I made a big batch of iced coffee that I'm excited to have today. The girls are still sleeping so my H and I are relaxing in bed. I'm kind of exhausted even though I slept fine and wasn't woken up super early.
So my crazy cousin apparently believes timeout for little kids is horrible and it's why teenagers want to be alone when they're overwhelmed by life. We haven't really hit a point where we've needed to consider it, but is it really that traumatic?
Introduce them to my 18m old who runs to her bedroom and shuts the door when she's not getting her way.
Post by gahorseygal on Feb 24, 2016 9:37:29 GMT -5
DD had a croupy sounding cough this morning so I stayed home with her until I could call the nurse and see if daycare was OK. She said medically she was fine to go to DC so I'm finally at work. And I need to leave early for my chiropractor appointment but I'm so afraid DC is going to call and say her cough has gotten worse (she was also a little wheezy, even after a breathing treatment so that makes me concerned it may be croup). Of course H is being super unhelpful today so it's all up to me.
So my crazy cousin apparently believes timeout for little kids is horrible and it's why teenagers want to be alone when they're overwhelmed by life. We haven't really hit a point where we've needed to consider it, but is it really that traumatic?
No but I also think that after a time out it should be explained to the child. Or once they get old enough, the kid should tell you what they did wrong.
After a time out I always get down on eye level and explain what was wrong. I even do this with A even if she doesn't completely understand. I try to keep hers short and simple like, "we do not hit."
For you crafty mamas: if I want to get fleece to make a blanket for a toddler bed, how many yards do I need? Let's say I'm planning to do the 12 year old version: no sew/ tie method using 2 pieces of fleece.
For you crafty mamas: if I want to get fleece to make a blanket for a toddler bed, how many yards do I need? Let's say I'm planning to do the 12 year old version: no sew/ tie method using 2 pieces of fleece.
I found a website once that listed how many yards for different beds. Let me find that...
For you crafty mamas: if I want to get fleece to make a blanket for a toddler bed, how many yards do I need? Let's say I'm planning to do the 12 year old version: no sew/ tie method using 2 pieces of fleece.
I found a website once that listed how many yards for different beds. Let me find that...
I can't find that website, but 1.5 yards would be plenty. I just made (sewed) DS a fleece blanket, and I think his actually Is 1 1/4 yards finished size. He's 4. It covers him up but not his twin bed.
I used to make tie blankets for my nephews though.
I found a website once that listed how many yards for different beds. Let me find that...
I can't find that website, but 1.5 yards would be plenty. I just made (sewed) DS a fleece blanket, and I think his actually Is 1 1/4 yards finished size. He's 4. It covers him up but not his twin bed.
I used to make tie blankets for my nephews though.
Today was DS's appointment with the ENT. He had both his tongue tie and upper lip tie clipped. Already noticing more mobility with his tongue.
I might go out later by myself. Since my mom and MIL are both here so they can look after the babies. Plus they broke my toaster today so I have to go buy a new one.
Post by asundevil80 on Feb 24, 2016 11:23:08 GMT -5
I'm really struggling with my Lo's temper tantrums. He's great (they tell me) at day care but once he's with me, it's almost constant whining, crying and frustration from him because either I'm not understanding what he's telling me or he wants to do something very dangerous and I won't let him. And to top it off, his sleep has gone to crap, so I'm very low on patience.
My older kid was not like this at all, so I feel like a FTM. Anyone have any amazing pointers/advice/coping skills? Or just lots of wine and chocolate?
I'm really struggling with my Lo's temper tantrums. He's great (they tell me) at day care but once he's with me, it's almost constant whining, crying and frustration from him because either I'm not understanding what he's telling me or he wants to do something very dangerous and I won't let him. And to top it off, his sleep has gone to crap, so I'm very low on patience.
My older kid was not like this at all, so I feel like a FTM. Anyone have any amazing pointers/advice/coping skills? Or just lots of wine and chocolate?
My oldest is this type of child. It's like she holds it all together all day long and then falls apart the moment she sees me. It's frustrating as all get out, but I try to take it as a compliment too...she feels safe enough with me to know she doesn't have to keep it all together.
I do my best to hug her and give her a few minutes to poor her heart out. Then I distract her to what fun we'll have together. I've found engaging her in picking dinner or helping make dinner or set the table...some way of helping and moving forward helps settle the rest of the evening. I don't know how much of this would have worked years ago. She's 5 now and it's been a trial and error kind of thing for years.
I'm really struggling with my Lo's temper tantrums. He's great (they tell me) at day care but once he's with me, it's almost constant whining, crying and frustration from him because either I'm not understanding what he's telling me or he wants to do something very dangerous and I won't let him. And to top it off, his sleep has gone to crap, so I'm very low on patience.
My older kid was not like this at all, so I feel like a FTM. Anyone have any amazing pointers/advice/coping skills? Or just lots of wine and chocolate?
DD has been this way too and it's definitely sleep related. She is better on days she gets better sleep. We have to make it a priority to try and get her into bed by 6:30pm. We still deal with lots of whining/crying and frustration. I'm wondering if maybe this will get better as they can communicate better? That seems to be part of the problem is that she just whines or when she tries to use words we can't understand what she's saying.
I eat lots of french fries and Dr Pepper (my current pregnancy craving that makes me feel better )
I have two huge things of fresh mozzarella to use. I am thinking I'll make a batch of mozz sticks since I have marinara to use up. I am already dying to eat them and that's hours away.
I'm really struggling with my Lo's temper tantrums. He's great (they tell me) at day care but once he's with me, it's almost constant whining, crying and frustration from him because either I'm not understanding what he's telling me or he wants to do something very dangerous and I won't let him. And to top it off, his sleep has gone to crap, so I'm very low on patience.
My older kid was not like this at all, so I feel like a FTM. Anyone have any amazing pointers/advice/coping skills? Or just lots of wine and chocolate?
My oldest is this type of child. It's like she holds it all together all day long and then falls apart the moment she sees me. It's frustrating as all get out, but I try to take it as a compliment too...she feels safe enough with me to know she doesn't have to keep it all together.
I do my best to hug her and give her a few minutes to poor her heart out. Then I distract her to what fun we'll have together. I've found engaging her in picking dinner or helping make dinner or set the table...some way of helping and moving forward helps settle the rest of the evening. I don't know how much of this would have worked years ago. She's 5 now and it's been a trial and error kind of thing for years.
I like that perspective -- they know their Moms will love them meltdowns and all. Haha!
Hopefully as he gets older, I can communicate and redirect in the ways you suggest. I think it's probably just survival until then
I'm really struggling with my Lo's temper tantrums. He's great (they tell me) at day care but once he's with me, it's almost constant whining, crying and frustration from him because either I'm not understanding what he's telling me or he wants to do something very dangerous and I won't let him. And to top it off, his sleep has gone to crap, so I'm very low on patience.
My older kid was not like this at all, so I feel like a FTM. Anyone have any amazing pointers/advice/coping skills? Or just lots of wine and chocolate?
DD has been this way too and it's definitely sleep related. She is better on days she gets better sleep. We have to make it a priority to try and get her into bed by 6:30pm. We still deal with lots of whining/crying and frustration. I'm wondering if maybe this will get better as they can communicate better? That seems to be part of the problem is that she just whines or when she tries to use words we can't understand what she's saying.
I eat lots of french fries and Dr Pepper (my current pregnancy craving that makes me feel better )
Thanks for sympathizing and pass the fries! I do think you're right that once they can communicate better, it should subside a bit. They're just so unreasonable at this age
And I agree, he's very tired by bed time and it's affecting his mood in a serious way. I think his canines need to pop through and hopefully then he'll sleep better at night leading to a happier day. Fingers crossed!
DD has been this way too and it's definitely sleep related. She is better on days she gets better sleep. We have to make it a priority to try and get her into bed by 6:30pm. We still deal with lots of whining/crying and frustration. I'm wondering if maybe this will get better as they can communicate better? That seems to be part of the problem is that she just whines or when she tries to use words we can't understand what she's saying.
I eat lots of french fries and Dr Pepper (my current pregnancy craving that makes me feel better )
Thanks for sympathizing and pass the fries! I do think you're right that once they can communicate better, it should subside a bit. They're just so unreasonable at this age
And I agree, he's very tired by bed time and it's affecting his mood in a serious way. I think his canines need to pop through and hopefully then he'll sleep better at night leading to a happier day. Fingers crossed!
My eldest is still pretty unreasonable. I sneak cookies in my pantry.
I have odd momma guilt. MIL offered to watch sage so I could rest. I feel like I should be able to parent while sick, despite wanting a nap after vacuuming. I voted that she stay here, but feel like an ass for not sending her over...but I wouldn't nap if she weren't here.
Post by peachesncream on Feb 24, 2016 16:15:06 GMT -5
My father-in-law helped us out yesterday by waiting at our house for some contractors. When I got home he said "You won't believe it but UPS came and they dropped off THREE packages for you!"
So visit with my mom is actually going well, despite her annoying H a bit. But I told him it evens out because his mother is driving me crazy.
She was hinting that she wanted me to drive her around tomorrow morning. But we have dd's 18 month check up. Plus I'm not a chaffeur. I'll probably take both kids with me to the appointment then take my time going home after.
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