Weekly Check-In/Ticker Update: 3/13-3/19

[goldenlove3]

How many weeks are you?

What is baby the size of?

What symptoms are you having?

Do you have any appointments this week?

Rants/Raves/Randoms?

QOTW - How did you meet your DH/SO?

[calindi]

4 weeks tomorrow! Still super early.

"Smaller than a seed".

None that are pregnancy related (except maybe my diarrhea - I had that for a few weeks last time, too) but I am sick so I am full of all kinds of symptoms, not pregnancy related.

I have my first beta bloodwork draw this morning! Probably another later this week.

Rant: I loathe our next door neighbors. They are inconsiderate shits. I have loathed them since the day they moved in last July, when their dog woke us multiple times with its barking. When we kindly told them their yard is next to our baby's room, could they keep the dog from barking all night and for long periods of time? Nope, they said - we'd get used to it. It was an "outside dog." Well, we ended up having to threaten to sue them so the dog would be brought inside or have a bark collar put on from 10pm-7am (I was being woken 3-5x a night, 15+ minutes of barking). Thankfully you can barely hear the dog from DS's room, but our front guest room is a different story. They still suck though - their dog comes into our yard to pee and poop and sticks its snout through our fence to sniff my dog and my son (nearly had a heart attack first time I saw that, thankfully it's a nice dog). So now I worry about whether to move DS to the bigger room, or to put the baby in the front guest room. Either way, I risk a child being woken up 5x a night. Ughrrrr. I am going to have to send DH over there to have a frank conversation a few weeks before the baby arrives.

QOTW: Kickball. We were on a WAKA team in DC in 2008.

[goldenlove3]

Ugh calindi that is super frustrating. It actually makes me sad that the dog is outdoors all night too. Are there any other neighbors that have complained? Maybe they'll take it more seriously if there's more than just one person complaining about it.

[goldenlove3]

How many weeks are you? 5 weeks 5 days

What is baby the size of? Apple seed

What symptoms are you having? I'm exhausted all the time and having nausea here and there.

Do you have any appointments this week? Next appointment is Friday. We'll be looking for the heartbeat. I seriously can't wait!

Rants/Raves/Randoms? My birthday is Thursday, on St. Patty's day, and we're having the usual traditional Irish dinner with H's family. I'm so nervous that 1) I'm not going to be able to stomach corned beef and cabbage and 2) how the hell do I get away with not drinking? Any ideas? So far I'm thinking of steeling one of H's empty beer bottles and filling it with water when no one is looking.

QOTW - How did you meet your DH/SO? We met in college. We were in a few classes together but didn't really get to know each other until we were both on a team together. It took us a couple years before we started dating.

[cookswithwine9]

How many weeks are you? 4 weeks 2 days

What is baby the size of? Smaller than a seed

What symptoms are you having? calindi I didn't realize diarrhea was a symptom, it's terrible! I'm also bloated and get the occasional headache.

Do you have any appointments this week? No first appointment is 4/12

Rants/Raves/Randoms? Still super excited to be pregnant! It's weird not ordering wine at dinner!

QOTW - How did you meet your DH/SO? We both worked at a local grocery store for our high school jobs.

[cookswithwine9]

calindi I played Wakka for a season! I was terrible! Lol

goldenlove3 I am going to my parents for a St. Patty's dinner. I was thinking of saying that I'm trying to lose weight so I'm not drinking (I'm perpetually on a diet lol) I usually always drink though so it's going to take a lot of convincing!

[kleigh]

goldenlove3 I think cookswithwine9 's suggestion is brilliant ! I had this same issue on Friday when we went out with a group of people for dinner/drinks. We got to the restaurant early and ordered from the bar a non-alcoholic margarita for me and regular for MH. You can def make a mixed drink with no alcohol in it, or a pretend rum and coke and just avoid offers of anymore by saying you're getting some heartburn and switch to water.

How many weeks are you:
5 weeks today

What is baby the size of?:
A sesame seed !

What symptoms are you having:
None . Tender breasts, fatigue, and bloating from last week have all gone away. I'm going to remain optimistic knowing my initial betas were good and that there's actually better odds of NOT miscarrying than there are of doing so.

Do you have any appointments this week:
None scheduled but I did let my nurse know of the vanished symptoms in case they wanted me in. A week from today is our scan.

Rants/Raves/Randoms:
I had a good weekend, but they're just so short!! We live with my ILs right now while our house is under renovation and they are not cooking a St Pattys day stew or corned beef cabbage bc they don't celebrate (they are Polish).. I might just have to cook it up myself even if I'm the only one eating it.


QOTW: How did you meet your DH/SO?
I interviewed him to be my replacement when I was promoted at our company and then trained him for a few weeks when he got the position. We became friends through that training and while we both worked for this company. We remained friends for years (both had bf/gf) even when I moved away to Boston. Eventually I came back to CT and we were both single and he asked me to go on a date with him... We were living together in 6 mo and engaged three months later. I ended up coming back to the same company (he never left) and we work for the same place again.

[goldenlove3]

cookswithwine9, kleigh, I would totally do that but the diet excuse goes out the window when I'm eating all the cake and ice cream! We also never do mixed drinks at their house. It's beer and wine. I've skipped beer plenty of times but usually have wine with dinner. It's going to be weird when I decline the wine.

[LizInFL]

calindi we had a similar situation in our last house. The barking went on for literally hours at a time, and I felt terrible for the dog. We finally called the police dept. and they sent an officer out. It was easier to be anonymous in our case, b/c we hadn't had a conversation with the owners or anything. It did get better, so I guess maybe that can be a last resort for you, although it's tough b/c your neighbors would likely know it was y'all that called. Ugh. Hate situations like that.

[LizInFL]

How many weeks are you? 6 weeks tomorrow

What is baby the size of? lentil or lima bean

What symptoms are you having? Other than breast tenderness and a bit of wakefulness at night, not too much yet. I never had much nausea or anything with DS; I do remember being exhausted for several weeks of 1st trimester so kind of waiting for that to kick in.

Do you have any appointments this week? Nurse consult/bloodwork on Thursday

Rants/Raves/Randoms? Fabricators are coming this morning to create a template for our new kitchen counters, and I'm beyond thrilled.

QOTW - How did you meet your DH/SO? We met on match.com. I had just moved back to my hometown for a job, and he is a Navy pilot and was stationed here, as well. We went on 3 dates but the timing was kind of off...we reconnected not quite a year later and started dating seriously then, and the rest is history

[peanutmuse]

How many weeks are you? 5 weeks

What is baby the size of? Peppercorn

What symptoms are you having? End of day bloat

Do you have any appointments this week? Just betas every other day.

Rants/Raves/Randoms? F*@% spotting and PgAL anxiety.

QOTW - How did you meet your DH/SO? Through work. We didn't work at the same place, but my company was a client of his company's IT consulting firm.

[sophiegrace]

How many weeks are you? 5w6d

What is baby the size of? Appleseed

What symptoms are you having? I'm not sure what I'm not having. It's starting to take a toll on me.

Do you have any appointments this week? Nope

Rants/Raves/Randoms? OB won't write for diclegis until they confirm pregnancy at 8 weeks and they only give zofran if admitted into the hospital. They once again told me to try the unisom/B6 combo and to have someone drive me to work because I'll be tired. B6 will be here tomorrow and I'm just praying it takes the edge off. I'm miserable.

QOTW - we had a mutual coworker who tried setting us up for a year and a half. We finally let her hand out numbers and after a few days of chatting went out on our first date. I can honestly say I believe in love at first site. I can still see the way he smiled at me when I walking in the door...

[sophiegrace]

calindi super WTF to your neighbors. I hope you can figure out a solution before baby comes. Hope the bloodwork comes back great.

goldenlove3 happy upcoming birthday! Do you ever drink mixed drinks? Can you maybe make a fake one that looks like there would be alcohol in it?

cookswithwine9 I hope the next month goes quickly for you until that first appointment.

danib I hope you can get in sooner so you can ease your mind just a bit. Are they hoping for a discharge sometime this week? I keep hoping that each day you're doing well and improving.

kleigh I don't want to wish your symptoms back, so how about some peace of mind instead?

LizInFL new kitchen counters sound awesome!! What color are you going with?

starbuck27 geeky ticker?! Where can I find something so amazing?

peanutmuse amen to your R/R/R. I've had more days spotting than not in the past 2 weeks. I dread going to the bathroom. I'm still incredibly optimistic for you and sending you all the good thoughts.

[peanutmuse]

Mar 14, 2016 8:53:12 GMT -5 danib said:

Will you have Betas done today peanutmuse ?

Yes, I went to the lab this morning. Hopefully they'll be back later in the day.

[LizInFL]

sophiegrace it's a fairly neutral granite...browns, off-white, a little gray. We know this is not our 'forever house' b/c of DH's career so we wanted to upgrade but not go too crazy or taste-specific. We're having the maple cabinets painted white/off-white and a new backsplash installed so I think it will be a nice, up-to-date look. I may be most excited about the new undermount sink and faucet.

[sophiegrace]

It sounds beautiful LizInFL I hope it all goes off as smoothly as possible.

[sophiegrace]

Mar 14, 2016 9:34:04 GMT -5 starbuck27 said:

sophiegrace babysizer.com has a few varieties that are a little different, including a geeky one.

That whole site is fantastic, thanks!

[goldenlove3]

sophiegrace I do mixed drinks at the bar but it's usually just beer and wine at my ILs.

[goldenlove3]

Mar 14, 2016 10:05:22 GMT -5 StephNE said:

goldenlove3 , do you have an empty wine bottle at home? Can you pour juice in it and use that, or would you have to share with others? I have done the beer & water trick before too and that worked like a charm.

It would be really weird for me to bring a bottle of wine. They always have plenty. I think the beer/water trick will be my best bet! I just need to look like I drank one then I can switch to regular water. 

[rory5280]

How many weeks are you? 6 weeks 4 days

What is baby the size of? Almost a blueberry

What symptoms are you having? All the nausea...

Do you have any appointments this week? Not until next Friday!

Rants/Raves/Randoms? We told our parents this weekend and I am annoyed. My family already thinks its another boy (not the annoying part). And their response was "sorry it's gonna be a boy". Am I suppose to be sad to have another boy? That got under my skin.

QOTW - How did you meet your DH/SO? Bowling, lol. We are both with friends and one his friends knew one of my friends so we merged our lanes and the rest is history.

[goldenlove3]

Mar 14, 2016 10:17:03 GMT -5 StephNE said:

Mar 14, 2016 10:09:12 GMT -5 goldenlove3 said:

It would be really weird for me to bring a bottle of wine. They always have plenty. I think the beer/water trick will be my best bet! I just need to look like I drank one then I can switch to regular water. 

Just nonchalantly take it to the bathroom with you and dump it out, then fill with water. Good luck! When do you plan on telling?

I'd prefer to wait until at least 10 weeks but the timing is just so bad! I'm going to have to deal with this all over again for Easter dinner and I'll only be 7 weeks. The problem is I want to tell my parents first but once they know, I'm sure the whole world will find out even if I tell them not to. I want to tell certain family members myself before they hear it through the grapevine but my family has one hell of a grapevine. It's all so stressful lol. 

[goldenlove3]

Mar 14, 2016 10:27:32 GMT -5 StephNE said:

Mar 14, 2016 10:22:47 GMT -5 goldenlove3 said:

I'd prefer to wait until at least 10 weeks but the timing is just so bad! I'm going to have to deal with this all over again for Easter dinner and I'll only be 7 weeks. The problem is I want to tell my parents first but once they know, I'm sure the whole world will find out even if I tell them not to. I want to tell certain family members myself before they hear it through the grapevine but my family has one hell of a grapevine. It's all so stressful lol. 

Most definitely! Unfortunately people get a little too excited and the grapevine starts! I think we are going to tell our immediate family at Easter when we are all together.

I'm starting to think we'll have to do it on Easter too. By then we'll have (hopefully) had two more good ultrasounds.

[peanutmuse]

goldenlove3, I typically drink beer out of a pint glass, so I would sneak an N/A one in my purse and fill a glass with that. But if you don't normally do pint glasses, that probably wouldn't work.


We have told a bunch of people because after three losses, we want to enjoy a bit of happiness while we can. Andplusalso, I am very open about miscarriages. So admittedly, the not drinking suggestion is what I *would* do if I was trying to hide it, which I'm not.

[calindi]

cookswithwine9 - we were terrible at kickball too! But awesome at flip cup haha

goldenlove3 - all the other neighbors hate them but because of housing placement, the dog only can be heard inside our house. And the dog is on an electric boundary, a circular distance from a thing plugged into their back porch which connects to the dog's collar. Which means the dog's boundaries include the side of our yard. So that's where the dog goes to pee and poop. We have thought about calling animal control. We already called the police about the barking but they told us all they can do is ask them to keep it quiet (didn't work). Honestly, at this point, I detest them but I don't trust them not to be vengeful. So I only speak up when it's truly awful. A few weeks before the baby is born, DH will go have a convo with them about it.

[calindi]

We tell everyone pretty much right away. No shame in a miscarriage, if it happens. And I am not someone who prefers to grieve privately.

[calindi]

LizInFL - we have called the police. They don't care. We finally wrote a demand letter saying we would sue them quarterly for nuisance, donating any amount the judge awards us to an animal shelter - that our motivation is to regain a peaceful night sleep, not make money. But if suing them, their landlords and their property manager would result in their dog being quieted between 10pm-7am, then fine. Thankfully the warning letter was enough and they do typically keep the dog quiet between those hours. But right before and right after is usually a barking mess. So now the middle of the night wake ups are like 2x a week rather than 3x a night.

[calindi]

danib - I have had period like cramps for a good two weeks with my last BFP and so far with this one. Cramping without bleeding is totally normal and okay. Hang in there!

[peanutmuse]

Mar 14, 2016 11:10:07 GMT -5 calindi said:

We tell everyone pretty much right away. No shame in a miscarriage, if it happens. And I am not someone who prefers to grieve privately.

Agreed, calindi. Miscarriage is such an isolating feeling, why make it even more so? I know everyone has their own way to deal with it, but I have found that keeping it secret makes it harder for me.

[LizInFL]

Mar 14, 2016 10:27:32 GMT -5 StephNE said:

Mar 14, 2016 10:22:47 GMT -5 goldenlove3 said:

I'd prefer to wait until at least 10 weeks but the timing is just so bad! I'm going to have to deal with this all over again for Easter dinner and I'll only be 7 weeks. The problem is I want to tell my parents first but once they know, I'm sure the whole world will find out even if I tell them not to. I want to tell certain family members myself before they hear it through the grapevine but my family has one hell of a grapevine. It's all so stressful lol. 

Most definitely! Unfortunately people get a little too excited and the grapevine starts! I think we are going to tell our immediate family at Easter when we are all together.

This is us, too. My mom knows now, b/c she knew my period was late and asked point blank, but we haven't told anyone else. My dad, though well-intentioned, cannot keep a secret. So we'll tell my parents a couple days before Easter/after my first ultrasound. My ILs are coming for Easter weekend so we'll tell everyone else (close family) at Easter dinner. I got a cute embroidered shirt for DS to wear. It will be obvious if I'm not drinking and I'll feel fairly comfortable by then having my first couple appts. under my belt. 

We waited til the end of 1st T with DS, mostly b/c a cousin and my sister were getting married at 8 and 12 weeks along, respectively, so I didn't want to steal their thunder. Only super immediate family knew. 

[LizInFL]

Mar 14, 2016 11:36:13 GMT -5 danib said:

Mar 14, 2016 11:17:11 GMT -5 calindi said:

danib - I have had period like cramps for a good two weeks with my last BFP and so far with this one. Cramping without bleeding is totally normal and okay. Hang in there!

Oh I know, in my logical mind anyway. I suspect I may need some reassurance as well as blunt honesty over the next few months lol.

More anecdotal evidence for you, but I experience a week or two of cramping with both DS and this pregnancy. I know cramping is never listed as a 'symptom' of pregnancy but almost everyone I talk to seems to experience it!