Heyyyyy Mondayyyyyy (with odd poll)

[PirateCat]

samanthasays, I like a woman with her priorities straight.

All that you do for these animals is amazing.

[jubilantsquirrel]

Mar 7, 2016 12:45:40 GMT -5 butlerfan said:

So our initial foster care orientation meeting is tonight. I'm nervous as to all the information we will be receiving, being overwhelmed, what is/will be discussed, is this the right move for us, etc.

Good luck! I hope it's a smooth process!

[diamondsndaisies]

Mar 7, 2016 14:12:17 GMT -5 PonyGirl said:

Mar 7, 2016 10:05:19 GMT -5 badwolf said:

Since we're talking about renovations a little bit, does anyone have any good ideas what to do with the inside of kitchen cabinets that are kind of gross? I've heard shelf paper is a pain later if you want to remove it so I don't really want to use that. I've also heard that using floor tiles on the shelves works well. Has anyone done this before?

When we redid our kitchen we painted the inside of the cabinets gray. And on the bottom cabinets, we put those stick and peel tiles down. So far I've really liked it!

This is a project for someday when I am bored I painted the existing cabinets in our new house white. I would like to eventually paint the insides as well but I wasn't willing to devote the time when I was painting the outsides. I had too many other things to finish up so we could move in.  

[samanthasays]

Mar 7, 2016 14:18:18 GMT -5 PirateCat said:

samanthasays , I like a woman with her priorities straight.

All that you do for these animals is amazing.

You are too kind. My mom seriously thought I was like a sociopath or something growing up because I have zero empathy for people. But then she saw me with animals and felt a little better about me ha ha! So I am no saint, but I do what I can now that I have found such a good group of volunteers to join forces with  

[requiressnacks]

samanthasays, very cool!!!

[PirateCat]

samanthasays, I think you turned out alright.

[requiressnacks]

Who has spent the weekend in Charleston before? Is it fun? I like to eat, drink and see a bit of culture.

[samanthasays]

Mar 7, 2016 14:54:47 GMT -5 requiressnacks said:

Who has spent the weekend in Charleston before? Is it fun? I like to eat, drink and see a bit of culture.

I binge watch Southern Charm, does that count? Too bad Shep's bar burned down you cant go there. But you could probably get impregnated by thomas ravenel. maybe even on the Ravenel Bridge! You know that thing gets him hard. 

[butlerfan]

So I work in the office area of a plant but because I have to go into the plant for variety of things I can wear jeans, tennis shoes (actually can't wear any shoes with a heel and must be closed toe and heel for safety reasons), t-shirts/sweatshirts, etc. so I don't dress up for work because I don't want to ruin my "nice" clothes. For the foster care orientation meeting should I change and dress up more? I currently have one a pair of tennis shoes, jeans, and a Wisconsin Badger sweatshirt.

WWGKUD?

[lgraceh]

I just asked DH if it is cool for me to work some OT this week. He responded with "yeah, I want to go hit up the driving range". Am I being unreasonable for being miffed by that response? I know that hitting a bucket of balls is only like $8.00, but I'm irrationally annoyed that he wants to spend money not in the budget (we do the Dave Ramsey budget system) while I'm working to bring more money into the house.

[ladytiffany24]

Mar 7, 2016 14:54:47 GMT -5 requiressnacks said:

Who has spent the weekend in Charleston before? Is it fun? I like to eat, drink and see a bit of culture.

I've been! And Charleston is honestly the BEST place for all of the above! Excellent food, awesome bars, and cool historical culture. You'll love it.

[samanthasays]

Mar 7, 2016 14:59:48 GMT -5 butlerfan said:

So I work in the office area of a plant but because I have to go into the plant for variety of things I can wear jeans, tennis shoes (actually can't wear any shoes with a heel and must be closed toe and heel for safety reasons), t-shirts/sweatshirts, etc. so I don't dress up for work because I don't want to ruin my "nice" clothes. For the foster care orientation meeting should I change and dress up more? I currently have one a pair of tennis shoes, jeans, and a Wisconsin Badger sweatshirt.

WWGKUD?

I feel like as long as you look clean (like put together, not like you slept in that )you are good to go. But I have zero experience with fostering humans. 

[jubilantsquirrel]

butlerfan, I'm sure it doesn't make a huge difference but I would probably change into dressier clothes. I don't think you need to go fancy or anything. Maybe just jeans and a nice top? I have experience with foster care orientation though.

[jubilantsquirrel]

^that's supposed to say I don't have any experience with foster care orientation.

[icedtea]

Mar 7, 2016 14:54:47 GMT -5 requiressnacks said:

Who has spent the weekend in Charleston before? Is it fun? I like to eat, drink and see a bit of culture.

We were there in October and had a good time. I'm trying to remember where we went. I know I got lunch at this deli-type place in the City Market one day called Caviar and Bananas. It was delicious (awesome tea and salad). I'll see if H can remember the other places we ate at when he wakes up from his nap.

We also did the carriage tour on another trip. It was interesting, but the guide said weird things (like how it was so sad that slavery caused Charleston to get such a bad reputation  ).  

[icedtea]

I wanted to try this cocktail bar while we were there, but ran out of time. I also desperately wanted to go to this gourmet donut shop but was crazy full when we finally made it there.

We did go to the Rarebit for brunch, which was fun. Walking by the mansions and the water is beautiful. Their farmers market is incredible — the food and art available is crazy.

[samanthasays]

Mar 7, 2016 15:23:37 GMT -5 starbuck27 said:

Mar 7, 2016 15:03:32 GMT -5 lgraceh said:

I just asked DH if it is cool for me to work some OT this week. He responded with "yeah, I want to go hit up the driving range". Am I being unreasonable for being miffed by that response? I know that hitting a bucket of balls is only like $8.00, but I'm irrationally annoyed that he wants to spend money not in the budget (we do the Dave Ramsey budget system) while I'm working to bring more money into the house.

MH does this, too. I'll do some freelance and he's all about saving the money or doing a home improvement. Then he goes and sells something and that money goes straight to fun stuff for him. I finally said something to him about that double standard a few weeks ago. He admitted I am right but I'm still curious to see if that changes anything the next time he gets some extra cash. I'll raise hell.

All that to say no, I don't think you're being unreasonable.

MH and I used to have this fight all of the time. We dont share accounts, so if he irks me with his personal spending I just say "Since you are so flush with cash how about you help me pay for *Insert something here*" Typically he transfers me some money, so I am happy, and he gets to do what he wants, so he is happy. But that is probably not Ramsey approved

[butlerfan]

Mar 7, 2016 15:03:32 GMT -5 lgraceh said:

I just asked DH if it is cool for me to work some OT this week. He responded with "yeah, I want to go hit up the driving range". Am I being unreasonable for being miffed by that response? I know that hitting a bucket of balls is only like $8.00, but I'm irrationally annoyed that he wants to spend money not in the budget (we do the Dave Ramsey budget system) while I'm working to bring more money into the house.

You are not being unreasonable. H and I talk about the budget and if there are items we need/want that aren't in the budget we figure out when and if they are purchased.

[bex15]

samanthasays, I LOVE Southern Charm! So excited for the new season to start

[samanthasays]

Mar 7, 2016 15:35:05 GMT -5 bex15 said:

samanthasays , I LOVE Southern Charm! So excited for the new season to start

I joined twitter just to follow Thomas and Kathryn fighting ha ha!

[ceejay]

Mar 7, 2016 14:59:48 GMT -5 butlerfan said:

So I work in the office area of a plant but because I have to go into the plant for variety of things I can wear jeans, tennis shoes (actually can't wear any shoes with a heel and must be closed toe and heel for safety reasons), t-shirts/sweatshirts, etc. so I don't dress up for work because I don't want to ruin my "nice" clothes. For the foster care orientation meeting should I change and dress up more? I currently have one a pair of tennis shoes, jeans, and a Wisconsin Badger sweatshirt.

WWGKUD?

I think you are probably okay wearing what you have on. They have to assume that many people come directly from work and people wear a variety of things to work depending on their environment. If it was me, I might put on a nicer shirt and shoes (if you have time) but it shouldn't make a big difference.

We never attended a formal orientation meeting at our agency. Our first meeting with anyone for foster care was when our caseworker came to our house to get to know us and take a brief tour of our home to make sure we had adequate space and bedrooms to get licensed. I remember we both dressed nicely and spent HOURS cleaning... and I don't think she would have cared at all if our house had been messy or if we had worn sweatpants and Tshirts.

For our PRIDE training, I went straight from work so I was usually business casual, but the majority of the people in the class came in Tshirts and yoga pants.

Good luck tonight! I hope the meeting is helpful and informative. Let us know how it goes!

[rooskie]

Mar 7, 2016 15:32:47 GMT -5 starbuck27 said:

Mar 7, 2016 15:27:49 GMT -5 samanthasays said:

MH and I used to have this fight all of the time. We dont share accounts, so if he irks me with his personal spending I just say "Since you are so flush with cash how about you help me pay for *Insert something here*" Typically he transfers me some money, so I am happy, and he gets to do what he wants, so he is happy. But that is probably not Ramsey approved

We have a joint account. I make significantly more than him so if we went separate he'd have to be more disciplined...or he'd perpetually have like $10 in his account.

This is what I'm going through right now. H "needs" all these things while I'm trying to be tight as can be so we can save for IVF. I make a significant amount more too so it's annoying when he wants $1k for a new computer but I'm too cheap to buy myself new work clothes.

(FWIW my laptop has to be plugged in to run and I can't even play Facebook games on it anymore. But he neeeeeeds a gaming laptop)

[requiressnacks]

Mar 7, 2016 15:15:40 GMT -5 icedtea said:

Mar 7, 2016 14:54:47 GMT -5 requiressnacks said:

Who has spent the weekend in Charleston before? Is it fun? I like to eat, drink and see a bit of culture.

We were there in October and had a good time. I'm trying to remember where we went. I know I got lunch at this deli-type place in the City Market one day called Caviar and Bananas. It was delicious (awesome tea and salad). I'll see if H can remember the other places we ate at when he wakes up from his nap.

We also did the carriage tour on another trip. It was interesting, but the guide said weird things (like how it was so sad that slavery caused Charleston to get such a bad reputation  ).  

Thanks! Did you stay in the city?

[ceejay]

Mar 7, 2016 15:47:55 GMT -5 rooskie said:

Mar 7, 2016 15:32:47 GMT -5 starbuck27 said:

We have a joint account. I make significantly more than him so if we went separate he'd have to be more disciplined...or he'd perpetually have like $10 in his account.

This is what I'm going through right now. H "needs" all these things while I'm trying to be tight as can be so we can save for IVF. I make a significant amount more too so it's annoying when he wants $1k for a new computer but I'm too cheap to buy myself new work clothes.

(FWIW my laptop has to be plugged in to run and I can't even play Facebook games on it anymore. But he neeeeeeds a gaming laptop)

Apparently we are married to the same person too... 

[requiressnacks]

bex15, samanthasays, - LOL at getting impregnated by Thomas Ravenel! Can't wait for Southern Charm! Thomas and Katherine are the reason I watch that show. OH, and Whitney's mom - she is basically my idol. When I'm getting ready for a big night out I ask MH to make me a "dressing drink" in her honor.

[bex15]

Mar 7, 2016 15:55:03 GMT -5 requiressnacks said:

bex15 , samanthasays , - LOL at getting impregnated by Thomas Ravenel! Can't wait for Southern Charm! Thomas and Katherine are the reason I watch that show. OH, and Whitney's mom - she is basically my idol. When I'm getting ready for a big night out I ask MH to make me a "dressing drink" in her honor.



Yes, I love his mom! I would date him just to hang out with her

[lilsneezy]

Today is our last day in Oregon so me and DH are taking a drive up the coastal highway. I'm super excited the weather is cooperating.

[rooskie]

I am thinking about getting H his $200 Fitbit though because 1) I could get like $40 kohls cash back and 2) we are suppose to get an inheritance check this month. Maybe it will get his mind off the laptop.

I'm sick of picking my battles.

[PirateCat]

lilsneezy Oregon coast is so pretty!

[peaseblossom55]

samanthasays, my mom does a lot of fostering, she has done some transports but not lately. I love the work that you do!