~*TPR Fence-Sitters Check-in 3/16*~

[bootsorhearts]

Hey fellow fence sitters! Sorry it's been a while since I posted a new check-in. Life is cray.

This is a weekly check-in for those considering any type of TPR method (donor eggs, donor embryos, donor sperm, surrogacy or gestational carrier, or some combination of those) but who are not yet ready to take the plunge.

This is a safe place to dip your toe in and share whatever you're feeling in this moment - uncertainty, confusion, worry, etc.

New check-in members: Please share as much of your story as you feel comfortable doing.

1. What method(s) of TPR are you considering?
2. Why are you considering this path?
3. What concerns/reservations/worries do you have?

As a courtesy to those TTC#1 and/or those who have experienced loss, please use a spoiler or a ***warning*** before mentioning sensitive topics. Thank you in advance!

theholmanherd How are you doing? Have you made any decisions?

daystardreams Any decisions on the surrogacy plan?

Grads

oneslybookworm moving on to infant adoption! Congrats on choosing a path that's right for you and good luck! I hope everything goes smoothly!

neam2014 pursuing IVF without egg donation option. Good luck hun!!!

[theholmanherd]

No decisions made yet. I'm so indecisive. Hugs for everyone else

[bootsorhearts]

Mar 12, 2016 15:20:11 GMT -5 theholmanherd said:

No decisions made yet. I'm so indecisive. Hugs for everyone else

Me either but lately we've been talking about DIA again.

[daystardreams]

Hi bootsorhearts I totally thought I already checked in here. Basically my sister is backing out on traditional surrogacy. She offered to do it before my third loss so after the loss in August, we decided to start into surrogacy planning after the first of the year. When the first of the year came, my sister said she would rather wait until summer to start for a list of little reasons that didn't really make sense. I didn't really argue with her as it's sort of her call. Though it should have been throwing red flags. I was talking about insurance and lawyers about two weeks ago when suddenly she just said she wasn't ready. She gave me some reasons but unlike last time, she didn't set a new date. I just said ok.

I'm a little bit hurt. MH and I put so much hope into this plan. I'm glad she backed out before we sunk any money or anything into it but it still sucks. Mostly because I would have never have asked anyone to carry my baby for me but she offered and then we've believed for over seven months now that it was an option. She said "I just really thought you'd be pregnant by now." Ha, me and you both.

I'm not mad at her I guess, just frustrated. She didn't say she was completely done with it but at this point, I'd be too nervous to go ahead with it I think since she's been so unsure. So my H and I are basically NTNP while looking into foster care.

I wish you all the best!