Post by annapunkalunka on Mar 3, 2016 9:12:17 GMT -5
Idk if I'm going to be able to do this. I can't eat. I'm so worked up and emotional over the whole thing. I can't talk to anyone at work today bc I'll probably cry. I feel like it shouldn't be this hard.
Idk if I'm going to be able to do this. I can't eat. I'm so worked up and emotional over the whole thing. I can't talk to anyone at work today bc I'll probably cry. I feel like it shouldn't be this hard.
Hugs! The first night is the hardest. You can do this. In a few days, she'll forget she even nursed.
Idk if I'm going to be able to do this. I can't eat. I'm so worked up and emotional over the whole thing. I can't talk to anyone at work today bc I'll probably cry. I feel like it shouldn't be this hard.
Hugs! The first night is the hardest. You can do this. In a few days, she'll forget she even nursed.
This is so true. They really do forget so quickly. Whenever it comes up in my house, DH always reminds me that DS was "so ready!" I think we both expected it to drag on for weeks, but it honestly didn't.
Idk if I'm going to be able to do this. I can't eat. I'm so worked up and emotional over the whole thing. I can't talk to anyone at work today bc I'll probably cry. I feel like it shouldn't be this hard.
I'm so sorry. I promise it's much harder on you than her. No one warns you how difficult weaning is on your emotions. Big hugs.
Idk if I'm going to be able to do this. I can't eat. I'm so worked up and emotional over the whole thing. I can't talk to anyone at work today bc I'll probably cry. I feel like it shouldn't be this hard.
Weaning is a really emotional thing. I shed A LOT of tears, and DS didn't even protest! (He was much younger). You can do this. Just keep reminding yourself of all the reasons you decided to do it. I don't think most babies/toddlers like change, but you can be there to help her through the transition in other ways (snuggles, songs, etc).
Different situation but sort of similar. The only thing that got me to go through with sleep training the second night, was reminding myself that if I didn't, I had made him cry all those tears the first night for no reason. And the second night wasn't nearly as bad. By the third, I was so thankful I had stuck to my guns. Maybe she will suprise you and tonight won't be too bad! Are you able to give her some pumped milk in a sippy? (Or plain milk if she won't take it like that)
I need to do something different. Right now I rock him in the recliner until he falls asleep and then put him in his crib(or DH does now since my belly is in the way). CIO for an 18 month old sounds awful. I don't really mind rocking him and he also sleeps all night, but I wonder if I'm doing him a disservice by continuing.
Well.... I suck. DH and I decided I needed to take a more gentle approach. And that we're going to drop the am session before the bedtime. I nursed her for only 10 mins last night vs 30 and she was muchhhhhhh better. Still cried when I cut her off, but not nearly as bad. Thank you all for your help and support. I'm just a weakling and couldn't bring myself to do another night like the first
Well.... I suck. DH and I decided I needed to take a more gentle approach. And that we're going to drop the am session before the bedtime. I nursed her for only 10 mins last night vs 30 and she was muchhhhhhh better. Still cried when I cut her off, but not nearly as bad. Thank you all for your help and support. I'm just a weakling and couldn't bring myself to do another night like the first
When we weaned, I cut out the morning session and the evening session cut itself out because I dried up. DS just started refusing to nurse and it was a nonissue. Maybe this will happen if you cut out the AM.
Well.... I suck. DH and I decided I needed to take a more gentle approach. And that we're going to drop the am session before the bedtime. I nursed her for only 10 mins last night vs 30 and she was muchhhhhhh better. Still cried when I cut her off, but not nearly as bad. Thank you all for your help and support. I'm just a weakling and couldn't bring myself to do another night like the first
Don't beat yourself up, do what's best for the both of you.
Hugs annapunkalunka. I hope you find a solution that works for both of you. Weaning is hard, really, really hard.
ETA: I weaned by going on a work trip for 2 weeks, and that made me feel really crappy, like I was not there for her at all, so whatever you do will be better than that.
Well.... I suck. DH and I decided I needed to take a more gentle approach. And that we're going to drop the am session before the bedtime. I nursed her for only 10 mins last night vs 30 and she was muchhhhhhh better. Still cried when I cut her off, but not nearly as bad. Thank you all for your help and support. I'm just a weakling and couldn't bring myself to do another night like the first
Don't put yourself down. Weaning can be hard on everyone. I was more upset because my current pregnancy caused me to dry up. DS still reaches his hand down my shirt and asks for milk, buy has been fine drinking WCM. The two of you will get there on your own time.
I need to do something different. Right now I rock him in the recliner until he falls asleep and then put him in his crib(or DH does now since my belly is in the way). CIO for an 18 month old sounds awful. I don't really mind rocking him and he also sleeps all night, but I wonder if I'm doing him a disservice by continuing.
Same here, glad I'm not the only one. I stand and sway her or rock about ten minutes until she's out. My nearly 20 week belly is about to be an issue, plus I would like her to go down on her own before new baby but I'm scared to change it. I also still like holding her and watching her fall asleep since we quit nursing a month ago and I miss it. If you find a brilliant solution or attempt CIO let me know how it goes!
I need to do something different. Right now I rock him in the recliner until he falls asleep and then put him in his crib(or DH does now since my belly is in the way). CIO for an 18 month old sounds awful. I don't really mind rocking him and he also sleeps all night, but I wonder if I'm doing him a disservice by continuing.
Same here, glad I'm not the only one. I stand and sway her or rock about ten minutes until she's out. My nearly 20 week belly is about to be an issue, plus I would like her to go down on her own before new baby but I'm scared to change it. I also still like holding her and watching her fall asleep since we quit nursing a month ago and I miss it. If you find a brilliant solution or attempt CIO let me know how it goes!
I was able to finally get DS to settle for a nap without nursing by placing him in his crib and rubbing/sort of jiggling his belly. He protested a bit, but eventually, I think he gave in and let the motion put him to sleep.
This thread inspired me, so tonight I held her a couple minutes and hummed our song. Then I put her down awake with her monkey and blanket. I put my hand on her side and hummed for a minute and she was out. She opened her eyes a few times to see if I was there, and that was it. I feel so happy/amazed! You guys gave me the kick I needed.
Post by sosayweall on Mar 10, 2016 20:58:20 GMT -5
annbuhdan or anyone else wanting to change things up, I also have had a fair amount of success. The last three nights I sat in his room until he fell asleep on his own(took about an hour). I moved the chair closer and closer to the door. Tonight I simply gave him a kiss and walked out and he went to sleep.
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