Today has already started out way more eventful than what I would like. I need the weekend back!
I just realized that I committed to going to a retirement dinner that is 2 hours away when I will be 38 weeks. I'll probably have to get a hotel because it won't end until past my bedtime. Of course I won't go if I'm not feeling up to it, but would any of you not go at all and cancel now? For reference, I had DS at 39 weeks.
I would absolutely cancel. I hated everything at 39w last time, and there would be NO WAY I could have sat in a car for two hours comfortably. Plus, I don't like being that far from home that late in pregnancy.
Today has already started out way more eventful than what I would like. I need the weekend back!
I just realized that I committed to going to a retirement dinner that is 2 hours away when I will be 38 weeks. I'll probably have to get a hotel because it won't end until past my bedtime. Of course I won't go if I'm not feeling up to it, but would any of you not go at all and cancel now? For reference, I had DS at 39 weeks.
I would absolutely cancel. I was two weeks late with DS, and I would still cancel. At that point in the pregnancy almost everything is just no fun.
And like, PP said, being that far from the hospital would be anxious-making (for me at least).
As I mentioned up thread, DH has been in a funk about music stuff which has made him somewhat prickly. I cannot find any way to cheer him up and it is wearing on me. He just texted me that one of his friends wants to come over to hang out tonight. Now, if it were any of his other friends, I'd be all, "more the merrier! I hope they like Swedish meatballs!". However, this friend, while nice, drives me totally nuts.
They always wind up drinking too much and being loud (not so much DH, but friend) and just generally annoying. I chalk this up to the friend being nearly 12 years younger, not married, and no kids.
This also means that after an 11 hour day at work, I am watching DS on my own and cooking dinner, grading papers, etc.
How do I make nice to friend and not blow up at DH? Pregnancy hormones are giving me a short fuse.
TL;DR - nitecheese wants her husband to be happy but hates her husband's friend for being a toolbag. How do I fake happy about his presence?
txmommy14 and Kevinmac I feel your pain. I developed an awful cold this weekend. I can't seem to catch a break with getting sick. Hope you both feel better soon!
babyzebra I would probably cancel because it just doesn't sound like very much fun at 38 weeks pregnant. If you really want to go, then I'd say just wait and see how your feeling and decide then.
nitecheese I would probably just tell DH I'm not up for hosting anyone tonight and suggest they go out on another night without me. I'm not good at hiding my real feelings when I'm not pregnant never mind when pregnancy hormones are raging.
Post by Flair Underwood on Mar 7, 2016 14:02:35 GMT -5
babyzebra - fwiw, i probably wouldn't preemptively cancel. You might feel fine at that point (besides the normal complaints!) If you're not making any progress, there's no reason not to go besides being tired. Can someone else go with you so you don't need to go alone? It might not be the most comfortable thing in the world, but life still has to go on no matter how pregnant we are.
Post by frecklesnbrains on Mar 7, 2016 14:04:44 GMT -5
babyzebra I said yes to a family event 2.5 hours away at 38 weeks... My stepmother more or less begged me. I feel nervous about it and warned her I may have to cancel last-minute. If I didn't have the option of cancelling last minute then I probably would not have accepted in the first place. There IS a very good hospital where I'm going, so that made me feel a bit better. That's something I would consider too.
Post by woodengirl07 on Mar 7, 2016 14:06:08 GMT -5
babyzebra unless it is someone who you feel that you have to be there, I would cancel. Not only are you probably not going to feel like going, I'm sure the hosts are paying per person for food and drinks and the like, so it would be an inconvenience on them if you end up not showing last minute. Plus 2 hours away is too far anyway (of course, I live in a city were you can get pretty much anywhere in under 30 minutes and 2 hours driving would put you in a whole other part of the state)
nitecheese have you already started dinner? Maybe you can ask hubby or the friend to pick up a pizza or something on the way home. Then at least the dinner part is off your plate. I hate unexpected guests so I feel ya.
All this concert talk is making me laugh, I have for several years bought the mega ticket for concerts for the summer with some friends. My friend was seriously surprised I wasn't buying one this year. I'm like, hello, I'll have a newborn!
nitecheese, can they go out somewhere instead? I know it still leaves all the responsibility on your shoulders, but at least you won't have to deal with the noise on top of it. And make a deal that he'll repay the favor to you soon?
soultrane, That is absolutely precious about what your DS said about thinking about you when he's at daycare-how precious!!!
nitecheese, No sex here, either! I think my DS is excited about my sono this week because he's hoping that I'll be cleared to have sex again-it's been months!!
Add me to hating full panel pants, or all pants. Lower panels hurt me, but so do full panels. I just want to wear too big pajamas pants all the time. Ugh.
babyzebra, that's tough, I probably would feel nervous going somewhere 2 hours away at 38 weeks with my second when my first came quickly. Is it a party for someone you are close to?
I'm missing a concert that's six days before my due date. I'm bummed- DMB is playing and it's a brand new amphitheater in our city. DH and all of our friends are going. I know after a day at work I probably wouldn't have too much fun, but I still wish I could go. We have tickets for a concert mid-July, and I'm not committing to that yet. If I can't go, DH will go with friends. It will depend on how nursing works out and how I feel.
So the PSA is already pinned by the admins, but I wanted to give a shout out for the Green Toys that are on sale on Amazon today. We got G a few for Christmas this year and he seriously loves them!
nitecheese, I'd tell My DH to go have a fun evening OUT with his friend. I hate last minute guests and have no patience for annoying, drinking people while being pregnant. If that's not possible I'd have him order pizza for everyone and I'd go to bed as early as possible.
csat, - thanks for the snoogle suggestion. I loved it in my first pregnancy and I have a love hate this time around. I think my issue is that our apartment runs hot and it's making me way too hot. I am going to try the U position because my neck and back get the hottest so maybe this will help.
babyzebra - I probably wouldn't go to the party. We were planning a babymoon and the only time working out was a month before my due date (DD came 5 days early) and my doctor said not more than an hour or 2 max away for the last month leading up to the due date. I will say that this place was only supposedly 90 minutes out of the city but since it's NYC I was too nervous that 90 minutes could really be 3 hours with traffic. Maybe play it by ear if you can. If it wasn't for my nerves I generally felt fine at 38 weeks last pregnancy.
My plan this pregnancy was to embrace the belly, show it off (meaning not wear everything baggy not actually show bare stomach), and enjoy being pregnant probably for the last time. I feel like a whale. I'm bigger than I was last time (I know it's normal) and I just don't feel cute at all and am having trouble embracing. I plan to wear a lot of dresses in the summer because the panels on pregnancy pants are starting to bug me too. Never had this problem last time. I just need it to get warm enough where I don't have to wear tights/leggings underneath!
Post by ohiorideresq on Mar 7, 2016 18:50:54 GMT -5
Super random weird question - 24 week appointment, GD test. I can't recall. Is there any reason why my OB would be going anywhere near my vagina? My sole reason for asking is that my appointment is first thing in the morning, and I'd rather shower tonight. But if Dr. is getting up close and personal with my bits, I'll wait to shower in the morning.
Post by frecklesnbrains on Mar 7, 2016 18:53:41 GMT -5
ohiorideresq, I don't think so, unless you've had some symptoms that would be concerning. I'm an FTM so I don't speak from experience but it's my impression that there are no routine internal exams until close to the delivery date.
nitecheese I have been blessed with good in-laws as well. My family lives out of state and DH's family does so much for us! His mom came for several days when we all had the flu and didn't think twice. I felt bad that we were exposing her but was also so sick I needed help. She luckily didn't get sick.
My random is this baby feels huge compared to DD. I feel like she's already up in my rib cage and still kicking my bladder. I don't remember being this uncomfortable at this point with DD.
birdhut, I just had the same conversation today. I swear this kid is standing upright in there because I already feel him in my ribs and on my bladder. I don't remember feeling this until way later with DS. Hope you can find some comfort!!
Thanks everyone for your input on traveling for a party at 38 weeks. I'm going to talk to DH about it, but I think I'm going to cancel. One of my biggest fears is having a baby on the side of the road!
So DS is starting to have a biting problem at home and at daycare. Someone I know recommended the book "Teeth are not for biting," so I just ordered it on amazon. It's somewhat amusing to me that amazon sells that book together in a bundle with "Hands are not for hitting" and "Feet are not for kicking." Of course, I bought all 3 for good measure! I hope these books help!
ohiorideresq, I don't think so, unless you've had some symptoms that would be concerning. I'm an FTM so I don't speak from experience but it's my impression that there are no routine internal exams until close to the delivery date.
What Freckles said... Not this early unless you've got a very specific internal/bleeding complaint. Even later on you can choose not to get the internal when they start to check for dilation, etc...
So DS is starting to have a biting problem at home and at daycare. Someone I know recommended the book "Teeth are not for biting," so I just ordered it on amazon. It's somewhat amusing to me that amazon sells that book together in a bundle with "Hands are not for hitting" and "Feet are not for kicking." Of course, I bought all 3 for good measure! I hope these books help!
We have a set of similar topic books which use dinosaurs as the main characters (Dinos don't hit, etc), DS seems to like them.
Super random weird question - 24 week appointment, GD test. I can't recall. Is there any reason why my OB would be going anywhere near my vagina? My sole reason for asking is that my appointment is first thing in the morning, and I'd rather shower tonight. But if Dr. is getting up close and personal with my bits, I'll wait to shower in the morning.
So DS is starting to have a biting problem at home and at daycare. Someone I know recommended the book "Teeth are not for biting," so I just ordered it on amazon. It's somewhat amusing to me that amazon sells that book together in a bundle with "Hands are not for hitting" and "Feet are not for kicking." Of course, I bought all 3 for good measure! I hope these books help!
We have a set of similar topic books which use dinosaurs as the main characters (Dinos don't hit, etc), DS seems to like them.
I saw that one and almost got it. DS loves dinosaurs so much that I thought it might be distracting for him. I could just imagine him saying "dinosaurs go rawr!" the whole time. I might still try it out if the other one doesn't work.
What I really want is a book that says "don't you ever bite so many kids in one day again that your mom gets a phone call in the middle of the day from the director, please."
Super random weird question - 24 week appointment, GD test. I can't recall. Is there any reason why my OB would be going anywhere near my vagina? My sole reason for asking is that my appointment is first thing in the morning, and I'd rather shower tonight. But if Dr. is getting up close and personal with my bits, I'll wait to shower in the morning.
I don't think so unless you have a concern. Honestly, I would just shower when it's most convenient for you either way.
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