went to a wedding where you even had to pay for soda- major side eye from me. I went to a dry wedding and thought that was fine, although there were less people on the dance floor and I think people would have stayed later if there had been alcohol.
But if I go alone...who's going to drive me home when I get accidentally drunk at the open bar?!!?!??
...........oh wait. It's a cash bar.
Discuss.
He he. We did free beer, wine, and soda. If you wanted a mixed drink you had to pay for that. If you were in the wedding party you got free drinks no matter if it was a mixed drink or not. Most people on both sides would drink wine or beer any way so I don't think a lot of people had mixed drinks and that is the common etiquette for weddings in my and H's families.
ETA: FFWC?!
I think this is totally fair as well, at least there's something hosted and if people are being picky they have the option to pay for something else. Like when DH and I go go his parents' house and they only have light beer, which I don't like, I bring a bottle of wine or a pack of beer that DH and I like to drink instead.
Post by kayladawn91 on Feb 17, 2016 11:13:41 GMT -5
I just had about 20 boxes of books and lesson materials delivered to my office for my new after school program. There's so much to unpack and I'm overwhelmed.
butlerfan, there is nothing wrong with hosting just beer and wine (or a dry wedding). Making guests pay for mixed drinks, especially when the wedding party gets them for free = not cool. Maybe a UO. Don't care.
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Post by notagoddess on Feb 17, 2016 11:26:05 GMT -5
I hate cash bars too, but I've been to dry weddings where I would have preferred to pay for a drink than sit through it sober. So, I guess my preferences are:
open bar (wine and beer is fine) > cash bar > dry wedding
But then dry weddings are mostly because of religious/cultural concerns, no?
I hate cash bars too, but I've been to dry weddings where I would have preferred to pay for a drink than sit through it sober. So, I guess my preferences are:
open bar (wine and beer is fine) > cash bar > dry wedding
But then dry weddings are mostly because of religious/cultural concerns, no?
Ours was dry because of the Southern church venue, yes. Which bummed me out, but I was 22 when I got married and my parents were graciously paying for everything, so the church being free was kind of the deal breaker.
All our out-of-town guests and the wedding party had plenty at the rehearsal dinner and I made it clear that people could do as they please directly outside of the church building, which was definitely taken to heart lol. A lot of people also went out after the wedding because it was earlier in the day.
Post by TheEleventhHour on Feb 17, 2016 11:34:50 GMT -5
I have never even heard of the phrasing "1 seat is reserved" for wedding invites. I get that some people can't afford to invite a ton of people but if you can't invite an entire couple don't invite them at all. I'd never go to a wedding alone! Well, when I was single I never took plus ones but since being with DH I'd always take him.
I hate cash bars too, but I've been to dry weddings where I would have preferred to pay for a drink than sit through it sober. So, I guess my preferences are:
open bar (wine and beer is fine) > cash bar > dry wedding
But then dry weddings are mostly because of religious/cultural concerns, no?
Ours was dry because of the Southern church venue, yes. Which bummed me out, but I was 22 when I got married and my parents were graciously paying for everything, so the church being free was kind of the deal breaker.
All our out-of-town guests and the wedding party had plenty at the rehearsal dinner and I made it clear that people could do as they please directly outside of the church building, which was definitely taken to heart lol. A lot of people also went out after the wedding because it was earlier in the day.
I have never even heard of the phrasing "1 seat is reserved" for wedding invites. I get that some people can't afford to invite a ton of people but if you can't invite an entire couple don't invite them at all. I'd never go to a wedding alone! Well, when I was single I never took plus ones but since being with DH I'd always take him.
I totally agree. Weddings are AWFUL when you're alone. What if you don't even know any other guests that well?
I have never even heard of the phrasing "1 seat is reserved" for wedding invites. I get that some people can't afford to invite a ton of people but if you can't invite an entire couple don't invite them at all. I'd never go to a wedding alone! Well, when I was single I never took plus ones but since being with DH I'd always take him.
I totally agree. Weddings are AWFUL when you're alone. What if you don't even know any other guests that well?
Exactly! The only weddings I went to alone I knew a ton of people and was young, single, and made out with hot groomsmen lol. Otherwise DNW to be stag at a wedding.
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